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While searching YouTube I came across this video from Big Brother - the Philippines version. Jason wears just a shirt and diaper in the house. There's another clip of him playing "hackey-sack" in a shirt and diaper, too. Does anyone here speak the language? Hope you enjoy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLA2oys-v0A&feature=related

After using the USA Tena briefs for about 2 years back around 2002-2003, I started getting very bad rashes and worse on my bum, bad enough that I had to go to a doctor. I switched brands, and things improved almost immediately. I think you're right that such things can happen. Whether it's a change in manufacturing or sensitivity through prolonged exposure I'm not sure.

Well, I thought I'd give the Secure Plus briefs a try after being an Abena person for years. I like the Abena Supers for daytime use. As I was checking out the Secure Care Plus webpage I read, "Superior performance to the Abena Super and the Molicare Super Plus briefs." I was excited and thought I'd give them a try. I was very disappointed when I received the package and opened it. The smell was of cheap plastic, and the diapers were thin. They are not good at wicking moisture, and they leak out the back of the legholes just like Depend Fitted/Maximum Protection do. I've had to use boosters just to get decent absorbency. Maybe for looks they're better than the Abena Super, but certainly not for performance. I don't think I'll be ordering the Secure Care Plus again.

My answer is an honest one, too. "I need diapers sometimes when I'm tired or stressed." Enough said, and certainly not a lie.

Kari, Fear not and keep cool. Just be honest with your kid - to a point. An elementary schooler doesn't need to know about fetishes - all he/she needs to know is that you need to wear diapers sometimes at night. Another poster has previously replied in similar situations that it's OK for your kids to laugh at you for a little bit and say what they're going to say to your face. They may even ask questions to you about it. If you handle it like it's no big deal and treat it accordingly, so will your kids. (Of course, insisting that they handle the whole episode with good manners and respect.) If you get worried and upset and flustered, your kids will have found a weak spot and they will exploit it. Remember - you have nothing to be ashamed of, and you're still the dad responsible for raising your kids well - which you will do.

It's not uncommon for me at all. There are days that I just need to be diapered if I'm going to get anything done. It's much easier than trying to fight the urge to pee all the time. I hope you can get diapered and get on with life, and know you're not alone.

Hey Kidandplay, Diapers + argument = bad news, and here's why. Your gf wants you to love her, even when you're fighting. More or less, you've made diapers the "other woman," the thing you run to when you're unhappy with your girlfriend. I have to agree with Sarah in asking you to take a good look at the foundation of your whole relationship. It's time to ask three questions. 1) Are you and your girlfriend best friends - in that you totally love being around each other (with the occasional fight expected) and feel that you understand each other better than anyone else in the world? 2) Are you and your girlfriend truly devoted to each other - will you stand by each other no matter what quirks, oddities, disagreements, illnesses or trouble come to pass? 3) Is there still physical passion? Finally - will she answer these questions the same way you do? If the answer to any of these is no, then it's time to consider either working hard together to fix it or ending the relationship.

The Assurance store-brand from Wal-Mart is entirely cloth-backed, both briefs and underwear. The only plastic-backed diapers you will find at Wal-Mart are the Depend Fitted Briefs. I haven't tried the Walgreens store brand lately, so I don't know how they are today, but back in the early 2000s they were entirely cloth-backed, too, and very prone to some seepage right through the outer cover. Either place I'd be safe and get the Depend Fitted Briefs if crinkle is what you want.

Hey DL, The first thing you have to ask is why you want her to know. Once you answer this question, it will give you more direction in your efforts. Do you want her to know because the dating is starting to get serious (like we're going ring shopping) and you want to come clean before the relationship goes farther? Are you needing to introduce diapers into your physical relationship in order for it to be fulfilling? If the answer to either of these is yes, then it's time to tell her up front. Here's what I did - I invited my then girlfriend (now wife) to my apartment for breakfast. I told her ahead of time that I had something important to tell her. So after we ate we sat together on the couch, held hands, and I told her honestly about diapers. To my great relief, she was ok with it. If you're not ready to do this in person yet, your relationship with your girlfriend probably still has some room to grow. If this is the case, I'd give it more time and see if the two of you are still together in a few months. The biggest thing I find as far as women and diapers is making sure that you don't send any signals that you love the diapers more than you love the woman. If you introduce the diapers as a part of who you are she'll be more likely to accept them than if you introduce diapers as the greatest desire of yours. After all, she's supposed to be your greatest desire. I hope this is helpful, and I wish you the best.

You need to tell her when you can sense there's an engagement ring on the way. Be sure you tell her BEFORE you propose and before she starts hearing wedding bells. Any sooner than that is not necessary, but entirely up to you if you sense the situation is appropriate and you know she won't make fun of you, blab it to her girlfriends, etc. Any later than that, and you are concealing something from your future spouse that she may never forgive you for. I hope it works out well. Let me know if you need suggestions of how to tell her, as I've been there and done a fair job of it, myself.

I actually wore diapers in a double room in college without problem or ridicule. Before you start, though, I'd suggest getting to know your roommate and hallmates or wingmates well. Take a few weeks to get to really know your surroundings and let everyone's schedule settle in. Here are some tips: 1) Make sure your roommate is someone you can trust first. I was always fortunate to have roommates who had my back and vice versa. If he's not trustworthy, abandon all hope of wearing in your dorm room, but see below. 2) Be up-front with your roommate about the fact that you sometimes need diapers (and yes, a psychological need counts.) You might want to throw in the line, "When I'm tired or stressed it gets worse." This gives you an out and a reason not to wear all the time. Then never bring it up with your roommate again. 3) I kept my diapers in a suitcase. There's also above ceiling tiles, behind wall panels, hidden spots in closets....you get the idea. 4) Show your roommate as much respect as possible when it comes to diapers. If you can at all avoid it, don't change in the dorm room with him present. Instead, check out the campus for quiet, out-of-the-way restrooms (a single toilet with a locking door is ideal) and make them your primary changing location. Also, there were times I had to take off my diaper in the shower area, with the water running to conceal the noise, then hide it well in the trash. You'll start to figure out the rhythm of life around you, when your roommate comes and goes, and how you can be as discreet and respectful as possible. 5) If there's no way to wear diapers in your dorm room, you can still wear them around campus during the day by using the out-of-the-way restrooms. If you are confident, discreet, thoughtful, and careful, you shouldn't have much of a problem wearing diapers - even in a double room. Study hard and have fun! College was the best four years of my life!

The Tranquility are far better than the Prevail. I've tried them both. In terms of quality and absorbency, Tranquility rank in the "better" category, while Prevail fall somewhere between "poor" and "average." Tranquility makes briefs in two levels of absorbency: slimline, which are about 1.5 times as absorbent as Depends, or ATN (for All Through the Night) which are about 2 times as absorbent as Depends. I'd recommend the slimline for daytime use and the ATN for overnight or extended wear. If in doubt, start with the slimline. Hope this helps! Enjoy.

Hey Lightning, Your post has sure ignited a bunch of discussion, and I'm enjoying reading it all. I am Christian as well and also married, coming from a grace-filled tradition of Christianity, so I may be able to offer a slightly different perspective from those stated earlier in the thread. I'm married to a wonderful, accepting wife. She knows that I wear diapers - here's the thing. I believe that most of us in this community actually need to wear diapers, and when I told my then girlfriend, now wife, that I wear diapers, I couched my statement about wearing in need. As soon as the dating got serious, I invited my then girlfriend over to my apartment and I told her flat out that I sometimes need to wear diapers. I've needed them since I was eleven years old. I don't need to wear them all the time, but if I don't wear them from time to time I start to stress out. My body needs the protection sometimes - the ability to let go both physically and mentally. I told her that I am no different when I am wearing diapers than when I am not. It's a part of me and who I am, and I don't turn into some "freak" when I'm diapered. And I said if she wanted to accept me as I am, she would have to accept that I sometimes wore diapers, but it was really not that big of a deal. Surprisingly to me, she happily accepted it, and I think it's because I approached it from the need angle and not the desire angle. When we first got married I asked my wife for constant input: what was working, was I wearing too much or upsetting her, etc. I kept the conversation open, and she gave constructive feedback . We have worked out a good system where I can wear discreetly almost anytime, and she does not mind. I know I'm imperfect, and I often pray for God to work through imperfect me. I pray that one day I may give it up, and I also give thanks for such a wonderful wife. Lightning, for the sake of your marriage, do not deny yourself diapers but work it through with your wife until you reach some level of trust and acceptance. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. I know from experience and conversation with many others that these desires don't easily go away, and I fear that if you repress your needs you may end up resenting your wife and maybe even acting out in ways that will damage your marriage as a result. In the meantime, I will keep you and your wife in prayer. Please keep us updated.

From the time I was a kid I've had trouble saying it. I think it's partly because my mom added an extra syllable - "Di-a-per" - and that always made me wary, as I'm an auditory person and hated the way it sounded. I've never minded typing the word, though. Interesting observation, Aleia, and I'll be curious to see what others have to say.

The ATN is much thciker and holds more. The Tranquility Slimline is a great choice for more discreet day use. Get a pack (or more) of each - you'll be happy with both.

DodgeDart, Thanks for your post. According to my doctor there's nothing physically wrong with me, but like you, I often have the urge to continue peeing after a full void. Sometimes I'll leak a bit, too. This is what keeps me in diapers. I've never had any desire to use the incontinence drugs - I don't think they'd make that much difference and come with some awful side effects. Know that you're not alone in this. I'm glad you've come to acceptance.

I saw it too, quite a while ago. I thought it was a fun interview at the time. Thanks for posting about it!

My take on this is different from #1 or #2. First, be honest with the person you are dating as soon as it starts to get serious. He or she might not be into diapers, but might be very willing to accept you, and the major difference-maker is how you approach the whole thing. If you preface it to be something gross, repulsive, or untenable, then your SO is likely going to react that way. If you preface it as simply a part of who you are, your SO will be more likely to accept it. In my personal experience, I tried dating diaper women and it just didn't work out. At the end of the date, I seemed to have nothing good to hold onto except that the woman wore diapers. Then I met my wife totally by accident. My wife isn't into diapers, but she tolerates my wearing and will sometimes help put on a clean diaper (but I have to take off the wet one.) I make sure she can offer feedback, because I don't want to simply impose myself on her. All this comes out of the way that we deal with it: together. Maybe there isn't a right or wrong answer here. Just be sure that you and your SO are happy all around.

I find them easiest to put on standing up. I pull the diaper up between my legs and extend the sides around but do not tape them. Then I gently squeeze my legs together to hold it in place while I use both hands to get a nice, tight fit with the tapes (one hand pulling the tape while the other hand holds the diaper panel tight). I start with the bottom tapes, then do the tops. It leads to a secure fit and a quick change. Hope this helps!

Rockrat, Don't worry too much. I didn't meet my wife till I was 27, and I have friends who are still in their 30s and looking for a mate. I'm sorry that you've met some rude women. Be assured, not all of them are so superficial. I found my wife (or rather, she found me) when I wasn't even looking, where I wasn't even looking. So be you, enjoy life, and eventually, if it's meant to be, you'll find a woman who doesn't mind you wearing diapers. I also want to thank you all for your wisdom regarding this thread. With kids coming in the next couple of years, it's refreshing to know that there are children out there who handle it well. It helps to alleviate one of my biggest fears about wearing diapers.

I remove the diaper for bowel movements and use the toilet. Interestingly, wearing a diaper seems to encourage regularity for me. Maybe it's because I'm more relaxed when I'm wearing and I can prepare myself a bit. When I really have to go I feel more comfortable when I get to the toilet. I've learned to relax, too. I used to try to force it on the toilet when I was between diapers, and that, combined with eating on the road and taking red-eye flights, send me to the doctor with intestinal issues. Often, when wearing diapers, we are tempted to consume less liquid so we don't have to change as often. So be careful with diapers and bowel habits! Drink lots of fluid, and eat/take extra fiber. Your body will be glad because of it.

I wore diapers to class many times in college: discreetly of course. It was kind of fun, and it helped a lot to break the stress of exams. I never needed a bathroom break. Put on a diaper and enjoy! Make of it whatever you wish.

I really like this interface, and I hope it this chat room takes off!

Welcome! Browse the board, and let any of us know if you have any questions. Hope you can find some answers, I sure felt better after finding an online community, myself.