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I have just about everything in that list, I can't do the baby bottle, yet, my wife is not ok with that. I have told her, and I will do it. I have done it in private , with juice or water. Baby steps ha ha

I diaper standing up so it may make a difference , But I have always taped the bottom first to keep it from falling down, and I think 🤔 I get a better leg seal. I say I think , because when I used the plastic backed it had no leaks doing bottom first, now with the cloth outers,,,,,,, I don't know any way to be sure I won't leak, so I add a cloth diaper inside of a pair of spandex boxer briefs, then plastic pants.

Nice idea, but if he uses them he may not have any padding left for the boat on the return trip??

I will not comment on this thread Any more I am confused about the idiot that can't read they need to move on to another site,, so they will not be confused by anything that I say🙄

I do know the more often you pee, the smaller your bladder will get, as to how long it still can take years, depending on your bladder , it needs to harden up from non use, just relax to pee, don't push down like your straining, I just concentrate on something and think about the feelings of peeing, and you can get to a place where you can keep the bladder neck open longer each time. I have been working on it for years. I now have a hard time holding it if I want to........................but don't want to.

Reddy, I want to apologize for being soo rough on you. I thought the surgery was working and it was just complaining . After reading your answers to Cathdiap's questions . I feel for your adjusting phase of your journey . I am glad you shared this with us. I really do want you to get the final results that you want.

Who ever made the confused comment can't read..............There have been a lot of comments said to Reddy, and maybe if he had explained it better none of the comments would have been said. If it's truly Only the gym that is the issue then we could have worked as a group to help him find good ways to mentally handle it.

Well said, I really agree with you. I don't want to slam him, but you are very very correct , I think I said before if he had done a stent or a Cath for a period of time he would know what he knows now without being now stuck with no other options .

I Love them, if I could afford them I would wear them gladly .. Maybe just at home.. I am not brave enough to wear them out of the house .. But wear them and enjoy them..

I know you have concerns, I do think he didn't do enough research beforehand . I am not you... And I am not him. I personally can think of soo many other things I can do with all that money , like paying my bills, since I have been living on disability since 2016. I need diapers for bedwetting, and daytime dribbles, and I Can't afford to pay for them.. I have to buy them mostly at second hand stores. Because Medicare Will not pay for them....And then he has the surgery and then he complains after he got what he wants...

I haven't seen them, do you want to show me ? Maybe i or others will like them?

This is another comment of your that I really Don't get you just spent over $25k to become this way,,,, But that expense You were and are now not saying that you wanted to be in this life style completely and the life adjustment is a big part, and you need to get over the being embarrassed . You have to remember you paid to have this done, there are sooo many people that had this handed to them and they have no choice at all...I guess this is my biggest problem with all of your complaints .. I also have to agree with one of Cathdiap's comments ,,, are you just trolling Us...... Cathdiap I re read your comment AND I Agree with your whole post about Reddy

I guess you are not hearing what I am saying, if you think you can be incontinent and still do everything that everyone els is doing then just go without any diapers and let it flow, that way you will never have to change your diaper..... I give up, you Need to talk with someone that has been that way for a long time, then you can make the same adjustments they did. YES you can have a normal life, as long as you keep a diaper bag with you, and know ahead of time beforehand to change your diaper, and take the dumb bag into the shower with a suction cup so you can change it inside and perhaps people will not know. I don't see how to leak pee 24/7 and not do anything different from the way you did beforehand . It sounds like you should have had a long talk with cathdiap, and just used his method and then when you got to the gym you take it out, and you have a normal life.. Because I Just don't get what your saying ,, to be able to do anything you want and have no one know you wear a diaper...Good Luck

I still have a couple travel size of the old. baby powder I Love that smell, so I am keeping it till I can find someone that's selling the real deal in the oil. I had some oil years ago and it wasn't close.. Too bad I can't get the sent out of it into an oil? I know someone has the patent for it, and they probably want a lot for it.

I need to get the weight of a few of mine, my night tine diapers are a 3 diaper combo, and 2 layers of cloth plastic pants etc. But I know mine are at the 5 pound range they are heavy in the mornings I'm just not in the bathroom that has my scales. my next biggest one or 2 I am gonna weigh them.. I have wanted to have an idea 💡 other than my guess.

A few of os gave him this idea and he didn't want to make any changes to his life because of the diapers........

I have played a lot of files, and I think 🤔 it will put thoughts in your head if you played it enough times? but as Dubious said you have to believe it. If you want something Bad enough the file will help make it one step closer. But if you have any doubts or negative thoughts then it won't work.... That's my opinion .

See I have been a pee play lover, plastic all kinds of fetishes . I used to get naked and roll around in my brothers soaked pee bed, and soaked blanket, and I was only 10 years old, but it got my crotch soo hard just to smell that old stale pee, and then to play in it. But then I didn't know why I got hard, I just loved it, I had already stopped peeing the bed by the. I wanted to share there bed, soo much I wanted to start peeing the bed on purpose . Now that my son is way into adulthood it's my wife and me, so it's not a big deal to wear diapers. My wife has had to adjust to it, see I didn't need them till I started to wear and relax so now I pee without thinking about it and I love it. I now some of the post is more for other parts of posting. I just got carried away.

There's a lot of people that are on this site, and many others that are not here. But all anyone needs to do is ask questions about what it's like to have no control on your pee. Anyone here will be open enough to give information about what it's like. As much as I really really want to have NO pee control , I'm just waiting it out, I lose a little more control as time goes by, just by relaxing and doing the things like the CPR on the bladder. I don't make it to a toilet as fast as I did 10 years ago. . I am a little bit older than some , so I really don't care if someone that I may never see again in a store etc, knows I wear a diaper , I have wet mine while driving around a store on the handicap cart. So it may be different than a person in there 30-40's to feel like they have to explain why they have no control . I still say at any age it's none of John Q public's business what kind of underwear I wear. I do know I have had leaks in stores, I have never had anyone say a word or laugh etc. Just as my life has been Way different after Cancer, losing control of your bodily functions is a Major life change.

Reddy, What I don't understand is you had the surgery to get what you want and that's to not have any control , Life adjusting is part of that expensive life altering surgery . You said way back before you did it that you knew you would have these kind of adjustments . Just do life, and if someone has an issue with you being diaper dependent ,, it's there problem not yours ..

With that setup, I think I would just hang the bag and towel on the hook, when your done, open the curtain grab both towel and bag, dry off in the shower and diaper up wrap the towel back around and go to the locker, or where you dress, you can put a pair of shorts in that bag to cover up the diaper while you dress, I have to try to guess on some of the things, it's been years since I was in a gym. Maybe in the towel, just take your clothes , diaper etc into a toilet stall to dress.

I was too slow in my typing, yours came up just as I sent mine,, Funny😀

If there's a hook in the shower you may be able to use a reusable plastic bag, I used to love the plastic Apple shopping bag it had a drawstring to close it, If the shower is too small that may not work. What about leaving the shower in your towel, get your diaper from the locker and put it inside of the towel to hide it and go to a toilet stall to put it on??