It Occurs To Me

[moore_diapers]

hi all.

i've noticed over the past few years that nothing has changed..

the male population is overwhelming and the female population is few at best.

so I want to give a shout out to the few ladies we have out there! thank you for giving the men hope that we might actually get a diapered lady. and for the men, keep on wearing.

so to everyone who ready this give me a shout and let me know your still alive and kicking. just keep the smiles comeing and lets raise the roof in here...

stop being soo serious and have fun with what we have..

shout it out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

smiles

ps. SHOUT!!!!!!!!!

[moore_diapers]

SHOUT!!!

(TO MYSELF) lol

ps. pm me if you want to ask a question..

[ranger]

Are there really that few, or are there more female lurkers? It seems like whenever a female AB/DL pops up, all of the dogs in heat start hounding them to death.

[lavender]

I'm here just joined a few days ago. Again i'm an adult baby with incontinence from spina bifida.

[diaperwearntigger]

If anyone has really done research on this the reason why there are more males than females is because bedwetting is more common in males.... however, I know there are some girls out there, including myself, but some tend to keep a low profile because of men who just want to pounce on them as soon as they say they are female.....

Reading this almost makes me think that you want a shout out so the females can post so you can pounce on them lol... Some females tend to go into hiding after awhile because they get tired of fending the guys off... I, on the other hand, have just learned to ignore it and have fun at their expense...some guys just don't take the word 'no' seriously, even after you tell them you are married and that you dont feel like talking about personal subject matters, they still tend to push the issue....

I have met many WONDERFUL guy friends on here, whom I know I can joke around with and know they won't take it to the extreme. I know that they won't be asking for my phone number and pictures and asking impersonal questions....but thats because when I first met these guys we talked about normal adult things, they didn't ask me all the HNG (horny net geek) questions that most of the guys ask....

So advice from this AB girl, who is married to a DL daddy.... if you really want to get to know a girl..... keep your cool, keep your thing in your pants, take a big breath, don't let your excitement over come you, relax, and just TALK to the girl.... don't ask the typical diaper questions.... any guy that does that to me, is an automattically HNG....

Yes, us woman wear, yes some of us use them, yes some of us have someone to change us, yes some of us are sexually turned on by them... but NO we don't want you to change us..... now that you know the answers to these questions... STOP ASKING THEM!!! and get to know a girl for her and not what she wears on her butt.... I mean seriously... if you were out somewhere would you really be asking a girl in public these questions? Most likely not...so what makes you think you have permission to do so just because you're on a diaper website... its all about respect...you don't respect us don't expect us to respect you....and when you ask us woman these questions... you don't want to get to know us... you just want a thrill for awhile....go rent a porn movie for that!

I think if some guys would just learn to control themselves, a lot of females would stick around more often... I'm not saying ALL men are like this... so don't go attacking me with... I'm not like that blah blah blah..... trust me known NOT all men are like that....I have a lot of friends that aernds that aren't like that...

When it comes down to it.... be polite, and the gentlemen that your MOM would be proud of.....and not the horny guy your DAD would be proud of LOL

[sarah_ab]

From what i've seen there are quite a few females who are ab's, or dl's or mommies/aunties etc... not just on this website, but a few other websites as well. I think tigger said it quite well.

I had a personal ad on the old diapermaters website a few years ago, and i was VERY explicit about the type of person i did and did not want to talk to. Yet, 99% of the responses i got were from men who had oviously had not read even a bit of my profile. Men who would send me these explicit scenarios about me changing them and things.

Women tend to get disgusted with the lack of taste many men display, not just on this site, but on many sites in general, however for many woman who come here to just be little, it can be extremely aggrivating to be constantly bombared by men who just want to talk about diapers...

[moore_diapers]

thank you sarah and tigger.

that was most honest of both of you. I've seen that happen to myself from some gay guys on this site too. its nothing against us guys but we have 2 heads and we need to start thinking with just one and you can guess where i'm going with that one.

now can I get your #s and pictures of you to confirm your existance...lol

just kidding i'm not like that infact i'm not like most guys. I probably havent had bedroom fun in nearly a year because I would like to know a woman before I knew that part of her first.. and it doesnt matter if your a guy or girl every human is needing in love or companionship. but we need not to take it too far as we tend to do!

so be mind full of how you talk to those around you, cause even tho you cant see their faces doesnt mean their any less of a person.

thank you all for posting! and keep em comeing!

I havent heard this sort of honesty from this site in quite some time. its more whineing these days. and I feel more compeled to simply ask if you want cheese with that message.

smiles all around this time

[ric2]

thank you sarah and tigger.

that was most honest of both of you. I've seen that happen to myself from some gay guys on this site too. its nothing against us guys but we have 2 heads and we need to start thinking with just one and you can guess where i'm going with that one.

now can I get your #s and pictures of you to confirm your existance...lol

just kidding i'm not like that infact i'm not like most guys. I probably havent had bedroom fun in nearly a year because I would like to know a woman before I knew that part of her first.. and it doesnt matter if your a guy or girl every human is needing in love or companionship. but we need not to take it too far as we tend to do!

so be mind full of how you talk to those around you, cause even tho you cant see their faces doesnt mean their any less of a person.

thank you all for posting! and keep em comeing!

I havent heard this sort of honesty from this site in quite some time. its more whineing these days. and I feel more compeled to simply ask if you want cheese with that message.

smiles all around this time

Thank you Sarah and Tigger.

I cannot speak for anyone else, but in the situation I am in at the moment, I have very few people to speak to about nappies, so when the opportunity arises, I tend to speak about nappies! i am also hopeless at meeting people socially for the first time, what to talk about etc etc, so thank you for some clues.

My interest is mainly to try and understand myself a bit better, and by talking to other like minded people that can help. As you say it is important to remember we are all human beings, with feelings, emotions and everything that goes with it.

Hopefully speak somemore

Ric

[diapercj]

I havn't posted in a while, but this one caught me in a provocative way. My opposition to this thread is thus; you are on a site thats main theme is diapers, yet you would rather not be talked to about diapers. This is making very little sense to me. If this were a site called "gettoknowher.com" then I could understand not wanting to talk about personal subjects. Or if you only posted in a forum called, no diapers just RL talk, I could understand not wanting to discuss personal subjects.

The fact is, this is a diaper site. People come here to understand themselves and talk about diapers. If you are a girl here, be prepared to be talked to and questioned about diapers constantly. Above all, your treatment should be expected. As women, you complete the largest fantasy of 98% of the guys on here which is to roleplay as a twin diaper loving sister, a big sister, or a mommy.

In short, get used to it, it isnt going to change.

C

[Pipsqueak]

diapercj, I think what tigger and sarah were referring to are the obnoxious private messages women receive when they register on these sites and not the actual forum posts regarding diapers. We girls are here to talk about diapers too. Some women leave because of the endless hounding via private messages regarding "will you change my diapers?" "will you be my mommy?" and some stuff much, much ruder than that.

As for this comment:

As women, you complete the largest fantasy of 98% of the guys on here which is to roleplay as a twin diaper loving sister, a big sister, or a mommy.

In short, get used to it, it isnt going to change.

What goes on between your ears is your business but when you make an ass of yourself by trying to involve someone who is not interested in fulfilling your personal fantasy, you make them mad. If enough guys behave in this way, you've got a lot of pissed-off women and eventually when they've had it up to their ears with that crap they just leave. Thankfully on this board, most of the guys are considerate in how they treat the women here, which is probably why you see more of us here.

[diaperwearntigger]

diapercj, I think what tigger and sarah were referring to are the obnoxious private messages women receive when they register on these sites and not the actual forum posts regarding diapers. We girls are here to talk about diapers too. Some women leave because of the endless hounding via private messages regarding "will you change my diapers?" "will you be my mommy?" and some stuff much, much ruder than that.

As for this comment: What goes on between your ears is your business but when you make an ass of yourself by trying to involve someone who is not interested in fulfilling your personal fantasy, you make them mad. If enough guys behave in this way, you've got a lot of pissed-off women and eventually when they've had it up to their ears with that crap they just leave. Thankfully on this board, most of the guys are considerate in how they treat the women here, which is probably why you see more of us here.

Thank you Pipsqueak..... I love how people can turn your words around and not really take the time to understand what you are talking about. I do talk about diapers, however, there is more to life that just diapers and if anyone has any common sense whatsoever they will know that any kind of relationship, whether it be friendship or romantic, knows that your life can't be based on one thing.... and what really pissed me off is that just because its a diaper website doesnt mean i have to deal with rude, obnoxious, obscene, indecent private messages.... if you did that to me in the real time, I guarantee you you would have a law suite on your hands.

What a lot of people forget when it comes to these kind of relationship is this.... when all the diaper talk has been accomplished..and really the conversation can last about 5 minutes..... what is there to talk about after that? If you base your relationship solely on diapers and your liked on diapers, it won't last long.... I know that a lot of ABs, myself included, fantaszied about having a mommy or a daddy, but after that role play is over.... what do you talk about? Who pays the bills? Who does the laundry? Who does the cooking? Who does the shopping?... what im saying is that.... meeting someone that is into diapers is ideal, but you better get to know someone in more depth than that if you want any kind of relationship to last.

And I'm sure after girls read your post diapercj, you'll be wondering where all the girls are to talk to. Cause it's people's ignorance like yours that makes me run for the hills.

[adriansurley]

Well, I am a girl - I am incontinent but I am a DL. But, to give you a very honest opinion - most girls even if they are AB or DL don't necessarily hang out on websites like these looking for guys or looking at photos/videos. They are at parties, clubs, libraries, etc. - You know typical places you would meet somebody besides the internet because its more important to find someone who likes you for You (which is not just AB or DL) and a good amount would rather meet a guy somewhere like that and then tell them about this later. Just a personal thought and my own personal experience - as well as I have talked to other women in the community now and then and they all shared the same opinion.

[diapermommie]

We ladies are here to talk about AB/DL stuff too, doesn't mean we want to be your fantasy. And if the attitude girls get on here is "well you are, so deal with it" why should we waste our time? I've found the best response to those types of people, the types of PM you with obscene or tactless messages, is to ignore them. I don't hide from them, because with everything else, I take when I can get and leave the rest. But I'm also older, and have a horny younger man to keep me busy at home But enough of it would definitely annoy me into the "what a waste of time" group and I just wouldn't make myself known, or would likely not visit at all.

Just because AB/DL women (or any variation thereof) are AB/DL men's fantasies, doesn't mean we should feel the need to be subjected to your unwanted advances. It's no different than anything else in life, talk about your interests, very well might include diapers. Might include video games, sports, whatever. But talk about the topic, I don't need you to ask me to be your mommy and change your diapers any more than I need you to want me to dress like a WoW character or a cheerleader because that happens to be your fantasy. Girls are people too, try getting to know them beyond what they might be wearing under their clothes. Doesn't mean diapers can't be talked about. But leave the "I need a mommy! I want you to change my messy pants!" discussion out of it. Most women don't like to be treated like sex objects.

[Topguy]

I havn't posted in a while, but this one caught me in a provocative way. My opposition to this thread is thus; you are on a site thats main theme is diapers, yet you would rather not be talked to about diapers. This is making very little sense to me. If this were a site called "gettoknowher.com" then I could understand not wanting to talk about personal subjects. Or if you only posted in a forum called, no diapers just RL talk, I could understand not wanting to discuss personal subjects.

The fact is, this is a diaper site. People come here to understand themselves and talk about diapers. If you are a girl here, be prepared to be talked to and questioned about diapers constantly. Above all, your treatment should be expected. As women, you complete the largest fantasy of 98% of the guys on here which is to roleplay as a twin diaper loving sister, a big sister, or a mommy.

In short, get used to it, it isnt going to change.

C

This is why the women leave.

Ego centric boors-it's not all about you.

[moore_diapers]

so sum this all up!

some people are incontinent which means they wear because they have to and sometimes they become AB/DL, most often not! and for those who wear because they like, they tend to like to talk about other things once the diaper talk is over, if it even gets to the diaper talk. because i'm personally looking for a girlfirend/ life love however I NEVER talk about diapers first. I would like to know the person before anything and if they wear its simply a common ground that we both share. so to sum this up... not all people who wear diapers are in to the ab/dl thing and if they are alot of us tend to talk about other things NOT DIAPERS because diapers are here on this forum for us to simply have a common ground to speak on.

GUYS!!!! you dont go out and tell every woman that you meet you want her to play with you with diapers do you? NO! its because they may not understand nor accept this part of us, and the forum here is ment as a common ground for those who do wear to have some way to speak with others that understand and possibly wear them selves.

I hate to quote myself again but we are humans not diaper wearing sex fantacy machines here for your soul pleasure. so get off your high horse and come back down to where we humans (like yourself) live.

hope everyone keeps writing and having a good time here.

smiles

[sarah_ab]

I'm an ab. trust me, theres a heck of a lot more to being an ab than just diapers. This is not only a diaper website, this is also an ab website. There are bottles and pacis, and our teddy bears and our onesies and where we get clothes and what disney movies are our favourite or which are better legos or lincoln logs and do we like to sleep in a crib or next to our mommy/daddy, or do we prefer milk or juice in our bottle at night, and do we prefer popcorn or cheerios to squishing up into the carpet. Being an ab is definitely not all about diapers. For me, i can be a lil baby girl even if i'm not in a diapie.

When you go to an aa meeting you dont just talk about not drinking, when you go to a gay club you dont just talk about being gay, when you go to a leather bar you dont just talk about liking leather. You go to these places to feel a level of acceptance that then lets you open up to people about other aspects of your life.

Like anywhere in life, on the internet or in real life, there are people who are so obsessed with their fetish, whether sexual or not, they cannot see beyond it to understand the intricacies of human interaction.

[babykeiff]

From a medical perspective, in the world there is more females who wear diapers then male due to complications - i.e. childbirth, preferences in dealing with heavy/difficult periods etc. Also, from the 'baby' perspective, it is considered (stereotypically) female to have a soft side, and still like plushies etc while males are supposed to be more masculine and strong. Please WAKE up - the year is 2008, and stereotypes are inherently wrong.

Extrapolating this, there IS a higher proportion of females than males who are diapered and/or are ABs or have AB tendencies. (Next time you are stuck at traffic-lights, look around and observer the number of people with an oral fixation - smoking, sucking/chewing fingers/pens etc.) The difference in being an AB, and not is only due to YOUR knowledge of the 'interest'. You would still be you, with the same tendencies even if you were unaware of the 'AB interest group'. Therefore, mathematically, for every male that is AB, there has to be a female too. ABs are a subgroup of the human population, and there is a 50/50 division of male to female, so the subgroup AB has to be 50/50 division also.

However, since there is a number of HNGs on the web, typically male, female diaper wearers tend to not publish themselves as female for fear of being harrassed.

Men, we did it to ourselves

A word of caution to the male population - it is an animal response to pounce and crowd the object of your desire. Wild animals do that around a carcass. It is polite, respectful, and good manners (traits that are respected by most females) to wait for an invite.

[John310]

I havn't posted in a while, but this one caught me in a provocative way. My opposition to this thread is thus; you are on a site thats main theme is diapers, yet you would rather not be talked to about diapers. This is making very little sense to me. If this were a site called "gettoknowher.com" then I could understand not wanting to talk about personal subjects. Or if you only posted in a forum called, no diapers just RL talk, I could understand not wanting to discuss personal subjects.

The fact is, this is a diaper site. People come here to understand themselves and talk about diapers. If you are a girl here, be prepared to be talked to and questioned about diapers constantly. Above all, your treatment should be expected. As women, you complete the largest fantasy of 98% of the guys on here which is to roleplay as a twin diaper loving sister, a big sister, or a mommy.

In short, get used to it, it isnt going to change.

C

This boy don't quite 'get it'. What a WUSS.

[trancefreek99]

This boy don't quite 'get it'. What a WUSS.

LOL, you desperate guys make me laugh. I am not looking down on you in any way. I was in the same position as most of you a year ago. But there is something you guys need to know and understand. Here comes my rant...

Yes, you can go on alt lifestyle sites and try to meet a girl that "accepts" your ABDL interest. Some have had great results! I met my little girl on myspace. The amazing thing is, we chatted for about a week before the word "diaper" was even mentioned. Seriously, stop acting like a horny old man, and start treating the girls you talk to with respect. Take a damn interest into their interests, don't friggin ask them what diapers they like after talking to them for five minutes. Women want respect. They want to know that you care about their lives, not their fetish. My girl accepted me because I became a friend to her before I became her Daddy. Seriously though, if you wear diapers and want a girl to be a mommy/little girl switch, good luck. There is not a lot of girls out there that want a Daddy that wears diapers and wants to act like a baby. I'm not saying there arent girls out there that want that, but the majority of girls want a Daddy, a Daddy that will take care of her and not act like a baby himself. It really isnt that hard to find a girl, it's just way too many guys are way too up front on their fetish. Talk to her like you met her in a local coffee shop, not like you met her online. I said it on ABDLfourms, and I will say it again, If you treat a girl as a women should be treated, you will be treated well in return. Stop focusing on the damn fetish, there is more to life than diapers, and a girl will notice that. It's not hard, try it, and you will be successful on finding your "elusive" diaper girl.

[PalmTropyx]

Often, when asked what one would find in a garden, the usual answer is some sort of vegetation. Although garden gnomes around the world may feel ignored, the fact is the inevitablility of having a garden is to, well, grow plants. (The species of plant is completely up to the gardener.) Based on the quick nature of the proposition of the question, not surprisingly far less frequent are responses such as soil, fertilizer, tools, a bucket, weeds, and gloves.

When one is asked what comes to mind on the word gay, more and more people will relate it to a homosexual male. The idea this word was once easily and acceptably exchanged with happy or pleasant would not cross most minds of the future.

Is it me, or do an increasing number of women feel a forum is becoming more about creating an intimate relationship as an inevitable conclusion? Do more men seem to find forum as a "happy hunting ground"? This trend is somewhat disturbing. Acquiring a relationship should not occupy anyone's mind as a priority. It can vastly affect your ability to be more productive and expand your world. If you seek that special someone, he/she will come your way while you continue to live you life.

Forums are about sharing experiences, building friendships, experimenting on hypotheses, and working on new ideas. If a relationship does form, it would be mutual based on experiences and communitive understandings on a literature-based medium. Have forums become the new term for "clubbing"? Why do personal walls seem to appear for some people as though the forum itself could pose a risk to one's way of life? I wonder if we are not travelling down the same road of turning the circle of light into a symbol of evil, or evolving the words money glutten into C.E.O.. (Oooh, a corporate dig....)

I encourage women and men to post freely here, and not allow false preceptions to ruin your talents of writting.

Smiles,

Palm Tropyx!

[babykeiff]

Often, when asked what one would find in a garden, the usual answer is some sort of vegetation. Although garden gnomes around the world may feel ignored, the fact is the inevitablility of having a garden is to, well, grow plants. (The species of plant is completely up to the gardener.) Based on the quick nature of the proposition of the question, not surprisingly far less frequent are responses such as soil, fertilizer, tools, a bucket, weeds, and gloves.

When one is asked what comes to mind on the word gay, more and more people will relate it to a homosexual male. The idea this word was once easily and acceptably exchanged with happy or pleasant would not cross most minds of the future.

Is it me, or do an increasing number of women feel a forum is becoming more about creating an intimate relationship as an inevitable conclusion? Do more men seem to find forum as a "happy hunting ground"? This trend is somewhat disturbing. Acquiring a relationship should not occupy anyone's mind as a priority. It can vastly affect your ability to be more productive and expand your world. If you seek that special someone, he/she will come your way while you continue to live you life.

Forums are about sharing experiences, building friendships, experimenting on hypotheses, and working on new ideas. If a relationship does form, it would be mutual based on experiences and communitive understandings on a literature-based medium. Have forums become the new term for "clubbing"? Why do personal walls seem to appear for some people as though the forum itself could pose a risk to one's way of life? I wonder if we are not travelling down the same road of turning the circle of light into a symbol of evil, or evolving the words money glutten into C.E.O.. (Oooh, a corporate dig....)

I encourage women and men to post freely here, and not allow false preceptions to ruin your talents of writting.

Smiles,

Palm Tropyx!

This reply is so outstanding, it is worth repeating verbatim. Well done.

[sarah_ab]

i'm confused about this fifty fifty split? do you mean everyone in the world has a 50% chance of being an ab? or do you mean in the ab/dl community 50% will be female and 50% will be male? i wasn't sure what you meant....

[moore_diapers]

lol

its a monster~ this has to be one of the only chatts that i've started that has made it to page 2. lol

sorry for the change of subject..

now for mr 50/50 I understand where you come from.. but the fact remains that even tho some one HAS to wear a diaper doesnt mean they like to. infact because the nature of humans wanting what they cant have most will rebell against the concept of diapers even when they are wearing one. now scientifically we are suppost to have children at a 50/50 ratio. which means for every male born a female should be born as well. however REALITY more females are born than males. also it is proven that men die earlier than females.. which means that more and more females are around every year..

it makes me laugh but when you find actual national pols of ratios of sex's and woman dominate but yet there are fewer on here than men.. that just has to tell you the facts... WOMAN are not as much in to diapers as men are...

but its ok.. we love what few females we have. and we (who dont harrasse) do honestly care about them and hope nothing but the best for them.

smiles

[babykeiff]

i'm confused about this fifty fifty split? do you mean everyone in the world has a 50% chance of being an ab? or do you mean in the ab/dl community 50% will be female and 50% will be male? i wasn't sure what you meant....

To answer you sarah_ab, half of the adult world population that wear diapers / routinely act infantile are female. However, to class themselves in the stereotype (and yes, AB or DL is a stereotypical narrow view) of an AB or a DL, they must first be aware of the classification.

lol

its a monster~ this has to be one of the only chatts that i've started that has made it to page 2. lol

sorry for the change of subject..

now for mr 50/50 I understand where you come from.. but the fact remains that even tho some one HAS to wear a diaper doesnt mean they like to. infact because the nature of humans wanting what they cant have most will rebell against the concept of diapers even when they are wearing one. now scientifically we are suppost to have children at a 50/50 ratio. which means for every male born a female should be born as well. however REALITY more females are born than males. also it is proven that men die earlier than females.. which means that more and more females are around every year..

it makes me laugh but when you find actual national pols of ratios of sex's and woman dominate but yet there are fewer on here than men.. that just has to tell you the facts... WOMAN are not as much in to diapers as men are...

but its ok.. we love what few females we have. and we (who dont harrasse) do honestly care about them and hope nothing but the best for them.

smiles

moore_diapers,

1 - I do have a name - please have the decency to refer to me by name.

2 - Please also read my post, and do not stereotype people.

3 - In my post, I did not ONLY refer to the stereotypical view as classified by AB and DL. There exists a number of other people who would consider themselves to have infantile tendencies that would also classify themselves as adult-babies yet do not wear or use diapers.

4- something to blow your mind - women, totally continent, normal as far as the stereotype goes, wear a form of diaper for a couple of days each month to cope with an uncontrollable excretion from their bodies. In clinical views, they are more incontinent than a newborn baby - a newborn baby knows when it is going to evacuate itself, but in this modern world, we find it more convenient for us to place a diaper on the infant rather than listen to our own child and learn its subtle signs. http://www.timl.com/ipt/

Who is trying to kid who, and are you just laughing at your own portrayed stupidity?

[Mean Mommy]

Is it me, or do an increasing number of women feel a forum is becoming more about creating an intimate relationship as an inevitable conclusion? Do more men seem to find forum as a "happy hunting ground"? This trend is somewhat disturbing. Acquiring a relationship should not occupy anyone's mind as a priority. It can vastly affect your ability to be more productive and expand your world. If you seek that special someone, he/she will come your way while you continue to live you life.

Forums are about sharing experiences, building friendships, experimenting on hypotheses, and working on new ideas. If a relationship does form, it would be mutual based on experiences and communitive understandings on a literature-based medium. Have forums become the new term for "clubbing"? Why do personal walls seem to appear for some people as though the forum itself could pose a risk to one's way of life? I wonder if we are not travelling down the same road of turning the circle of light into a symbol of evil, or evolving the words money glutten into C.E.O.. (Oooh, a corporate dig....)

If this is a hunting ground a lot of you baby boys need to step up your game. >P

I don't mean to hate, but I like to be interested in the person I could potentially fuck. Call it high standards, idealism, whatever. In my experience being interested beforehand - whether it's intellectually, sexually, emotionally or (hopefully) all three - makes a great fuck. So do excuse me if I attempt to garner interest before any potential plans for fucking have been made.

If these things have been established then it's game time!!!