DiaperedAllTheTime

It is very hard for a partner who does not have a desire for diapers to understand our crinkly needs. Communication and honesty is essential for a realtionship to thrive and it is an absolute must in my opinion if a partner is ABDL. The reality is for almost all of us the desire to wear diapers will never ever go away. One should never be forced to choose between a partner or diapers but unfortunately is happens quite often. You need to be honest with your partner concerning your diaper desires and most importantly you need to be honest with yourself. If your relationship is meant to be then love will find a way, diapers and all.

I just wanted to take the time to say I am so sorry for your loss. It takes a special kind of woman to understand and accept that their husband's need diapers regardless if it is for pleasure or incontinence and I cannot fathom how I would feel if I lost my wife.

My wife knows that I sometimes mess my diaper but will not involve herself with changing one. When we were younger she had no issues changing one of my messy diapers. She would even rub messy ones in my face to humiliate me. For whatever reason she no longer has the stomach for it anymore. The last time I messed my diaper it was a honest accident and my wife had to provide interference with our children so I could safely get to the potty and change. I do believe as I progress more and more with my unpotty training that eventually I will lose control of my bowels as well. I am not sure how she will react if this happens. I have shared with her that I believe that it will but she does not respond to it.

Here are some of my clothes...I love pink and princesses too.

Careful, diapers are addicting. You may become like me and never want to take them off.

I actually got flagged yeaterday and just asked for the private room right away because I was wearing a onesie and I know that TSA officers generally get frustrated when they can feel my diaper but cannot see it physically. In this case I was simply was just patted down. No pants dropping which shocked me. After leaving the private room I noticed they literally had two other people who were behind me with their arms spread out checking crotches. One would have to assume they were not wearing diapers so maybe it was just a grope-a-thon day.

I am exactly sure what I am feeling but my urgency all day was far more intense and when I did release I was wetting and could not even feel I was doing so.

I have been to Bangkok. It really should be spelled Bangcock.

I used to steal thick, Kotex maxipads from wherever and wet them. As a child I had no idea what they were used for and just assumed woman wet them. I also went through a period where I wet my underwear ever so slightly intentionally when I was maybe five or six.

For me I was able to get better pressure while standing up but it worked also in a seated and lay down position as well

You can always change on the plane. It does suck as it is a tight fit but I have done it many times. It is very surprising to me that a dry diaper has flagged you before as that has never happened to me despite wearing the thickest disposable diapers on the market and I travel all over the world. I would honesty bieve that is the exception not the normal.

This actually kinda works...

First come, first change lol. Man, what a tale. Sounds to me the plane crowd was much more sympathetic to your diaper change than her kids.

Could just be a woman who is easily aroused, just saying.

My last diaper leak was yesterday while driving home from a customer's site. I was wearing a plain white ABU Simple disposable diaper with my typical layers (PUL panties, fixing panties, onesie) and a pair of dark blue jeans. I stopped at a gas station and as I got out of the car I flooded my already saturated diaper. Walking through the gas station it became quite evident that my diaper was filled to capacity. Since I was only an hour from home and have leather seats in my car I decided to just wait and change when I got home knowing full well that it was almost guaranteed that sitting down in the driver's seat would result in a press out leak. Shortly after starting my drive again I soon smelled the tell tale smell of wet jeans and reached between my legs to feel the half crescent shaped wet spot on my rear end. My wife asked me to stop and get her some alcohol and I said that I would definitely need to come home and change my diaper first because it was leaking and she told me she understood. When I got home I went straight to the Master bedroom and changed my diaper, protective panties, and jeans. The only person that noticed was my wife.

Usually for morning flights I am fairly dry as I change out of my night time diaper before I leave for the airport. At most one wetting but mostly just dribbles. Afternoon flights can be another story. I could be rushing from a customer's site driving from far distances and I simply want to make it through security before I change. Even in this situation I am almost never flagged. I have been told it is not so much the wetness of the diaper but the distortion of your crotch area from the diaper sagging that causes the screener to flag you. I am not sure if that is accurate but I do know I have never been flagged when wearing fixing panties regardless of the use of my diaper. I do not always wear them when flying simply because they are restrictive and can get uncomfortable when sitting for an extended period of time. In Europe there are restrooms before passport control but not in America. I have always wondered if this is because there is concern of someone throwing away contraband before clearing customs. Eitherway, never have been flagged after passport control security checkpoint. I know in Amsterdam I was flagged because they actually had an Xray scanner at the gate. That is something you just do not see ever in America and I was not used to. Only random people were sent through it. The easiest security by far I have found is in Japan. Simple metal detector and they seem to care less about liquids.

I have been through hundreds of TSA checkpoints while wearing diapers and even a chastity device. Unless my diaper is excessively wet I normally am not flagged for additional screening. I have been patted down at the xray machines a dozen or so times because my crotched was flagged. This results almost always in the officer feeling my diaper and asking what I am wearing. They always pull my shirt up and put their fingers in the waistband of my diaper. If my diaper is riding exceptionally high this has exposed my diaper to other passengers but generally as soon as they see my diaper they reach under my shirt providing discretion. On a few occassions I have been asked to proceed to a private room after a patdown. The following describes the times I have been pulled aside for additional screening. Amsterdam Schiphol Airport-Fabine Orginal-Pulled aside and had a curtain wrapped 360 degrees around me. I was made to pull down my pants to my ankles, diaper felt by screeners hands, and a specialized metal detector marked "For diapers" waved between my legs. I was asked why I was wearing a diaper and both the outside of my diaper and my hands were swabbed for explosives. Columbus, Ohio-Bambino Bianca-Taken to a private room and felt extensively through my pants. I was asked what the bulge was in my crotch and I told the screeners a diaper. It was left at that, my pants were not removed. San Diego, California-Rearz Princess-Sent to private screening after a patdown at the machine. Asked to pull down my pants to verify I was indeed wearing a diaper and then told almost immediately that it was okay to pull my pants back up. The TSA screener asked how I had been screened in the past and was extremely professional. Denver, Colorado-ABU Simple-Taken to private room. Patted down and a sheet was wrapped around my body. I was asked to pull down my pants to verify I was indeed wearing a diaper and then apologized to afterwards. Four times out of hundreds of flights is not so bad in my opinion. A couple things of note I have noticed. First, international travel is generally far less invasive than domestic travel. Most of the time I generally do not even go through an xray machine and a diaper will definitely never be detected by a metal detector. Also, when going through TSA after clearing customs my diaper has literally been leaking at times, I mean completely full. Generally they do not have restrooms between the gate and the TSA checkpoints so it is what it is. Despite this, I have absolutely never been pulled aside for additional screening. The only thing I can figure is they are used to seeing wet diapers after long international flights. My bag has been screened often times. One time I even left a used diaper in my bag on accident. TSA has always been very professional when going through my bag.

Men are faced with the same dilemma, everything is just concentrated in the front instead of the middle. For me the front leg gathers are always what leaks first with the back of my diaper being completely dry. If we are pointed up so to speak it is quite easy to leak out the top. Wetting laying down also works for us guys as long as I wet with not to much pressure. If my pee pee just dribbles out it fills the back of my diaper nicely. What I do is lay on my back in a lotus position with my feet together and it works great.

So I decided to see if a couple hours outside of diapers yesterday would lead to wet pants or a constant marathon sprint to the potty. Nothing. I honestly felt nothing different with my bladder control than when I first began my unpotty training. To be fair though, it was a very hot summer day yesterday and I produce a lot less pee pee when I am out in the heat. Mentally I definitely felt naked without my diaper on it. I imagine it would be impossible for me to go an entire day without wearing one as I would feel as if I am completely naked. Not really sure where to go from here. I know when this journey began I was much more optimistic about losing my baldder control and now I am very pessimistic that I can actually become unpotty trained. Do not misunderstand me. I still will probably NEED to wear diapers permanently for the rest of my life but I am not sure if I can become physically dependant or not. I am not sure how to explain this to my wife. She believes I need them both mentally and physically so at this point I have no choice but to wear diapers. I even made my mind believe this as well. It simply is not the case as verified yesterday.

I think the desire has always been there for some ABDLs but the difference is now we are openly communicating our incontinent dreams more on message boards such as this. Unpotty training yourself is such a mental burden and takes constant determination and concentration. It is nice to be able to share your ups and downs of your untraining journey with like minded people without fear of someone thinking you are bat shit crazy. Here you can safely do that.

I thought every man dreamed of being a woman's bitch? Even in my relationship if I am to be brutally honest neither my wife or I are happy with our bedroom situation. She cannot be what I want her to be and I most certainly cannot be what she needs me to be. In most scenarios this is a recipe for disaster but we have collectively found a way to make it all work. There are many that believe if your significant other cannot accept you in diapers than your relationship is doomed but that is definitely not always the case. Feelings can and almost always do change over time. For me though, I know one thing that will never change...and that is my desire to be a diapered sissy.

That is what is awesome about being ABDL. All of our desires and fantasies are so different but the padding between our legs bind us together. For me I have absolutely no problems with my wife being with a real man. Most women are not programmed to be as awesome as @mamabug and are turned off by their quote, unquote man in a diaper. In my case I want to be a baby girl in the bedroom and fulltime under my clothes. Is it fair for my wife to have to accept that about me but I do not accept that she needs a normal sexual relationship with a real man? I cannot give her what she needs sexually anyway even if I was not a sissy and did not wear diapers as I am completely inadequate for her needs. The tell tale sign of this is the only way I sexually please my wife is by breastfeeding....guess she was meant to be with an adult baby. I want fetish every second, of every minute, of everyday. I want to live a real life fantasy and do in some ways by wearing diapers permanently. However, my wife is 10% fetish and will never entertain me being treated as her sissy baby full time.

Interestingly enough despite always having a diaper fetish I became a sissy really on accident. I had a job where at the time I believed it was impossible for me to wear diapers. I had issues with anal leakage and my wife suggested I use a maxipad to help prevent my mess from getting in my boxers. Maxipads do not work so well with boxers so I borrowed a few pairs of her plain white panties. Before long I was buying my own panties that where in very feminine colors, materials, and prints. I started washing with feminine smelling soaps and even spraying feminine deodorant spray on my girl parts. I was hooked. Now I am a complete sissy. I no longer wear panties because I am diapered permanently but I wear very girly diaper covers.

The fantasy of my ABDL dreams would definitely be my wife finding a dominant boyfriend that would take charge of us both. I imagine having my diaper changed in front of a real man and her lover spanking me when I misbehave. I imagine being forced to hump my pink diaper at the foot of the bed while they snuggle and makeout or being given an enema and forced to stand in the corner as they make love, only being able to fill my diaper after her lover has filled her with his seed. He would take over the marital bedroom while I slept on the floor on a matress with Disney Princess sheets or better yet a crib...

I am curious how many Mommies and Daddies become sexually aroused when changing their partner. I know for my wife and I a diaper change seems a lot more clinically than sexually exciting. Yes my lil wee wee does typically get hard during a diaper change and my Mommy seems to pay extra special attention at times giving me an extra wipe or two but she is completely unaroused while changing me. A diaper change for us has never led to any form of sexual play. I know when I played the Daddy role I was extremely sexually excited when I changed my little girl's diaper and generally so were they. I assume this is mostly because diapers are an extreme sexual turn on for me and for my wife they are not. Interestingly though my wife actually enjoyed when I would playfully force her to wear a diaper but in general was turned of by the thought of using a diaper. This question is for everyone but I am extremely curious about the caregivers desires.