confusedmommy

This really peaked my interest. I really agree that not everyone gets to hear the mommies/daddies stories out there, so here's mine. I learned about this entire lifestyle through my boyfriend. I am already a very nurturing and caring person so i took to this lifestyle rather quickly. My boyfriend has been a little one since he was in his early teens. I met him in November of 2011 and he slowly started to explain everything to me. First he just told me he liked to be a baby and do baby things like a bottle and a paci. I remember the first night we did baby things like it was yesterday. We were in his room and i was so nervous. I fed him a bottle of water and gave him his paci so that he was comfortable for the night. He clung onto me the entire night and i never felt so needed before in my whole life. I know feeding a baby and a bottle and making sure he has his paci all night isnt a lot but after that night I knew that i would do anything for him. As the days and weeks grew on i learned even more about him. I learned that he loved diapers and being a 100% baby. His dreams of a nursery and all different kinds of baby like things. I immediately took to this lifestyle with him and i knew my life would never be the same. When he told me, he helped me to learn more by showing me this website, hence the "confusedmommy" name. I was very lost but this website has been a great place to go for me and i hope others find it. We have been together for 8 months now and everyday i hope that i make him the happiest baby in the world. I hope to one day be able to give him the nursery and baby life of his dreams. Sitting here and thinking about all that he has taught me and how much we have been through amazes me. He is my rock and i know that he needs me just as much or even more. I cant imagine not being a mommy and not having this little baby with me. well i hope that all made sense and that you like my story!! mommy <3

I have also wondered how people would react had they found out about my boyfriend being a AB/DL. In the end i just remind myself that I dont care what others think, i love my baby and i always will. i have this nurturing instinct in my body that taking care of him fulfills. Yes, it does get tiring after awhile but in the end i feel so complete and happy that i am the person he decided to share this with.

Babybruce, we have been talking about getting one. They are just very expensive but we may be ordering one soon. Bettypooh, ill have to have him try that. I just get really frustrated when it happens and it always does.

Hello everyone. I don't know if any of you have experienced this but every time I diaper my baby, he gets horny and he needs to cum in order to soften so I can diaper him. I feel like this ruins the babieness of it all and I don't like it. Is there anyway to stop it or do any of you have any ideas? Mommy

Hello Mommy Lowis, I am the same way. I am a mommy to my little one but every once in a while I do wear and he takes a break and is my daddy. I do not know how you and your husband do it but that is how me and my boyfriend do it. PM me if you would like, i would love to chat with you.

I am so glad to hear how accepting you are and that you are willing to show your boyfriend that you are. I believe that is the best thing you can do for you baby. They need to feel loved and accepted. I joined after my boyfriend told me 6 months ago. I was very confused (as you can tell by my name lol) and I wanted to learn more. I have learned so much from this forum, from babies and mommies and daddies that I have chatted with, and from my own baby of course. and remember that there is no wrong way to be a mommy. Learn the things that your bay loves and do your best. As long as you love your baby and do the best you can for him/her, you will be great!! So welcome and feel free to message me anytime

It has balanced out alittle more since. He has started helping and taking care of me when i need it instead of focusing on only him.

ok thank you. i guess the best thing is to try to control things the best i can so he and i are both happy and wait for it to balance out completely.

Thats what happens, i say i will do it and then he gets excited and just starts saying things he wants before im ready to actually do those things. I do as much as i can and he understands that i cant do certain things yet. I just dont want to do something im not ready for and then get scared to do it anymore. We're still working on balancing it and im hoping it does. Thank you for responding

Diaperedjason. The problem with doing it all together is he gets horny and its hard to just have him as my babygirl. I try to take control but im not a controling person cause I dont like hurting peoples feelings so that definitely is a struggle. we werent intending on that being his. We were going to get actual sissy outfits when we had the money but I guess he liked this one and couldnt wait

hello mommies and daddies out there! my boyfriend is a AB/DL and also a sissy. Now i dont mind doing sissy things with him at all, im learning what he likes and what to do. But it has recently just become all sissy stuff which satisfies him but does not satisfy me. For example, we went out and bought "outfits" on of them was a french maid one and it become his once he knew it fit.. i do not get any sexual enjoyment out of doing this. I have spoke to him a few times about it and he says things would change. We'd have intercourse once and it would go back to sissy stuff until i said something again and even then i feel like he's only doing it cause i said something. im scared that i wont beable to see him as my man and boyfriend if sissy stuff is all we do. we respect and listen to each other, but it seems like sissy stuff is controling our sex life.. How do i get him to understand where im coming from and make it actually stick? How do i prevent myself from seeing him as just a sissy? help!

Im really glad things are getting better. It took some time to adjust for me and i still am but my boyfriend is being very helpful. My boyfriend gets very excited and starts saying things he wants without thinking. I get really nervous and upset when i cant do what he wants but he's still working on making that part easy. I've gotten alittle better since he's fixed that alittle. Im happy things are being worked out

Hello makipants! I was just introduced into this lifestyle in november. When my boyfriend told me i was alittle shocked and i didnt know how to react. He showed me alot of websites and just answered any questions i had and still do have. He is very patient and open with me and i believe that is very important. When my boyfriend first started calling me "mommy" i was alittle uneasy but then i got used to it. I like hearing it. Its nice to know someone needs/wants you around. I have worn diapers for my boyfriend and i do kind of like it. I use it more for relaxation then anything else. He likes to take care of me just as much as i like taking care of him. My boyfriend is also into BDSM, but not extremely intense. Im new to it, but i do like it and i am learning. As for you question, it isnt stupid. I had a similar worry. My boyfriend just tells me that we will be amazing parents then and he'll help me and not leave me to do it alone. If you have any questions or just want to chat, message me ill gladly chat. i love having people to talk tooo!

Hi CautiosMommy, I became a new mommy recently as well. (November to be exact) I have a file that i read that really helped to explain alot, its lengthy but definately worth it. PM me if you would like it or you have any questions on how i adapted to this new lifestyle and what helped. I bet your boyfriend is happy your trying, mine was ecstatic lol

Thank you all so much for the advice. We're finding our neutral area yet still trying new things. He's been great since we talked! I'm so thankful for this site

Thank you so much for all the replies. We talked things out late last night and he decided to be an adult for me last night. Tcc : I am scared to be a freestyle mommy because i want to make sure i give him what he wants at the same time. i dont want him to be unhappy. NewMommy2 : He realized last night how upset i was and took care of me and was there for me. I really appreciate your opinion though. I dont want to resent him or make things bad between us. KittenAB : im not sure how to get into the sissy aspect. We've done stuff with him in panties and a pad but thats about as far as it goes. I want to be more into it but im not sure.

Hello, i have been apart of this liftstyle and website for a couple months now. I am a mommy to an adult baby boy who is also a sissy. When i first started, i knew nothing about this lifestyle and i needed alot of help. I read alot of articles and posted a few forum questions. Ive gotten to the point where i understand the process and i have helped and actually participated in being his mommy. He has helped me alot along the way and is very patient and understanding with me. I sturggle alot with the sissy side of things so he hasnt asked for that recently. I feel bad when i cannot do the things he wants or have to ask for help. I have a hard time sometimes remembering that he really is a baby. Sometimes i will say things and joke around with him and he just gets upset cause it hurt his feelings as a baby. His baby side is always there and sometimes i forget that. I struggle with seperating to two. How do you seperate the two? How do you know when he wants to be babied or not without him having to say so?How do you tell him you want taken care of one night without hurting his feelings? Everything sissy throws me for a loop. I dont know how to fool around with him dressed as a girl and it be arousing for me. I find it hard to muster up the courage to even do the sissy stuff but i fear that he is going to run away eventually if i cant do it all. I know that this lifestyle isnt going to go away and i am not leaving him for it. I am staying and being his mommy. We communicate all the time but recently its been all baby and i dont want to take that away from him when he needs it so much. I just need alittle advice. Baby, sissy, anything. Please help. I need someone to talk too

Im happy you two have worked things out. The bond you two have or will have is amazing. This website reminds you that you arent alone and there are people who do understand.

I agree, I think the best thing to do is talk to him. Tell him that you love taking care of him but you need alittle attention as well. They don't think they are doing anything wrong and that's why communication is key. My baby always tells me that we're a team and never to hesitae to talk. When your new to this lifestyle, its the only way to learn.

Hello! I am still alittle new to the adult baby world. I was just introduced to it in november. I can take care of him and be his mommy, its the sexual aspect i am struggling with. My baby boy loves to be punished and humiliated and that is something i am not good with. I was wondering if anyone has any tips, ideas, or stories for me to pull some inspiration from. Please and Thank you

I kind of understand what you are going through. My baby and i are still in college and living in dorms so it is really difficult to be alone and have play time. He is busy constantly and on the rare occasion that we can be alone, he cant be completely comfortable when playing cause of the chances of people barging in. He has been fussy almost everynight so far. We're balancing with it the best we can but during the night i make sure i feed him before bed (room temp water or warm milk) and than he sleeps with a diaper or pullup on and his paci in his mouth. When i do this he relaxs alot, like all the stresses from the day never happened. He latches onto my side and snuggles on my chest. Yes, it is the reversed sleeping role for a couple but i love it. You may not get playtime but making sure he sleeps like a baby may help him sleep, and you as well. This doesnt please every aspect of baby that he wishes it would but he understands that we cant go all out all the time and he knows that he will be getting a complete baby day soon. so that helps alittle. I hope this helps. Contact me anytime, i feel like we are both in a very similar situation. New mommies and all.

I just finished reading this article and i found it very helpful. I am new to the AB lifestyle so this was a nice view into what i will be doing and what i need to do to be a good mommy. Thank you so much! My baby is appreciative as well

Hi, I know you started this thread a long time ago but I actually just became a part of this site because i was just introduced to the adult baby lifestyle because of my boyfriend. When i first found out, i was definately thrown for a loop. I am able to accept him for who he wants to be. We take it slow and we talk alot about what he wants and how im supposed to do things. He either talks be through each thing he wants or teaches me how before i do it myself. I've been able to wrap my head around just about all of it so far but i understand the struggle. I got to know his personality before i found out about the baby lifestyle. I started to fall in love with that personality and leaving him just because he likes to be treated like a baby just seemed so unfair. We both agreed that easing me into it was the best way to do it. I've found that philosophy to be true. it's been months since you posted this so i am assuming you and your boyfriend have progressed with his lifestyle and incorporating you. I would really like to hear some of your opinions and advice on how to take care of my new baby. there is also this amazing pdf file that someone wrote that is really helping me. go under "mommies and daddies" and click the post titled "article on caring for your AB or Little one" its alot to read but definately worth it.

Thank you. That helps alittle bit.

Hello everyone, I just recently became the mommy to an adult baby. He has taught me alot of what I am to do but I was hoping to get some advice from other mommies on how to care for my baby. Could I please have some help?