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I almost broke the door to my closet this time, so 5 more minutes.

I'm a 49er fan and I got so frustrated with the 3rd that I threw my pacifier on the floor.

That's a lot of projection from somebody who has already had the surgery, can I ask WTF didn't you start with that in first place? Are you lying and trying to prove a point, or was this something you've hid from all of us? Maybe I misread, and you mentioned that you've had this surgery. You've gotten help, or so you say, why in the hell are you responding to me in such an aggressive tone? Why didn't you start with the main point- you had this surgery with the doctor in question- and you're happy with the results? That's kind of a big point in the argument, and you left that off? I don't mean to be rude, but all of your posts since 2017 have been on the Incontinent Desires thread. Most of the post since 2017 are arguementove in the incontinent desires threads. Are you doing research, or looking personal valiidation?

If you ask me, going out in public without a diaper is just asking for problems. Maybe it's just me, but peeing my pants sucks. I've got to change my clothes. It runs down my leg, which feels icky, and I need to take a bath. The diaper is comfy, and I can do it again a few more times before I need to change. Diapers rule!

Your response would be accurate if you accurately portrayed what I said rather than projecting my caution to an absurd level and then equating me to a homophobe because of it. However, that's not what I did. I merely cautioned and said it was self-harm. FTR- the first thing you do when a student is cutting is take away the knife. FTR- I did this exact thing last year. A student was cutting in art class, and I don't have knives in my class. Guess how I took care of that problem? I'm sorry if you disagree with me, but I see this as a form of cutting. You don't, which is either because you are actively cutting and trying to defend your actions, or analyzed it to such a degree that you've spent the money to make this happen. Fortunately, it takes a lot more than finding an exacto knife to have access to this surgery, which kills my analogy. The 2nd thing I do when I see cutting is: get them help! It's a red flag, get them to help immediately. If you're considering this surgery- get help. And if the help you get is condoning this- WTF does it matter that some idiot on the internet disagrees with you? AFAIK, we've already had one guy book the surgery, which I think is the first time I've ever heard about anybody getting that far. We've had people propose it for a long time, but nobody had access to the funds to make it happen until now. He found a way to get to the exacto knife, and I hope he will be fine.

There is a reason you don't have a local option. Look, you're already planning the trip, and I'm sure you've already paid some money. The ship has sailed in your case, and I hope it works for you.

They had a strict 'no wetting' policy, yet they nappy changing stations,

Have I ever encouraged anybody to struggle mentally? I want to caution against something drastic and potentially dangerous, especially if mental health is already fragile. I want to restate that nobody needs my permission or blessing to do this. Just because I disagree, doesn't mean you can't do it. My self-amputation example bombed for some reason, so let's try this one. Let's assume we have a super-adrenaline junkie who wants to perform a super-risky bungee jump. This is a bungee jump that only a few operators are willing to do, and those that are don't have proven track records. The outfit will only operate in countries that have limited regulation, charge exorbitant fees, and make you sign every liability waiver available. Am I being intolerant if I caution and tell the adrenaline junkie that it might not be a good idea?

In a lot of stories, I literally search for the word before I engage in the story. I probably err on the other side, and get to the diapers in just a few words. It's why I write the stories. That being said, you need to have good characters to keep a story engaging. In All My Mother's Rules, it took a few chapters before Sarah finally peed her pants twice and ended up in diapers for the day, but by that point, there were several references to accidents, potty training, and she wore diapers at night. Emilia's potty training struggles were brought up very quickly in the story. The best way to show a slow regression is through time jumps. You go through in detail about an incident that begins the process, but then jumped to another time period (months, weeks, or days) and show how the regression has grown.

It sounds like Lisa has done a lot of bladder training in the last few months, but she still has a long way to go. She doesn't have much time from the moment she feels the urge. I'm not sure if she could initiate much of flow but her bladder can at least give her a few seconds of alert before taking control. Sarah hasn't been able to hold much urine for a long time and doesn't seem to have any ability to initiate a stream. The only reason she used the toilet at the hospital was that she happened to be sitting on the toilet when she peed. I think it was that way before her mom went full-baby on her. Lisa didn't get any of the baby treatment from her parents. She was purposely humiliated with a potty chair, but that wasn't about her being a baby. She also wasn't allowed to change her diaper which I think was about control, and not the need to make her feel like a baby. That was even more true once after her mom locked her in her bare room for most of the time. Lisa's bladder issues are probably some form of bladder defect that affected her muscle development. I was also late to the potty training bus. The last time I remember wearing diapers as a child was when I was four and close to 4 1/2. My mom used Pampers on me on a bus trip we took when I was four, but I might have been three and I remember wetting my pants regularly when I was four. We moved to Asia when just before my 5th birthday, and I don't think I wore diapers on the plane, and I don't remember having any accidents. As I recall, I wasn't even wetting my bed. I think my parents were matter of fact about my accidents and hoped to extinguish them. The last accident I had wasn't really an accident. It was when I was five, and I was playing outside. I needed to poo and remembered thinking that I hadn't had an accident in a long time, so I pooped my pants. I got almost no reaction from my mom, and she just helped me clean up. From the sounds of it, and it makes sense now, I may have done it for attention, and when I stopped getting the attention, I stopped doing it.

A lot of stories that try to slow-burn regression end up going way too long before the protagonist gets put in diapers. I'd say you need to have some regression dynamic set up in the first thousand words. If you keep the story engaging, you can push out the diaper element for quite a while, but eventually, you have to get there.

The culture of this thread doesn't want to hear why it might be a bad idea to spend a boatload of money on something that may not alleviate your anxiety. It's your money, it's your body. If it was safe and ethical for a doctor to do it, you wouldn't be shopping so hard to find one who is willing to do it.

I have an issue because you're promoting something that I find harmful. You don't see it that way, but I don't think you've read the whole post. You had an initial reaction but didn't read everything. If you did, and realized that 10 years ago I wanted to kill myself, and you still came back with the tone that you did- you're kind of an AH. If that upsets you- ask yourself, did you read it from my viewpoint? I hope you notice that I haven't posted on the other thread. Before you judge me as a complete AH, ask yourself why you think that I'm posting here, and not there. Maybe we look for different kinds of doctors. My Ophthalmologist tore me a new one when she learned that I ignored pre-diabetes and developed Type-2 diabetes. She is the best doctor I have on my team. My SIL would also tear me a new one but would be nicer about it. My step-brother would hang back, but tell me what a bad idea it was. My cousin would talk me through it, and speak to an expert that he knows to make sure I got a valid second opinion.

I understand what you are saying, and I wouldn't be willing to share this story with a mainstream audience—most of the stories, if not all of the stories on Amazon deal with characters over 18. I'm being honest when I say this would be a great story to teach to a 9th-grade class, especially a class full of struggling. This is an easy story to comprehend. A 4th-grade reader could read this independently and understand the story. PS- That's not a criticism, that's high praise. Known authors who a favored by English teachers suck at that (I'm looking at you, Amy Tan). BTW, that doesn't mean this story is appropriate for elementary school kids, but I think it is appropriate for teenagers. The themes that kids read HS English class are dark and very adult. Everybody reads The Great Gatsby in 11th grade, and that book has sex, drugs, and orgies. Read I'm not your Perfect Mexican Daughter, and you'll see what I mean. The abuse theme and overcoming trauma would be a huge win for HS English teachers, and it has all the elements that they need to teach the standards they need to teach. I'll admit that regression themes are out there. You'd get banned in Florida, but that should be a badge of honor. However, you present those themes in a way that is appropriate for that age group. I don't know if the students would be comfortable talking about it, but I think they would relate to it. PS-I assume you'll post the link here when you're ready to publish. I like the book club element that we have here. You get it in Wattpad, but the level of discussion there is lacking. Us experiencing this story together, and talking about each chapter has been a big part of the enjoyment that I've gotten from this story.

I think it would be a great novel for that 12-15 group. I think they would relate to it. FTR- my question of the day was: If you could go back in time, what time and place would you go back and elementary school was the overwhelming winner. Youth (13-17) would buy into the regression themes, especially struggling students. MW writing is so easy to comprehend and that's a gift. This is a story that would fit in a 9th-grade English class.

I tried to separate myself from the dynamics of a story structure, which is how MW intended us to read it. In that moment, you have this real decision between Emilia's father and the Higgins. If I were Sarah, I would trust what I know, which is Mr. Higgins is a good man.\ I love the part where Amanda wants to make sure Emilia and Sarah. It will take a lot to make that happen, but in real it would be important.

We are nearing the end of the story, and there aren't enough words left in it for another plot twist. On WattPad, MW said that the story would conclude on Tuesday or Thursday. I think the next chapter will pull in the friend group. I can't stress how well-written this story is. I know the themes are not typical for a mainstream audience, but it's a story that could easily be taught in 9th-grade English. It has all of the classic elements of a story, and it does it in an easy-to-read format. You compare this to Amy Tan, whom English teachers love. She is so obtuse that nobody knows what she is talking about. They also love I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter and the themes in that story are way more adult than this one. P.S.- It is also better than Catcher in Rye, which was only good because it had cuss words in it. It's not as good as Huckleberry Finn .

Seriously- if you can't draw the line at elective amputation, I don't know what to say. That is a simplistic answer to a complex question. What does the incontinence get you that conditioning can't, and why do you want that level of incontinence? FTR- there was a time that I considered having the surgery. It was also at a time that I prayed that it would be my day to go. I didn't want to kill myself, but I wanted to die. I was not in a good place mentally. In my mind, I needed to have a reason to wear diapers. I could justify wearing diapers all the time because I would need them. At some point, I realized that I don't need justification to wear a diaper. Nobody cares if I wear a diaper. Eventually, I started wearing them 24/7.

I read it from Wattpad first and it stopped right after Sarah changed privately. I was frustrated when Sarah reacted to Lisa the first time. I was so relieved when I got to the second part of the chapter. That friend group became so strong at the first sleepover, but it's like Chewbacca and Han now. That whole side plot about the sleepover and Black Friday didn't seem to advance the plot much, but I think it was written for a reason.

That makes sense. I'd say a 200% increase is price gouging.

My question is: what does the surgery give you that you can't get by wearing a diaper and pretending to be incontinent? I don't like the comparison between gender-affirming surgery and incontinence. I don't think it is an accurate comparison. To say that my reservations with the incontinence surgery are in any way similar to transphobia and homophobia is a reach and insulting to the LBGTQI community that has to deal with intolerance. Let's put it this way: we had somebody defend elective amputation surgery, which I post as an absurd example to show there has to be a line. There is a line, and where is the line?

You jumped the shark on that one, but apparently, that makes me an intolerant AH. Can I repeat this: Do not do limb amputation! It is wrong! Don't do it! You should not encourage it! Anybody who would do such a thing is wrong. Go ahead and block me, because all you want is self-confirmation.

What would be a fair price?

The therapist might not be aware of Sarah's conflict, and Sarah is so conditioned to follow authority that she is trying to be a big girl for everyone. It's got to be so exhausting for me. Thank God for Lisa, because Mom didn't seem to have any intention of stopping it. If it weren't for Lisa's insistence, Sarah could have been still stuck as a baby when Emilia was old enough to take on the chores.

I think Sarah is going to have to tell Lisa what happened. I'm sure they don't know much about what happened in those two months. The Higgins would know she didn't get any school in those two months. I don't know if MW will write it that way, but I imagine the story would end up being covered by the media at least when the details of the trail come out.