Dill_Pickle

When I was reading ABKingdom, the practice was definitely a good refresher for my schoolboy french. Just be careful to remember that some of those words are going to be pretty strong for ordinary frenchmen and women... Dill Pickle

OK, I did some research. See http://www.urologyhealth.org/adult/index.c...03&topic=36 to find out why this is going to need medical treatment...it won't go away on it's own. You also need to consider the possibility of a UTI, given that the symptoms weren't immediate. Dill Pickle...

I'll ditto that...wetset is what it says it is...and has been around for years...no idea if the mag is any good or not, tho... They do have a forum, at least halfway decent...just go "direct to message boards"

I thought I recognized your name...... OK, it seems someone has been trying to teach you abstinence only, but your hormones have other ideas. Not having sex (or admitting to or permitting yourself to have) of any kind until you are married seems likely to produce the same kinds of results it did for the catholic priests, or, at the very least, pregnant girlfriends. The truth is, NORMAL PEOPLE NEED SEX and if they don't get it, the usual result is they go nuts in one way or another. With your diapers, you are seeing exactly this: You are going a little nuts trying not to use them. As the others have said here, give yourself permission to wear and enjoy diapers. If you can't or won't do this, then I strongly suggest you seek some professional counseling in the matter -- by someone with professional credentials and not with church credentials. I say this, because as far as the pros are concerned, diapers are only a problem if they are interfering with the rest of your functioning...which I would say they are. I personally suggest you make yourself wear diapers 24/7 (and use them exclusively) for a week or two. Do all normal activities during this time. When you get tired of them, get a box, put all of your diapering stuff in it, label it something innocuous, like "laundry", and keep that box. As you know, you will want it again in a few months. If you get asked about them, tell people you have IBS (irritable bowel syndrome) or cracked up your motor bike, and are waiting for things to heal inside. But if you ensure your diapers keep you dry, you won't be asked. Oh, and buy yourself the right size diapers. Your nervousness is a dead giveaway....people who need diapers aren't nervous in the slightest when buying them --- they have done it too often to be that way. Note that most of us guys masturbated long before we had girlfriends -- and it's no act of disloyalty or anything. Your GF, if she's good to you, will want to help. Also, even in a committed relationship, if the degree of need for sex isn't exactly matched between partners, the one partner can masturbate to reduce the pressure on the other partner. And by the way, your chances of finding a partner are much increased if you are happy inside, and don't need to "cling" onto whatever female thing comes your way. Also, your doc and shrink will also recommend excercise...including sex...

Well, when I wake up in the morning, the first place I go is the toilet for a wee...because yes, the urge is pretty strong then...I think that is natural...as I'm not incontinent unless I want to be..

You just had a motorbike accident, but that's not important to the discussion of why you've suddenly lost control? Methinks you best do some research into torn muscles...they may need some help healing -- I mean it's a great excuse when somebody finds out you are wearing padding, but you may not want to HAVE to wear padding constantly...

Hell yes, that kind of stuff can really mess you up....and set you up with automatic reactions that have nothing to do with your current situation.....and keep you from reacting well in the present, too...

First, hetero/bi/homosexuality are just labels for extremes...kind of like negroes and white people.... you can identify some who are definitely in either category, but the truth is there is a continuum, with lots of shades of gray in between. Second, when the Germans had guys in close quarters with no women on the U-boats, during WWII, lots of guys ended up doing homosexual things who would go home to their wives...if the only sex available is guys, then that is the sex they got....and for a crazy example, there is a species of fish that will switch sex if the balance of male/female is too far off center...Finally, you should go see "Brokeback Mountain" as an example of how the lying about sex was very destructive. As for all this gay bashing and "N" bashing....I see that as a far more serious problem than whether or not you are a pure heterosexual or not...ask yourself if you wouldn't be on the other end of the stick if your "friends" found out you were visiting a diaper sex forum or liked wearing diapers....and think about whether you need to move out of that circle of friends. I went to a shrink once, and told him about my proclivities in the diaper department....he and all of his successors have spent almost no time on the subject, the depression and the crying fits were far more important. gay bashing and "N" bashing aren't good for your mental health, and can land you in serious trouble with the law...if you like, you could test my assertion by talking to a professional shrink about your sexuality and your bashing, and see which one the professional thinks is more important...

Ummm, a little bit ago, RCDiaperboy posted a link to something called "xpl.wmf" that set off my virus warnings from AVG..then he left... Can't decide if he was being malicious or not....you may have more information on that than I do...maybe he was the one uploading the virus... Dill Pickle

Turtlepins: I am a scientist, by way of credentials I have a degree in engineering and one issued patent. Relativity works very well in terms of the parts that can be tested. Yes, there is some argument about what happens at large scales, mainly because we have no real data. All of the "creation science" websites I have visited have been excellent examples of the adage: "Figures don't lie, but liars figure" By this I mean, they will cite a number of examples of where radioactive dating has given the wrong age for something as it's best guess. What they don't tell you is that if you assume reasonable error bounds on the measurements, and propagate those through the calculations, you find out that the correct age for something is within the error bounds of the calculation. A better argument is to ask about the meaning of the word "day" in the bible. For example, even in english, we talk about the day of the horse and buggy, or say some piece of obsolete equipment was state of the art in it's day. Finally, if god is almighty, he can also create the world to look as old or as young as he wants to...and maybe he did that just yesterday, but we don't know that since he gave us all memories of the day before yesterday...

As alchill states she is new to this, I strongly recommend to her not to do anything permanent to herself. Because of the infection risk, I think she should avoid catheters. I think the reversible training route would be best for her -- she can experience the problematic side on her own, and decide whether to put up with it or not. Also, losing control only when diapered has considerable advantages -- I hike, and diapers would chafe, and I canoe, and you really don't want a diaper on when you jump into the river to swim (and often, pee). Alchill should wear diapers 24/7 (or maybe just daytime 7 -- wet beds are rather unromantic to fix at three in the morning) and relax. Try a hypnosis tape (socalab, warpmymind, DPF sell them, but DPF otherwise stinks) to help with the relaxation, and make sure not to pee except in the diapers. Additionally, this works best, both from a body training standpoint and the standpoint of not having her protection leak, if she pees as soon as she feels the urge, preferably telling herself that whatever she is doing at the moment is more important than finding a place or position to pee in. I also think the walking outside, diapered, and having just drunk around a quart of water idea is good. The idea is to stay away from the bathroom until the body just HAS to pee, then to use the diaper. I frequently do this when I am walking out, alone after dark, except for the dog and the occasional car. I'll add that Alchill should definitely make sure to drink water before and while getting on-line here, and be sure to stay seated when the water goes through her. Finally, the diapers you find in US drugstores are universally crummy. Reputable on-line suppliers include Magic Medical, XP Medical, ABAIP. HDIS you may want to avoid, as you will get junk mail. To make my depends "maximum protection" really work, I have to add a Serenity/Tena ultimate pad to the front of my diaper, and then it will take a full-bladder pee. And yes, stuff like job interviews is a strong motivation for being able to NOT wear diapers. One of our members was depantsed at work after one of her coworkers saw her purchasing her protection. If you are discovered at work, just act like you HAVE to do it while your Dr figures out what is going on...or tell people you have a UTI... Dill Pickle

You can often find me and others in chat...but ignore anyone who PM(private messages) you in chat without asking first...those are the horny net Geeks (HNG)s and all they do is drive-by masturbation

Wow, long time no see... Anyway, I think the way of looking at the situation is to remember that while most of us live better with romantic partners, it is also true that we should be prepared to take care of ourselves alone. In your case, fulfill the fantasy with yourself. Anything else is going to require a *lot* of consultation as to what your wife feels is acceptable...or seriously keeping secrets as to what happened when you were in Reno...where it is legal to hire a Domme to carry out your fantasy...just be prepared for a frank conversation about what you are looking for when hiring her.. Dill Pickle

When I was with a GF from hell, about 10 years back, I found myself wearing diapers to help with the depression in SPITE of her...I kept the diapers in the trunk of the car, which worked really well as when I was away from her, I just hid one on my person and took it into whatever bathroom... It worked really well as a private space completely inaccessible to her...in the current life, there's enough junk in the front of the car that the satchel with the diapers underneath is completely invisible...and a zippered satchel or suitcase isn't a bad idea as a container, as it conceals and passes off as "oh, a suitcase", and people won't go into them -- they are your space. I think I also really started to accept myself and my need for diapers when my shrinks proceeded to ignore that issue (though I specifically told them about it) and tried to help me deal with the GF... Not that the shrinks haven't occasionally reminded me to keep my purchasing habits private... I'd also say that I have given the hiding part some thought...good places to hide padding include spaces behind or under drawers...if you are doing your own laundry, only you have any business opening the drawers in your dresser... When moving, I labeled the boxes with my sexual toys "laundry"...something innocuous and generally uninteresting... I also currently have some diapers in a tote in the crawlspace, too, though that is really a little too inconvenient...

Wow! Acts like a preacher.... You need a better married sex life....that's major league rabbit behavior... You know that movie "Brokeback Mountain"? Better go see it, because you are starting to live it...and the ending is uglier than sin... double lives like that are hard on people, even if you get lucky and don't catch anything from this...

You can create that trigger if you want to.... I'll ditto on checking with the Dr, making sure you don't have a UTI or something...you drinking enough water? Not drinking can actually make the wetting situation worse.. As for non-drug methods, I'll mention a bedwetting alarm as a way to train yourself to awaken when you start to wet....pretty cheap, and keeps the bedding dry... I've also had a wet night when I was diapered and really tired...and also want to keep my wetting limited to the 50% or so of the time I am wearing padding and out of my bed...

Rhezz, sounds like you put too much cold liquid in your gut too quickly....it's called shocking your gut... I've done it before, drinking cold drinks on hot summer days when swimming hard at the pool. Dill Pickle

Well, the problem is that a gelding needs his sheath cleaned periodically...that is the sheath on his remaining bit of male equipment....

I ride, but distinctly casually...the GF is quite serious, though, and rides 3-4x per week. Dill Pickle

Morning Voltz....I'm curious if youw would tell us about the girl you regret telling, and why? Dill Pickle

Not incontinent, but the diapers helped me through a GF from hell....and yes, they make me feel better, even if I don't use them.... Dill PIckle

Not to diss you, but I have found poise to be cheap and inferior compared to Tena/Serenity, and the best combination for me is a Depends protective underwear and Tena/Serenity ultimate pee pad...holds about two one-pint pees without much stress at all... I don't have much use for Tena/Serenity "discreet activewear".. Dill Pickle

If your diapers aren't getting in the way of the rest of your life, your (assumed good) shrink will ignore it. My shrink and I use the amount of need I feel for my diapers as an indicator of how well things are going.

I'll second the advice -- if you can't sleep, bring yourself to a sexual climax...it helps.. What I haven't seen suggested for this gal is that she wear diapers during the day, so she gets used to the feelings and therefore less excited when wearing her diaper at night. Dill Pickle

Umm, wow, this changes a lot....I think all you need to do is have your primary doctor prescribe you a sterile foley cath, so your life ends because you can't breathe and not because you got a bad UTI...and I'm surprised you don't have a shrink in your life...or you might want to try the dandelion root or the flomax. And, as you are already in diapers, for god's sake, just stop trying to hold things back...that's what makes you squirm. Either that squirming, or the change in your breathing is what makes people look, and if you relax about it, people will notice. If you can't stop being nervous, then by all means get some hypnosis to help you notice it less. P.S. If your doctor won't talk to you about this stuff, call your local hospice, and get a new doctor.