spiritstarr Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Hey guys, I'm a 20 yr old STRAIGHT male that has just discovered a sort of DL fetish and im terrified of myself. I really need to know where this came from and why I feel the way I do but I'm looking for only STRAIGHT females or males to talk to. I really would like some help from both sexes. Thanks. Link to comment
Repaid1 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Just a thought but you might wanna ease up on the STRAIGHT thing. Advise is advise, whoever it comes from. It's not like your asking for a date, or are you ? Our members are very diversified in both intellect and Sexual orientation. It would be a shame for you to miss out on some advise because you wish to discriminate. Not a very good way to come across as a new member looking for a little guidance. 1 Link to comment
spiritstarr Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Just a thought but you might wanna ease up on the STRAIGHT thing. Advise is advise, whoever it comes from. It's not like your asking for a date, or are you ? I know some of the psychopathology associated with the association of infantilism and various sub-categories of this fetish. However, the development of homosexual male and female brains at my age have yet to be understood, so I'd rather ask questions and get real-life info from straight male and females. I am not looking for a partner or anything, nor do I have anything against homosexual people (my roomie is gay and weve been best friends for 13+ years!), but as a pharmacology major I really am interested in why I am the way I am. Plus, I really am interested in how straight females differ in the ways they deal with this disorder as compared to straight guys. Link to comment
sarah_ab Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 SO answer these questions first.. why do you love your favourite food? why do you love your favorite movie? why do you love your favorite book? why do you love your favorite color? And i'm not asking you list the things about each of those things you like.. but what mechanism is it in your brain that makes you like what you like...The thing is, we don't know... I know i love the cartoon spongebob and can tell you all sorts of things about the show i like... but i can't tell you why i like those things... I can tell you it has to do with the release of certain chemicals in my brain, but why does my brain release certain chemicals that tell me i like spongebob, but don't like another cartoon? I know many people here search their histories to come up with a reason, and for many people that reason gives them comfort, but from a purely brain chemistry standpoint we dont know, and most likely wont know for at least a decade to come! Instead of worrying so much about the hows and whys, use that time to just explore this new found hobby if you will, and all the fun ways to enjoy it. Sorta like when you find a new favorite hiking trail, instead of worrying about WHY you like it, just go and enjoy it! Link to comment
Repaid1 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I know some of the psychopathology associated with the association of infantilism and various sub-categories of this fetish. However, the development of homosexual male and female brains at my age have yet to be understood, so I'd rather ask questions and get real-life info from straight male and females. I am not looking for a partner or anything, nor do I have anything against homosexual people (my roomie is gay and weve been best friends for 13+ years!), but as a pharmacology major I really am interested in why I am the way I am. Plus, I really am interested in how straight females differ in the ways they deal with this disorder as compared to straight guys. Perhaps a valid argument if you had said "from people my age" but the majority or this site isn't...just say'n. I personally wouldn't want advise from anyone at your age, as I was there many moons ago. The is no definitive answer to a question that could only be answered by yourself. No amount of input from others will solve your dilemma. Only you and you alone will come to a answer if there is one. The smartest of us just accept that we "are" and move on. With age comes wisdom, at least my grandma thought, and she was a very wise woman! BTW Welcome to the site. Link to comment
spiritstarr Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Perhaps a valid argument if you had said "from people my age" but the majority or this site isn't...just say'n. I personally wouldn't want advise from anyone at your age, as I was there many moons ago. The is no definitive answer to a question that could only be answered by yourself. No amount of input from others will solve your dilemma. Only you and you alone will come to a answer if there is one. The smartest of us just accept that we "are" and move on. With age comes wisdom, at least my grandma thought, and she was a very wise woman! BTW Welcome to the site. Yes, many people who believe that AB/DL is the life for them learn over time to accept their lifestyles and change because of it. The smartest of "us" just accept that we "are" and move on? No... That's the definition of ignorance. It's fine and well to be ok with who you are, since that essentially is an end goal for many therapies and such and I'm in full support of anyone who is proud of who they are regardless of age, sex, gender, preference etc. However, it's completely irrational to believe that only a self-reflection will lead to anything different than further confusion. I know that to think that our lifestyle or even thoughts about this lifestyle is completely not "normal", but not "bad" per se. I want to know the reason why I am the way I am, and I believe that by making new friends in this community and sharing personal experiences with as many people as I can, I can learn more about the potential causes and effects of DL. That being said, I'd love to get PM's from anyone who is between the ages 17-22 with their stories, as most of you can tell I have alot to say. ~Spirit Link to comment
Repaid1 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 http://www.hark.com/...-to-communicate Alrighty then...carry on. Link to comment
LuvsGurl Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Instead of asking people to message you, why don't you do some reading? Perhaps you should check out the boards on ADISC. They are much better suited for young people who are trying to come to terms with what ABDL means to and for them. Read understanding.infantilism.org it has good factual info. This place is more of a playground for those of us who are already comfortable with ABDL and are looking for people with similar interests to converse with. Link to comment
sarah_ab Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 also if anyone who IS under 18 .... say 17... pm's you.... please report them to the mods immediately. this is an 18 and older only board. Link to comment
LILJIM Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 With age comes wisdom, at least my grandma thought, and she was a very wise woman! BTW Welcome to the site. I agree with her too!!! .... I have found over the years to listen to others... no matter who they are in a discussion.. They might just have some insight that I have not thought about before. I hope you find what your looking for -- even with your closed mind set. Link to comment
Bettypooh Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Hey guys, I'm a 20 yr old STRAIGHT male that has just discovered a sort of DL fetish and im terrified of myself. I really need to know where this came from and why I feel the way I do but I'm looking for only STRAIGHT females or males to talk to. I really would like some help from both sexes. Thanks. Though I may be quite a way from who you direct your question to, I would point out that if you are not open to all answers, it would be rather easy to call you ignorant So I'm older, Trans, and not really sure what my sexual orientation is I fail to see what that has to do with my being a DL because it doesn't So I'll pass on what I know in hopes that it may give you some insight along your journey. I too am an introspective person; perhaps to the point of an obsession. I am driven to understand myself and I do pretty well. Part of what drives me to wear diapers is in my urge to be unusual, or shall I say to be myself no matter what others may think Part of it is the security it offers me from the public ridicule of visibly wetting myself Part of it is in the naughtiness of knowing I'm diapered and that it's a secret I like those things whether diapers are involved or not.. There are now days where my bladder doesn't give me any other option than to wear, a fact I've accepted which goes along with the fact that as long as it isn't something dangerously wrong with my health I don't mind what my bladder does- is it simply my fate I like the feel of wetness diapers give me- and there's no explaining that; it stands on it's own just the same as my preferring chocolate ice cream over vanilla I too came here wanting to understand why I am this way.I've read what many others have to say about themselves and have found that while some AB's can connect their need to particular events or causes, no DL's can do this This is just something you like, and in liking it you have a psychological need to do it often enough to stay happy I'll also add this- based on the tone of your message, you have many hang-ups about your own sexuality and this is common at your age. Don't let that bother you; simply let your heart lead you where you need to go and it will be alright no matter where that takes you, because you have to be you and you cannot stop that from happening. You can only choose to ignore your heart's call and be unendingly unhappy because of that Seek only happiness and truth. The answers you are supposed to know will come, those you aren't meant to know aren't worth worrying about. Bettypooh Link to comment
spiritstarr Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Though I may be quite a way from who you direct your question to, I would point out that if you are not open to all answers, it would be rather easy to call you ignorant So I'm older, Trans, and not really sure what my sexual orientation is I fail to see what that has to do with my being a DL because it doesn't So I'll pass on what I know in hopes that it may give you some insight along your journey. I too am an introspective person; perhaps to the point of an obsession. I am driven to understand myself and I do pretty well. Part of what drives me to wear diapers is in my urge to be unusual, or shall I say to be myself no matter what others may think Part of it is the security it offers me from the public ridicule of visibly wetting myself Part of it is in the naughtiness of knowing I'm diapered and that it's a secret I like those things whether diapers are involved or not.. There are now days where my bladder doesn't give me any other option than to wear, a fact I've accepted which goes along with the fact that as long as it isn't something dangerously wrong with my health I don't mind what my bladder does- is it simply my fate I like the feel of wetness diapers give me- and there's no explaining that; it stands on it's own just the same as my preferring chocolate ice cream over vanilla I too came here wanting to understand why I am this way.I've read what many others have to say about themselves and have found that while some AB's can connect their need to particular events or causes, no DL's can do this This is just something you like, and in liking it you have a psychological need to do it often enough to stay happy I'll also add this- based on the tone of your message, you have many hang-ups about your own sexuality and this is common at your age. Don't let that bother you; simply let your heart lead you where you need to go and it will be alright no matter where that takes you, because you have to be you and you cannot stop that from happening. You can only choose to ignore your heart's call and be unendingly unhappy because of that Seek only happiness and truth. The answers you are supposed to know will come, those you aren't meant to know aren't worth worrying about. Bettypooh I don't have any hangups about my own sexuality. I've been dating a girl for 3 years now and I've had plenty of past relationships with women. Im straight. LOTS of these boards have people that associated ABDL with homosexuals, and i HATE THAT. Any time I'd possible come out of the DL closet to anyone IRL, it's ohp youre gay. NO. I am attracted like none other to attractive women wearing diapers. Not even wetting necessarily. I just love skinny girls that are diapered and are horny like me. Its purely sexual for me. Not many others on boards are like that. 1 Link to comment
ItchyTasty Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I don't have any hangups about my own sexuality. I've been dating a girl for 3 years now and I've had plenty of past relationships with women. Im straight. LOTS of these boards have people that associated ABDL with homosexuals, and i HATE THAT. Any time I'd possible come out of the DL closet to anyone IRL, it's ohp youre gay. NO. I am attracted like none other to attractive women wearing diapers. Not even wetting necessarily. I just love skinny girls that are diapered and are horny like me. Its purely sexual for me. Not many others on boards are like that. That's a load of bollocks, where did you hear that? Also if you been dating a girl for 3 years now, that's a hell of a long time, it's about time you had a proper relationship with her. Maybe she will over time accept the diaper thing or even try them. Until then you can fantasize over the likes of AB/DL girls in diapers. My longest gf was 8 months relationship, I'm also bi. But I don't go chat up my straight friends,LOL. It's only really diaper sites like diaperspace and fetlife where you get people leaving really crude sexual comments about people, whether they're straight or not. Fetlife isn't as bad as diaperspace though. As it has more discussion areas unlike diaperspace which lacks most of that. Link to comment
LuvsGurl Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I don't have any hangups about my own sexuality. I've been dating a girl for 3 years now and I've had plenty of past relationships with women. Im straight. LOTS of these boards have people that associated ABDL with homosexuals, and i HATE THAT. Any time I'd possible come out of the DL closet to anyone IRL, it's ohp youre gay. NO. I am attracted like none other to attractive women wearing diapers. Not even wetting necessarily. I just love skinny girls that are diapered and are horny like me. Its purely sexual for me. Not many others on boards are like that. Dude, if you've got it in your head that diapers = gay or are a total homophobe (which it seems like you are) then you need to get out of here. 3 Link to comment
Guest Sasha Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Wait a minute...I'm a tad confused. Is he straight? Link to comment
Repaid1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 In a crooked kind of way...kind of like one of those fun house mirror things And this coming from a STRAIGHT, Man with 5 Kids! Another of those up and coming proposals for President no doubt! I'm still working on the Gay vs. Diaper issue. I have been around the block, actually longer than the OP has been alive and wearing diapers for longer than that. At NO time has anyone questioned or asked my sexuality. As far as a gay man or women, I would never assume or have seen any evidence that anyone in our community thinks someone is gay just for being here. Do we have them, sure we do, but I don't think it's predominant over any other type of person. If you wanted to go to out side our community, they as a whole don't even know we exist for the most part and if they do they certainly don't combine the two automatically. It seems in this instance we have one head talking before the other can even rationally think. I'd like to think that he is just a little presumptuous in his ways being young and horny as he put it. His mannerisms have sealed his fate as it were and no young lady will answer the call. But at the Ripe old age of 20, dating a girl for 3 years I'm pretty sure that all the other women he has dated at 17 and under Before her will still be around when he gets past the juvenile ways. In all honesty one has to think if at his age he can't figure it out, wouldn't one think that anyone else his age are doing the same thing? Yet the only ones on here answering his thread are the exact ones he doesn't want to hear from? Leave it be gang, let him have his thread! Link to comment
Bettypooh Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 I don't have any hangups about my own sexuality. I've been dating a girl for 3 years now and I've had plenty of past relationships with women. Im straight. LOTS of these boards have people that associated ABDL with homosexuals, and i HATE THAT. Any time I'd possible come out of the DL closet to anyone IRL, it's ohp youre gay. NO. I am attracted like none other to attractive women wearing diapers. Not even wetting necessarily. I just love skinny girls that are diapered and are horny like me. Its purely sexual for me. Not many others on boards are like that. Repaid will be mad at me for posting ( ) but once again I see there's no open mind- the OP seems to not see anything else I wrote except for things related to sex Had he bothered to read carefully he would understand more, but since he won't then he won't find the answers he seeks.Oh well, that doesn't bother me but it's sure going to hurt him, but if that's the way he wants it then OK And I pos-repped his reply to counter the two negs I found because I don't think he deserves negs- he just doesn't understand yet but one day he will- time and fate makes sure of that We should give new members a chance, especially when we remember just how bad some recent ones were- in comparison this one is tame Bettypooh Bettypooh Link to comment
sarah_ab Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 well i'm straight, i'm female and i wear diapers... but i'm also fat, with psoriasis among other things... and i have slept with women, and might do again in the future (i mean you know.. if i can bring the boyfriend around).. and I currently have a HUGE crush on a female friend of mine. So i guess i do and don't qualify... oh this is 100% sexual for me and my boyfriend who is my daddy and doesn't wear diapers and is straight. Link to comment
spiritstarr Posted June 23, 2011 Author Share Posted June 23, 2011 well i'm straight, i'm female and i wear diapers... but i'm also fat, with psoriasis among other things... and i have slept with women, and might do again in the future (i mean you know.. if i can bring the boyfriend around).. and I currently have a HUGE crush on a female friend of mine. So i guess i do and don't qualify... oh this is 100% sexual for me and my boyfriend who is my daddy and doesn't wear diapers and is straight. Honestly, I'm just curious about why this happens so much more to guys and not girls. It has to be tied to the testosterone in men. EVERYWHERE you see more ABDLs as male, and the male needs to be strong and powerful myth is probably propelling alot of it. But PURELY sexually, not those who convert because they miss the comfort or want to be in a "safer" time mindset wise, I really just wonder what causes this. My guess is hypersexuality, because after I masturbate to girls in diapers, I am disgusted. But after i masturbate to typical "normal" porn, it's like meh ok im not horny anymore. Any other DL's agree/ Link to comment
LuvsGurl Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 WRONG. There are just as many females into ABDL/Ageplay as there are males. You just need to know where to look to find them... and it's not here. 1 Link to comment
Zander Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I'll get down-voted for posting this, but it tends to be my perception here that the Gays and TG's are generally more vocal about anything to do with sexuality anyway (and especially so when they perceive a threat or encounter someone who takes offence at them flaunting or exposing their sexuality). I presume this defensive streaks comes from a feeling they're persecuted or discriminated against - and thus they've learned to 'stand up for themselves' more - but it does tend to skew the perception on boards like this that there are markedly more TG's, homosexuals and/or bisexuals ADBLs than straight ones. Of course, that might actually be the case! I can sympathise with the OP though on some level. Although I'd like to think I'm a tolerant and open minded person, every time I'm in a face-to-face meeting with someone and I realise they are gay I experience a ... well ... initial wave of revulsion I suppose is the best way to put it. I don't know how to interpret it - maybe its fear of some form? - but every time I discover / realise that someone in the same room as me is gay I automatically have the same response. I get over it quickly and ceases to be a problem with that person if I encounter them again, but regardless the point is that I seem hard-wired somehow with response which I can only describe as being initially very uncomfortable. If they also experience this, the OP may not have yet learnt to consciously control and disregard those initial reactions. Anyway, even as a straight male in a long term relationship with my partner, I don't know if there is anything I can actually offer to help them that's not already been said. Well, its either that or frankly I can't be bothered with someone who SHOUTS things rather than emphasising or highlighting them 1 Link to comment
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