Lurkers

[diapered peter]

any way we can get rid of the lurkers ?

i c some on for weeks not saying a word

speciel is daddyjeff he never has said a word on the chatroom

just find it strange some comes on and not say one word??

i know some are very shy but for weeks?

i dont mind but , .......

stay diapered

peter

[Topguy]

Eh, he's probably just a cop lookin for pedos, never mind him.

Those people are all over the place.

[DailyDi]

We were all lurkers once

[melbubs]

Someone who says nothing in the room might be happily chatting away to a friend in private

[Guest diamondback688]

yea...ive done that a few times...

[Frink]

yep.

[diapered peter]

Someone who says nothing in the room might be happily chatting away to a friend in private

would he be pming him self when only 2 on?

[abdljoey]

I wish we could live and let live here! Some threads are devoted to telling the incontinent wannabees they need a psychiatrist. In the past we had personal attack threads. Now an attack on lurkers. Mind you, it is one thing to say that lurkers annoy you and give a reason, and another thing to ask if we can "get rid of them." Can you tell me how lurkers hurt this board?

If you want a board / chatroom with lurkers systematically purged by a strong-handed moderator, you might want to look into www.ab-dlgroup.com created by "Sam" .... here is a flavor of that approach:

"Speaking of members and memberships, I have now begun removing what I

believe are dead accounts. For the record, I see what some are doing. As

your membership is deleted, you quickly rejoin the group thinking you

now have another month of lurking. Guess again! I suggest that the many

new members who just signed up with our group (past 2 weeks) start

posting to our group a.s.a.p. It’s not as though you don’t know what is

happening. You were sent a letter explaining everything the minute you

were admitted into this group.

"As I mentioned, I have already begun deleting memberships who have not

done anything in the past year. There will be many names who leave this

group, and many who will not be allowed to return. Within the next

week, I expect a few hundred memberships to be gone. Again, I hold no ill

feelings to those who will be leaving. You must understand, this is Our

Home and we allowed you in. If I came into your home, I would be

expected to follow your rules, as I expect you to follow ours. And we want a

group where all the members are on the same page. We have made this

work in the past, And We WILL make it work again. I am sorry if many of

you do not agree with our rules and decisions,..."

This email was typical of that sent out to members on a regular basis. I found that approach offensive and I surely hope nothing like that will occur here. However, if yhou want a group like that, feel free to go there and sign up.

The Daily Diapers site involves a generous mixture of many elements: from lighthearted games and threads on the boards (name that tune and others) to soft porn in the picture galleries; from serious reviews on the quality of diapers and concerns of incontinents to references to fetishes like pants-pissing and lingerie; from serious inquiries about the nature of infantilism to invitations for private meet-ups for adult fun; etc etc. It works. There are thousands that come to this site for one aspect or another.

There are things that annoy me as well (as you can tell) but I don't punctuate it by telling others they are crazy or to try to get them excommunicated from the site.

Apart from anything that might be illegal (eg., allowing minors to participate)... live and let live here!

[beallucanb]

Hi: I just want to say, I was a lurker for a while, I don't go to chat rooms, because I can't keep up with most ppl. typing, and a slow ass connection.

I do say something once and a while, try to get my opinion across, I just one guy looking for somthing to do, with the things I enjoy, mainly sleepers, diapers, wetting, I am more DL than AB, I like the sensation of wetting, and I do sleep diapered most knights,(because I like to, not need to), but I do wear my sleepers every night.

I lurked for quite awhile, untill I felt comfortable enough to join, and then I lurked a little more after I joined, and I still lurk almost every day..

[jenniebear]

Why would anyone care if someone else is lurking.........that's what i don't get....

if someone speaks to you....and you don't want them to.......ignore them....be they lurker or whatever...........other then that.....live and let live....

I lurked in the beginning at DPF for a quite a while before I felt comfortable saying anything....i had never been to a chatroom before....and it took me a month or more to actually enter chat...and prolly a week of lurking before i had the confidence to start speaking at all.....

not all of us grew up with the internet as a standard item in our homes , our classrooms or even our libraries....not all chatters are under 30 or even under 40 ......and when new to the internet and chat...the whole thing can be very intimidating...it can move very fast...it can seem as if people are talking about things you've never heard of .... etc.....i can only imagine too if your first language is not english how difficult it would be to follow a fast moving chat room...........

[Dill_Pickle]

Why would anyone care if someone else is lurking.........that's what i don't get....

if someone speaks to you....and you don't want them to.......ignore them....be they lurker or whatever...........other then that.....live and let live....

Jenniebear:

By and large, I'll agree that some are afraid, and lurk...and others get lost in PM'ing. I think the real issue of why is because there is a fear that the lurker isn't "just lurking", but is in fact spying on us.

We all need to remember that this board is basically public, here for anyone to see....and behave accordingly. Any cops will get bored to tears, as we drive out the a/s/l'ing underage HNGs.

I am in favor, however, of requiring some kind of a "Yes, I'm really here" every 8 hours or so on the chat. This would just be a little box that pops up, and must be clicked "OK" on before the chat data refreshes. This accomplishes removing non-live person entities from the chat.

Dill Pickle.

[Topguy]

And there are many who come to see what sort of people are there.

Including women looking for rl relationships. They soon learn who might be worthwhile.

[jenniebear]

i've been kicked before from another room ... for "lurking".....because i was not paying attention to the room for about 20 minutes........i've never gone back........any room that kicks me for something that ridiculous is not going to be where i hang my chat hat...........

if someone is in the room for 8 hours straight ... lurking.... and has not left at all during that time period they prolly need booted for their own benefit.......but my guess it is prolly someone who has just left their computer on and forgot to close out of DD........i've done it....and i doubt i'm the only one here that has......

personally i will monitor my own behaviors, i will choose who i talk to and i will decide how long i leave a chat room window open.....do i have any fear of a cop in the room?....no ......i have done nothing to be fearful for.......and again...begin moderating the room i chat in......and i will find somewhere else to chat....almost every mod i've ever known was a little hitler in their own small world of chat......no thank you....i'll pass

[DollyDiaper]

Well said jenniebear!

I'm always wary of those who post on the board whining and complaining about this or that/him or her in chat and yelling for mods at the same time. I could be wrong of course, but I always get the feeling that those doing it are yelling for attention and putting themselves forward for the job.

What's worse in my opinion, is that those type of threads also bring out the odd person saying "We don't need mods!!! I'm not a mod, but........." and go on to say that mods aren't necessary because they can usually be found in chat, keeping an eye on everyone and doing their best to keep them in line.

Now they're the really scary ones in my opinion and I avoid them at all costs.

D lly

[CDLover]

I mostly lurk... why??? - because if I don't have anything to add, I keep my "mouth" shut! (after reading the posts here, I think there are others that could do more of the same )

A few times I have been on the chat, but mostly am quiet. It is due to part "shyness" - I'm not all that outgoing, and part wanting to get a "feel" of what is going on. I've not been involved in a lot of chat rooms and it seems that the conversations are between other members and I really don't know what is going on there!

So, there is my $0.02 on lurkers. Some of us are not wicked, just quiet.

Back to "lurker mode",

CDL