How to trick your partner into diapers?

[Guest Dodi]

I have never told anyone about my fetish and will be taking this part of me to the grave. I have a girlfriend who loves me and I'm sure would accept my ABDL side but it would never be the same for me.

So I have started to think of ideas on how to start wearing in front of her (obviously lies).

I have thought about pretending to be incontinent?

I don't know but I need to think of something before she catches me out.

Any ideas?

[nanamartinez]

Be honest with her? :-)

[Hookedondiapers]

^^^^^^^ Best advice ever.

[TaliZorahFanGirl]

Be honest with her? :-)

Nana has it right...

[Diaper_Lover_HI]

Be upfront and honest with her.

[Guest Dodi]

I WOULD RATHER DIE THAN TELL ANYBODY ABOUT MY FETISH!

I would never be able to look her in the eye the same again. Obviously I have tested her reaction by mentions a documentary about ABDL and surprise surprise it was a very angry negative one. The problem is the first thing people think when they hear about ABDL's is paedophile!

Also just because I'm an ABDL doesn't mean I want to meet and socialise with others. The main reason being is I'm straight and most ABDL's I have come across are homosexual males. I have chatted to few in the past and even began to plan arrangements to meet up but, I was disgusted by what these other people were into. They were perverted and depraved. I don't want to wear 24/7 and I can go years without wearing so I'm not your typical ABDL.

Also you don't know me so please stop the psycho analysis and judgement.

[Dr_J]

In this instance then, I would ask that you not ask for advice regarding the matter. Tricking someone is just as bad as lying to them about it. Nobody is here to give you a psycho-analysis. We're just giving you feedback in which you publicly asked for.

[XyXy]

Allow me to offer a different opinion. Don't tell her of your fetish. If you'd rather die than let out your secret, then keep it a secret. Big deal! Lots of people die with secrets. If you want to involve her in some way with your fetish, you have to make her think that it is medical. Be creative. If you don't want her to think that you are an AB/DL/whatver, but still want her to accept you in diapers, the logical conclusion is to make her think that you have a problem. Diapers are for people with elimination problems, or people with fetishes. That's it, you can pick one or the other. Incontinence is a rather blurry subject. Some ideas: Start wetting the bed on purpose. Have occasional day time accidents. Make it obvious that diapers are necessary for you, and that NOTHING else will work. This fetish is going to be with you for life, I promise it. If you can't accept that reality, then make another one. But you have to be good. Every aspect of your life has to support your alternative reality. If you can create an alternative reality, and live it day by day (every day till you die) then it will be your reality. Life is whatever you want of it. Just make sure that you can live with your reality.

[Spargano]

More than just the lie, which is very hard to live with, you are committing to a life of incontinence. If this is something new, she will be concerned and will want you to go to the doctor/urologist. Faking there is another lie (a much more dangerous lie). If this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with she will need to know your medical history if something happens.

I am not advising you either way, but do understand this is a complex full lie. With the abundance of bladder medications, catheters, and surgeries available you would need a valid reason to say you chose diapers.

Is she medically astute? Or is she not that interested in biology/how the body works? If she is astute you need to convince someone who is very likely to spot holes in your lie.

Full disclosure, and I have already been pilloried for it here , I was and have been dishonest with my wife. I started the path towards incontinence before I met her and brought the subject up early when we were dating. She has been very supportive and knows I prefer the diapers. The fact that I do now have a need does not negate the initial lie. It does not matter that it is the only lie I have ever told, it was a lie, and a big one (if you are committing over $2,000 of your yearly finances to diapers that is a big deal). I try to make up for that by making sure she always has what she wants spending more on her than me in every aspect.

Marriage is give and take. I took something very precious to me (though she doesn't realize that) and feel I cannot ask for more so I am committed to providing her with every happiness I can manage. I guess what I am trying to say is, if you lie to the one you love you have tarnished the relationship and deserve NOTHING. She gets everything else. If diapers are that important, you will need to consider that because the selfish attitude will poison every aspect of the relationship. In the end, when the relationship ends one COULD blame the diapers, but the truth is it was the selfishness.

-Spargano

Spargano

[ForbiddenFruit]

Also just because I'm an ABDL doesn't mean I want to meet and socialise with others. The main reason being is I'm straight and most ABDL's I have come across are homosexual males. I have chatted to few in the past and even began to plan arrangements to meet up but, I was disgusted by what these other people were into. They were perverted and depraved. I don't want to wear 24/7 and I can go years without wearing so I'm not your typical ABDL.

[drynot]

I WOULD RATHER DIE THAN TELL ANYBODY ABOUT MY FETISH!

Also just because I'm an ABDL doesn't mean I want to meet and socialise with others. The main reason being is I'm straight and most ABDL's I have come across are homosexual males. I have chatted to few in the past and even began to plan arrangements to meet up but, I was disgusted by what these other people were into. They were perverted and depraved. I don't want to wear 24/7 and I can go years without wearing so I'm not your typical ABDL.

Also you don't know me so please stop the psycho analysis and judgement.

Dude.....I don't even.....man.....talk about the pot calling the kettle black.

[CDLover]

I have never told anyone about my fetish and will be taking this part of me to the grave. I have a girlfriend who loves me and I'm sure would accept my ABDL side but it would never be the same for me.

So I have started to think of ideas on how to start wearing in front of her (obviously lies).

I WOULD RATHER DIE THAN TELL ANYBODY ABOUT MY FETISH!

I would never be able to look her in the eye the same again. Obviously I have tested her reaction by mentions a documentary about ABDL and surprise surprise it was a very angry negative one.

[TaliZorahFanGirl]

Dodi, you're going to hate me saying this. You're going to get angry, and defensive. You are going to be offended. These are natural defense mechanisms.

[Guest Dodi]

It seems I've been misunderstood. My fault for not explaining myself better. I didn't mean gays disgusted me I meant some individuals I had come across with their ideas (not gay) disgusted me but, whatever. Got nothing constructive or positive to say, then don't contribute.

Yeah it is eating away at me but I can never tell any of my friends or family etc.

[DiapermanAl]

Any ways...... It's just not right to trick anyone into anything.

[sonofninasayers]

To be honest Dodi how would you feel if someone had tricked you into something. The right thing to do is to say that you are sorry for tricking her otherwise what you had done might come back and haunt you some day and as the saying goes what goes around comes around

[TaliZorahFanGirl]

It seems I've been misunderstood. My fault for not explaining myself better. I didn't mean gays disgusted me I meant some individuals I had come across with their ideas (not gay) disgusted me but, whatever. Got nothing constructive or positive to say, then don't contribute.

Yeah it is eating away at me but I can never tell any of my friends or family etc.

[Guest Dodi]

The title of the post was wrong, I did not want to trick anyone into doing anything. What I meant was how could I wear but not be honest about it. Obviously I would have to pretend to be incontinent which I am not prepared to do. It was a silly idea to begin with and one which will never become a reality.

What I meant to say about gays is that most men I have come across who are ABDL are gay (just an observation). I have no issues at all with homosexuality, after all it's not my life and it is none of my business. Now onto the unpleasant things. I didn't word my post properly because I am not using a keyboard I'm using an ipad therefore I wanted to keep it brief because I don't like typing on screens. I meant I have been disgusted by certain individuals who I have met online via forums such as this and they have turned out to be liars and into some very sordid disturbed shit that freaked me out. So because of all the negative experiences I've had I don't really like the whole scene. But I didn't say I was a raging homophobe. Anyway you can stop crying now you fucking drama queens.

I suppose I just have to live my life with my secret and when I get the urge satisfy myself by going to an ABDL nursery or something. I now realise how dumb and selfish I was even contemplating faking being incontinent when there are people who are genuinely suffering and living in hell.

[TBlazer]

Oh w/e, dont change your critique of perverted fetishists, youre right. Shit I remember when I was 14 going into some AOL chat room for teen ABs and lord knows the level of pedophaelia there, no wonder we get a bad rap.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

The title of the post was wrong, I did not want to trick anyone into doing anything. What I meant was how could I wear but not be honest about it. Obviously I would have to pretend to be incontinent

No, the title is VERY accurate. You are 31, not 13 and are old enough to be well aware of what you were doing as said by "...not be honest about it" which would require the use of tricker and deceit. Trouble is, you got caught and are in denial in the form of revisionism

[DavidMW]

I meant I have been disgusted by certain individuals who I have met online via forums such as this and they have turned out to be liars and into some very sordid disturbed shit that freaked me out.

[Guest Dodi]

Ho, the title is VERY accurate. You are 31, not 13 and are old enough to be well aware of what you were doing as said by "...not be honest about it" which would require the use of tricker and deceit. Trouble is, you got caught and are in denial in the form of revisionism

I got caught doing what?

[Guest Dodi]

You used the word "lies" in your original post, so I'm not stuck on the work "trick" in the thread title. So basically you're looking to lie because you're into something that apparently freaks out your girlfriend. You later noted that you could go years without wearing. And then there was that bit where you'd "RATHER DIE" than tell any one (this last point is where your term "drama queen" first occurred to me, btw).

So you've got a few options.

Come clean and tell her - and let the chips fall where they may. A lot of people are accepting when the reality hits, and if she's not one of them it's probably better to find out now than when she finds out after the kids are born and you share a mortgage and other community property.

Lie to her. Indulge behind her back and basically lie to her so she doesn't realize you're into something that freaks her out. Of course, if and when she does find out, not only will she likely be freaked out about the diapers, but she'll see you as a liar who's into something that freaks her out. Surely she's entitled to the same reaction as you had to the liars you thought about meeting up with.

Go years without indulging like you said you can. Of course, she may still find out if you're not careful about hiding the websites you visit.

Dying's an option, too, but I'll assume you weren't really serious about that one.

Truth is best. Lie and you become what you criticized in others - and only delay the truth coming out anyway.

No I'm not looking to lie. I was just thinking of ways how I could wear a nappy in front of my girlfriend and fool her into believing I needed it for medical or some other reason. I was not looking to trick my girlfriend into becoming involved by changing me or whatever. All I was trying to do is think of a reason where I could wear around my girlfriend with her been fully aware but, not know I was an ABDL.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

I got caught doing what?

Being dishonest. and you know it but you are still trying to squirm out of the trap of your own making by playing dum, at which tactic you are far from the first; I quit that when I was 20 because it does not work. As I said "you are 31, not 13", so unless you have a mental problem or are woefully uneducated in right and wrong, you know what you are doing so stop it. The only one you are conning is yourself once you start to believe what you are saying

No I'm not looking to lie. I was just thinking of ways how I could wear a nappy in front of my girlfriend and fool her into believing I needed it for medical or some other reason.

So trying to make a fool of her is not lying? Why do some people think that just because I came in on a flying saucer, it was the LAST flying saucer?

[Guest Dodi]

Yes it would of being a lie but I was not telling the lie to trick her into taking part and making her participate against her will. You make it sound like it is on the same level as infidelity or something. Yes it was a lie and furthermore it was a dumb idea but I was a bit tipsy when I wrote the thread and I would never had acted it all out. Pretending to be incontinent and wetting the bed so I can wear a nappy on a night would be wrong on so many levels.