Dude84

I have. In the UK it tends to depend on the brand issued, as unless the prescription form specifies this they will just provide whatever they have available that contains the drug required. I always use the same pharmacy as they provide the shorter but fatter inhalers (as opposed to the taller but thinner kind) which are also more rounded and stick into my legs less, if I carry them in my pockets. This is the type of blue reliever inhaler I'm prescribed. I also have a brown preventer inhaler of the same design but obviously a different colour and drug.

It sounds a little erm, unsettling but I haven't bought new underwear in about three years. I used to even after I became incontinent but now don't bother - I can't walk and to be honest, rarely have sex so it doesn't get "stretched" much, just sits there as an extra layer and is in a perfectly usable condition. I have discarded some old ones which began to develop holes etc and haven't replaced them. I don't think I will do if/when I run out either. I don't advertise the fact I wear nappies but am not too concerned about people noticing.

Multiple Sclerosis. Probably. As in it fits best but at the time of the last MRI I had too few relapses to confirm the diagnosis (that has changed since).

Nottingham too here! (City area). It would be great to meet people, I tried to organise something via another thread a while ago but it became a nightmare for me, as processing all of that and the social side is difficult (autism). But still, would be good if someone else could organise it. I might even attend, if people can cope with my interesting conversational skills lol.

You sound so like me at school; I did surprisingly well in my exams despite doing no revision, as for, reasons, I just couldn't. I totally understand the problem of people not recognising it because you're too "high functioning" as I'm in that group too; however many of the traits are becoming more apparent now, I think because I'm struggling to "normalise" like I used to. Much of it in my case was invisible to many people, like how I verbalised but now for non-autism related reasons I'm having trouble speaking at all it seems to make it more obvious. Because of nuero problems I'm having I can't concentrate/think enough to make myself appear normal to people, and I was certainly forced to when I was younger, and I think it really held me back. I'm so much more productive when not having to verbalise or deal with people expecting me to be nuerotypical. Even now with everything else happening.

I have to lie down or at least be seated to do it as I can't walk, but I find the same - I require a visual reference otherwise it doesn't fit correctly. Am also autistic; do you have to apply the tapes in a specific order? I find if I don't I can't concentrate on it properly and have to start again.

I'm also autistic and can identify with much of this, though I do have a sex drive which is often confusing to be honest. (No idea why this is in italics). My likeing of nappies definitely has a sensory element I think, though when I was younger there was also the issue of me really, really hating toilets; too much to deal with, often unclean, random people in public ones etc.

When I was younger I had an interest in it from a structural perspective - road signs, how it worked, etc (not your typical route to driving probably), but it wained quite alot until I moved to an area with much poorer public transport than I was used to. I did then have some lessons in a standard manual-transmission car (back when I could operate that), but failed on my last test and could not afford to repeat it. Subsequently, I moved to areas with better public transport and lost interest again. However, recently I do have an interest in driving but there's no way medically I'll be able to for the foreseeable future. I could in theory drive a vehicle adapted with hand controls, but it would really need to be a drive-from-wheelchair type, fully automated and with some kind of mechanism to allow me to board and disembark from it, and I simply can't afford it. Even accepting that, I had a recent relapse including a seizure so I'm legally disallowed to drive for at least another three years. There is also the issue of my concentration which has suffered recently, and my inability to process some aspects of driving. I understand how to drive perfectly well, I understand the rules, how a car typically operates, and could probably give you the meaning of almost every single UK roadsign. However, I can't process road changes on busy junctions, roundabouts, etc, now - I find there's too much to process. I couldn't even do it as a passenger in a friend's car recently so it would be fundamentally dangerous for me to be in the driver's seat. Unless I can have the entire road network to myself, which isn't quite realistic!

This is something I struggle to process, but partly because of my situation; I could once walk but no longer and since using a wheelchair (the subject of wheelchairs generally not being something I had considered much previously) I've noticed that there is a crowd of people who fetishise wheelchair use. I know that there are other disability fetishes, as discussed in this forum but this one really stands out to me, probably because I use one for medical reasons. I certainly have received completely objectifying messages from people I wouldn't consider if they were the last person on Earth, on dating sites, back when I was single, not for reasons related to their objectification of me alone but because they just weren't "my type". However, I would have struggled to have a relationship with a person who had a disability fetish, I think, because I am disabled. In my head it's an absolute direct conflict. I have nothing against it per se, I just can't "process" it; though in terms of access to resources it may well annoy me (e.g. if I was delayed in access to a toilet because someone who used a wheelchair purely for entertainment was in there). I'm also autistic; I find it hard to process many things but anything where I can't initially perceive a resolution to an "absolute direct conflict" tends to remain that way. Curiously, because of that, using a wheelchair, and needing nappies I'm probably quite attractive to some with a disability fetish. If anyone is wondering, I did like wearing nappies before I became incontinent, but not from the use of them. I have a degenerative condition that's been investigated for sometime but is probably Multiple Sclerosis. It wasn't a choice to require them. However, in terms of general conversation with people I do tend to find myself drawn more to other wheelies, high-functioning autistics and incontinent people (though my boyfriend is none of those).

I don't have anything else to add as of the current date, I need more input on this... it would seem a little pointless to organise something at this stage.

There isn't any intention to visit a nightclub; what anyone attending does after meeting is entirely up to them, but this isn't part of the arrangement as such. It is possible that the subject may be mentioned... people aren't robots and I'm not planning some kind of dictatorial arrangement where anyone attending can only discuss certain subjects; however, I would hope that anyone attending would be intelligent enough to exercise discretion. :-)

Interesting, but it closes at 1800 on weekdays and 1730 on Saturdays, which is a bit early.

Update: This is open to people outside of Nottingham, just thought I'd mention that. It is a Nottingham meet as it is aimed at people in and around Nottingham, and is to be held somewhere in Nottingham, but is open to all. So, I have read various threads in this area of the forum relating to Nottingham and/or the Midlands and/or the East Midlands, and whilst there is one relating to Nottingham in a general sense I thought I'd get one started regarding specifically, arranging a Nottingham meet, rather than just general introductions, etc. I have been considering this for a while and I'm while I'm still uncertain as to whether it would happen, there seems to be enough people in Nottingham and surrounding areas to justify exploring the possibility, depending on there being sufficient interest and finding a suitable venue and time. In respect of this, it'd be great to here peoples thoughts on this. Aside from small-scale meets mainly comprising my own friends I have not arranged something like this before, so it is a bit of a leap in the dark for me; also while I'm quite proficient at communication I am a little wary of meeting new people (yes, I appreciate the inherent contradiction in suggesting this) so it does take me a little outside of my comfort zone. Current thoughts are: I know some people drive, but many of us (myself included) don't, so the venue would have to be somewhere accessible by reasonable (not one bus every two hours or the like) public transport; this probably entails the city centre but would prefer it to be a little outside of this area due to proximity to university etc. The common rule applying to meets as I've gathered from this forum would apply - obviously, feel free to be padded (being incontinent I certainly will be!) but this will be in a public place and so in respect of this and the safety and comfort of all involved, overtly wearing AB clothing etc should probably be avoided. The venue should be somewhere reasonably discreet in that it should have an area where all concerned could sit and not feel like they're in the middle of a corridor (sorry, not sure how else to word this!). However, there are other constraints too... I use a wheelchair so anywhere involving climbing stairs with no alternative access wouldn't be great. The law and rights of anyone involved must be respected; please don't bring anyone aged under 18 along or do anything illegal (e.g. cannabis) or do anything with anyone else that they don't want to do. I'm thinking of a sit down talk/eat type meet, so this is unlikely to be an issue, but still. Beyond this, i'm still open for suggestions concerning *where* to hold such a meet and the timing etc. I'm guessing most people would prefer this to be on a weekend to fit in with study/work requirements and it's probably not a great idea to start too late in case it would cause difficulty with other commitments or travel requirements. So yeah, that's it. :-) Please complete the poll so I can get a general idea of numbers and interest levels and post your thoughts below. Sorry if the wording of this sounds formal, I don't do informal written communication too well!

True, but there are still some ridiculous exclusions: Eye and dental charges originally introduced to pay for war expenditure; this was around the time of the Korea conflict, which I didn't know we were involved in. I guess it must still be raging. As someone who spends

I have used them several times now, it's great to find a UK based supplier that still retails plastic-backed Abriforms, amongst others. It would be helpful if they stocked more accessory items though, such as bedmats - currently have to acquire these from a different supplier which is somewhat annoying.

Absolutely. I was once summarily kicked from their then IRC chat (it moved to an in-house proprietary server, then moved back to Blitzed sometime later) and banned from the site, without explanation. Upon querying this, a moderator then abruptly unbanned me and stated that he had banned me because he found some "nasty stuff" about me on the internet (though he would not specify what this "stuff" was), but had since realised that it didn't relate to me at all, but someone with a similar name. No apology whatsoever was ever issued though. I am still banned from Adisc, for another quite pathetic and ironically, childish reason - apparently I'm "too sarcastic" - they don't like contradictory opinions on that site, they don't like people causing "drama" (even if such "drama" is just to disagree, even with justification and citing sources) in forum threads if it's against the popular opinion however so that may be prevailing at the time, and they do nothing noticeable about bullying or discrimination such as homophobia and vile threats received in message content or their IRC channel. Absolutely. Adisc was founded as TBDL, indeed I knew the two persons originally responsible for this, and back when it was TBDL the atmosphere seemed far more congenial and reasonable. Now, the administration of that site is probably a case study in human psychology in itself! And there are somewhat darker elements to their decisions, processes and rationale - the suspicion of people who fail their much lauded "background checks" - in reality, searches of public Facebook profiles, via google etc (as they have no actual power or authority to enact actual background checks such as a CRB) - because they have reasonably chosen, not to show their entire life to the world via Facebook. I like many people consider it reasonable to use privacy controls, otherwise you may as well just stand in a city centre and shout about your life loudly to anyone who passes by. They also believe that they have some kind of jurisdiction over individuals private lives beyond their website; I know of two former members, both of which were banned for "sharing a hotel room" as one was 16, but under eighteen. This "incident" happened in the UK, the age of consent here has been sixteen for all orientations for over 14 years and so even if sexual matters occured, if they were consensual there's no issue here. Further, as far as I'm aware, they did just share a hotel room and nothing more. They are worse than the government, any government. If you read into their terms of service, they state that if you sue or issue proceedings against them, they will basically publish anything and everything they know about you on the internet in a publically acessible location. This is illegal and probably blackmail (a criminal offence in itself) here, and breaks British and EU Data Protection laws, and probably those of several other countries too. Adisc seem to have no regard for the law or common decency when it contradicts their own sense of superiority, however.

Ah, fair enough.

Within the city or somewhere out in the shire?

I'm in Nottingham, would be great to meet some more people. :-)

If we're using 30 as a the limit for young, then yeah... I'm young and incontinent, though I've been incontinent since my 20s due to a combination of factors, best summarised as a congenital birth defect combined with an acquired injury and a TIA. Happy to chat to anyone.

I never do, and am a urinary incontinent male who wears 24/7. I have never found any that are comfortable for me, though some of this may be due to being a full-time permanent wheelchair user and consequently sat in a reasonably fixed position for long periods of time (conversely though, have found that "cloth backed" nappies irritate my legs). Additionally, I only have a relatively average sized two-bedroom flat, and I'm not running heating just to dry plastic pants on radiators visible for all to see. However, I also use the best nappies that I can source at present, which are currently Abriform X-Plus medium (plastic backed, sourced via import) and through a long process of experimnentation have determined the usual length of time I can go before changing (and avoiding leaks) though this depends on how I am in terms of my health on any given day, and what I'm doing (e.g. general hanging around the flat vs. out drinking late with friends). Different people obviously have different experiences and requirements, and yes I do leak occasionally... If I'm drinking frequently and haven't changed in a while, or if I fall asleep on a bus and forget (as happened around a month ago), but no preventative method is entirely certain, short perhaps of spending the entire day, literally, sat on a toilet.