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Based on your criteria, it sounds like Bambino is probably the vendor you should check out. They have sizes ranging up to X-Large, I believe, and they offer three different "cute designs" with their Classico, Teddy, and Bellissimo products respectively. Their bulk/case prices are actually VERY reasonable, but I'd suggest you try a couple sample packs out first, even through they're more expensive on a "unit basis". No sense over-committing and taking the chance of being stuck with 40 diapers you don't really like. Their site is located here: www.bambinodiapers.com

Is that over the counter or prescription? I haven't told anyone I'm wearing diapers on a relatively full-time basis, so I'd like to avoid spilling the beans to a doctor if possible.

It comes with the territory, I guess. I have pretty sensitive skin myself, so it's not uncommon for me to get some sort of rash on almost a weekly basis. I was actually going to start a topic, but this thread came along at an opportune time. Does anyone know of a good alternative to Desitin? It's the only product I've used that actually WORKS for quickly clearing up my rashes. Unfortunately, I don't really dig smelling like a beached cod in the sun (primary ingredient being cod liver oil). Has anyone had equally decent results with another product that is less "aromatic"? I'm not kidding: I seriously have to shoo away my pet cats every time I smear on some Desitin. It's really that bad...

Here's one possible starter list, but others will likely chime in: - 1-2 containers of premium baby powder (Johnson & Johnson's is my personal fave) - 1 container of baby wipes (Pampers brand with "Baby Fresh" scent is divine, IMHO...) - 1-2 cloth (yes...cloth) diapers + 2-3 pairs of plastic pants with "babyish" prints. Fetware.com or eBay's "Mommy's Baby Pants" are good sources and have a variety of really cute options, if you dig that kind of stuff. - 1-2 NUK #5 (i.e., adult-sized) pacifiers. This is one of the most common AB "accoutrements" alongside diapers. You can find them on a variety of online sources. - 1-2 adult-sized baby bottles. Fetware.com carries one that is "super-sized" and affixed with a NUK #5 nipple. - 1-2 adult-sized onesies. Again: Fetware.com has several options, as does Mommy's Baby Pants - some in neutrals/pastels and some with babyish prints. There's a littany of other products and clothing available (e.g., cribs, bibs, bonnets, PJs, etc...) if you REALLY get into it, but those items above should be sufficient to initially "feel things out" and get in touch with your baby side a bit. Good luck!

OK. I know I'm a relative neophyte to this forum, but I've been seeing an AWFUL lot of angst percolating the boards over the past few days. I realize that the Internet is an open invitation to voice one's opinion, but is it REALLY too much to ask that folks refrain from directing personal attacks at individual forum members by name? This thread was reasonably civilized until the finger pointing started, and this vitriol is not only counterproductive to the course of this thread -- but also seriously undermines the reputation DD holds as a beacon of rational discourse on the AB/DL lifestyle. Quite ironically, these sophomoric "pissing contests" only lend credence to those that view this community and this lifestyle with suspicion and contempt. You're doing nothing but perpetuating these stereotypes, while simultaneously alienating those of us who visit DD for its balanced and generally even-keeled perspectives. Disagreeing with opinions is fine if done in a manner that does not infringe on personal dignities. Targetted mud slinging, name calling, and personal attacks on the other hand are not fine. Please try to maintain some respect for your fellow community members, even if you disagree with them. It's this distinction that sets DD apart from the more "undesirable" sites where this type of behavior is tolerated. We're (you're) better than that. **awaits inevitable evisceration for adding fuel to the fire...**

Exciting, isn't it? It's like riding a scary rollercoaster the first time, not knowing whether to feel terrified, exhilarated, or a little of both... Backindiapers provided a GREAT response; however I'll add this: It really depends on what type of experience you're reaching for. If you're aiming for a really "babyish" feel, Bambino Teddys or Bellissimos are incredibly functional, of impeccable quality, and just about the cutest, most authentically regressive design ever introduced into the AB/DL scene. I've said "immaculate" in the past when referring to Bambinos, and I really do mean it. If you want a diaper that is very absorbent, fits snugly, and is capable of "folding over" as you described, I'd suggest the Dry 24/7. These diapers are pure white with only a discreet wetness indicator tarnishing the exterior, and they're extremely comfortable for the "long haul". The sizes tend to run on the large size, so a small would probably fit you like a typical medium from another brand. The Dry 24/7 waistband is pretty high - extending almost to the navel, so you could easily fold over the top without compromising absorbency or fit. A word of caution, though: Several folks (myself included) have had issues with the Dry 24/7 tapes slipping/popping when wearing for extended periods of time, as well as sometimes unpredictable leaks due to how they're cut. Just tape them snugly, but loosely, and be wary of flooding them with too much vigor, and you should be good to go! Hope that helps. Good luck, and enjoy your "first time". Remember: There'll never be another one!

Good Lord. "Wise fwom 'yo gwave!!!1" indeed. This has to be an Easter joke. HAS to be... The timing is just too coincidental.

Good for you, Bucko! It's always nice to hear stories of folks who've been able to share this secret with others with no negative repercussions. I imagine it's a huge weight off your shoulders! Just make sure to attend to her needs in return!

Understood, but one man's burden is another's indulgence. Personally, I can't imagine the challenge in dealing with full-on incontinence, even though I've been 24/7 for three months. With "functional incontinence" - as programs such as the 12-Month Program reinforce, at least the subject can CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE whether or not the hassle is worth the commitment. Futhermore, the effects are extremely gradual, so the subject is able to slowly acclimate and adapt to changes in his/her routine. If the inconvenience begins to outweigh the "benefits," the effects are easily reversible. No harm - no foul, if you will. If I woke up tomorrow with 100%-uncontrollable incontinence, I'm really not sure how I would react. Part of me would relish it, but the rest of me recognizes the substantial burden it places on one's routines. Again -- with gradual changes, it's much easier to make a series of little adjustments to manage the risks - versus having to learn EVERYTHING all at once. Yikes... It really perplexes me when people are willing to make irreversible physical changes to their bodies (e.g., surgery) to achieve the SAME RESULTS as conscious willpower alone (e.g., 12-month Program). Why remove the choice altogether and risk the chance of permanent regret later on? Never understood it... Those with true incontinence definitely have my sympathy. It's nice to have the choice to proceed or not.

Take a gander at the pinned topic above (12-Month Program), and you'll find the source a lot of us have used/are using. There's really no quick fix for achieving incontinence, aside from some extremely controversial surgeries that you'd have to be mad to even consider. The best approach is consistent practice over a long period of time that - slowly but surely - causes your sphincter muscles to become lazier and lazier. I've been on this program for going on three months, and I'm definitely noticing small changes in how my bladder feels before a voiding, often not even noticing it until it contracts. Still -- I wouldn't say I'm "incontinent" so much as "desensitized" to the anxiety of going whenever, wherever. I expect I'll experience other changes the longer I progress. Everyone's body is different, so some will take to this training more quickly than others. The biggest obstacles to overcome, however, are any subconscious mental blocks or apprehensions you may have. Toilet training is a deeply-ingrained habit, and it's not easy to just "forget" these lessons on a subconscious level, even if you convince yourself consciously time-and-again. For the record, the 12-Month program discusses everything I've said and much, MUCH more. I'd suggest you start there. SOME people (read: very few) have also had varied levels of success with hypnosis files (check out warpmymind.com), but - unless you're in the lucky 10-20% of the population that is naturally susceptible to hypnosis, they're unlikely to have any effect.

Hi, all. I'm not a very active AB, but I'm interested in procuring a NUK5, some quality cloth diapers/plastic pants, and possibly 1-2 generic onesies to obfuscate the telltale diaper "bulge" when I'm out-and-about. I've checked out a couple sites (Fetware among them), but I've never ordered AB clothing online. For those "in the know", what's the best choice if discreet shipping is someone's most important criterion? I'm talking no labels, no subtly kinky company names, no images - NOTHING that might suggest the contents within. For the record, I don't mind paying companies slightly higher prices for the same items if they're as obsessed with discretion as me. Recommendations? Thanks in advance...

See? And people wonder why some folks laud the convenience and practicality of adult diapers. That'll learn 'em!

Yep. I'm right there with ya, dude. My past was so checkered, they couldn't even issue me an interim clearance - LOL! I had to wait well over a year for all the red tape to clear - all the while praying my employer wouldn't eighty-six my ass. God...what a ginormous P-I-T-A... I won't disclose what clearances I've held (generally considered a breach of security), but they had to dig pretty deep for a couple of them. Thankfully, I've never had the misfortune of being subjected to a lifestyle polygraph, so I've so far managed to skirt around disclosing my...uh...alternative interests, if you will. I did the same as you in my interview, although I don't even think I paused for more than a second before responding "no" to the "blackmail" question. I'd planned for that contingency well in advance. Back then, it was arguably a slight fib, but I've since come to terms with it over the years. If I'm ever grilled about it in the future, I'll actually be able to say "no" and believe it myself...

OK. I guess this is the right place to air out my observations of this product. The Dry 24/7 is - without a doubt - the MOST absobent product I've ever used, bar none. I've found that if I'm away from the house for an extended period of time, I'll usually reach for the 24/7 over a Bambino or other product due to its higher absorbency. It's also extremely comfortable for daily wear, as the outer plastic shell is much softer than competing products, so the leg gathers don't irritate the skin as much. If you have trouble with contact or friction rashes as I often do, this is an excellent diaper to use while you're recovering. It's also a GREAT night diaper. You can easily drink 40-50oz of fluid right before bed and have no worries about leaks during the night. That is - if it works the way it's SUPPOSED to... I'd say that, at least HALF of the times I use a 24/7 for more than one wetting or wear longer than 3-4 hours, I encounter one, several, or even ALL of the following: - Slipping of bottom set of tapes, which either pop off entirely or travel just enough to incessantly scratch against your leg. Tightness/tension seems to have no discernable effect. They seem to wander regardless of how loose or tight they're fastened. - Slipping of top set of tapes (rarer), potentially enough to tear the underlying plastic shell. - Separation/split of interior padding from the outer shell near the crotch, which causes SAP to copiously glob out of the diaper while standing or changing. This normally only happens with multiple wettings that are concentrated in the front of the diaper -- which, for men, is a BIG problem due to anatomy. - And the MOST annoying of all: Inexplicably random and complete failure of the diaper to contain a wetting WHATSOEVER while seated or lying down. This appears to be a problem related to fitting, but I must have tried 10 different fitting techniques, and I STILL haven't found the "magic bullet" that eliminates this possibility. It could also have to do with how the core of each particular diaper happens to swell and shift over time, which varies with each use. The leaks almost ALWAYS trickle out of the side wings or the area where the front of the diaper meets your thighs, and there is absolutely ZERO warning until it happens. I'm conflicted. This is a GREAT product, but I feel like I'm rolling the dice every damn time I put one on. If anyone has any suggestions for avoiding these issues, I'm all ears. I don't think it's too much to ask that a product claiming "most absorbent diaper" actually do its job consistently -- and not just whenever the stars align... Grr...

Bambino Teddy: My fave! Best price-to-performance ratio I've seen (next to possibly Molicares), IMMACULATE product quality (NEVER, EVER had one fail unexpectedly - unlike Dry 24/7s), and just so gosh-darned cute! I tend to alternate between Secure X-Plus, Bambinos (Bianco/Teddy/Bellissimo), and Dry 24/7s depending on where I plan to be and for how long. It's a "Teddy Day" today though!

WarpMyMind.com is probably your best bet for variety, but the quality can be hit-or-miss. Conversely, the SoCalAB system is probably the best I've seen quality-wise, but their menu of hypnosis files isn't nearly as extensive. Depends on what you're looking for, I suppose... So you know, only a small percentage of people are legitimately susceptible to hypnosis. I've been listening to a range of diaper hypnosis files for YEARS, and they've never had an appreciable effect on me. These days, I mainly just listen to them for relaxation and reinforcement. In terms of stimulating (or - more appropriately - "simulating") temporary incontinence through hypnosis, I've pretty much thrown in the towel. They don't work for me, but your mileage may vary. Good luck!

Although I would NEVER openly endorse the use of illegal drugs on this or any other forum, I'd imagine MDMA would indeed enhance diaper play. Based on my experience, any contact with interesting fabrics/textures (particularly on the genitals) while under the influence significantly magnifies physical sensations one normally takes for granted while sober. I've heard that sex on MDMA is phenominal (never tried it), so any kinky stuff would probably be great fun - at least until you "come down" and start to sober (which - for anyone who's never experienced it - completely SUCKS BTW. MDMA hangovers are HORRENDOUS)... Now - and let me VERY DELIBERATELY reiterate to those who are smugly claiming the moral high ground here - I am NOT suggesting anyone actually try this, as it carries some risk aside from the obvious legal ramifications. Remember: MDMA is proven to substantially raise body temperature, leading to several cases of ravers actually fatally overdosing - not on Ecstasy itself - but rather on the excessive water they drink to regulate the heat. It's called hyponatremia - or water intoxication. Encapsulating the most heat-sensitive part of your body in a plastic cocoon for hours on end while "rolling" on a drug known to elevate body temperature to alarming levels is - quite frankly - a pretty dimwitted idea. For men, it's clearly destructive to the "squiggly guys", but it could also exacerbate or even accelerate the temperature spikes, causing folks to subconsciously reach for water earlier and with even MORE frequency/urgency. Heat exhaustion/stroke or hyponatremia is a real, genuine concern here, and either would likely cheese up your trip somewhat... Nevertheless, I'm sure some folks have tried it, but probably not enough to reflect an AB/DL concentration disproportionate with what you'll find elsewhere. Yeah -- the pacifier is a mainstay at raves, but that's not really symptomatic of AB/DL tendencies insomuch as something to occupy your mouth and keep your saliva glands stimulated, which - believe it or not - actually helps ravers better control their impulses to guzzle water ad nauseum - subsequently lessening the risk of hyponatremia. Lastly: As a general commentary, despite the legality or debatably dubious "benefits" of drug use, people will continue to do them irrespective of our (or your) personal moral objections, so please back off your high horses. Contrary to some uninformed opinions, not everyone who has used such drugs winds up in handcuffs, in the gutter begging for smack, or in a padded cell drooling like an infant. I experimented with FAAAARR more than just MDMA in my college days, and I was able to abandon everything cold turkey almost immediately thereafter. I was never arrested, accosted, indicted, or otherwise implicated for any illicit activity during that time or any time after. I haven't so much as touched a joint in almost 15 years, and I've held a variety of clearances as a government contractor for over 10 of those years. In retrospect, was my experimentation "legal"? Technically - no. But if Uncle Sam deems a prior stoner fit for duty to the US Government, then who are you or I to argue? Perspective is good, people. Have some. And before you ask: Yes. I told my background investigators E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. You have no idea how damn awkward it was recounting every single, solitary instance herb or anything else touched my lips (easily into the hundreds) while a stuffy curmudgeon scribbled into a personal file as thick as three bibles back-to-back. **shudders** Thank God I gave all that crap up years ago. I had a couple of friends that struggled to eschew the lifestyle well after graduation. Now, if I could only kick these damnable cigs...

Yep. Welcome to paradoxical, Puritan-rooted policies that claim to competently differentiate decency from deviance. US perspectives on sex are as draconian and schizophrenic as our foriegn policy. When even the Germans take a look at our collective sexual repression thinking "damn, are those guys uptight...," you know we're behind the curve. And no offense to Germans, BTW. I lived in Bavaria off-and-on for almost ten years.

I've told precisely two people in my almost 20-year stint as an on-again, off-again DL. One was a random college acquaintance at 3am after a heavy night of drinking with subsequently obliterated inhibitions, which - in hindsight - was probably the WORST circumstance for disclosure. The other was my father almost 15 years ago after he randomly discovered my stash shortly following graduation (was living with parents at the time). He calmly and delicately asked a couple questions about it, and I was very vague and brief my response. Nothing else was ever said. I've never felt the compulsion to tell anyone else, and they've never been nosy enough to ask. That said - with my recent adoption of 24/7 use, it's probably only a matter of time before I slip up or someone notices changes in my daily rituals, despite my best efforts to remain discreet. Even so, only if ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY will I risk further disclosure, and I've been establishing my alibi for months so I can diffuse or deflect any questions as quickly as possible. 100% self-acceptance is BY FAR the most important milestone for any AB/DL, and it's an intensely personal journey that no amount of public confession will ever resolve. Obviously, sometimes this is unavoidable (i.e., therapists/doctors, intimate relationships, "outings", unexpected or embarrassing incidents), but 99% of the population needn't know the first IOTA of what goes on in the mind of the average AB/DL. In the case of this lifestyle, ignorance is indeed bliss, and the less said - the better. It's simply far too fringe and way too complex to explain to the layperson without offending him/her to some degree. All of this - it must be said - is completely IMHO, so please refrain from flaming me if you have a dissenting opinion.

Good to hear your first proper diaper experience was in one the THE BEST adult diapers ever made! I'm a big fan myself, but I have a hard time justifying the price. Over $40 for a two-pack shipment (16 briefs) = Yikes... I think I might just bite the bullet this month a buy a full case. These and/or Dry 24/7 are my go-to nighttime diapers - no contest. Unfortunately, Bellissimos are a wee bit too noisy for my tastes outside the home, but they're great if you're shut-in for the day! ... **snickers** ..."wee"...

Hello, hello! Yep. There are certainly a good number of women that are into this lifestyle, despite what the statistics may lead you to believe. Just remember to be polite, and avoid any behavior that seems excessively forward. Most lady AB/DLs are much more reserved about their desires and rituals, and they've learned to quickly swat away guys they perceive as stalkers. And there are probably 10 creepy mouth-breathers to every one genuinely polite male AB/DL, so that's a lotta swattin'! Fortunately, you're still young, so you'll have plenty of opportunity to find that special someone that shares your interests! Trust me: It's a lot tougher in your 30s. I wish I could turn back the clock sometimes...

Welcome! If your name is any indication, you'll find a wealth of topics catering to your interests here at DD. Enjoy your stay!

Hi, mstyprz. I'm sorry to hear of your difficulties. Believe us: You're certainly not the first external person to be thrust into this lifestyle. This is a very unusual obsession that is overwhelming to absorb, difficult to rationalize, extremely diverse in scope, and deeply-rooted in the psyche. It sounds like you've made more than enough compromises demonstrating your committment to your partner despite his apparently rigidly-constructed fantasies and consistent pattern of lies. It's time for him to return the favor in some capacity and come completely clean. Otherwise I fear this pattern could end up infiltrating other aspects of your relationship outside the bedroom. Marriage couseling might sound like an obvious route, but I would suggest you have a very firm and honest discussion with him about your feelings before you make this leap. As newlyweds, your situation is far from unsalvagable, but there MUST be full disclosure before it progresses any further in a direction with which you're not either mutually accommodating or - at minimum - mutually tolerant. And that goes for him too. FYI: We have a sub-forum designed precisely for folks in your position: The Friends & Family forum. You might get some additional recommendations there. I'll admit that we're a little biased here, but we're also good people willing to acknowledge our eccentricities and provide rational advice to those that don't share our level of enthusiam with this lifestyle. It's located here: http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showforum=28 I wish you the best of luck. There's no easy solution to your situation, but many members here have encountered similar issues first-hand (not me, regrettably). I doubt you'll find a more informed support group anywhere on the Internet -- not to mention anywhere in the outside world. And that includes even the most open-minded, liberal marriage counselors out there. P.S. I'd suggest a moderator relocate this thread accordingly. Otherwise it'll quickly get lost in the Newbie forum.

As an alternative to medicated powder, have you considered a mentholated applique, like Vicks Vapo-Rub? It might be a little more greasy, but it would probably provide a similar cooling effect as well as serve as a moisture barrier on really hot days. Just a thought.

I've used extra-strength Gold Bond powder many times in my shoes to control foot odor, but wouldn't even consider using it on my privates. That stuff is pretty wicked powerful. After only a couple hours in a sweaty shoe, my toes are tingling to almost a painful extent. Honestly, the thought of applying it to the genital area makes me cringe. Talk about "ants in your pants". Yeesh...