I Just Told My G/f

[monkey2323]

hey eveyone i just told my g/f that i wear diapers and pull ups and as of right now shes ok with it i can not belive i just did it and it was the hardest thing i ever done i told her to join this site if she had any questions at all

so please help her out if she comes on not sure what her name will be

ty everone

[Khoraz]

That is so wierd dude, I just told mine too, right now. I cam on here to tell everyone and how good it felt but you made a topic already!

I know the feeling you have dude! and she said she open to try anything at least once!

First time I ever told anyone but you guys so I am like shaking haha

[superdiaperbaby]

Great going! I remember when I a told one girlfriend and at first she accepted it and then when any problem came up she blamed diapers and we broke up. Then there is the one who I am going to marry. It took a while for it to sink in, but she said I was worth it.

The key is to try to make her as happy as you can, so she will know that diapers won't affect your emotional relationship with her and that you care about her more than diapers. But if she asks you to prove it by quitting, leave her. There is a specific comfort need that we have that cannot be filled in any other way besides diapers. I have been teaching my fiance about this and we are both growing together in how to incorporate diapers in the relationship. Congrats! Advice - Take it slow. Be patient. Realize that it took you years to understand and it may take her years as well. Keep a dialog going about diapers. I struggle with this, but it is very important. If she is going to leave you because of diapers it is better to know before you get married than afterwords, so talk away...

Good Luck!

SDB

That is so wierd dude, I just told mine too, right now. I cam on here to tell everyone and how good it felt but you made a topic already!

I know the feeling you have dude! and she said she open to try anything at least once!

First time I ever told anyone but you guys so I am like shaking haha

[cuteabdl]

Wow, guys... that is awesome. I know how hard it can be to do such a thing, as I could never get the courage to do it myself. But all the power to you.

[Guest]

i've told every g/f i've ever had, and only one freaked out, but like i said in a previous post, she was a complete wack job from the get go

congrats to u both

[monkeysgirl]

Great going! I remember when I a told one girlfriend and at first she accepted it and then when any problem came up she blamed diapers and we broke up. Then there is the one who I am going to marry. It took a while for it to sink in, but she said I was worth it.

The key is to try to make her as happy as you can, so she will know that diapers won't affect your emotional relationship with her and that you care about her more than diapers. But if she asks you to prove it by quitting, leave her. There is a specific comfort need that we have that cannot be filled in any other way besides diapers. I have been teaching my fiance about this and we are both growing together in how to incorporate diapers in the relationship. Congrats! Advice - Take it slow. Be patient. Realize that it took you years to understand and it may take her years as well. Keep a dialog going about diapers. I struggle with this, but it is very important. If she is going to leave you because of diapers it is better to know before you get married than afterwords, so talk away...

Good Luck!

SDB

I'm his G/F and I have no intention of leaving him for anything less then cheating. I love him and I have told him we just need to take things one-step at a time for now. I except it as part of who he is, and it's just something I will have to get use to. That's all there is to it.

[diaperpt]

go monkeysgirl...good for you! good luck with your relationship. remember its about the two of you, not what he wears...

[BBoy]

i told her to join this site if she had any questions at all

so please help her out if she comes on not sure what her name will be

ty everone

Well I told my girlfriend a while ago and she was nervous and a little weirded out but did not leave me because she loves me. I also suggested she should check out this site and that was a bad idea. She got more scared coming here because there are a lot of very strange discussions, mainly to do with the AB lifestyle. I am only a DL and I am not into the AB stuff. However when she saw some of the talk on here it really weirded her out.

Even though there are a lot of great people on DD and I enjoy coming here, I don't recommend sending your bf or gf here just after telling them.

my two cents.

[Guest John_Q_Sample]

Agreed (with the above poster). Nothing will scare an inexperienced person, who has just learned about their significant other's leaning toward this fetish, more than a gander at Want2poop's post on how he likes to bounce up and down in his poopy diaper...

(Before you start searching- the poster and topic are ficticious, but similiar to many that can be found here.)

[pctrasher]

Lol, with the above two topics, I have to agree. I didn't know of this site when I told my G/F, I just told her over msn in the form of a guessing game where I gave her clues as to what my fetish was and it took her like 2 hours but she got it. Then she did something stupid, she searched "diaper fetish" or something along those lines and got ...the diaper porn sites. Then I had to explain that those sites are probably not the best thing for her to see since in my opinion the porn version boarders between gross and wtf?. So she looked around and found infantilism.org or something like that and read about it since it was in a more informative write up to educate about DL, AB, TB, etc... But mostly DL and AB. So she clasified me as a DL by what she read and has a good understanding of it now and likes it, so we cuddle together in diapers and watch movies ...etc. Some of the best times of my life.

Moral of the story, make sure to guide them to a site that is more informative and written with the intent to educate, not a forum.

[DollyDiaper]

Well, Forums and Chatroom aside, I find the rest of this fab site very helpful and informative

When I first came here, only vaguely aware of ABDL, I read just about everything available on the rest of this website before I started posting or chatting.

D lly

[runaway]

Good old Wikipedia. What would we do without you?

We would prolly do what we did in the old days ... Google It! and find 2 out of 203,670,114 links helpful.

Although, the Wiki can be edited by everyday fallable ppl ... not just he cyber-know-it-all-gods that we've come to rely on to tell us everything we wanna know.

[Toddler Sissy]

When I told my g/f, I found it easiest to just sit down, and explain everything to her as best as I could, and let her ask questions and answer them frankly. We explored my love for being an ABy together, but then again I was blessed with a very open minded, curious g/f who was glad to just talk, and listen. I'd never take her to an ABy website, even now I'd be afraid it would be an overload. I'm young, but I've lurked and watched for years before dipping my toes in the water, so I'm not sure she'd be ready after just a few months.

[i_luv_dgirls]

I remember the first time I told my first girlfriend - it was 2 1/2 years into the relationship and I felt like I was holding something back - so one day I started the conversation - 'Do you have a festish', she goes 'No - not really...do you?'

The second girl - so much easier, two weeks into the relationship - she goes 'I have a festish...' - she tells me, and then she goes 'Do you? c.mon? what is it' - she spent 4 hours guessing and finally she got it with some well timed hints on my part. She tried it - but unfortunately is not as into it as my first girlfriend - who sad to say I can't believe I truly left as far as the diapers were concerned, she fit into the size 6 - sported them for me every chance she got when we were doing the dirty, and she didn't judge.

Ah well things change - and it's like the first time you buy liquor underage - once you are successful once, every other time is sooo much easier - as it seems less like a taboo and more like something to do that changes the game and remains innocent.

Good for you - hope things work out in the end.

A.

[Guest Serendipity]

Well monkey and Monkies girl,

I am very envious of you. i did tell my girlfriedn of 16 years who has lived with me for 7 of those years. last night. at current she is not speaking to me. I was out of town when i sent her a letter telling her and giving her all the supporting information that i could. She called on her way home and i gave her a pretext that somehing important was in her e-mail and that we would need to talk about it. we did e-mail back and forth for a few hours in her trying to come to grips with it. i am staing in a hotel untill she can as i am respecting her wishes to be left alown. i hope that this gowes well for you as it very possabily ended my relationship.

I will keep you posted as tiem goes by if their is any responce to

[RMS401]

Dude. You told your girlfriend in an email? You waited until you couldn't talk to her face-to-face? What's that about? Your girlfriend now has a million questions, mixed feelings, and she's scared half out of your mind that you're a deeply disturbed person and the best you can do is email? That is so not right.

-RMS

[AutieAB]

Dude. You told your girlfriend in an email? You waited until you couldn't talk to her face-to-face? What's that about?

Agreed. I told an ex about it by writing it all down... Except I was in the room when she read it (burying my head under the duvet in terror, if I remember rightly) She will have so many questions and you waited until she couldn't ask them? I don't want this to sound as nasty as it might but I really don't blame her for not wanting to talk right now.

For the record, I would imagine that she's not angry with you because you have a fetish but because you (a) waited sixteen years to tell her and ( told her in a very unfair way.

If like you said, you're staring break-up in the face, then FFS pick up the phone and talk to her!

[superdiaperbaby]

Dude. You told your girlfriend in an email? You waited until you couldn't talk to her face-to-face? What's that about? Your girlfriend now has a million questions, mixed feelings, and she's scared half out of your mind that you're a deeply disturbed person and the best you can do is email? That is so not right.

-RMS

I told my girlfriend in an email. It was the best thing because I had all the time in the world to write it the way I wanted to say it. I told her to call me when she was ready to talk. I could never had told her face to face. That's not me. BTW, we are getting married in August, so she must accept it....

SDB

[Toddler Sissy]

I told my girlfriend in an email. It was the best thing because I had all the time in the world to write it the way I wanted to say it. I told her to call me when she was ready to talk. I could never had told her face to face. That's not me. BTW, we are getting married in August, so she must accept it....

SDB

Wow, I wouldn't count on that. You'll need to tread carefully if you want to keep that marriage. You have to understand that, regardless of your intentions, this was a poor move on your part. With a wedding coming up, and 16 years of secrecy, she has a very, very set image of you in her head, and a very set belief about your lifestyle and personality. To tell her something this unusual while she is preparing to marry you, and after hiding it for so long is going to cause some immense stress. You probably should have bit the bullet and told her face to face, regardless if it's "not you". I suggest you take the initiative here and call her, and offer to talk and answer any questions she has, one on one. Soon. If not, you may find the wedding canceled; if it's upset her enough, she will end things.

I hope for your sake irreparable damage has not been done to your relationship. Be ready for a lot of work in the near future; you may have to earn back her trust after hiding this part of you for so long. I wish you the best of luck; it's never easy telling one's SO, but you may have inadvertently made it harder than it had to be.

[DollyDiaper]

Wow, I wouldn't count on that. You'll need to tread carefully if you want to keep that marriage. You have to understand that, regardless of your intentions, this was a poor move on your part. With a wedding coming up, and 16 years of secrecy, she has a very, very set image of you in her head, and a very set belief about your lifestyle and personality. To tell her something this unusual while she is preparing to marry you, and after hiding it for so long is going to cause some immense stress. You probably should have bit the bullet and told her face to face, regardless if it's "not you". I suggest you take the initiative here and call her, and offer to talk and answer any questions she has, one on one. Soon. If not, you may find the wedding canceled; if it's upset her enough, she will end things.

I hope for your sake irreparable damage has not been done to your relationship. Be ready for a lot of work in the near future; you may have to earn back her trust after hiding this part of you for so long. I wish you the best of luck; it's never easy telling one's SO, but you may have inadvertently made it harder than it had to be.

You quoted superdiaperbaby and have replied to him in your post, but I think you'll find it was Serendipity who's been with his G/F for 16 years, and not SDB. I don't believe Serendipity mentioned marriage.

D lly

[Toddler Sissy]

You quoted superdiaperbaby and have replied to him in your post, but I think you'll find it was Serendipity who's been with his G/F for 16 years, and not SDB. I don't believe Serendipity mentioned marriage.

D lly

*goes back, re-reads posts*

Hmm, so I did. Sorry about that.

[dldad]

I can understand the sending of an email to be able to compose things better than just blurting it out. But into a relationship for somewhile that is built upon trust, that trust could be seriously impacted by such a move. A lot depend upon each individual, their commitment to each other, the extent of having an honest open dialog, and the feelings, likes, desires, etc. of the other individual. Good luck.

[Manchesterlad]

Wow, I wouldn't count on that. You'll need to tread carefully if you want to keep that marriage. You have to understand that, regardless of your intentions, this was a poor move on your part. With a wedding coming up, and 16 years of secrecy, she has a very, very set image of you in her head, and a very set belief about your lifestyle and personality. To tell her something this unusual while she is preparing to marry you, and after hiding it for so long is going to cause some immense stress. You probably should have bit the bullet and told her face to face, regardless if it's "not you". I suggest you take the initiative here and call her, and offer to talk and answer any questions she has, one on one. Soon. If not, you may find the wedding canceled; if it's upset her enough, she will end things.

I hope for your sake irreparable damage has not been done to your relationship. Be ready for a lot of work in the near future; you may have to earn back her trust after hiding this part of you for so long. I wish you the best of luck; it's never easy telling one's SO, but you may have inadvertently made it harder than it had to be.

Think your geting too seperate poeple confused to teh first who didnt tell his gf of 16 years dont want make you feel bad but i tihnk youve got some serious arse kissing to do mate,

[Sunshine2585]

Think your geting too seperate poeple confused to teh first who didnt tell his gf of 16 years dont want make you feel bad but i tihnk youve got some serious arse kissing to do mate,

Do you not read threads all the way through before posting? Because look what is three posts above yours. A post from Dolly pointing out the same thing that you said. And then look what is two posts above yours. A post from Toddler Sissy quoting Dolly's post and apologising for getting the two people mixed up.

[Toddler Sissy]

Do you not read threads all the way through before posting? Because look what is three posts above yours. A post from Dolly pointing out the same thing that you said. And then look what is two posts above yours. A post from Toddler Sissy quoting Dolly's post and apologising for getting the two people mixed up.

I'm guessing he only read the first page, and mistakenly assumed that was the end of the thread; both Dolly's post and mine start on the second page. No harm done if it was an honest mix-up, though I don't think I'm the only one with "some arse kissing to do" now