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I think it would be a great novel for that 12-15 group. I think they would relate to it. FTR- my question of the day was: If you could go back in time, what time and place would you go back and elementary school was the overwhelming winner. Youth (13-17) would buy into the regression themes, especially struggling students. MW writing is so easy to comprehend and that's a gift. This is a story that would fit in a 9th-grade English class.

I tried to separate myself from the dynamics of a story structure, which is how MW intended us to read it. In that moment, you have this real decision between Emilia's father and the Higgins. If I were Sarah, I would trust what I know, which is Mr. Higgins is a good man.\ I love the part where Amanda wants to make sure Emilia and Sarah. It will take a lot to make that happen, but in real it would be important.

We are nearing the end of the story, and there aren't enough words left in it for another plot twist. On WattPad, MW said that the story would conclude on Tuesday or Thursday. I think the next chapter will pull in the friend group. I can't stress how well-written this story is. I know the themes are not typical for a mainstream audience, but it's a story that could easily be taught in 9th-grade English. It has all of the classic elements of a story, and it does it in an easy-to-read format. You compare this to Amy Tan, whom English teachers love. She is so obtuse that nobody knows what she is talking about. They also love I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter and the themes in that story are way more adult than this one. P.S.- It is also better than Catcher in Rye, which was only good because it had cuss words in it. It's not as good as Huckleberry Finn .

Seriously- if you can't draw the line at elective amputation, I don't know what to say. That is a simplistic answer to a complex question. What does the incontinence get you that conditioning can't, and why do you want that level of incontinence? FTR- there was a time that I considered having the surgery. It was also at a time that I prayed that it would be my day to go. I didn't want to kill myself, but I wanted to die. I was not in a good place mentally. In my mind, I needed to have a reason to wear diapers. I could justify wearing diapers all the time because I would need them. At some point, I realized that I don't need justification to wear a diaper. Nobody cares if I wear a diaper. Eventually, I started wearing them 24/7.

I read it from Wattpad first and it stopped right after Sarah changed privately. I was frustrated when Sarah reacted to Lisa the first time. I was so relieved when I got to the second part of the chapter. That friend group became so strong at the first sleepover, but it's like Chewbacca and Han now. That whole side plot about the sleepover and Black Friday didn't seem to advance the plot much, but I think it was written for a reason.

That makes sense. I'd say a 200% increase is price gouging.

My question is: what does the surgery give you that you can't get by wearing a diaper and pretending to be incontinent? I don't like the comparison between gender-affirming surgery and incontinence. I don't think it is an accurate comparison. To say that my reservations with the incontinence surgery are in any way similar to transphobia and homophobia is a reach and insulting to the LBGTQI community that has to deal with intolerance. Let's put it this way: we had somebody defend elective amputation surgery, which I post as an absurd example to show there has to be a line. There is a line, and where is the line?

You jumped the shark on that one, but apparently, that makes me an intolerant AH. Can I repeat this: Do not do limb amputation! It is wrong! Don't do it! You should not encourage it! Anybody who would do such a thing is wrong. Go ahead and block me, because all you want is self-confirmation.

What would be a fair price?

The therapist might not be aware of Sarah's conflict, and Sarah is so conditioned to follow authority that she is trying to be a big girl for everyone. It's got to be so exhausting for me. Thank God for Lisa, because Mom didn't seem to have any intention of stopping it. If it weren't for Lisa's insistence, Sarah could have been still stuck as a baby when Emilia was old enough to take on the chores.

I think Sarah is going to have to tell Lisa what happened. I'm sure they don't know much about what happened in those two months. The Higgins would know she didn't get any school in those two months. I don't know if MW will write it that way, but I imagine the story would end up being covered by the media at least when the details of the trail come out.

This story wouldn't have worked if Sarah was a PITA. I think knowing Samantha's issues help Sarah through her two-month sentence in the crib. Sarah might even have a greater understanding of Samantha's desire because she has lived that reality. I'll make a bold prediction that tomorrow's update will deal with Sarah's first interaction with Lisa since the mall. Sarah is still hung up over the fact that she told Lisa to F-off the last time she saw her, and Lisa is likely so relieved that Sarah is now safe in a home. Ps- those girls need a really cool trip.

You've heard the red flags, but you haven't processed through them. It sounds like you're desperate for confirmation that you would be doing the right thing I don't see how I'm butthurt or in a bad place. First of all, I'm finally in a good place with my level of incontinence/unpotytraining. I perfectly happy to wear a diaper 24/7 and pee in it almost all the time. My potty training is now at the same level as a three-year-old who doesn't want to use the potty, which is what I wanted in the first place. It took a long time to get there but I knew that was what I wanted when I got there. I'm also not butthurt because I'm far too old to be concerned with the opinions of random anonymous people on the internet. You're an adult, and you choose to disregard the red flags, that's on you. As for the surgery being unethical: I hope we all can agree there is a line where it goes too far. The culture of this board, and especially this thread, is this is a surgery that is life-affirming and will help somebody feel whole. IMO, and it's just my opinion, I think it crosses that line. I'm going to show you two absurd examples of examples that cross the line. The first is people with an amputation fetish and seek to have limbs amputated (PS- it a real thing). I would hope we would discourage people from amputating a healthy limb even though they feel that it is required to be fulfilled. I see this surgery as an extension of that surgery. The other situation happens far too often and doesn't even require you to visit a doctor to do it. It is permanent and destroys multiple lives. I would hope that we would never encourage anybody to do that to themselves. IMO- if we can't draw the line there, we are f-d.

You missed the point of the post, and you sound butthurt because other people don't agree with you. It goes back to what I've always thought when I read these posts from people seeking these types of surgeries. Most- if not all of them, have convinced themselves that this type of surgery is the sole thing that will make them whole with their MH. They ignore serious red flags, like the fact that the surgery is only performed by certain surgeons in countries with limited medical regulations (Mexico or Thailand). They react negatively to anybody who points out the red flags. In my opinion, if you are getting butthurt over criticism, you're not in a good place. It is more likely that you will be worse off after the surgery because permanent non-reversible incontinence isn't what you might think it is.

I look at the prices, and they don't seem unreasonable. $300 for a spa treatment is about what you would expect. $1,500 for a night might seem excessive, but it is all-inclusive they'll change your diaper. I don't think it's that excessive for an all-inclusive 24-hour experience. I'd rather travel, but they are not charging exorbitant prices.

That sounds a lot like the story that I'm writing currently. In my story, the protagonist is a grown man who has a growth disorder (I looked it up and a real thing). The mom gaslights her son in such a way that he ends up being trapped with a mother who won't let him grow up. The question becomes how they can escape. I can see a lot of influences in your writing, but you've done it in a way that makes it feel real. Most of your audience has experience with that struggle, and we know that it comes in waves. At first those waves were very high, and the troughs were very low. Eventually those waves leveled out and weren't quite as drastic. Samantha will have her own journey to go through, but Sarah has to process it while dealing with trauma. She will remember that lack of stress that she had while stuck in the crib. I suspect Lisa and Desi will end up 'babysitting' a few times in the next few years.

I had a pretty good idea of what decision Sarah would make, but that is only because I could see this from the perspective of a story winding down. In MW's credit, he did a great job portraying the decision that Sarah made within the confines of keeping a story engaging. I love the way that MW wrote Amanda's character. FTR- it is similar to how I deal with my students. I'm pragmatic, and I don't deal with the MH. Amanda is not ignoring the MH, but it's not the most important thing for her. The most important thing for Amanda is getting her a place to stay. He did a good job channeling a case manager.

My earliest memories come from when I was 4, but I might have been 3. All I know from before then is what I've been told. I suspect that Emilia will not remember much about her potty training experience later in life, but she probably remembers being treated like a baby right now. It had to be confusing for her when they traveled out of town without Sarah, and what lies Mom told her when she left. We also don't know anything about her dad, other than he is the type of guy who would sleep with a crazy woman the first night they met. At least he is stepping up to take care of the daughter that he never knew, but that family just bit a lot more than most families could handle. From a story standpoint, I don't think Sarah could choose Wisconsin. The story needs closure between Sarah and her friends. I'm wondering if she was tempted to put the pacifier in her mouth. Right now I think she is adverse to the baby items, but I suspect that might come back. Sidenote- I hope the Higgins take Lisa and Sarah on a nice trip for spring break. I don't think either one of them have been anywhere.

I thought you were saying that more adults wear diapers than kids, which I believe is true. I think your point is true, but the true numbers are exaggerated by the articles. As for the article- I don't think it's something that can be legislated. It is often asserted that kids can't go to Kindergarten if they aren't potty trained unless they have an IEP. I've never seen any evidence that this is true, and I know that school is compulsory from age 6. I'm a bit of an expert on IEPs, and lack of bladder control is not a qualifying disability. The district must offer an education to a 6-year-old, even if they still can use the toilet independently and it can't be in a special education classroom unless they have an IEP. IMO- we start school absurdly early in the USA. Most of my students will graduate as 17-year-olds, which means they started Kindergarten right after their 5th birthday, or while they were 4. Some didn't turn 5 until late November. BTW- that age gap doesn't improve over time. I'm sorry, but 13-year-olds are not ready for High school, even if they are bright. I was bright, but I was delayed. I just barely potty trained on my 5th birthday, which was when I could have started Kindergarten. Fortunately, my mom decided to keep me out until my 6th birthday. As it was- I was still behind my peers and didn't catch up until I was in 11th grade. Academically, I might have been okay, but I wasn't emotionally ready for any of it.

Traveling with diapers. I love to travel, but diapers are bulky. Half of my suitcase is devoted to diapers when I travel. It can be PITA to dispose of used diapers when I'm not at hotel. Other than that, everything is fine. Okay- leaks suck as well, which is why I don't like Pull-ups.

Much like Hollywood movies, and with the secret CPS reporter, I think I know which direction MW will go. There is one direction that opens up a whole other narrative, and the other provides some closure. The realism is what makes this story so good. There are very creative reaches that MW uses in this story, and those make sense when he is required to tell a story. In reality, she is faced with a very difficult decision, and it is made even worse because Sarah can't get out of her own head. I reread the section where she is weighing the pros and cons, and she is concerned about how the friend group will receive her. The four girls appear to have a very strong bond, and Lisa appears to be the tipster who rescued Sarah from a horrific fate. I think the three girls would be extremely relieved and proud of the role they played in saving Sarah's life, and Sarah will feel the same way once she gets more than a week out from her rescue. I fully expect that Lisa will have a hard time dealing with Sarah's acceptance of diapers, and Sarah and Samantha will process the baby treatment in their relationship. I suspect that Sarah's 'babyness' will be like a sin wave that gets tighter and settles closer to being little than hating it. Desi and Lisa need to make sure that Samantha is between them and elbow her in the ribs if she gets too inquisitive about Sarah's treatment.

I bet the numbers are close, but still favor Kindergartners. There are 4 million K's in the USA. A complete guestimate that 2% have more than 2 accidents a week, and therefore need diapers/Pull-ups would mean 80,000 K's who aren't potty trained. There are 3.2 Million grad students, which would mean 2.5% would need to be in diapers/Pull-ups. PS- I bet that number is higher than 1%.

I believe that goes against IDEA. I don't why you would have a law that contradicts existing law, but that's what happens when politicians want to get some attention.

One of the reasons that I try to complete my narratives before I start publishing it is that I got tired of writing myself into a corner. I had questions about the father in the story, but it didn't seem important to the story. I visualized Emilia as a four-year-old until I realized she was three years old. That would be an 11 year gap between the children, which would mean Sarah would know her father, and it would be hard to explain why she didn't reference him after all her troubles. The one takeaway from this is just how isolated Sarah has been all her life. She couldn't sleepover, and couldn't have friends come over to her house. I also have this vision of what Emilia's dad was thinking when he learned about Emilia. His wife must be the most understanding woman of all time considering that she was willing to take in Emilia and Sarah. Your husband, who you just had a child with had a short-term relationship with a crazy lady who didn't even tell him that she was pregnant. Now you are the mother of an infant, a preschooler, and possibly a high school student.

I didn't even think about that. I keep my students through their entire high school career, which would really suck for them if they hate me. Watching the emotional growth they show between the first day of high school is amazing. Freshmen are just dumb (sorry- but it's the truth. I was dumb as a Freshman). Sarah has been sheltered because her mom didn't let her grow up. Yet- she parentified Sarah by making her an indentured servant. I kind of know which decision will make. We all need closure on Lisa, Samantha, and Desi.