My 9-month update

[sparklezBear]

Today marks 9 months of my 24/7 nappy life and foyer into un-training, so I'd like to share my progress.

Currently 24/7 for me means, a) all #1s go into my nappy, b) #2s goes in my nappy except when at work, or when I've just changed into a fresh long-range nappy. I would like all #2s to go in my nappy, but my unpredictable bowel habits make this tricky when I'm trying to control costs. As for work, I'm not sure I could ever allow a #2 (accidents notwithstanding) given my job. I'll talk more about that below.

At this stage, 24/7 has been utterly fantastic despite all of the trials and tribulations. I do not regret my decision at all, and am more certain that this is a permanent change. Speaking of those trials, I've had a range of challenges including an overflow event, wetting my clothes (top and skirt) considerably, and not having a change on hand. That and additional leaks at work. I've learned many things, like, always have an appropriate change of clothes. Workwear while not at work is unhelpful. And a bulkier nappy is still more discreet than a leaking mid-range nappy, so it helps to overestimate the nappy needed if out in public. For work, I wear medical or all-white nappies, something in the order of an ABU simple, InControl Essentials, or a Molicare Maxi depending on the length of my shift. I always have to be prepared for a work change too should I be asked to stay back. Outside of work, anything cute goes, or medical if I'm trying to reign in costs. To that end, I've also put together a 'value' spreadsheet which I've attached in PDF form which helps me to get the most from my dollar with this expensive lifestyle.

There's also been a notable change to support my 24/7 life in nappies. I've recently asked my doctor to list incontinence on my medical record, and it was a complete non-issue. So there you have it, it's official :). I had always thought that I was going to attend a day-procedure next year in a nappy, but it was a worry without having "incontinence" already listed on my record, and the chance that it would not be. So this does put me at ease in a new way.

As for my un-training efforts, well, I cannot be trusted to go without a nappy at all now. Even on the short trip from my bathroom to my bedroom, there's frequently a dribble without any warning or sensation. I still feel larger volume releases, and have some rudimentary sphincter control, but it's not enough to avoid wet pants for even an hour I'd expect. It's not quite the constant wetting without awareness that I was hoping for this year, but it's certainly a good start. As for bowel un-training, that one is trickier, and not specifically something I've been trying to do. I have continued to experience small accidents now and that, but they are the result of a very irritated digestive system. And I have the issue of work where voluntarily messing is not really an option, making this more complicated. Part of the reason involves something I learned about recently and hinted at before..

So, I've recently learned of a situation in a neighbouring state where a couple of healthcare workers were engaged in ABDL roleplaying. In this roleplaying, on party was taking on the role of a child. They were both sexualising this child in this roleplay, and then another person somehow came across this material. As a result, both people lost their jobs to my knowledge. While neither were underage, and the communication and roleplay was consensual, it was depicting minors in a sexual context. This was the crux of the issue I believe, although cannot access the story first hand (paywalled). This situation reminds me just how careful I need to be while working within the vicinity of the health system. I've also spoken previously about the challenges I face in wearing nappies at work, eluding to dangers should I be discovered. While I've mitigated this by involving my doctor, and now have legitimate reasons to wear protection, my career would likely be over regardless were I exposed as an ABDL as this situation demonstrates. For this reason I never show my face in photos or chat online, and keep my devices clear of content while in public should someone be looking over my shoulder. It sucks that I have to protect myself in this way for what is ultimately harmless and beneficial to me, but there you have it. 

Otherwise, there you have it. Reaching some milestones, living and learning. Most of all, I still love being in nappies. Here's to the next three months!

 

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[Diapee underskirt]

Congratulations! That’s awesome! I’m at a similar place and almost a year in! Sounds like your doing great and I’m happy to hear your still happy with the decision. I experienced my first leak at work Monday and was mortified but I’m pretty sure I handled everything with no one realizing. What did you say to your doc? I have my first doctors appointment since being 24/7 in 2 weeks and I am so anxious about what to do and say. Congrats again!

[Dprczyone]

Hey Sparklezbear That sounds wonderful! A lot of us here live vicariously through those who get to do what we would love to have the chance to do. WEAR DIAPERS 24/7. I hope you keep getting positive results and eventually reach your goal. 

I also understand your need for discretion. My wife worked as an aide at the local school and asked me in about 2014 if I would drop out of any and all diaper sites I belonged to. She was near retirement and didn't want my kink to derail her job. It was a small conservative town with most of the school board members frowning on the slightest hint of something non-vanilla. I did as she asked and rejoined DD in 2017. I wish you the best of luck going forward.

[sparklezBear]

46 minutes ago, Diapee underskirt said:

What did you say to your doc?

I had a slight advantage in my recent conversation as I had first told my doctor about wearing 24/7 some months ago, just after going 24/7. At the time I also told my doctor that my desire to wear nappies has been lifelong, unshakeable, and that it helps me to manage mood and social anxiety in a way that medication can't even match. I even provided some personal background and basic information on ABDL from infantilism.org. With the benefits nappies had, and my occasional accidents that I was having, I was needing some protection regardless. My doctor couldn't see a downside, and while offering referrals to pelvic floor specialists and psychologists, understood and respected the path I chose. At the time I also said that I expect my control to worsen, and that I was okay with that. So fast forward to recent when it was time to ask to add incontinence, it was rather straight forward. I was honest in that I cannot stay dry for long, and am still happy self managing this.

My best advice is to be honest, although from other stories I read, beware doctors that are perhaps more conventional and prescriptive. 

Edited December 8, 2021 by sparklezBear

[Diapee underskirt]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I really appreciate it. I hope my office visit goes as well as yours! I guess I’ll go in with the truth method as well and hope the new doctor is understanding. Also man I feel you on the overflow event. My first one at work was mortifying and I have to escape to a gas station to change and try to dry my pants. It was the real test of being 24/7.

[~Brian~]

15 hours ago, sparklezBear said:

There's also been a notable change to support my 24/7 life in nappies. I've recently asked my doctor to list incontinence on my medical record, and it was a complete non-issue. So there you have it, it's official :). I had always thought that I was going to attend a day-procedure next year in a nappy, but it was a worry without having "incontinence" already listed on my record, and the chance that it would not be. So this does put me at ease in a new way.

@sparklezBear

it seems to me that you are doing exactly what you have to do to get the job done. I am proud of you for what you are doing,.  Sometimes you have to make decisions that are hard to do or make. If you have been having problems with incontinence for as long as you say you have, the best thing to do is to try to except it and move on. It sounds like you have done this, and have made the necessary arrangements so that you can continue the way you wish to. Since you are dealing with incontinence talking to your doctor is the best thing to do, and it sounds like you have done that.  you have made a decision like me, to manage his incontinence by using diapers, which is one of the hardest decisions I had to make in my life. However, I had to come to the realization that eventually I may need them, and with all the problems I was having in 2017, with me messing myself without even thinking about it, or just sweating myself sometimes that was one of the things that made me realize that the best thing for me to do would be using diapers. I realize that it was time for me to stop worrying about when and where I have to go to the bathroom, I think about what would happen if I really had to go to the bathroom badly, and then try to somehow get there quickly, and then fall and hurt myself. Diapers were my go to, and I’m glad that I did that.

soon after I started my journey, and I was using diapers, I don’t know if there was any question of whether I was actually needing diapers, but I did need them, and the doctor did agree. Because I wanted to make sure that there was no question that I needed diapers I did exactly what you did. I asked the doctor to list incontinence on my medical records: just like you I don’t want to be in a situation where I am in a medical facility, and they are asked by me to provide diapers.  When I was 30 years old, I had my appendix rupture, and I spent almost 30 days in the hospital. There were times that I had serious incontinence of the bowel, and I would mess myself really badly. After about the third time of doing this, I asked the nurse if it would be better for me to wear diapers rather than having to mess my bed and having them have to change the bed as well as me and wipe me down. She told me that wearing diapers wouldn’t change the situation, but I was trying to be nice to them.

This Situation made me realize that  if I am having incontinence issues, that I had better have it listed on my medical records. I am already suffering from fecal incontinence and fecal urgency, so I asked them to add the urinary incontinence as well. My medical record states “constant leakage of urine and fecal incontinence with fecal urgency“. Because of this diagnosis no one is going to deny me diapers, or they are not going to tell me that I need to use the cheap ones. I use those for about 2 1/2 months while I was first dealing with incontinence, And all I did was fill up these “tagged underwear,” with all of what I was releasing, flooding them, and peeing all over the floor. After speaking with Medicaid, I told them that I wanted the best plastic back diapers that I could get. I argued with them for a few days to a couple of weeks.  I was told by every supplier that no one Can supply me with plastic back diapers all they wanna do is give you the prevails, and any other call us back disposable underwear rather than a classic plastic incontinence medical diaper. I now have the mega maxes, and they are the best diaper for my situation. I am glad that I had this put on my medical records because now I need the diapers, and I will have them should I need them in the hospital or in any other medical facility.

With your medical diagnosis on your medical records, I doubt anyone is going to question your incontinence. If you are having problems in both directions, I would not worry about that. When you go to work, you are wearing plain white diapers that are medical grade, or better. My take is as long as you are doing what you need to do, and you’re not Walking around showing off your diapers, while you are working, then you should have no problem. There are a lot of people that work in different fields that were diapers every day, and as long as you are doing it in a discreet manner, I doubt anyone is going to say anything, and if they do see you in a diaper, you could just say that you do have incontinence, because your medical record Indicates that. This is the reason why I had it put on my medical record in the first place. I got tired of having to worry about when where and how I was going to go to the bathroom, and I got tired of having to run to the bathroom every five minutes, missing about three hours of sleep some nights, simply because I had to empty my bladder or my bowls.  
 

I can understand the part of your story where you are saying that someone was doing something consensually and probably was ABDL    , And it sounds like this was somehow mixed in with your work environment. This can be dangerous, and as you stated can result in losing your job or other things. I don’t think that in your case, you would be in jeopardy of losing your job, because you know exactly what you need to do, and being incontinent is not a big deal:  Like you, I was worried that somebody was going to “expose me” as an incoming individual, wearing diapers. This did happen to me, and I was “outed”  by one of the support agencies that assist me with things I need in my home.  I told this agency that I was incontinent, and they said that they were not There to do that type of care, they were there to be able to give me assistance in other ways. Unfortunately I asked the wrong person the wrong question twice, and this individual continue to give me grief about this, even when I understood that I had made a mistake and took full responsibility for my actions. I ended up firing this agency because they did something really stupid, which caused me to have to “come out to” every person that I work with at my local church, where I run a nonprofit 501 C3 50 thrift store.

This happened when I was working one day, and I got a call from the Director of this agency. I was informed that one of the people that was working for me had reported to their supervisor that I had been doing something I should not have done. Let’s just put it this way: she ended up talking to me like I was dirt, disrespecting me, and telling me that I would “lose my services for a couple of months, while they figure out what to do“. I told the lady that whatever the heck was the problem, they did not have to report it directly to her, but that the person who had a problem with me you should’ve told me. This turned into this hour long discussion about what happened, and I told this lady four times that I was at work and I could not deal with the situation the way it came out.

Long story short, when I got off the phone, I had to bring all of my staff into my store, tell them about what happened, revealed that I was incontinent, and then, I was told that it is not a big deal, and the agency had no right to talk to me the way they did. I had another run in with this agency a couple times because I had asked the wrong question not relating to incontinence to the wrong person, and I had this woman call me up again and then threaten me over the phone. Thank God I was going to the doctor that day for I ended up getting really angry at this individual, because this would be the second time or third time she has spoken to me like I was dirt.  I told her that whatever happened I took full responsibility for, apologize to her again and then everything was fine until this day. I told her “I’m going to the doctor in less than 15 minutes and I will take care of this bull”  she threaten to call my case manager, have all of my support service is canceled, told me that she had talk to my case manager, and all of this bull crap that had nothing to do with what was going on. When I called my former case manager, who works at my doctors office, I asked her to make a phone call to this woman and straighten her out, because it sounded like they were about ready to hang me out to dry. Because of this action, this woman was told exactly where she stood and this issue was cleared up. I later found out, when I called my case manager, that this lady had lied to me and stated that she had talked To my case manager, when in fact my case manager had no interaction with this woman. As for that agency, I strongly urge them not to continue contracting with them, because they have no heart, they don’t understand how to deal with people with incontinence, and I even brought that to the ladies attention: I said to this contractor “So you deal with people with incontinence?” Answer was “yes” I said “so why am I any different I am incontinent“ She said “that is not the service that we were hired to do“ I said “I understand this won’t happen again“ I then told her that I was hurt because of this incident and that I was strongly suggesting that she be fired. This is one of the few times in my life that I felt like wanting to go after her with all of my guns blazing. I am Calm guy, but I told this woman with all of my heart that it was bad enough that I was dealing with incontinence, and regardless of whether they were hired to do that or not, what she did was inexcusable and unforgivable. This woman was later fired from the agency and so I don’t have to deal with her anymore.

The point of the above story was to illustrate the fact that I understand what you are going through, because I have gone through the same thing. It sucks to have someone who you think you have a professional relationship with, who says that they can deal with people who are in continent, disabled, or whatever, and the first thing they do is when I make a mistake they end up “outing” me to the entire community of my workforce. They make you feel like you are a piece of dirt on the ground, and that is no way to treat somebody who is disabled who at that time was trying to navigate what he was going to do. I do understand and relate very well.

My friend used to say “lessons learned bridges burned when you Play by the rules“ I am very proud of you for doing what you have done, it takes a lot of guts to be able to do what you have done, and to be honest with those who are in your corner as far as medical advice. My doctor wants told me, “ I am proud of you for coming to me and asking me my advice, and telling me about your incontinence and your other issues. It takes a lot of guts for someone to come in here and discuss something so personal“

So I said I know what it feels like to have something weird happened that was not intended. It went from me knowing it, to them knowing it, and then blowing it out of proportion, and then me realizing that my mistake caused confusion, which caused me to have to try to fix the problem. I fix the problem by discharging the agency that was helping me with that particular piece. I am lucky that my home health agency is fully aware of my incontinence, and can fully take care of this problem should I need arise, all I would need to do would be to change my plan, and deal with my case management team. I was always told that “I can always talk to my home health team about this, because that’s where this type of discussion is best suited“

congratulations on your journey, and keep up the good work: don’t worry about your diapers as much, because if you’re working in the medical field and have incontinence, wearing white diapers medical grade or better would be much more comfortable than not having them at all, or wearing a diaper which is not suited for what it needs to be. I have learned from experience that the best defense is the best offense, and this means if you have incontinence you have the means to deal with it with the best equipment possible. I can tell you also for my experience that I am glad that I have a good team of individuals, who listened very intently, and understand my problem, and are willing to help me deal with that problem.  I don’t think that you would have a problem in your job, because you are being discreet about this, and as I said if someone finds out that you have an incontinence problem, it’s no big deal, because you are dealing with it the way you need to deal with it, and as I said, do you work with “professionals“ who should understand and often do understand this issue. As long as your incontinence does not affect your job performance, I can’t see that this would be an issue.

Good luck!

Brian

Edited December 8, 2021 by ~Brian~
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[sparklezBear]

18 hours ago, ~Brian~ said:

congratulations on your journey, and keep up the good work: don’t worry about your diapers as much, because if you’re working in the medical field and have incontinence, wearing white diapers medical grade or better would be much more comfortable than not having them at all, or wearing a diaper which is not suited for what it needs to be. I have learned from experience that the best defense is the best offense, and this means if you have incontinence you have the means to deal with it with the best equipment possible. I can tell you also for my experience that I am glad that I have a good team of individuals, who listened very intently, and understand my problem, and are willing to help me deal with that problem.  I don’t think that you would have a problem in your job, because you are being discreet about this, and as I said if someone finds out that you have an incontinence problem, it’s no big deal, because you are dealing with it the way you need to deal with it, and as I said, do you work with “professionals“ who should understand and often do understand this issue. As long as your incontinence does not affect your job performance, I can’t see that this would be an issue.

Thank you for your in-depth reply Brian, and thank you for the kind and supportive words. I suspect you're perhaps more on the money than I was thinking. Whether or not I want to, I have to wear nappies currently. Demonstrating this through paying some close attention at work today, I could feel a number of releases that I would otherwise not even register. It's quite a relief, and will only continue to evolve into the profound incontinence I would like.  

[DiaperboyEddie12]

Congratulations @sparklezBear I think I will keep my statement and congrats short.  I am not sure what else to say.

Other then I want to do that myself though right now not possible.

[sparklezBear]

7 hours ago, DiaperboyEddie12 said:

Other then I want to do that myself though right now not possible

Thank you Eddie. You'll get there, and I suspect you'll be over the moon when you do ?.

[DiaperboyEddie12]

12 hours ago, sparklezBear said:

Thank you Eddie. You'll get there, and I suspect you'll be over the moon when you do ?.

@sparklezBear not sure what you mean by over the moon?

[~Brian~]

@DiaperboyEddie12 @sparklezBear

I believe what she is referring to Eddie is that you will be very happy. When someone says “you are over the moon“ that means that you are very happy or contented.  When you finally decide to go 24 seven, and you’re able to do so, she means that you will be very happy, and that is what we all want for you!

Brian

[~Brian~]

On 12/9/2021 at 7:08 AM, sparklezBear said:

Thank you for your in-depth reply Brian, and thank you for the kind and supportive words. I suspect you're perhaps more on the money than I was thinking. Whether or not I want to, I have to wear nappies currently. Demonstrating this through paying some close attention at work today, I could feel a number of releases that I would otherwise not even register. It's quite a relief, and will only continue to evolve into the profound incontinence I would like.  

@sparklezBear

You’re welcome! My pleasure! I feel the same way: I have to wear diapers now, so I might as well get used to it, and enjoy it! I am glad that I am wearing diapers because there are times when I really have to go, and now I don’t have to bust it to go downstairs or go into my own bathroom just to release.

I suspect that as I continue my journey, eventually I will lose control both ways. If I do that’s no problem, because I have the diapers to take care of the problem. As long as I have those particular pieces of equipment, it won’t be too bad, I just have to make sure that I can clean myself up every time I have a release. It is a relief to have a diaper on, because you don’t have to worry about anything, no one is going to chastise you, or make you feel bad, And if you have to go you have to go. It also makes it easier, because in Covid times, you don’t know whether something is open and available to the public, or only open to certain individuals. Diapers come in handy in this way, because you already Iwearing your bathroom, and then you won’t have to worry. Sometimes I can feel a release coming on, and in some cases, if it’s real bad, and it’s a number to release, at work, I would use the bathroom, if it meant that I would be able to deal with at work, and if not, I would probably have to use my diaper and then go home. I’ve had that happen at least five times, but it’s no big deal. The last time it happened was October 2017, and then I just released. Then I came home and cleaned myself up no sweat.

I don’t know if my “journey into incontinence“ will mean that one day I will totally lose all control, and then the minute I feel like that I will just explode and let everything out in one shot a high capacity, or if that means that it will just come out in spurts. I have known for a while that most of the time it comes out in spurts, but in the summer or when I’m working, I keep myself well hydrated, and sometimes my mega max is exceeded its capacity, which means that the diaper is wet all the way through the padding to the back of my plastic pants, which means that it is time to be changed.  Luckily, I carry my go bag, and then I can change if necessary. I am now learning when I should change my self, so I don’t end up overdoing it at work, which causes inconvenient, wet pants, wet cushions, or anywhere I sit.  Also have to be careful because if I do not take care of my diaper when it is at capacity, I end up having wet pants, and that means my backside is all wet.

Regards, and I wish you all the best! Hopefully it is warmer in Australia than it is here in the US. We are in the first part of winter up here, and the temperature has been hovering around 25°, so that means that eventually it will get colder, and harder to move around.

Brian

[DiaperboyEddie12]

2 hours ago, ~Brian~ said:

@DiaperboyEddie12 @sparklezBear

I believe what she is referring to Eddie is that you will be very happy. When someone says “you are over the moon“ that means that you are very happy or contented.  When you finally decide to go 24 seven, and you’re able to do so, she means that you will be very happy, and that is what we all want for you!

Brian

@~Brian~ Thank you!  Been awhile since we talked.

[~Brian~]

6 minutes ago, DiaperboyEddie12 said:

@~Brian~ Thank you!  Been awhile since we talked.

@DiaperboyEddie12

You are welcome sir!  It is always a pleasure!

yes it has,  been a while, and I have been very busy, but I have been knocking stuff out around here one at a time, because I want to make my apartment better than it is now. Hopefully, in the near future, I will be able to return to the chat system a little bit more frequently, but I’m not sure when that will be. I may check in this weekend to see who is online, and I might just hang out tomorrow night maybe for a while. You never know who will come on - maybe I’ll be lucky enough and I may see @~ashley~ or maybe @Evelyn Dellcerro?  We shall have to see what happens it’s like a poker game or playing craps you roll the dice and see what comes up!

Brian

[DiaperboyEddie12]

21 minutes ago, ~Brian~ said:

@DiaperboyEddie12

You are welcome sir!  It is always a pleasure!

yes it has,  been a while, and I have been very busy, but I have been knocking stuff out around here one at a time, because I want to make my apartment better than it is now. Hopefully, in the near future, I will be able to return to the chat system a little bit more frequently, but I’m not sure when that will be. I may check in this weekend to see who is online, and I might just hang out tomorrow night maybe for a while. You never know who will come on - maybe I’ll be lucky enough and I may see @~ashley~ or maybe @Evelyn Dellcerro?  We shall have to see what happens it’s like a poker game or playing craps you roll the dice and see what comes up!

Brian

@~Brian~ that is cool I pop in the chat from time to time and I also come on here on the forum from time to time.  Now that I am working my business fulltime I like have no time to chat.

Plus  am really tired most days.  If you like to take this in a pm we can!

[~Brian~]

2 minutes ago, DiaperboyEddie12 said:

@~Brian~ that is cool I pop in the chat from time to time and I also come on here on the forum from time to time.  Now that I am working my business fulltime I like have no time to chat.

Plus  am really tired most days.  If you like to take this in a pm we can!

No problem! I do understand! I have been having a lot of pain in my neck, my back, my legs, and other things, and unfortunately when I hurt like that, I don’t feel like doing much at all. There are days that I wish that I would be able to get rid of the pain, but unfortunately the pain sometimes gets the best of me. Additionally, I am quite tired sometimes so that is another thing I have to deal with.

Brian

[oznl]

Congratulations on your 9 month anniversary @sparklezBear.  To quote Fatboy Slim, “You’ve come a long way, baby!”  If I look at my own notes at 9 months in, I'd achieved nothing close to the progress you’ve made.

I’m still grappling with the thorny question of if and how emerging incontinence (looking at YOU, bedwetting) should be socialized with the medical fraternity.  It may be that the matter is shortly taken out of my hands.

De-coupling our emotional reliance on nappies from a sexual fetish via a diagnosis would be a major step forward in stabilizing our world.  Not that I really think what you and I have is a “fetish” in any case.  This is far more like a dysphoria but it’s going to be a while before the world catches up on this news I think.

Sail on!

[sparklezBear]

6 hours ago, oznl said:

De-coupling our emotional reliance on nappies from a sexual fetish via a diagnosis would be a major step forward in stabilizing our world.  Not that I really think what you and I have is a “fetish” in any case.  This is far more like a dysphoria but it’s going to be a while before the world catches up on this news I think.

It would be nice to have this understood among the wider community. At least my doctor and friends all seem to understand this. I'm rather blessed to have found such supportive people.

[~Brian~]

@oznl @sparklezBear

I would agree: many people wear diapers for many reasons. I wear them because I am a diaper love her and I am in continent. Others wear them because they like to, or it’s a psychological thing, or it’s something else. Far too often however, wearing a diaper is Considered “wrong”, or as always has been the case “diapers are for babies”. I can tell you from example and experience that babies are not the only ones that were diapers, and as evidence by people that are in this community itself, they are a heck of a lot more people that were diapers then people realize.

Diapers are considered a “fetish“ but that does not mean that they can’t be used for other reasons. If you wear diapers because of emotional reasons, it is not a “sexual reason“  if more people in the world would except that people wear diapers for whatever reasons they decide, and they figure out that “diapers are just special underwear that you can use to do your business in“ then it would be a lot better.  People just think that diapers are for babies, or for disabled, or incontinent, but there are other people that wear diapers for whatever reason. As long as people understand and except that people sometimes wear diapers for whatever reason, which is the business of the one wearing them, or using them, then everything would be a lot better. Problem is that most people would think there is a “problem“ with somebody that decides to do this, when in fact there is no problem that is their business.  
 

My take is diapers are not “bad“ and anyone and everyone could wear them if they wish. It is just the “stigma” still exist today almost 50 years in my book, that says that diapers are for babies, and you should be trained and out of diapers when you are two or three or four years old. There are people that need them, and that means physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and for their sanity. In my case, I need them for incontinence, I use them for their intended purpose, And they also provide me the physiological and psychological support that I need for my sanity. I have way too much that I worry about, and I’m trying not to worry about everything that comes across my radar, and if I can lessen my worries in anyway shape or form, then I will do it. If there is an individual or individuals that need to wear diapers because they feel better in them, it makes them feel stronger, or it gives them a ” hug“. Diapers give emotional support and other supports that people may not understand. I think most of the problem is that people think that diapers are to be shunned or otherwise disapproved of.

diapers are not bad: they are just special underwear.  People need to understand That. If people wanna wear diapers, they have to understand that some of us are “wired differently” or that diapers provide security that someone else may not be or something else may not be providing. I support @sparklezBearhere and I understand the reasoning that she uses her diapers. She is in continent, but it also provides her security and support. Once everyone understands that people have reasoning for wearing diapers, whatever it is, or they have a reason for wanting to use them, then the world will be a better place. People understand that I have had problems with incontinence, so that means it’s no big deal to those that I have told, it’s just a part of life. People have to understand that diapers provide security to those that need it, and some people. Act little because that gives them the security that they need - at a time when They were younger, they didn’t have any responsibility, and they were loved and cherished and protected. There are reasons why people want to be younger, there are reasons why people find diapers to be helpful, because it makes them feel younger, because it gives them security, and it makes sense to me that this would be something that people would do. I’ve always been a supporter of people who need help, and if someone needs to wear diapers to make themselves feel good, or to make them feel secure, there’s nothing wrong with it, unless of course you’re talking to a psychologists psychiatrist that thinks someone is “screwey” in the head.

Nowadays, there are psychologists and psychiatrists to understand that there are people that wear diapers for whatever reasons, and they act a little for whatever reasons, and most of them that I have seen or heard from, no about it, so it’s not something that is taboo. Diaper wearing is happened for many years, for people who are disabled, or people who do not have control. Wearing diapers is something that someone who is in continent just does it because they have to, and sometimes when they have to, they decide to except it, and then they decide that after they except, that they want to add that “fun side“ of the lifestyle. The lifestyle isn’t the problem, it’s the people that think that it is wrong that is the problem.

@sparklezBear you’ve got the right idea: roll with it and don’t worry about it. If you use your diapers, use them! Do whatever you think is right, and don’t worry about what any other person says. It is not important what the world thinks, but the problem is that we may have to “re-educate some of them“ because they think that diapers are bad, or they are yucky, or other things. Maybe they’re thinking of when they change a dirty diaper, And they think of it as being “disgusting” so they turn off to that, but I don’t know. I do know however, that there are a lot of us that wear diapers, And I can also probably state unequivocally that there a heck of a lot more people that wear diapers than most people realize, and I bet you if we were to get together in a room that holds 1000 people, I would probably have 2000 people in the room – we are strong, we are a community, and we have the right and the ability to do what we do, so long as we are doing it as adults – that is the point that is the only thing that we have to be careful of, because we have to make sure that it is between consenting adults. I also support this, but people have to realize that there a heck of a lot more of us that were diapers then they realize, and eventually they will have to understand that diaper wearing is not a bad thing.

Brian