GhostGirl

Yep, Hollywood loves to infantalize women. As a note, remember the vast majority of movies and TV scripts are written by men...

Wow, that is really really wrong, and kind of sexist.... Women do have a higher tendency towards incontinence, and God did us no favors with out plumbing... gravity is not our friends, but the vast majority of women will go all of their adult lives, excepting old age, with out having an accident. It was a common thing to think women pissed themselves easily in the late 40s and 50s, because it was part of a trend of trying to treat women like children (As a counter movement to the growing women independence movements spurred on by the factories during the war.) In recent months, I have seen some of the infantilisization of women returning to mainstream thoughts and processes, with some US politicians even starting to suggest women are too "dependent" on others to be voting, etc... so if it seems harsh that I am jumping out at you, I am sorry, I am just pointing out that comments like this are fueling a new wave of misogyny that is trying to put women "in their place."

You aint lost nothing. You didn't lose him. You removed a toxic element from your life. This was not a win lose situation for you, but a healthy not healthy situation. Congratulations, you made the healthy choice. As to the diaper stuff, I think you have accepted it, you just are unsure how to feel about it or want someone else to tell you it is ok. Otherwise you would not of sought out this site. You are at the very least questioning, and are maybe avoiding it because you are conflicted over your ex. What I tell people in regards to Exs... "Feck em!" you broke up, why should they have any control over your life now, or influence, etc... Us girls like to do this to ourselves. We create these stupid rules in our head on how a breakup should go, and yadda yadda. Do you think men torture themselves this way? Sure, they might grieve and be sad over the end of a relationship, but none of them look at things they enjoyed and go, "Whelp, I broke up, I guess I can't do X anymore because she liked it and got me into it." My first boyfriend got me into Star Wars... I don't sit there when watching a Star Wars film thinking about him, I just enjoy Star Wars. Wear, and when you think about him, just remember, he was terrible for you at the time. He wanted something different from the relationship and that difference had become toxic enough that you wanted out. You took care of yourself, and you should be proud of the fact that you made a hard choice to improve yourself, a choice that many women actively get criticized for. So when you wear a diaper, instead of thinking of him, let them remind you of the strength you have that allowed you to leave toxic situation, let them remind you that you are an independent women who is more than a boyfriend and more than a booty call. Strap on that diaper because you want to, not because he wants you too, and enjoy it for you, not for anyone else.

Ok, if you say so... I mean the OP's sentence is phrased as a 1st hand witness account, so... But I get it, we can't risk ruining the life of a guy who likes to jack off to babies.

The OP claims he masturbates to babies having their diaper changed... if we are going to take the OP at his word, we have proof. He has made the choice to not only involve a minor in a sex act, but has made it the focus. It is pretty cut and dry. He needs to be reported to the police, and the OP needs to distance himself. Like I said before, I do not give a shit about his life being ruined. He has had the chance to make choices. When he eventually escalates to actual real life kids, those kids wont have a choice.

That bit was more of meant as a joke :-p

Yes, although I do wish I couldn't.

I get that, but I think that advice is not the greatest. There is a man in my support group who intellectually knows that most people do not give a damn, but for the last 40 years, he has felt shame every time he wet himself. Some people don't lost that shame. The worse part is you never know until you have been at something long enough to feel it one way or the other. That is the hard part about this. I think an ABDL might more easily be able to manage some of those feelings due to the nature of ABDL culture... but it is dangerous to tell people that feeling of shame will go away over time, because if it doesn't for them, it just compounds their "wrongness" if you get what I am saying. Also, I don't understand why so many people say no one ever notices. I just the first month of school for me, two people have commented. Now they have been supportive more or less, the first one being "I hope you don't mind me saying this, but your protection is leaking..." and the second time was "Are you wearing depends because the baby?" (They were freaking tenas, learn your diaper brands people!! :-p) People notice, especially on girls who have their physical bodies scrutinized more. It may be an age thing to. I am younger, and so maybe people are more apt to notice it on me because it is less expected, where as you get older, or if you appear older, it may be more "normal." Who knows. The best advice I have received (I don't think I have had this problem long enough to give advice outside of products that work for me) is to just take it one day at a time, and deal with the struggles and stress of that day, not the ones of yesterday, or the ones you invent for tomorrow.

It made part of it harder, because I was resistant to switch over to more "normal" use adult diapers, which added some stretch in the first couple of weeks as I kept trying to stick to the ABDL styles. I eventually did switch to the normal stuff for everyday use, which was more comfortable and let me keep most of my "style" in tact, which helped me deal with my self image in public, etc...

This is terrible advice. Stalking is against the law.... and this behavior IS a warning sign. As was pointed out, it is just as easy, and in many ways actually easier, to get videos of adults being changed while dressed, acting, and in the settings of a baby.... This is completely inappropriate behavior, and is pedophilia, even if the child and its parents are not being directly harmed in the encounter. He is using children for sexual gratification, and is in fact choosing them over an equally accessible non-child option. Don't shift the guilt of "ruining" someones life when this guy obviously needs help and it is better he gets it now before he runs the life of a child.

It is a gym... which is women only, and the only one like it with the equipment I use. (The two other women only gyms in walking distance from me weights max out at 10, have bikes only, and focus mostly on Pilates and yoga classes.) So yeah, it is not really worth making a fuss about. The limitations on my workout will pass in a few months, so it is just annoying as feck right now.

I like most women's fashion, and when it comes to the top, I have not normally found to many issues. There is a lot more attention paid to that area with stretch materials, adjustable sizing, etc... Something they don't bother with with pants. (I think part of it is trying to keep women in skirts/dresses where a lot of these problems don't exist.) But anyways, my rebellion is focused on LGBTQ+ rights in Texas... can't afford a rebellion against women's fashion in Texas too..

I get the best fit lying down, but I do a healthy mix of both. That being said, I mostly wear pull on styles, and really only worry about tape ons for overnight, and for fun, and my girlfriend normally helps me with both of those.

I would hate that. My test for doing something in diapers: Would I do it just wearing panties? When the answer is no, it is a no for diapers too...

Oh, Blizz games all bad. The thing is, they are enjoyable. Much like movies, you can have a terrible move, but it is still enjoyable to watch. Blizzard does nothing new or innovative, almost always building on what someone else does, and often times not as well as the other guys who did it first. Where they shine is in the polish, and the marketing. I love Overwatch, not because it is a good game, but because I connect with each of the characters I play because they have tons of life, then they play with your head with the Play of the Game stuff, etc... There is nothing wrong with the game play... it is just not original. It is TF2 meets Smite/LoL. But the presentation makes it a really fun to play game. Blizzard makes terrible games that just happen to be a lot of fun.

It is all about Warthunder bieotches! :-p

This is something in my top ten personally, but it is grouped in with normal clothes issues.... My top ten drive me crazy things that seem relatively inoffensive (So not cat calls, or having to hide sexuality from an HOA etc...) 1.) Paying a bloody extra tax on feminine hygiene products. It is quite literally a tax for having a vagina. 2.) Responses to waxing/shaving. You don't do it, people ask you why not? You do do it, people tell you that you shouldn't do that to please people. 3.) Why. The. Feck. Do. No. Womans. Clothing. Have. Functional. Pockets. 4.) Why do I have to carry a purse everywhere... oh yeah number 3!!!! 5.) Why is it that no two brand use the same women's size chart... furthermore, why the feck do they need women's size charts. Why can't they just freaking use inches like with men!!!!! 6.) If you are not going to make clothing options that do not include adjustable waists, or similar things, them make em freaking elastic or stretchy, because not all woman have the same hip to waist ratio and if you dare fall outside of the three selected "acceptable" ratios, just go feck yourself. 7.) When men, who enjoy pockets, complain about you being angry about no pockets, and they say how much more convenient a purse would be. Go get one, Seriously. Use it for a month. I'll wait. 8.) When people complain about me wearing leggings as outerwear. See 6. If you don't understand why I said see 6, then there is no helping you. 9.) Why are all women's shorts either panty length, or knee length... can there not be freaking middle ground? 10.) No, no a mans T is not the same as a women's T only larger. Go Feck yourself.

The hope is to actually minimize diaper use by then. The plan is that by then, I will hopefully only need a pad or similar as a just case during the day. Hence the exercises, and retaining efforts. The problem for me is I enjoyed them when I knew I could just go back to normal, allowing me to go to the gym, do my daily runs, etc... with the baby, a lot of that stuff has been reduced anyways, like I am not even allowed in the batting cages anymore :-(, but I still try and stay active, and my doctor has only told me to reduce the distance of my daily runs from 4 miles to no more than 2. About the only thing that the diapers don't get in the way of is shoulders, chest and arm weight training, and I have been instructed to greatly reduce my weights to a normal person light work out. To be fair, the baby has harmed my workout routine more than the diapers, but a lot of the stuff left to me after baby considerations is hampered by the diapers. For example, low impact water aerobics and such would be an option, but my gym wont allow me in the pool right now, citing a health risk.

I had just moved into my condo, and had the chance to really play with diapers, but I had snuck them in a lot over the last few years before. Then one day, I was at work. I was feeling feint all day, but I just assumed it was the heat and I needed more water... then about an hour into work, I passed out, and woke up 9 hours after in the ICU already post op. I had a cancerous tumor on my bladder, it was benign... at least we hope it was. It was a type that could be malignant, but there is no sign of spreading, so we may of caught ti before it became dangerous. Anyways, the tumor had ripped my bladder and was causing me to bleed internally. That morning, I had felt a sharp pain during my work out, and thought I had just tweaked something. What had happened is the small tear became a not so large tear. They ended up removing a large portion of my bladder, and while it did not make me incontinent technically, I was left running to the bathroom every 5-20 minutes, and I became functionally incontinent. I was willing to just give up and not even try, but then my doctor talked to me about an implant that can help me. I have since been doing pelvic floor exercises, and focusing on trying to use the toilet during the day in such a normal way as possible. I still wear, as even though I am improving, I can not sit through an hour and a half lecture without going to the bathroom at least twice, but I wear as thin of stuff as possible without risking leaks, and night time I always wake up wet. How I feel about it? I hate it. It was fun when it was a choice, but when there is nothing I can do about it. There are times where I am sitting in class, especially in one of my big lectures that by the time I make it to the door, and out, and down the hall, around the corner, to the nearest bathroom, I will have already wet, so... I just sit there in the class, wetting myself, and I hate it so much. My surgery is scheduled for next March because they don't want to do it while I am pregnant, so...

Hips are 26 inches, and Waist is 19 inches... at least before a baby got put in ma belly... now my waist and hips are elastic only as I refused to measure them now. My ratio has evened out a bit during the pregnancy so it has actually been easier to find close that fit, but that will go away after the birth, and I am told that my hip to waist ratio is probably going to change...

This is a pretty common issue for women that I have talked about a lot. I have a trim and skiny torso, but no amount of diet and exercise will make my hips, the product of my sex and bone structure, get any smaller. This is why I tend to wear skirts and dresses, or when I do wear jeans, shorts, etc... I wear them on my hips as it is easier to find a pair that fit me that way, instead of trying on thousands of pairs of jeans to find ones where the designer thought about making it stretchy enough to get over ma lady hips. Now, target has a great line of stretch women's Levi's which are affordable, and do a good job, but their waists are weird, and I just don't like em.

I just wear pjs, which are sometimes just a long shirt/actual night gown (This is pretty rare because I hate getting twisted up in them.) More normal are pj shorts, and a tank, or flannel pants and a tank. I used to go to bed with nothing but panties during the summer, but when I moved deeper into the city, and was no longer living with my father, I didn't feel safe being nearly nude anymore, and wanted to have something on in case I needed to run away like a fire or something. (Which was a good idea because we had to evacuate the other day because someone set their kitchen on fire while drunk.)

We're figuring it out still, but she doesn't go down on me... there is just to high of a chance that I will leak on her face. I have been trying to hold it.... but it takes all of my attention, which makes you know what not fun. So place towel, and as often as not, she gets me there while I am still in my protection.

So... for you frequent flyers... why not just get TSA pre-screened instead of risking embarrassment? Yeah, people who flying once in a blue moon might have trouble getting pre-screened, but MarkSmith, if you fly as much as you say you do, and same to do based on the content of posts, why not just get Pre-screened? I have flown four times in the last two months, 6 times if you go back 6 months, and the six month timeline includes international. Pre-screened for it all. The international flight, I was wear briefs, but I was still continent then, I was just travelling alone, and lets just say I have some issues with airport bathrooms. I was wearing the briefs until I could get on the plane and use its lavatory. The more recent flights, I couldn't stay dry by my choice... but in all the above cases, I was pre-screened so none of it mattered.

I was referred to it by my DO to help ease into it and deal with the problems that come up. There is a lot of good advice on sites like this, but the problem is if you are not a rah rah rah diaper time person, this page has far more bad advice than good (Simply because asking for advice on how to minimize diaper use and need on this site is kind of anathema to why most people are here.) and online incontinence groups get trolled hard... so in person is the way to go.