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I cannot answer for my (wifes') g/f at the time feelings for sure. But after she found out about my DL/AB side she asks me about it. I explained it nervously as best I could. She liked the control part of it pretty good but didnot want it 24/7. :blush: I have to say I did go alittle overboard at first.(wanting it 24/7). But she said sometimes I want you as an "adult" sometimes too. So we learned to give each other what we both needed to be happly together. In any relationship it is give and take. It cannot be one-sided all the time. We made it thru it all by trying different things; then being honest with each other about how we liked them. =(finding what we were comfortable with and being willing to work on it together.)

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Thank you for your response. We are going slow and discussing how we both feel, when there seems to be a point of tension. We do not do it 24/7 and to my current knowledge he doesn't want it full on all the time, but more hints that I know about it, so we can feel more connected. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Thanks again.

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I don't want ot be blunt, but given that you are 22 and still virgin, it's understandable that part of the "logic" of sex and pleasure is still out of your grip. From personal experience, it takes years of progressive habit to apperciate some particular quircks and mindsets. After, it seems almost impossible to understand why it took so long for you to get them.

Do you remember your first attempts at driving a car or at playing a new sport that required a certain dose of tecnique? Things that now you can now perform without a consciuous effort initially required huge concentration.

With mindgames and pleasure is the same thing. My suggestion is to get more exposure to the things he seems to like. Ask him to share some of the porn literature or videos he prefers, and then discuss which are the things in them that are ringing his bells. This way, you should be able to get a view of his main "pleasure buttons" from several point of views and the understanding process should speed up.

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  • 2 weeks later...

Thank you so much for your responses. You are right and this will get 'easier' once we can cut out the long distance aspect. We both agree that it will become more manageable for both of us once we can be in the same room, talking face to face. We have covered a lot of what you're suggesting, that it will take time and we must go slow and take time to understand each other. I know I have a lot of growing to do in the category of sex, but I am glad that he is willing to learn with me and we can experience this together. I have looked into what websites he frequents, and we have discussed it. I know there will be new levels to explore once we are together and we will discuss that when the time comes. We are learning together and I am open to what he has to say, just as he is to what I have to say. We have discussed my lack of experience and we have made significant progress since I have started posting here. Thanks so much for your support, I will read your entries frequently to remember your advice and incorporate your wonderful ideas.

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  • 2 months later...

Hiya J_Addict,

Its been a while since you started this thread, but I thought I would pop on as Lonewolf has resurrected it. You seem to be a very considerate person, and you both seem to be approaching this well.

From your post it does appear that all your chat seems to be one sided, it is a shame he doesnt think to ask you what you find desirable and accomadate you sometimes. Maybe thats has slowly emerged in your relationship by now, It would be nice if it has.

This is a hard lifestyle for those with no interest in it or knowledge of it, to understand. Sometimes those of us who do have a passion about this forget what a shock it can be to find out about all of this, and if the other person shows any sign of acceptance, we can leap on it and go a little overboard, as LILJIM discribed, I was also guilty of this when I first told my wife. For me it hasnt worked out to well really, but we are still together, this is a small part of my life and my wife can see there is soo much more to me to be with (Thankfully).

I think if you and your b/f are serious enough and truely love each other, you will find some middle ground, but I think its important for you to set some ground rules near the beginning of your relationship. Such things as mentioned above, that you would like them as an adult sometimes, and that you would like some of your desires fulfilled at times... things like that.

I hope you both have a lovely rich rewarding life together

hugs

fozzy

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Hi,

I know you started this thread a long time ago but I actually just became a part of this site because i was just introduced to the adult baby lifestyle because of my boyfriend. When i first found out, i was definately thrown for a loop. I am able to accept him for who he wants to be. We take it slow and we talk alot about what he wants and how im supposed to do things. He either talks be through each thing he wants or teaches me how before i do it myself. I've been able to wrap my head around just about all of it so far but i understand the struggle.

I got to know his personality before i found out about the baby lifestyle. I started to fall in love with that personality and leaving him just because he likes to be treated like a baby just seemed so unfair. We both agreed that easing me into it was the best way to do it. I've found that philosophy to be true.

it's been months since you posted this so i am assuming you and your boyfriend have progressed with his lifestyle and incorporating you. I would really like to hear some of your opinions and advice on how to take care of my new baby. there is also this amazing pdf file that someone wrote that is really helping me.

go under "mommies and daddies" and click the post titled "article on caring for your AB or Little one"

its alot to read but definately worth it. :)

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im seeing someone i am very much in love with. we have a history. but weve never actually been together. ive known about his fetish for years. now that we are seeing eachother its driving me nuts that he wont TELL me what he wants me to do. we dont live close but its our intention to move in together in the near future so the phone and text is really all we can do right now. just consider yourself lucky that your guy gives you actual information about what he wants. mine just keeps saying that im only pretending not to know what to say to him..... ive spent hours reading literotica on the topic and all i can really find is humiliation stories. i know hes more into the nurturing than the humiliating... but how in hell am i supposed to sext him i dont even know what to say to him! i know he wants me to use the word diaper. thats all i know for sure.... i wish hed just come here and we could do this physically so i have some level of experience to use to sext him. im just so scared to screw this up... i know thats silly. but ive had him on a pedastal for years. thats also silly. i am a willing participant. i just dont know what to say

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Being a virgin myself till I was in my twenties made sexual encounters or near encounters quite awkward for me. I do remember masturbating when I was younger and know the feeling I derived from doing that. When you meet a partner that is into this Fetish, the best thing you can do is talk. Keep an open line of communication. Discuss feelings from both sides, non-judgmental for either party.

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  • 2 weeks later...

I'm glad someone revived this thread. I can totes relate to the situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. Like you we're long distance, and she knows about my little side. I think she was overwhelmed when I first told her, but I was very careful not to overload her with information. I started out by just wearing diapers at night, and then after work, and for the first time in my life I wore 24/7 for extended periods of time. I almost fainted the day my girlfriend allowed me to call her mommy.

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