Ratio Of Guys To Girls At Real Life Meet-up

[CBD]

So I've been organizing a meet-up for college aged diaper lovers. No one is going to be diapered or ageplaying this time around-- it's just an opportunity for people to meet each other and get to know one another in real life. Including myself, we have six people RSVPed-- 5 guys, 1 girl. Although six people is more than enough for a meet-up, I want to hold out for at least one more girl. I don't want her to get mauled though in the way that girls all too often are on the boards, especially because none of us have ever met in real life. Have any of you guys ever been to a real life meetup? What was the ratio of guys to girls there? Did you find that it was an issue?

Oh, by the way, if you're in or near NYC and interested in attending, (especially if you are a female DL that can keep our poor lonesome girl company) drop me an email at diapermail@yahoo.com with your first name and any other contact info

you want to give. (DLtown, DailyDiapers, DiaperSpace, etcetera.)

[Angela Bauer]

Back in 1990 the first two parties I attended which included AB my sister Missy was with me. Neither of us knew any of the others at the parties and we had a fine time. As a result I was invited to attend monthly AB parties organized by two men in West Hollywood, California. At those I was the only person dressed as a gal. Some of the men did not want to talk to me, but none pressured me.

It was the weekend before the sixth AB party when I met Don Davis at a non-AB party. Immediately Don became the love of my life, but he could not attend the AB party the next Sunday. Later he did come to those parties with me. None of the guys seemed to resent Don. Once Don and I married in October 1991 when we held AB parties at our house we invited my West Hollywood AB pals. Some drove all the way from there to Pasadena, about 25 miles. Those who came enjoyed themselves. At first at our home Missy would be the other AB woman, but slowly we made friends with others.

DD has many youngish women in the Greater NYC area. Keep reaching out to them. It might take feedback from the DL gal about how much fun she had the first time to reassure the shy gals.

Best wishes

[tris]

Heh, might as well bring buns and ketchup cuz it's gonna be a sausage fest!

Seriously, though, "Take a look at the man on your right. Now, take a look at the man on your left. Statistics show that both of these men will rape you."

While it's a rather funny statement, it's no joke that anything with a vag is warned to always carry pepper spray and watch out for weirdos cuz they're around every corner! And never meet up with people you met on the internet! Carry your keys between your first and middle finger so you can punch the bastard with 'em! And don't forget to scream.

I've seen chicks so ugly that even the blind retarded kid wouldn't ask out on a date, let alone try to fuck, carrying mase and/or some kind of weapon. Like, have they looked in a mirror lately? I mean, I think the rapist would need therapy after hitting that!

Oh, right, topicality -- Yeah, you're better off finding some open-minded chicks to come along and just pretend.

[dogpiss]

Maybe a sausage festival isn't the best place for a meeting. While they can be fun, and I did love the last sausage festival I went to, the crowds can be a little overwhelming. And what happens if the other person is a vegetarian who doesn't like beer? I've always liked the idea of hiding in plain sight, but maybe a sausage festival is a little too high energy. Maybe a lower-key venue might be a better place to start? Besides for those who do like sausage, being constantly distracted by bratwurst, beer and onions might distract from getting to know someone.

-DP

[sarah_ab]

wait i thought by saussage fest he meant lots of men and no women? i'm so confused now...

but anyway... i think cbd, you are going to have a hard time convincing an ab/dl girl to come hang out with 6 other guys and one girl who are into diapers.. Honestly, as an ab/dl i wouldn't want to hang out with just one other ab/dl girl or guy, so trying to get me around 6!! no way jose!!

i say do your get together with the people who have signed up, and then maybe if that girl had a great time word will get around and more females will come next time.

[MusicBABY180]

I wish I could meet other ABDL is real life. Problem is I think I'm the only AB/DL in my whole town.

[PampersPete]

Heh, might as well bring buns and ketchup cuz it's gonna be a sausage fest!

Seriously, though, "Take a look at the man on your right. Now, take a look at the man on your left. Statistics show that both of these men will rape you."

While it's a rather funny statement, it's no joke that anything with a vag is warned to always carry pepper spray and watch out for weirdos cuz they're around every corner! And never meet up with people you met on the internet! Carry your keys between your first and middle finger so you can punch the bastard with 'em! And don't forget to scream.

I've seen chicks so ugly that even the blind retarded kid wouldn't ask out on a date, let alone try to fuck, carrying mase and/or some kind of weapon. Like, have they looked in a mirror lately? I mean, I think the rapist would need therapy after hitting that!

Oh, right, topicality -- Yeah, you're better off finding some open-minded chicks to come along and just pretend.

It's been a month or two since I read anything on here that made me laugh out loud this hard.

[wetvinyl]

... i think cbd, you are going to have a hard time convincing an ab/dl girl to come hang out with 6 other guys and one girl who are into diapers.. Honestly, as an ab/dl i wouldn't want to hang out with just one other ab/dl girl or guy, so trying to get me around 6!! no way jose!!

i say do your get together with the people who have signed up, and then maybe if that girl had a great time word will get around and more females will come next time.

Definately... My only suggestion would be to organize the get-together at a public place-- a restaurant, park, the beach. No, you won't be able to run around in diapers like you could at a private home or hotel room... but that's the point. When the male/female ratio is that tilted, it IS going to be a sausage-fest... so the girl(s) are going to feel a lot safer knowing ahead of time that she'll be with all you guys in a public place.

wv

[dogpiss]

wait i thought by saussage fest he meant lots of men and no women? i'm so confused now...

Sorry... English is not my first language so sometimes English double meanings go beyond me. Also in the culture I grew up with, sausage festivals are a rather common thing. Anyway, yeah, I agree, girls seem to be intimidated by this type of meeting, but maybe try one of the "munches" that are held in various places? Maybe a munch at a REAL sausage festival someday

[Guest dllightning]

CBD,

You know I salute your efforts. Hopefully another girl will find your post and attend. Good luck

I am trying to get something together in Sacramento, CA.

[Aurelius]

Heh, might as well bring buns and ketchup cuz it's gonna be a sausage fest!

Seriously, though, "Take a look at the man on your right. Now, take a look at the man on your left. Statistics show that both of these men will rape you."

Many statistics are stupidly rigged. Like the notion that guys think about sex every '7 seconds'. By the same rationale, girls have hostile, period-induced pangs of emotions every 10 seconds or thereabouts. And most rape statistics are designed to not take into account that rape has a high rate of recidivism (ie. even by loose definitions only one-in-six or something like that ever engage in anything that could in sensitive terms be construed as rape - eg using mild force in what is very probably 'consensual' sex is desirable).

On rape, feminised history often annoys me. The other day we were discussing the Spanish conquest of the New World. Guys were slaughted in droves protecting their villages, but somehow their surviving wives being raped is worse??? And it takes that bit much more respect in not having a gun or steel or a horse and with early-stage smallpox.

Just my little rant.

That said, the internet is a scary place for girls and particularly on sexual topics. Careful with what information and photos you allow to hit the internet, particuarly in a way that might be led back to you personally.

[diaperliz]

Well i would come but.... NYC is a loooong ways away

[CBD]

My only suggestion would be to organize the get-together at a public place-- a restaurant, park, the beach. No, you won't be able to run around in diapers like you could at a private home or hotel room... but that's the point.

Oh certainly we are doing it in a public place, probably somewhere on the lower east side where they serve coffee or tea. As I said, no one is planning on wearing diapers or ageplaying. It's just an opportunity to connect with real people instead of hiding behind your computer screen like a weirdo.

And with all due respect, Tris and Pete-- your comments are not only unhelpful, they sabotage my attempt to give people a healthy outlet in a community where it is much needed. It almost seems that you would rather people live in self-loathing isolation; a position which, may I remind you, many of the female members of this board feel they have been forced into against their will by the heterosexual male portion of the community. (Which it seems you are both a part of.) In any case, the one daring girl who has signed up is on this board, and I sincerely hope that your comments have not made her uncomfortable. I would appreciate it if you would refrain from this kind of behavior in the future.

And Angela, I would like to thank you for your thoughtful input. You speak from long experience, and I value that.

[PampersPete]

Oh certainly we are doing it in a public place, probably somewhere on the lower east side where they serve coffee or tea. As I said, no one is planning on wearing diapers or ageplaying. It's just an opportunity to connect with real people instead of hiding behind your computer screen like a weirdo.

And with all due respect, Tris and Pete-- your comments are not only unhelpful, they sabotage my attempt to give people a healthy outlet in a community where it is much needed. It almost seems that you would rather people live in self-loathing isolation; a position which, may I remind you, many of the female members of this board feel they have been forced into against their will by the heterosexual male portion of the community. (Which it seems you are both a part of.) In any case, the one daring girl who has signed up is on this board, and I sincerely hope that your comments have not made her uncomfortable. I would appreciate it if you would refrain from this kind of behavior in the future.

And Angela, I would like to thank you for your thoughtful input. You speak from long experience, and I value that.

The 2nd best thing I've read on here in awhile. Get over yourself CBD. Do you honestly believe you're some sort of "Diaper Savior" or something? And if what I type on this board makes someone uncomfortable,maybe they need to be uncomfortable.

[Wheels]

Good luck CBD! I sent you an email BTW. Hope you guys have fun!

[hidden]

too far for me. u may want to post this on the ny subforum of the meeting place forum to find people in that area.

[sarah_ab]

It almost seems that you would rather people live in self-loathing isolation; a position which, may I remind you, many of the female members of this board feel they have been forced into against their will by the heterosexual male portion of the community.

so let me get this straight those of us who dont feel the need to go meet random strangers and hope we'll have some great friendship simply because we share the same fetish, we are somehow self loathing and living in isolation? well i am sincerely sorry YOU feel this way about YOURSELF, but stop projecting it onto those of us who have come to accept and like this side of ourself but dont feel the need to 'hang out' with other people. And i'm not sure 'many of the female members of thsi board feel' we have been forced into a position of self loathing and isolation.

People who blame other people for their feelings of inadequacy are just unable to accept themselves truely and fully.

CDB its cool that you are reaching out to make friends, but please in that quest, refrain from making gross generalities about not only the women on this board, but the men as well.

Not everyone lives in self loathing or isolation simply because they dont want to hang out with people in diapers.

[CBD]

Get over yourself CBD. Do you honestly believe you're some sort of "Diaper Savior" or something? And if what I type on this board makes someone uncomfortable,maybe they need to be uncomfortable.

*sigh* I don't think it constitutes a messiah complex to try to organize a fetish scene in real life for one of the few fetishes that really hasn't got one, especially in NYC. And telling girls that they're going to be raped if they try to make friends in the fetish world is not something that needs to happen. If I told you I was into guys and you told me, "You're gonna get lynched for being a fag," I'd call it harassment, not a necessity.

And sorry about the generalizations, Sarah. I've heard some complaints from girls, that's all.

[Angela Bauer]

Somebody has to take the initiative and announce a gathering. It seems this one in the NYC area follows the proven successful protocol in the ABDL community, hold it in a public place with everyone outwardly appearing responsibly adult. The fact of being in public will ensure the conversation is discreet.

Should some participants decide to hold another similar event, great. Perhaps a handful will decide to only invite certain of the original participants to a less public event in a more private place. In such a case the kind thing is to be discreet, so those not invited to the intimate gathering do not get hurt feelings.

One thing I can assure you, having attended several ABDL parties before I married Don is that gals will be physically safe. If there is danger it is getting to and leaving the event. A few guys way into ABDL will not want to talk to women, which is their right. Twenty years after I started communicating about ABDL parties I have not received a single report of a woman being molested or attacked or even mobbed by a bunch of randy ABDL guys. The worst report I had from one gal was she felt ignored. I never met her so I have no clue what she was ignored.

Keep your expectations real. Plan to have fun and be open to other people's kink.

[TBlazer]

Keep us posted man, I live on the opposite side of NY, but I have some friends in NYC that might make a trip worth it. Sure, itd be great to have more girls, but who cares-going to one of these things to meet someone to date is like going to a casino to make money.

[BriGuy]

Allow me to be the bearer of bad news I suppose. It has been my experience that the vast majority of those involved in the AB/DL lifestyle are incredible flaky. With the help of some friends I have been trying to put together meet and greets all over California, Nevada, and Arizona. We get a lot of interest, we get some saying they will be there and in the end it only seems to be a couple of people who actually get together.

I understand that we may have a different level of comfort who who we are, but we are very sensitive to those who are not and encourage participation. So I wish you luck with your endeavors, just don't get your hopes up! Of the hundreds of AB/DL's I chat with I have only met and successfully had a meet with four.

[sarah_ab]

Allow me to be the bearer of bad news I suppose. It has been my experience that the vast majority of those involved in the AB/DL lifestyle are incredible flaky. With the help of some friends I have been trying to put together meet and greets all over California, Nevada, and Arizona. We get a lot of interest, we get some saying they will be there and in the end it only seems to be a couple of people who actually get together.

I understand that we may have a different level of comfort who who we are, but we are very sensitive to those who are not and encourage participation. So I wish you luck with your endeavors, just don't get your hopes up! Of the hundreds of AB/DL's I chat with I have only met and successfully had a meet with four.

*giggles* you're just trying to guilt us all into coming to vegas .......... i see how it is!

[curiositykilledthecat]

Hey I guess this in reference to our meet up. Yeah we need another female or two interested in meeting up. At least for me it will be a casual get together, especially if i get off the train and we look like a pride parade, my ass is getting right back on. I am assuming the meet and greet is more or less an opportunity to openly tak and hang out with others who share a similar interest.

[diamondback6881]

especially if i get off the train and we look like a pride parade, my ass is getting right back on.