What If You Die

[heartwood]

It crossed my mind that if something happens to me my family would be left to clean out my personal belongings... We all know what hides in our personal belongings... So I got this idea to write a note i guess explaining... "sorry you gotta see this yada yada yada". Leave the note with my stash and if the worst happens... so be it. Good idea or just crazy?

[Jabez]

I think it can potentially be a very good idea if you are concerned about the impression your diapers are going to have on your family. And also, it might keep them from thinking the worst...

[kootzkoo]

good idea! +1 !

Let them know it has nothing to do with children

Maybe print off some stuff off the internet!

[WallaWalla]

No need for me to worry about such a thing, as I have been found out by multiple friends and family as it stands.

[sarah_ab]

i guess for me i just dont care, because i will be dead, and therefore, what people say, or think about me really won't matter to me anymore, and people who are truely friends and loved ones, won't care what they find in my room as long as its not illegal type things... they will still go on loving the me they knew ...

[d_drew12]

All I have to say is, "If I were to die murdered in cold blood tomorrow, would you feel sorrow or show love, or would it matter? Can never be the lead-off batter of things, stuff for me to feed off. I'm see-saw battling, but there's way too much at stake for me to be fake, there's too much on my plate and I came way too far in this game to turn and walk away and not say what I got to say." And what I got to say is, it wouldn't bother me, cause I'm six feet in the earth you see!!!

Okay, all things aside, yeah, I've thought of that, what would they think going through my stuff!? It wouldn't even have to be a death. A car accident that leaves you out of your home for a while so people go to check on it. A coma, a fire, an emergency of some sort that keeps you away from your house or allows others to enter could all be potential disasters for those not wanting to be found out be anyone. Being dead, meh, everyone has skeletons in their closets probably. The other ones would worry me more because you eventually will probably come back home and have some splanin ta do! If you're in the hopsital a month and you left some diapers out and a pail full of dirty ones, or a room full of ab stuff and other things in the laundry that now mom and pop are coming over to your residence to take care of for you while your gone then that would be pretty interesting especially if they didn't have a clue. I actually try and put most things away and nothing obvious when I take trips just incase someone has to get in the house for some odd reason whatever it may be. At least things won't be in plain sight. Tougher for those who have full rooms dedicated to this fetish though. What would the Fire Dept think carrying you out of your crib in your onesie and a diaper in a room full of adult baby toys!?? "This is the largest baby I've ever seen!!! Now give this very large baby CPR, NOW!" As all your neighbors are staring at you in your attire as they resusitate you and you come to. Uhhh, dreadful thoughts.

[beallucanb]

Well I'm pretty sure I know who it will be looking at my stuff, he did catch me wearing a sleeper on a very warm summer morning many many years ago.

He didn't say anything to anyone or to me ever again way back when, and I'm sure he won't say anything now.

Him and I went thru my brothers stuff a few months ago and he didn't say anything then about my brothers stuff nor did I.

I'm quite certain all my secrets are safe with him.

[DailyDi]

What if they find the note early and think it's a suicide letter?

[sarah_ab]

What if they find the note early and think it's a suicide letter?

oh my god !!!! what ahorrible scenario... yeah you should maybe either put the note in a safety deposit box, or put it in with say your will!!!

[DailyDi]

Safe Deposit box sounds like a good idea. Then just make notice that your loved ones should get the contests of the box before dealing with personal items ("as my directives are better spelled out in a letter in the box.")

I demand all my items be sold at an estate sale. Sippy cups, diapers, all of it! lol

On a serious note, I have been wondering what to do about [DD] when I am gone. As it stands now it would likely survive six months or so without me from the recurring income. Then it would die. Need to find someone I can really trust who would want to keep it going should Paula Deen's Gooey cake kill me tonight!

[heartwood]

My house was robbed back in 07 while I was out of town. The robbers opened my diaper box and dumped it out all over my room.... Thats how my brother found out but he took it well. Never know what could happen.

[sarah_ab]

My house was robbed back in 07 while I was out of town. The robbers opened my diaper box and dumped it out all over my room.... Thats how my brother found out but he took it well. Never know what could happen.

at least in this scenario you couldn't just said "oh my god those sick perverted robbers put diapers all over my room!!! what freaks"

[AutieAB]

It's certainly a thought provoking concept... I don't really care what happens to my pile of atoms once they're no longer needed by me but I do care about my reputation/memory... If I knew my time was almost up, I'd take steps to ensure it was handled myself but should I be unexpectedly hit by a number 7 bus one Tuesday morning, I've no idea how that would be handled. I'd probably leave some kind of note saying certain boxes were to be simply disposed of without looking and leave it to the curiosity/respect of whoever the job falls to to decide whether to be nosey and learn something they may not have wanted to know or not... I don't think it's something we can genuinely and completely control so it's probably best not to worry too much about it.

[fideliuscharm]

In my travels I've spoken with others about just this issue and how it pertains to the various individuals within communities. For what its worth, I'm not worried about my family or others they can deal, I'm more worried about all my online friends, who might notice i've disapeared without knowing why. As such I've taken steps to alleviate that in the event of my passing un-expectedly(or otherwise)

as for my stash of things, I would expect that like my tools they will be quietly disposed of to the people whom I expect will have the best use for them.

[babymikeblue]

you know what i have thought about that too. I would right a note and have my family tell the ab/dl community that i have died and tell them why i like this and why i havr to hide it. you know that sorta stuff.

[KittenAB]

It crossed my mind that if something happens to me my family would be left to clean out my personal belongings... We all know what hides in our personal belongings... So I got this idea to write a note i guess explaining... "sorry you gotta see this yada yada yada". Leave the note with my stash and if the worst happens... so be it. Good idea or just crazy?

I'd be dead, wouldn't care even if I had "loved ones".

[PArms]

I used to hide my diapers in a little box stuffed into the hollow of a downed tree in the woods. Indulging would mean a 50 minutes drivce to the mountains and a 15 minute walk to my hiding spot. On three occasions, though, I've had some animal tear a few diapers apart. I was worried the first time I approached the scattered white remains of diapers and stuffing. If anything ever happened to me, no one would know. I've since stopped caring about what would happen if I die. Couple that with the fact that my need for this life outweighs the downsides, I keep everything at home.

[heartwood]

I used to hide my diapers in a little box stuffed into the hollow of a downed tree in the woods. Indulging would mean a 50 minutes drivce to the mountains and a 15 minute walk to my hiding spot. On three occasions, though, I've had some animal tear a few diapers apart. I was worried the first time I approached the scattered white remains of diapers and stuffing. If anything ever happened to me, no one would know. I've since stopped caring about what would happen if I die. Couple that with the fact that my need for this life outweighs the downsides, I keep everything at home.

great story and thanks for sharing. Ive had diapers hidden in the woods before back when I was a kid. Diapers in the woods is strange glad things are different.

[Bettypooh]

Such things used to worry me but no more After speaking with the family about being Trans I don't think anything would shock them I have a DIY will which will stand up in court so long as nobody contests it- and nobody will contest it because I have nothing In my will just after the legal necessaries are directions given to the executor as to the proceedings of execution, which will begin with having my nephew and/or his wife, or if they are not available one of my sisters, go through my personal belongings and dispose of any non-valuable items which they do not want to become known to family members or other persons. Then my primary email accounts are to be accessed (info on how-to is in the will) and all parties found there are to be informed of my death, giving whatever details they wish to. The accounts are to be closed after sending the messages, my hard drives then physically destroyed by hammer, and the execution of the rest of my will may proceed after this has all been accomplished Among my 'goodies' are letters of explanation which they will certainly discover. The rest of my will is the usual stuff

As to me I don't give a rat's behind about anything that happens after I die- nothing can it bother me if I'm dead I've given the family what comfort I can offer and that's all I can do. My chosen people are OK and will handle things gracefully- I trust them implicitly, they will understand and follow through. It's all legal here but that varies from state to state. Probably the best thing to do is to is to have someone in your family (or a close personal friend) know the situation and take care of the thing clandestinely. They will have to tell whoever is responsible for your worldly goods to gain access, but they too will understand why it must happen and allow it- they will appreciate not having to deal with it themselves Whatever you do, if you think it may hurt someone for your secrets to come out do something about it beforehand!

Be sure to have a will, even if you're as poor as me because your state may be like mine (SC): Die without a will here and the state sells everything then takes 20% of that before the first dime goes to anyone else. All your personal mementos will be sold and the residual won't amount to much since they're interested in quick sells, not maximum prices

Bettypooh

[Yvhuce]

I'm more likely to have something akin to "Feed Jake". I'm more worried about what who would take care of the dogs, than my diapers or anything else.

[Bettypooh]

I'm more likely to have something akin to "Feed Jake". I'm more worried about what who would take care of the dogs, than my diapers or anything else.

My four-legged friend is already set for life I have a reciprocal deal with some dear friends who have dogs so we both know our survivors will be fine after we're gone Like the other, take care of it now and peace of mind will follow

Bettypooh

[SoakedinTexas]

Wow how this hits home. I had one of my roughest weeks that I have known for a long time. I buried my ex-wife today. Even though we were ex’s we were close and great friends. She knew all of my secrets and all of my life and I knew all of hers.

I went into her house and removed all the things her mother should not see. I am sure that if it had been me instead of her she would have come down and removed anything that no one should see.

However I am a little lucky and all of my family knows that I have diapers in my house and some know that I am working on my nursery. In fact I am betting if for some reason that I should pass I am guessing that I would be buried in a diaper.

So be yourself and do what you want, for life is too short to worry about what is what onc

[DailyDi]

I'm more likely to have something akin to "Feed Jake". I'm more worried about what who would take care of the dogs, than my diapers or anything else.

Love that song!

[waynecook52]

i guess for me i just dont care, because i will be dead, and therefore, what people say, or think about me really won't matter to me anymore, and people who are truely friends and loved ones, won't care what they find in my room as long as its not illegal type things... they will still go on loving the me they knew ...

sarah,i dont think if there is a 1,000 or more replys nothing could have been said better.

[SoCalAB]

Simple solution. You need a diaper buddy. This is a variation of the porn buddy plan. Two friends pledge to clean out the stash from each others homes in the event of death before the parents find it.

This video explains the program:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h9gnexnnIDc

Stay Pampered

SoCalAB

http://socalab.250x.com

It crossed my mind that if something happens to me my family would be left to clean out my personal belongings... We all know what hides in our personal belongings... So I got this idea to write a note i guess explaining... "sorry you gotta see this yada yada yada". Leave the note with my stash and if the worst happens... so be it. Good idea or just crazy?