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It's definitely difficult at times @Forced2wet, but I'm embracing the role when I can. I'm definitely getting better at working in things for us to do together, and making sure that everyone is happy instead of struggling with both sides like we used to. We are more open about communication and when baby wants more over less. It's not an easy road, but it's getting better as we continue. We're in this so we are working to make the most of it so everyone is happy.

I'm a newish mommy too. I've been the mommy for almost two years now so you can definitely ask me anything. The best advice I've found is to communicate. Sometimes it's very difficult for the baby to talk about what he wants to do and how he wants to do it. Mine didn't want to be in charge, as many babies want to be surprised and taken care of, but we discovered if he shares his ideas of what he wants to do, I am still in control and dictate what we do so he doesn't really have control at all. It's important to take it slow and continually discuss what is wanted and what the limits are of both parties. It may be difficult and things may come to a head in ways you don't like (lots of times for us it becomes a tiff because we aren't on the same page and are equally confused of what each wants) but talking through it is key. This website helps a lot, both talking to parents and babies because they've experienced it in all sorts of ways. My baby likes to be punished and get into trouble, which is where my trouble lies because I'd rather be a nurturing and nice mommy over an angry and punishing mommy, but we make it work for us by working to combine the two so everyone's happy.

Thanks again everyone for your feedback.

For me I had no clue about the lifestyle until I met my boyfriend (still current, going on 2 years). We met online through a mutual online friend, no forums or specific websites, just social networks. We talked and instantly fell into a rhythm and liked each other quickly. He didn't tell me he was an AB until after about 3 months. He wanted to be honest and at first I was really shocked. I had only seen stuff like that on television and to an extreme so I wasn't sure what he wanted. I couldn't get the fact that he wanted to be a baby and wear diapers out of my head. It just didn't click for me, not at first.

Thanks, this is a good idea and as we are growing within the AB relationship this is an option.

The one I have read was: Ageplay from Diapers to Diplomas by Paul Rulof It has good basic information and a contract template in the back.

Will your book be available for the Kindle? I have another book dealing with this topic and would read yours, especially if it were available for digial copy. Thanks for the heads up!

A switch? Just curious. Thanks for the confidence. Going slow is key, slow and steady, the next step arrives organically and you'll know when it's right.

I totally understand, my guy gets like this too. We do slow down and I am getting better at not getting scared and nervous. We do take it slow and have made great progress in incorporating what he wants with what I want.

Feel free to PM me about this, I am a new mommy as well and I can go through my history with you if you'd like to discuss how I was introduced and how we went about it. You are wonderful for wanting to look into his wants and see where you fit in.

I think you can have both. You can direct and have a daddy. To the extent at which you do both is up to you, but all these people here are respectable and have 'regular' lives. You can have both your dreams, you just have to look inside and see what exactly it is you want.

hkc123: I am really glad that you sent me the links to your posts. This one is extremely helpful, so many good tips and suggestions. I am going to attempt some of these this weekend. We are going to go shopping for crayons and coloring books and maybe even watch some kids movies. Thanks so much everyone.

I am a new mommy as well. Feel free to PM me. I do not have people to talk to aside from my baby and this forum. I know what it's like to need an outlet to chat to.

Thanks everyone. We have discussed it as well as taken some steps that have made us closer together and even better together. We have started with him wearing in front of me, something that we weren't ready for earlier. It was totally fine and led to us being even closer and more in touch with our needs. We appreciate your feedback, it has been helpful for us getting over this obstacle and coming out closer on the other side. I'm so glad he showed me this community because it is difficult to talk about this stuff with just anyone since they don't really understand it.

As you know I'm new to it too. For the sexual aspect we aren't having sex yet but we do pleasure each other. When it's his turn I touch him while talking to him about being punished. I say things like 'you're so naughty' or 'such a wet boy' 'just like a little baby' and phrases like that. As for humiliation I talk about taking him to the store and making him wet in front of everyone. Or making him put items in the cart that he will need because he's such a bad boy. I talk about hanging his wet underwear outside so everyone can see, so they will know he's a bad boy, and we talk about him having to wear a diaper full time [he doesn't wear now that I live with him, he may at some point but is too shy right now]. I let him lead sometimes to tell me what he wants, he will say like 'tell me' or 'what will you do' and I take it from there. I have read some stories here but it's hard to tell if he would like it.

Dr_J: Thanks, we are trying to talk through it. We seem to have a trend of 'heavy Saturdays' where we work through our issues. I sort of hate it because it's a day we get together and I'd rather not have it contain dealing with heavy, stressful stuff, but it needs to be done sometime. I know he's tired and I need to be accepting of that, it's just hard right now. We are working on it and your input really helps. confusedmommy: It is difficult for us to have play time because he's so tired. We have sort of deferred it to the weekends, which is usually sexual play time with me talking to the baby. My problem right now is that he is relaxed more or less, by me helping or him just being exhausted and it feels like he leaves me in the dust. Like he can just switch into sleep mode and I'm still awake because I helped him. I want him to be snuggly and cuddly and he doesn't have the energy for it. He might hold my hand but that's about it, it's hard for me to feel comforted while he's shut down and sleeping.

I would say talk lots. He might not be able to tell you a lot straight out, mine usually wants me to ask questions and we go from there. It isn't easy to get all the details on the table at once, it's more of a process at least for us it was. I know talking about it can be difficult, but with time and persistence you two can find what he needs and when he needs it.

I too have low self esteem and no matter how much he says I'm doing it right or it's good, it doesn't always feel like I am to me. I did feel bad about punishing, but we just go as far as talking and threats, no actual punishments. That helps a lot because I can talk about it freely without actually doing it. He's still shy about wearing with me, and we have been working through it. I understand that you don't want to punish for an accident, so maybe turn it around and show you still love him despite his accident. I've realized that sometimes when my boy acts out he's really looking for love and attention. So sometimes when he wants to be punished I instead love him and hold him, and give him kind words so he knows he's loved. Then I might mention some punishment because he keeps asking about it, but I think the love is important, at least for us. I hope I've helped at least a little, we can talk more if you'd like. I think our experiences are similar.

I've posted before about how my boyfriend is a baby and I have assumed the mommy role. At first I had problems with the word mommy, but since I'm doing better in the role and we are doing ok. My recent areas that need work are: 1. He works a lot, like 12-14 hour days and this means that we rarely have time to play. We usually just hang out and watch tv, make dinner, and do adult things. We go to bed around the same time every night, but we don't have play time before bed because he's tired. I understand that he's tired. He says he will have more energy for playing during the weekend but I feel like it's difficult to push all that energy to the end of the week. 2. Due to his working a lot his baby side gets tired and cranky. This leads to him not being able to sleep during the night, which just makes us both grumpy. When he can't sleep I ask him what's wrong and assume the nurturing role but he can't tell me what he needs and just ends up squirming away from me. This frustrates me because I want to help him, so I wake up and am attentive to his needs. Once he's comfortable and able to sleep I'm still awake because I felt the need to be awake for him. So I am sort to struggling with tending to the baby and then needing the husband/daddy role. I want to help him and am glad that I can but I also need him to help me sleep and it's not really working out right now. I know he's exhausted, but just because I don't have to get up for work doesn't mean I don't need a good night's sleep. I'll ask for help, like 'could you rub my back so we can sleep together?' and he will nod yes but then won't follow through. I don't want to be critical of him because I know he's tired, but I don't sleep well once he's asleep and snoring. Instead he has me roll over and hold him/spooning which is ok but it's hard for me to sleep like that because I need to be held and comforted too. Anyone else have something like this? I'm really trying not to acuse him of anything, and just work through this properly. I want us to be able to find a middle ground but it's really difficult because he needs sleep and I want time with him.

Thank you for your response. I apologize for taking so long to get back to you. I think it would be helpful to chat about our stories, they seem very similar. I appreciate that you took time to respond. It is taking some time to get into it all, but I am working on it.

Thanks, I have thought about it, and am actually getting off on him getting off on it. It is a great experience. Thanks for you comment, it really helped. It helps that we are working on this, and making progress, much easier to get into it now than it was earlier.

Thank you for your links, I am sorry I haven't gotten to responding soon. I appreciate your efforts to help me and I will most definitely read them and take from them what I can.

Thank you so much for your responses. You are right and this will get 'easier' once we can cut out the long distance aspect. We both agree that it will become more manageable for both of us once we can be in the same room, talking face to face. We have covered a lot of what you're suggesting, that it will take time and we must go slow and take time to understand each other. I know I have a lot of growing to do in the category of sex, but I am glad that he is willing to learn with me and we can experience this together. I have looked into what websites he frequents, and we have discussed it. I know there will be new levels to explore once we are together and we will discuss that when the time comes. We are learning together and I am open to what he has to say, just as he is to what I have to say. We have discussed my lack of experience and we have made significant progress since I have started posting here. Thanks so much for your support, I will read your entries frequently to remember your advice and incorporate your wonderful ideas.

Yes we do talk about it frequently and are getting better at getting to the heart of the matter, where our emotions and feelings are and what we are struggling with. Thanks for your response.

Thank you for your response. We are going slow and discussing how we both feel, when there seems to be a point of tension. We do not do it 24/7 and to my current knowledge he doesn't want it full on all the time, but more hints that I know about it, so we can feel more connected. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Thanks again.