Anned,
I told my docs at the VA to stop medication for incontinence. That medication was making me woozy, my heart rate high, and the kicker not really working at all. I told them I wanted no more medications due to the other complications and just wanted to wear diapers. Urologists don't like it when you tell them you'd rather be diapered then take medication. it's like they want you to have a normal bladder and bowels, and when you don't they'll try to force you to medicate the problem away. Don't let them.