~Brian~

Get Well Soon Elfy **HUGS**

Happy Belated Birthday Spoony **HUGS**

@Babykrissy

I agree with @Rachael-Little  Not only is Daily Diapers NOT a dating site, but you also have to understand that there are 3 distinct things going on:

1.  You signed up as a member on FEB 13th - You need to be able to be online, and check in and see what is going on.  You also need to be a member more than 28 days to be able to be ACTIVE on the boards, and the chat system (If you choose to be) Give it time, and it would be better

2.  I've been a member of DD for almost 6 years:  I'm more active then some other members, because I use the computer every day. You obviously are not on as much as I am, BUT you also have to realize that  posting  4 status message like you have done is probably NOT going to attract the type of action that you are expecting:  What that may do, if sent to a bunch of people via Private Message (PM) or you "Cold Message" a DD user, and they don't know you, that would probably look bad, because some people may not want to respond to your message, or they may respond and point out that "they don't know you"

The way you respond to people is important, and I've made mistakes myself, but I've learned a LOT about my incontinence, my CP diagnosis, and how it affects me:  I was taught to "NOT GIVE UP" - because God only gives you a challenge you can handle - You may NOT be able to deal with it without support - I'm glad that DD helped me to accept my limitations and my Incontinence, and I am NOT afraid of what could happen anymore - I am what and who I am, and I cannot change that, NOR would I want to, because you only get one shot at most things, and you should always take advantage of opportunities you may get, but me mindful of SCAMMERS: 

3.  DD has had a Run with "Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver" wannabes, and you have to realize that while it is not IMPOSSIBLE to find a Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver, it is HIGHLY unlikely:  They "say" that they are a Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver, but in reality, they "say" that they are gonna help or want to help, but basically, if you are NOT careful, next thing that happens, is that you "drop your shields" and give them private, personal info like a bank account Number, and then you are DEAD - because once they have that, they can and often DO leave you hanging, and take your money/information and leave you in the dust.  Our Admin Team, especially @spoonchicken has been knocking these "fakes" out and banning them as fast as he sees them, and I thank him and @DailyDi and all of the members of the admin team for doing this, and know that they will do their level best to see that we remain SAFE, but we also have to uswe our heads and remain on-guard

Brian

Your welcome @DiaperboyEddie12!!  I've been quite busy lately over the past 3-4 weeks!  I got a NEW Apple iMac M4 recently and I have been working on setting it up so that it has all of my backup files I may need!

One thing that I needed to do was to REDO my Itunes, because I mistakenly wiped all the music that was on my iphone out when I synced it to my new mac - Problem was that I did NOT have any music on my mac, so it wiped out all of my iphone's music!

So, between having to redo my itunes music, going to PT, Going to the Pain Clinic, and dealing with other things, I've been extremely busy - I have about 3,600 songs in itunes, so it took me 5 days to finish that, and then a couple more to get all the rest or this straightened out - Not sure when I'll be back in chat at this point, but I WILL come back soon   I Check in a couple to 3 times a day, so I am on the boards, and I do check my messages and statuses!

Hope you are feeling better Eddie **HUGS**

Brian

I’m glad to hear that everything is going better. Haven’t seen you for a while so I would assume that you are dealing with “life“ as we call it, sometimes it is some thing that we can control and sometimes it’s something that we can’t control.

Brian

I feel for you, I really do! Part of the problem is, there are people who, as they said, do not understand that you are disabled for one, and you were diapers to take care of that problem.
 

I believe that it is because there are people that do not understand as I once said. People who do not understand usually do things that are embarrassing or they point out some thing and laugh at it because they just don’t understand. I’m sure that if they were diapers like us they wouldn’t be worried about it because that’s part of what they deal with every day.

Remember that there are people that deal with stigma’s. Stick my state things that are burned into our heads since we were little. If an adult wears a diaper, and they don’t understand it, that’s too bad. If people have to wear diapers, that’s the way it is, and you and I know that because we do it every day. Sometimes I wish that there was a way to educate these people who think that it is OK to pick on people order embarrass them because of their condition. I want to told someone that I used to live with that: “just because someone doesn’t look like they are disabled, because they don’t show a disability that is obvious, that does not necessarily mean that they do not have a disability, and I also use that as a response to people that made me mad! I told them that if I heard that come out of anyone’s mouth again, that I would personally make sure that they are reported because everyone is entitled to live in this building, regardless of age, or sex or anything like that. The only qualifier is based on what the Housing authority and the federal government set. After I said that we didn’t have any other problem, but I remember calling the Director of housing that day and she came down and she was not happy. She also said “if I hear any more garbage about this, I’m going to write a lease violation for every one of you“ and there was about six people that were sitting in the lobby that were involved in this little exchange.  I Thanked the Housing Authority for that because I knew I was right, and I knew they were wrong, and I wasn’t going to allow someone that I live with to worry about whether she “belongs here”, and I told those people that the federal government and the Housing Authority make policy as to what will be allowed in their building, and we as tenants have nothing to say about it.

Remember that we are disabled, and the ADA protects us as necessary. It is unfortunate that there are people who still make waves over someone who needs to wear diapers. It is embarrassing and unfortunately there’s nothing more that we can do about it unless we want to ignore it, or we want to educate people about the reason that we have to wear for why adults wear diapers, which would take a little bit of ingenuity and probably a lot more times than it’s worth, but please realize that we both know why we were diapers and we do what we have to do, I don’t worry about who knows that I wear diapers now because I’m so used to it. I know I need them and you know you need them, but the people who make those kind of comment probably don’t realize that you need diapers, or they see something that is against the “ norms” of society, and they? And they point it out, instead of going about their business like they normally would.

there are people who always ask questions about how they deal with diapers when they go, places or, what would happen if somebody saw someone’s diaper as they were dealing with day-to-day business. Most people would say, and most people would obviously ignore it, because it’s really none of their business as to why a person wears diapers, and it’s not their decision that someone has chosen this way to deal with incontinence. That is a decision that you as the user must make, and most people probably wouldn’t even bat an eyelash. I remember when I was in the hospital, and I had it on my records that I was incontinent, and the nurses were right  on task, they knew exactly what was going on. In fact, they knew 24 hours before I even landed in the hospital for my Colo. They ended up changing me 27 times and each time they didn’t even bat an eyelash and they were very very professional, and very very understanding. This is because they are medical professionals, and they are trying to deal with stuff like this, and they wouldn’t go around and bring it to someone’s attention , putting that person in a state of embarrassment. 

not all people live the life that you live the way you live it, so there may be people that question it, and they might think “that’s a little strange“. However, to you, that isn’t strange, because that’s what you do every day and if it is acceptable to do what you do in front of some people, or in front of the people that you deal with on a daily basis that’s one thing, but there’s always going to be people who will question it, and that is why most of the problem is that people need to just  possibly look at it and go “interesting. Period. Period I wonder” which is probably what you would think, but there are people who may end up vocalizing their distaste at the situation. Since they are not in your position, or they’re not in my position, they have only an opinion which we know will probably be negative. There are many people that I deal with on a daily basis, and they understand that people that are disabled wear diapers. Sometimes, they don’t have to use a wheelchair like me. They don’t have to use a walker like me, but they may be disabled they might be learning disabled they might be mentally challenged, or physically challenged, but they do what they need to do every day, and they don’t worry about what people think after a while. There always be people who will think the way they think and they will think that calling you out because they see you wearing diapers is appropriate,  but, those people always think that calling someone out is an appropriate response, while others will think otherwise. For example, if someone takes care of a disabled individual that wears diapers every day, and needs help with certain ADLs, which is “activities of daily living”, and the person needs help with showering, toileting, dressing, etc. they most likely will be changing someone’s diaper. People that deal with that every day know that the child or young adult wears diapers, and they wouldn’t embarrass them, because they know that it’s important, but they must take care of the child. Same with a young adult: there are people that are going to think something is strange, because they don’t deal with the situation is that you buy, or any other disabled individual and may have to face. One of the most important things is that you learn, skills and ways to cope, and a person who deals with it every day will think it’s not a big deal, because it isn’t it’s some thing that needs to be done and is done lovingly, professionally, and in a way that maintains modesty and privacy. 

sometimes the most important thing is to remember that there are going to be people that are going to do this. It’s not really a good thing to do, but it happens. All I do is keep rolling because there’s people who will always question it, but in till they spend one day or one hour or even one second in a diaper in our own shoes, and when someone has to help them, they will hopefully, then understand. You didn’t have a choice about wearing diapers or not: I didn’t have a choice either, and the choice I decided to make was that I was going 24 seven after many many many days and nights of non-sleep, and not being able to function. 

People that pick on us don’t understand, people that embarrass us think that if someone is embarrassed enough, they will change their way of doing things. There’s no way you are going to change the way you are or the fact that you wear diapers regardless of how many times you’re called out and embarrassed and there’s no way I’m going to change the way I am because of what someone says or what someone does, you have to do what you have to do, and having a disability entitles you to certain rights as well as certain responsibilities. You have the right to take care of your incontinence. The way you choose, living the life, you choose, but you always have to understand that there are certain things that you have to take into account which you already have. You wear the attire that you feel is appropriate, and the appropriate attire for your situation, and the people you are around, apparently except it as a normal situation. People that do not except it, or do not understand it don’t necessarily have to live the life that you and I do, but they should understand that people do wear diapers, and you don’t have to be a baby to wear a diaper, and you and I are both disabled, which automatically  Gets us the ability and we do have a documented condition that warrants us wearing diapers. That’s not going to change. In fact, it might even get worse! You and I may have been embarrassed when we first had to use diapers when we were put back into them, but that embarrassment probably went away after a while, and you’re not embarrassed about having to use the diapers or wear them. People still think that diapers only should be used in certain situations, and as far as I’m concerned, you and I meet that criterion.

So remember this. You are a special young lady: you do things that you want to do, you help the people around you, you’re in the Coast Guard auxiliary you are a EMT and you are going after your degree in social work. Those are high, lofty things, and you are doing it every day. There are certain things that no one will understand, but I have learned one thing some of the things you don’t understand are easy to understand if you have someone who can explain it, so that you are not feeling like an outsider. When people realize, that embarrassment is not going to change the way that we work or what we do, the world would be a better place, but there’s always a person that’s going to do these types of tactics because they know that they can get a rise out of you, or they can get your attention. 

 One of these days these people who were making embarrassing, gestures, or remarks, will end up, understanding that it is not appropriate to do it, but they do it anyway. It’s like someone saying “watch your language” after they hear someone use bad language, it’s inappropriate, people tell him to watch your language, but they are going to walk away and they’re gonna do whatever they want to anyway. 
 

You and I are examples of people who want to work hard to help people, and we do the things we do because that’s the way we do it. You and I have made life choices, and we live our lives the way we want to live our lives, your mom, in forces, your choice on you, and I live my life as an in continent individual as as well with cerebral palsy. Regardless of what happens, I’m always gonna have these problems, so if someone picks on someone else that has a disability and I catch it, I will let them know that it is inappropriate most times, I just look at the person and think to myself “what the hell……..” as I roll away.

Sometimes people judge you on what they see, on the outside. They don’t see the type of person that you are on the inside. I look at a person on the outside, and then, as I interact with them, I can usually tell the way a person is on the inside. If people are worried about your diapers, then they’re worrying about the wrong thing, because they should worry about the person who is inside your heart your soul, your brain, your smarts, and all of these types of things that make you, the individual you are! 
 

Be proud of who you are, and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. You were diapers and you know it, people are going to say something, you just have to say “big deal nothing to see here move on!“ Most people that you run into won’t even notice, but those who end up making an issue out of it are the ones that make it hard

Take care!

Brian

you’re very lucky that your mega max held up for 11 hours which is pretty cool. The way you have it boosted I’m sure that it did last that long and, I can just about imagine what that diaper looked like when you took it off.
 

This is why I am glad I have the mega max diapers, and why I “beat the drum“ about their effectiveness, and how good they are. People may think I’m a fan boy for NORTHSHORE, but they’re darn good at what they do and the reason is is because they know what they’re doing, and they know what people need and they don’t cut corners when they make product. 
 

I believe a couple of times I had a diaper on for 11 1/2 to 13 hours but I’m not sure, by that time the diaper is quite huge and not only that but if you don’t protect yourself when you take it off regardless of how much it is used or not, it can literally be either falling off of you or dripping all over the floor. That’s why you have to be extra careful when you take them off. Sometimes I think mine way about 15 to 20 pounds if I use it like that.

That’s why I like NORTHSHORE they know what they’re doing, and a diaper to them is exactly that a diaper, not something that is “tapped underwear“ 😌😌

Brian

I feel your pain:  sometimes, as I have always said, people do not understand situations:  It looks like your mom may have to "step in" and show your brother that you LIVE that life, and your mom enforces that life to help you!

Perhaps your BROTHER should be shown EXACTLY what happens when he picks on/bullies you! If your brother got PUNISHED by your mom, and had to live JUST LIKE YOU DO, maybe he and your brother's wife would understand that you have REASON to wear diapers, and use them, because you have a disability, and your MOM enforces that lifestyle:  You wear the clothing that you do, and that isn't gonna change is it?

If I remember right, one of your aunts had a "problem" with your lifestyle choice.  Your Mom had to step in, and "Educate her" as to the situation, because she did not understand what was going on. Looks like this is another situation where someone that is a family member does NOT understand, and needs to be "schooled
 about the WHY, so that they understand that this is a NEED   Your Mom may just be the way that your problem is handled - I doubt your mom would allow your brother to be disrespectful to HER, and I DOUBT that she would allow him to be disrespectful to YOU either.  Wouldn't it be HILARIOUS for you to see your brother "pick on you" again, BUT THIS TIME, your mom overhears it, and THEN teaches him a lesson, in an embarrassing way, so he does NOT Like it, so he does NOT do it again!

I wear onsies too, and I also "air out" from time to time, so that does NOT make you "naked", or everyone that is a baby, or an adult baby would be considered "naked" because they wear/use diapers, Onsies, and other AB clothing - They are more comfortable then wearing street clothing sometimes  

Don't worry about your brother:  he may not ever understand the WHY, but your mom does, and you do, and others that you interact with do.  If you are a CG Auxiliary Member, an EMT, and a College Student, and you have your goals, and have your DREAMS, DON'T Let that stop you!!  One Day, your brother and his wife will  get exactly what is coming to them  - YOU know the score, and THEY do NOT - YOU are living your life the way YOU do, so maybe your brother will have an "awakening" someday, and maybe not, but remember, sometimes family can be assholes!

***Gives you a BIG HUG!!****

Brian

Are used to be an Internet, really chat server operator, and I learned the IRC server overtime, and it was quite easy to use. I don’t know how many conversations that I’ve had over the years, but it probably number somewhere in the millions.
 

while I understood the IRC server, because I learned it very well, and can execute commands basically, because of knowing how to do that, the discord server is a different story for me. I’ve tried to use discord on several different occasions, and it just doesn’t seem to be something that I understand and I’m not even sure if I learn it

Having your own club is an awesome idea. And I hope that you do have individuals that are interested. I might be myself, but I would have to learn discord and I’m not even sure how it works. I tried to do it a couple times when I needed to get help from my situation and I wasn’t sure how to do it. Like, for example when you do an IRC private message, you type  /message (nick) message

I hope you’re doing well! I thought of you yesterday. I also thought of you being in the Coast Guard auxiliary. As you know, we have had a couple of bad hurricanes in Florida area. Vermont also had bad flooding for two summers in a row. The last time we had flooding in Vermont it was this summer, and it turned Barre City’s Main Street into a mess. There was an obvious channel that was created by the flood water. If you were on the yellow line in the middle of the road, there was an obvious channel. If you move to the left or the right, you would end up falling into this channel, and when you’re doing that when you can be in the road because of a celebration where they close the street, that can be a problem. So basically, for the past two weeks, the city has been working to rip up all of the old pavement, chew it up, and then recycle it, and then repaired the entire street to make sure there are no more holes no more potholes, and no more channels on either side of the road, if you’re straddling the yellow line 

Prior to this, when you go across certain crosswalks from the yellow pad to yellow pad, you would feel like you go down and then up again. Think of yourself standing on the deck of a Coast Guard cutter and you just basically take very small wave you go down in the water and then you come right back up. That’s how I described it to the cities engineers, who emailed me and called me regarding this because I said to them that the streets needed to be redone. It’s a weird thing because the day that I got the call, I guess the guy that took over for a retired city manager had his cell phone, and it had my name and number and it.

you’ll laugh now: the gentleman that had this phone is name is Steve McKenzie: which is the name of the former city manager, and he had my phone number in his cell phone, and that cell phone was attached to the city, and this guy actually receive that cell phone when he started his job. He said that he called “BRIAN BAKER“ by accident, figuring that he would get his Director of public works for the city. Since his name is also BRIAN BAKER, he called me by mistake. That was a total weird thing that happened, because I had a discussion with this guy and told him about how bad the streets were. He told me he would send me an email and I could tell him where it was bad, and he would have it fixed.

it took me about three weeks to do this, because there are several places where it can get bad. There was one where I tried to go across the street, and when I get almost to the yellow pad, my chair goes into this pattern where I go down, and then I end up grounding. My foot rests into the ground scraping it very hard. I couldn’t go backwards. I couldn’t go forward I couldn’t lift myself up I couldn’t move. I was in the middle of the street about 5 feet from the crossing, and I couldn’t complete it, so I had to literally forced myself up by popping a wheelie, and then, once I was able to get done with that, I made a note of that. 

so yesterday I finally was able to not only complete my Social Security administration‘s continuing disability review report, I was also able to go through and look at things on Amazon, and then I realized I had to respond to the gentleman that sent me an email regarding the streets. I did that earlier yesterday morning, and by the end of the day, the gentleman said that the work that they were doing will correct that problem. Talk about awesome! My brother Michael has told me that they had been working on the streets for a little over two weeks, so hopefully by Friday we won’t have any more weird wavy streets and it won’t feel like I’m on the deck of the Tahoma, on the water, possibly getting seasick. That’s what I thought of when I thought of the waviness of the road. I thought of you when I thought of my brother Daniel, who served a board her , it’s weird how things can come to flourish and you don’t expect it, you weren’t ready for it, but good things can happen when you least expect it, and I guess somebody must’ve been looking out for me, because how in the heck could this happen? Bad things usually happen like this when you’re not expecting it, but good things? This was awesome and now, hopefully next spring when I roll out again, I won’t ever have to worry about wavy streets unless of course we have another bad summer where we have major flooding. Other parts of Vermont got it worse, but didn’t get it in 2023, and other cities like mine got hit twice. 

I have always thought of others when we’re dealing with disasters. I don’t like to politicize this, but Trump has made all of this stuff 10 times worse, because there are people that were displaced, some of them are homeless now, some of them have destroyed homes, and FEMA, whose job it is to come in and help people that need it, have been run off because of stupid Trump supporters who think that Trump should win, when Trump can’t even remember what the heck the man says, can’t remember what the heck he does, I can answer simple questions.. There was a gentleman, who called into one of the MSNBC news programs, and blasted Donald Trump, because there was a man that lived in Asheville, that was his father-in-law. His father-in-law stated that “he wasn’t going to except any help from FEMA, because Donald Trump isn’t the one in the White House, and he wasn’t going to except help from FEMA because he was afraid he was going to lose his house and everything he had“. 

it’s because of things like this, that make it very hard for people to be able to do the right thing. This guy is a diehard, Trumper, and in this situation people died, and people were displaced, and people are not homeless, and now Donald Trump is causing this type of trouble. I hope that in the end of Donald Trump gets exactly what he deserves, and maybe he will get the beat down of his life, consummated by him being soundly, defeated, whipped and beat into the ground, and then maybe you and I can sit here and laugh at the man who thinks that he can save you, when he can’t even figure out what the heck, he saying, and it shows that he is falling apart . We definitely need a strong person in the White House, and sometimes it really sucks that it takes disasters like this to be able to determine that one of the persons that is trying to run can’t even run say nothing about the fact that he can’t even think or remember things. 

Sometimes I wonder if I wasn’t disabled, if I could be one of the people who deal with helping people like this? Are used to do it for people that would come see me in the thrift store at the church that I worked at. I was a volunteer, and I was the Director of that THRIFT STORE and my friend started it. One of the most important things that I always remember and I still like doing it and I want to come back and do it, but I’m not sure how that will work.

Politics, aside, it’s most important that we try to help as many as we can, but it makes me angry to see that we have Donald Trump trying to stop people because he says certain things or he makes people believe he is the only person I can do it. I even heard a story the other day we’re FEMA has stopped going into places that are ravaged because of flood damage, because the stupid stuff like fights and protesters saying that Donald Trump is the only one that will save them, , and that FEMA does not care, which is faults, and that is what kind of stuff that Trump is spreading. When you spread stuff like this, it makes people angry, and hopefully angry enough to finally put the nail in Donald Trump‘s coffin. The man was good at one point, and I voted for him and one election but I will never vote for him again for what he did and why he did it. He wants everybody to think of him. It’s all about him and not about the people who work there and help people.
 

Take care!

Brian

I honestly think that there are people out there who think negatively of people that wear diapers or have to use them. I think part of the problem is as you and I both are aware, that they’re old style “stigmas” that people think, wearing diapers as bad, that wearing diapers, make sure a baby, etc. etc.

as you and I both are aware, wearing diapers, does not make you a baby, does not make you weak or whatever people think, and should not be thought of in a negative light, but they always think that, unless, of course, they’re one of the people who honestly believes that this is not true and most of the people that are here on DD, no this and probably have known it for a long time.

I believe that people that don’t understand what we are doing or why we are doing it stems from the fact that they don’t understand what’s going on.

Remember that being able to control your bowel or bladder is the most important skill that you can learn as a human being as you grow up in age. It’s the most important skill that you can learn, as well as the first girl that you probably learn, second, only to learning how to suck on a baby bottles teat, as the skills you first learn are the ones that you have to learn in order to survive as a small baby. Being able to control your bladder, or your bowels is the second skill that you learn, although it takes two or three years to master depending on the situation.

Of course, people who do not master that scale as quickly as others wear diapers longer than somebody who already has mastered, or is almost to that point of mastery of that skill. People that don’t master that skill right away, usually wear diapers longer, and sometimes they catch heck because they are slower at mastering that skill or because they can’t that skill quite yet. Of course, there are always those who are dry during the day first, and then they have to master nighttime dryness. This is a skill that some people take a long time to master, and that’s why there are people that still wet the bed at night.

and then there are people like us who have situations where they don’t have that mastery of that skill, and probably never will get that skill mastered, or they lose the ability to control their bladder or their bowels and that isn’t their fault. Because of that, children and adults wear diapers people that actually wear diapers every day, use them for their intended purpose, deal with rashes, and being uncomfortable and wetness, and all of the things that they deal with, they’ve dealt with it long enough, and they can tell you that anyone they assist, or live with or care for that wear diapers aren’t wearing the diapers because it feels good or whatever reason that we use, they were wear diapers because they have to. They don’t have control of their bladder or bowels, and they never will. In my mind, those people that help those that wear diapers for whatever reason have a better idea and understanding of why they were diapers and they understand why they were diapers, so there is no reason for them to think negatively of an individual because of that, and they are very unlikely to make a big deal out of it because it’s just something that happens 

my brother Richard was in this bunch of people. He was disabled as a result of a car accident. He wore diapers from the time he was born until 1969 when he passed away. He wore them every day every night 24 hours a day, and my mom had to take care of him, like he would take care of a baby, taking care of all of his needs. My parents taught me that my brother Richard was special. He was special because of the type of person that he was, he was my older brother, and even though I was the one who is younger than him, and that I was doing my part, help my mom, take care of him,  one of the most important things was that I understood, and it became empathetic and sympathetic to his situation. I didn’t pick on him or anyone else because they were diapers for longer than normal, I would ask about it, but then I would realize that there are people that do that, and need it, just like my brother Richard  I still think of him every day, and I still wonder if he was alive today, would he be able to live longer? That’s one thing that I’ve been thinking about, but then, of course today’s medical science is a heck of a lot different than science of the 70s, but my brother would still have the same type of problem, and would need 24 hour care and would still wear diapers , that would not change, but peoples understanding of the situation could change. 

people that would laugh and cause trouble and make fun of people that wear diapers do that because they don’t understand and they don’t have empathy for those who do wear diapers. This is a situation that can be corrected if there are people like us to continue to help people understand our needs our watch and why we are the way we are. There are many stories that I’ve read, take the situation that I described about my brother Richard, needing diapers, not being able to help the fact that he does need diapers, and then, having people help him, and that is a part of the stories that I’ve read, and then there are people who wear diapers every day, like him like you, or like me, and then there’s always possibility of a person who might laugh, giggle, or whatever they do, because they don’t understand. 

The story that I’m talking about I believe was something I read somewhere, I don’t even know if it was here on DD that I read the story. Basically, the story is that there is a person in class in a school, and there is a boy that is a main character in the story. I get the feeling from the story that I read that the gentleman probably was a DL, but I don’t know if it was actually stated in the story. Anyway, what happens is, he was picking on a girl in class that was wearing diapers because she needed to. This gentleman had a little understanding or patience for a person that is in that position. He picked on her mercilessly and kept doing it over and over and over again several notes went home to his mom, and then the teacher had a brainstorm. this was to punish this young man for his transgressions, as well as for his failure to understand, and have empathy and sympathy for this young lady. 

In the story, I guess the young lady had some sort of accident in her diaper. That was pretty bad. This gentleman laughed and laughed about it, and then his mom found out about it. The teacher and his mother conspired to teach him a lesson. He was making fun of her for messing her diaper in class. When the teacher and the mother got through with him, he finally had an idea what was going on.

so the mother ended up, giving him a wonderful breakfast that morning, and made him wear diapers, because of the punishment that she had started. Basically, he was loaded with fiber and a fiber load uses the processes of your body, and then you just have a humongous release. he went to school after eating this incredible breakfast, thanks, MOM for doing it, and then, sitting in clash, he had to sit in class. He had to wear diapers, and then the inevitable happens, he loses, control and fills his diaper and I mean fills it to the brim. Everybody in the class started laughing at him, because of the fact that he had farted, and then loaded his diaper, and then everybody started saying “tsk, tsk tsk.  Loaded your diaper, huh?”  Then the young lady that was wearing diapers, was able to turn the tables pick on him along with the rest of the class.
So why is

So, as you stated, we wish that people would understand our needs and why we do what we do. Being in continent for many of us is a necessity. We don’t have to worry about many of those on DD that I’ve been here long enough and deal with that every day, because they understand, and they empathize, and they sympathize with us, because there are many that deal with the same thing of incontinence every day, there are those that wish they were in continent, because they love the feel of diapers, and they enjoy wearing them, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but they have the ability to understand and empathize with us, because they deal with it themselves 

The good thing is, we can turn some of this around because we let people know that don’t understand why we do what we do or why we are in continent or whatever, we turn that around, and we help them understand our situation, and hopefully after doing that, and being honest and open with everyone, they’ll be one less person that doesn’t understand our situation and doesn’t get why we are incontinent, or why we enjoy diapers or why we do what we do. The most important thing that people should realize and you and I both realize that is that wearing diapers is not bad: it’s only made bad by those who don’t understand, and because of old stigmas that our parents wired in your brain about the fact that by the time you turn 2, 3, or four years old, you shouldn’t be wearing diapers anymore. That stigma will always be with many of us, because that is how our parents raised us, that’s the way they were raised. It’s up to us to change that stigma so that people are not made fun of, and not laughed at because they have to wear diapers. Remember that you and I are doing what we do because we have to, we have excepted our situation and adapted our lifestyles accordingly to make sure it happens. Your mom keeps you in diapers, and enforces your lifestyle on you and you have excepted that and I have excepted my lifestyle change, and I am very open and honest about it . My parents taught me that honesty is always the best policy, and that way you don’t have to feel guilt, angst or anything, because you are doing what you do, and it’s a part of your life. Because of my situation, I have understood that there are always going to be people that  may not understand, but I always try to think of ways to help people understand so that we don’t have problems with people, and they understand where they stand, and understand where we stand. Not everyone will except it, not everyone will understand it. But the best idea is to be open and honest as you can be. My family is always been that way, helping people grow helping people earn helping people understand. And because there were three people in our family, that were disabled, we do have an understanding we do empathize, and we do stand for those that might not be able to speak for themselves. I was always taught to fight when you need to fight. That doesn’t necessarily mean you raise up your fist and start punching, that means that you fight for that what you believe is right, and if it’s necessary to fight by raising your fist, that would be the last thing that you do. You always have different ways of fighting if you need to

my parents taught me love, respect, honesty, integrity, and other things that are very important to me. Sometimes I think my parents forget those things they taught me, but my integrity stands and my ability to understand and have respect, honesty, love and all of those things will never waver. remember that diapers are only another type of underwear, and it should not be a big deal. what underwear we wear, but there will always be individuals who will turn a diaper into a device of shame, because it is used on young children when they are in continent, but it always ends up where there will always be adults that need it, regardless of what happens . 

Just like my friend, Ashley, once said: “I am not a baby“ and I’ll remember that, because she always used to say that. She didn’t have control either, but she was always honest, and she told many individuals about her situation, and I’ll always remember what she stated. I think I’ve even thanked her on many occasions for being honest and truthful, because there are many people like her, and you and I are two of those people who understand that situation, and we choose to do what we do, live the way we live, and we make choices all the time, but sometimes the choices that we have may not be the best. The most important thing that I’ve always tried to remember is that for every time that there is a negative in your life, like having to wear a diaper, if you don’t like wearing diapers, there’s always a positive to wearing a diaper. You don’t have to worry about making a mess because anything you catch in your diaper is in your diaper,  and you don’t have to worry about where you go to the bathroom, you know when you go, you will release. Remember that you and I agree that there should be no shaming, and that is what that story talked about two. The young gentleman learned that picking on people that are unable to control what they are doing or unable to change that have no choice, and it’s always a good idea to understand where a person who is dealing with that problem, because they go through it every day, and this gentleman had to wear diapers long enough to understand exactly that point.

Take care!

Brian

I send my love, prayers and good thoughts to you and to your little(s).

Good Luck!!

Brian

I believe that the honest truth should be that it is up to the moderators and admin‘s of that site, and they’re the ones that set the tone for the entire site. I don’t exactly know why they’re so tough on stuff that shouldn’t be made a big deal of, but they are, and whoever the owner is, he hast to deal with the consequences of decisions that he makes: where there is a post people make stays on the site or deleted, or he hast to deal with moderators an admin’s on his site. They set the tone for the entire place, and then, if they’re trans phobic about ejaculation and such, they would be change phobic about other things, and they always seem to find a way to “protect you“ from something that you shouldn’t have to be protected from discussions about bodily functions happen all the time, and that is why I think they’re a little off center. They have a very very very strict set of rules, but I can tell you that Mikey’s rules on  DD are far less stringent than on ADISC. 

I would agree with that! They like to shut down any conversation that they feel is to “dangerous” or is too personal. My friend Evelyn was a member there, and got in trouble for talking about ejaculation, and all of that nonsense, and the fact that men and women both do it, and she said that it was a normal function, which I agree with.
 

they also apparently like to shut down topics about trans women or trans men maybe. I find it ridiculous that they would do that, and then try to protect somebody from something that they don’t need to protect anybody from. They first said that they have or a site for people that were 18 and up, and then, when they did that shut down on my friend, and said that she had done something wrong, I took issue with it and went to town all over that. I don’t understand what the big deal is about trans Men are trans women, if they are trans men there transmission if they’re trans women, they’re trans women, it’s not like a bomb is going to go off if we talk about that subject over there, but that’s why I like being over here on daily diapers

Reason, I say, that is because Mikey is very very accommodating, and he knows that there are people that have discussions. The only way that we would end up having issue is if a moderate admin decided that there was a problem, but what I am trying to say is that Mikey is more open, and would allow a discussion about this without too much of a difficulty unless he thought it went too far. I ended up answering a question one day about going over there to.ADISC, and I said that I would never go over there again simply because my friend Evelyn was treated like garbage, and there’s no reason for that there’s no reason to protect a whole entire user base from the discussion about a bodily function that happens all the time. If they can deal with somebody in diapers and they can deal with pee and poop discussions, they could deal with this, because what they’re talking about is number three, which is exactly what it is, it is ejaculate, or as they say, come.

I am glad that you were going after your masters in social work or whatever it is that you’re dealing with. When you get your degree, you will be able to help others that deal with issues like incontinent and wanting to wear diapers or needing to wear diapers, and making people understand that wearing diapers is as normal as walking around in underwear. I applaud you, because you are working very hard to make a difference and when you finally get your degree, it would be nice to be able to see that you are helping those who need that type of help. We don’t need a site like. ADISC, and if you ask anybody on DD you’ll get a particular opinion or maybe two or three. I don’t want to waste time over there, because that’s exactly what it would be. It would be a waste of time to try to figure out and understand why they feel the way they do. They play the “victim“ on things like this, and I’m not sure why when it’s the user base that they are trying to protect, but there’s nothing to protect them from. Protecting them from reality is not appropriate, and I’m so glad that there are people who are, going to be able to help others 

With your stance about diapers, and how important they are in the fact that people could wear them if “it was normalized” I’m sure that you will make an impact. Just by making people feel good about themselves or feeling good about wearing diapers or using them, they are so many people out there that probably are thinking that diapers or bad, and people like us try very hard to make sure they understand that it is not bad. Thank you for all that you continue to do, and I’m sorry that you’ve had to deal with these idiots over there because they don’t understand the importance of a bodily function that everybody does.

Brian

I would agree: I had a friend of mine, who ended up talking about the fact that ejaculation what is a normal function of life. ADISC apparently didn’t like the fact that my friend stated that, and sent her a private message, saying that the topic was “inappropriate for the site”

she stated, and I agreed that this is just a natural bodily function that everybody does either with your a male or if you’re a female. They ended up having a major problem with the fact that my friend brought it forward. I don’t know exactly what the hell is going on with the administrative staff over there, but to me, you were right on the money, and it is a “joke“ if these guys can’t handle the fact that human beings ejaculate.

it’s amazing how silly it is when you have a site that claims to be similar to ours, but then they make a big deal out of protecting people from the fact that a bodily function happens. I went to ADISC a few times, but I find it stupid like you did. These guys really don’t know what the hell they’re talking about and they phobic about particular issues. I’m lucky that on DD, we can discuss these things in as long as we don’t go over the line, we can do whatever we want as long as we do not go over a certain line or go past a certain goal post. If that happens, I’m sure that we would be told by one of the Admins.

I’m glad that we can talk about subjects like this on DD!  a normal bodily function should not be considered to be risky or too sensitive for a whole site. And there’s no denying that you have the ability to have fun and have an orgasm and and then spurt. There’s nothing disgusting. There’s nothing to hide. There’s nothing dirty about having a sexual reaction if you actually are indulging like that.

I agree!

Brian

Happy Birthday

It is a porn site, which I clicked on, and then said "accept the risk
 and then was presented with women models, which does not match the intended purpose of sandralyn.net.

This is why @2sail2was letting you know there was an error when surfing to other.sandralyn.net

brian

http://other.sandralyn.net is redirecting to hardcore nenas - Porn site - I would have that checked if that is your domain!

Brian

The Error refers to the site certificate.  for example, all of my domains have been https:// for a long while.  I use LetsEncrypt to do that, and my certificates autorenew every 60 days.  Visitors who come to your site, when the certificate information does NOT match the domain will throw an error like that.

You may want to have your host for your domain correct the certificate on their end, as you would not be able to do that yourself.  I can do that from my shell, because i can ask for Lets Encrypt to renew any of the domains certificates.  One each for Dot us, Dot Com, Dot org, Dot Info (for buddy-baker.us/com/org/info) amd bbus.info, which is 5 domains.  I also added certificates for anything www.buddy-baker and www.bbus.info

Lets Encrypt is FREE.  This way LE is the issuing authority, and you know that you are protected if you see the LOCK Icon.  Almost all domains now are https:// by default, as http:// is not secure.

Otherwise, without free options like Lets Encrypt, the certificates cost a MINT - I pay for all of my domains, but I'm not gonna pay for that certificate, as it can be done for free.

In Your case, I would ask your host to see if your domain SSL Certificate can match your domain.  If they don't, or the certificate expires, it will throw errors, and that means that your visitors would have to TRUST the validity of the certificate, or trust that when they Accept the risk, that they will actually be going to sandralyn.net, and not being Redirected somewhere else.

Brian

I need to order some in the next few days as well

Take care

Brian

Good Luck

Very Pretty Dress @April.A

Brian

You are Sooooooo RIGHT

Brian

Anything that is made for diaper wearing individuals, usually includes what is referred to "diaper allowance," which takes into account the extra room that you may need for your body, plus your diaper, and anything over it.  When you are buying clothing for babies and toddlers, they usually have that allowance "built in" to the measurements.

Adult clothing, unfortunately, does NOT do this:  The thing that makes me wonder is, when you have people that wear/use diapers, they need the type(s)of clothing that you are talking about, so you have to MEASURE to make sure you have the right size and fit.

However, if someone is DISABLED, let's say, the same person may NEED something like you are looking for.  Lets say, you need a car seat for example, for a disabled individual.  Simply because of the fact that someone is disabled, the item is tagged "special needs", which means that the product you need costs 4x what it would if it were not for a disabled individual.

Specialized Clothing and equipment costs more money because it takes time and effort and money to make and sell, and I agree that some equipment can cost RIDICULOUS amounts of money, but especially DME, Man, My chair is upwards of $6000, possibly more, while other friends of mine have equipment that can be upwards of $50-60K USD, because of the fact that they need electric chairs. or specialized ones.

Kind of sucks: But when someone makes these things, the one thing that also sucks is that you have to have the GOOD insurance to get it, and insurance is always finding ways to COVER LESS and LESS, and someone always has to watch carefully.  EACH year, they always tell us about "open enrollment" where companies can advertise how good they are, and all I want is to have insurance that will cover what I need, whatever the doctor prescribes, My dental  and my vision, but NO ONE seems to realize that during these "open enrollments" Medicare is trying to find a way to do it as cheaply as they can, which means that someone loses out, or can get confused, and end up worse off than they were before.

Healthcare should NOT be like a lottery, and some things that we need should not be so expensive that it is cost prohibitive

Take Care @Kawaharu

Brian

No Problem, My friends

I can thank my pastor for that one hehehehee and he **IS** Right

Brian