Hey longtime member here giving my 2 cents on the deal of purposefully exposing your diapers to others which is for many situations DO NOT INVOLVE OTHER PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WANT TO BE PART OF IT.
However there are situations where i deem it acceptable to show your diapers on purpose i.e. disposing of used ones after getting change in a public washroom, or when sunbathing at the beach. In either case while you are "exposing" your diapers to others the methodology and reasoning for doing so are very different from I WANT YOU TO LOOK AT ME AND SEE FOR THE FREAK I AM aspect of exposing your diapers.
There's been several times at work when my diapers have peaked over my jeans, shorts, or uniform while out side my house and i just readjust my shirt or jacket so that way to any outsiders looking on at my activities it says. Yes i wear and use diapers but its not that big of a deal and I'm not going to broach the subject unless you want to talk with me about it, then I'll explain it in a way that is conservative while helping them to understand this is who i am as a person and its not a big deal.
I understand that not everyone has that kinda of capabilities and self control that I do but it is our duty as responsible members of this community to help teach new members that kind of respect and self control for others outside of our community, and to those people that continuously refuse to or don't want to learn this lesson then it is important to establish the difference between us as a community and those who try to break us and stand strong against them and reaffirm the lessons we have learned and are willing to teach to those who want to learn.
Sorry for the Rant,