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Allow me to offer a different opinion. Don't tell her of your fetish. If you'd rather die than let out your secret, then keep it a secret. Big deal! Lots of people die with secrets. If you want to involve her in some way with your fetish, you have to make her think that it is medical. Be creative. If you don't want her to think that you are an AB/DL/whatver, but still want her to accept you in diapers, the logical conclusion is to make her think that you have a problem. Diapers are for people with elimination problems, or people with fetishes. That's it, you can pick one or the other. Incontinence is a rather blurry subject. Some ideas: Start wetting the bed on purpose. Have occasional day time accidents. Make it obvious that diapers are necessary for you, and that NOTHING else will work. This fetish is going to be with you for life, I promise it. If you can't accept that reality, then make another one. But you have to be good. Every aspect of your life has to support your alternative reality. If you can create an alternative reality, and live it day by day (every day till you die) then it will be your reality. Life is whatever you want of it. Just make sure that you can live with your reality.

For the OP: I've been arrested, and am incontinent. The jail provided cheap pull-ups, and they didn't seem surprised when I told them of my medical issues. I was wearing a tena-slip maxi at the time, and they showed a little surprise when I had to change. At the time I understood the surprise to be "wow, that's a serious diaper", more than "oh, he's wearing a diaper". The jail pull-ups were really really poor quality, but it was basically a non-issue.

I'm of a similar interest! Having grown up in the 80's/90's, I definitely like the idea of "adult-kid" clothing. Most of my cloth diapers are Transformers/Star Wars/GI-Joe. I don't mind the baby prints, but I find the slightly more grown up prints MUCH more satisfying. Send me a private message with your email if you are serious about starting this, and I might be interested in helping fund a start-up.

I had a similar problem, and tried ALL the different creams, and even all the fungal creams. Nothing seemed to work. It got worse for about a month, until it eventually got red and spread all around the genital area. Finally I figured out the cause, and the cure. I believe that it was a bad yeast infection. I had to cut out all sugars out of my diet and refined grains. That helped stop feeding the infection. As to killing the infection, after none of the anti-fungal creams worked, I looked on some

While I will admit that this guy was obviously being a pervert, deliberately in front of children, and handing out the porn fliers was very wrong, the article did make me think about one thing. In a different context, say on the beach for example, what is the difference between a diaper and a speedo or a g-string? A diaper reveals far less. As somebody who is actually incontinent, I miss the days of sunbathing in public because of the stigma of diapers. Fortunately I have private property where I am able to sunbathe in privacy.

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I am a boy through and through. No sissy or girly nonsense for me. XyXy is a chromosomal reference to that which I identify most. Baby boy, probably not, but

Ironclad,

I felt exactly the same as you at your age. Diapers turned me on until I released, and then the desire faded away for a day up to a week, and then came back. If this is a long term pattern, that's OK! Be whoever or whatever makes you happy. For me, I gradually turned more and more to diapers, to the point now, where even after climax, I don't feel comfortable in anything but a diaper. I also incurred an injury that have left me with a permanent dependence on diapers (or a stomach bag with a tube through my stomach), but luckily by the time this happened, I had reached the point where diapers transcended a sexual gratification, and became more of an emotional security. Now I have no choice because of incontinence, but I am still happy wearing diapers 24/7, and have been for almost 8 years straight. My point here is, accept your feelings and act accordingly. If diapers are merely a sexual release for you, then so be it! It will actually make your life that much easier than if you had the desire to wear 24/7. If as time goes by you feel like wearing for reasons beyond sexual pleasure, accept that too. You only get one life, and it is short. There is no logic to tormenting yourself by worrying about what you should or ought to do, so long as your desires don't infringe upon the rights and pleasures of others. Just be yourself, and find happiness with whatever you are at the moment. Life will be much more enjoyable that way.

My ideal diaper would be targeted for boys who sleep at night to accommodate erections. There would be a pouch of sorts on the front part that one's member could go in, so that you could wet sleeping without the discomfort of nocturnal erections. The flap would be sealed to the top and sides of the diaper, and be the same material as the leak guards. Also higher waist band and more front padding. I have seriously thought about designing and making something like this. I hope I explained it well enough.

I still have dribbling as well as urge incontinence, and lots of leaking overnight. But I also had 7 other different procedures done over the last 7 years, so my external sphincter has been compromised as well. As long as your external sphincter is in tact and normal functioning, there is little to no chance you'd have lasting dribbling. If you don't have incontinence before the procedure, you probably won't after either. Good luck if you decide to have it, and I'll be curious to know how it goes!

I had a bladder neck resection over a year ago, which is the most extreme form of bladder neck incision. The way it works is, first, they make an incision in the bladder neck at about the 5-o-clock position to see if it opens up. If that's not enough, they make another incision at the 7-o-clock position. If that's still not enough, as it was in my case, then they cut out the entire section between the 5 and 7 o-clock position. The procedure doesn't cut far enough to damage the external sphincter, and if you don't have any problems with your external sphincter, you can expect to have normal functioning after you heal.

Curiosity was killing me, so I found a link. It's a pretty cute little episode but quite strange. Lots of references to the action pants, including showing the boy wearing them. Enjoy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gPBaEU4vpG0

I think that I'd call myself an autosexual, meaning that I prefer to get off by myself. In high school, I once concluded that I was gay because the girls did not turn me on. It's never been a problem attracting girls, my problem has always been keeping them away because they always end up getting frustrated with my lack of sexual interest in them. I am told that I'm quite boyishly attractive, and am in extremely good physical shape. It's not girls fault that I have no sexual interest in them, I've been with some women whom I consider as attractive and intelligent as they get, and as much as I enjoy their company, I just don't have the desire to go further. After I thought I was gay, I started dating guys only to find the same problem. So, thereafter, I concluded that I must be bisexual, since neither gender attracted me more than the other. Then, after a decade of thinking I was bi, but not really dating many people, I ran across asexuality.org where I realized that I was closer to asexual than bisexual. But, it doesn't entirely encapsulate me because I actually have quite a decent libido, just not towards other people. I like diapers and bondage, and am quite skilled at causing world-shattering orgasms on my own. It sounds strange to say, but I have far more pleasure going solo than with other people. To be honest, I guess that technically I'm still a virgin. I've tried getting blow jobs before, but found them all to be quite awful and wasn't able to get off. Perhaps it's all the germs and dangerous teeth that turns me off. I tried intercourse with both genders, and without going into detail, let me just say that it never worked out. It's just gross and awkward in my opinion. I am currently seeing another guy a few times a week. We mostly are just friends who sleep in the same bed, like drinking and wearing diapers together, and sometimes have bondage sessions. We've never shared sex, but I will get off in front of him and it turns him on to watch. He's gay, sexual, and sleeps with other men on occasion, and it doesn't bother me at all. I don't think narcissism adequately defines me, because I'm not really infatuated with myself. I appreciate beauty in others, and can recognize what others find sexually attractive. I don't really dwell on myself, and am reasonably socially engaged, and have lots of friends. But I have been called it before, because I think that I'm pretty good looking, and have been single most of my life. Maybe I am a little, but I think that we all are to a degree. I like to think of it as healthy self-love, as opposed to obsessive self-indulgence. Also, I have to admit that I am afraid of having a long term relationship with a woman. Not sex, but the actual relationship. Women are unpredictable and dangerous. My mother, my best friend's ex, my stepmother, my grandmother, and many many others have proven themselves to be incapable of being stable rational beings. I can appreciate them from a distance, but I try to keep crazy at arms length. Add to this fact that the law can royally screw you over if/when a crazy woman tries to use it against you, and it just seems like something I'd rather not have any part of. Currently my best friend is considering fleeing the country because his ex has screwed his life over so entirely and completely. I really feel bad for him, and I'm fairly certain that he'd have committed suicide by now if I wasn't his only friend, and tried to help carry him through his travails with crazy psycho girl. I've just seem so many men have their lives ruined or messed up by women, that honestly I am afraid of them, and would only consider getting involved if I first consulted a lawyer and drew up a binding contract that would protect me from all forms of crazy if/when we broke up. I've actually told one woman this, who was getting kind of close, and I think that she must have had crazy on the mind, because it scared her off. From Urban Dictionary, here's some interesting (and true, for me) descriptions of autosexual. sexual orientation toward oneself; that is, preferring self-gratification over other forms of sexual activity. Often occurs as a result of numerous failed attempts at interpersonal relationships, leading the individual to make a conscious choice to become autosexual rather than face disappointment and frustration yet again. Numerous advantages to autosexuality include: - no risk of pregnancy - no risk of STD's being transmitted - able to 'get lucky' every time at the bar or club - the sex is always good - no relationship issues like jealousy or cheating partner ... need I say more? I mean, are there ANY bad things about it?

Zander, People who desire incontinence are already "seeking professional help" by virtue of coming here, reading these posts and engaging in discussion. They get to hear all viewpoints, and who knows this subject better than us? A psychologist with a paper degree? Sure they know about fetishes in general, and they can look at the DSM and tell you that when a fetish interferes with your life, you have a problem. But beyond that, what practical help could they offer? They don't know anything about adult diapers, or the daily routine of dealing with incontinence. Now, it may come as a surprise to you, but I am saying this as a psychologist myself. Of course a very small percentage of psychologists would know this subject matter inside and out like myself, but for the most part, they are more generalists than specialists. I believe that people are getting specialized self-help by coming here and participating on sites like this. It is my contention that you do them a disservice by immediately referring them to "professional, specialized help", when in a very true sense, they are already getting it. Putting aside the fact that I disagree with many of your premises and conclusions, let me ask you this. In what way do you think you are qualified to be suggesting to anyone that they seek professional therapy for wanting to become incontinent? Have you done clinical studies on people that demonstrate a need for professional intervention? Do you have a degree in psychology or medicine? Can you point me to the section in the DSM that this is listed as a problem? My guess, based on my intuition is that you have none. I wonder, have you considered seeking a professional therapist for your problem of encouraging others to seek professional therapists? I'm not asking you this in my capacity as a psychologist, but rather as a concerned citizen with only the feeling that what you are doing is wrong, and I am right. Because of this inner feeling that I know better than you, but without the ability to coherently lay forth an indisputable argument, I'll just suggest that you seek professional help, implying that you have a problem, and are unable to cope with it on your own. Oh, but let me add the qualifier now that I'm not suggesting you seek "mental help", or that you have a "mental problem". I'm just saying that you should seek professional help, for your ... issue. The main premise that I disagree with you on is that many or even a substantial portion of people who seek incontinence will not be able to reverse course. Getting a medical procedure to make one incontinent would likely be irreversible, but by just trying to atrophy the muscles, it is highly unlikely that it is not completely reversible. It is practically impossible for a healthy individual to get a medical procedure, so I think that we can rule that out, and allow that people who talk about it are engaging in wishful thinking, or maybe even just fantisizing, but in reality no harm is likely to come of it. Granted, there may be a statistically irrelevant percentage of people who manage to get a procedure done, but at this point, fault likely lies with the doctor. For the most part, this leaves people with the option of wearing diapers 24/7, and gradually reducing the ability to hold on to urine. But in this case, there is no damage being done. What we are dealing with is a muscle, which has a tremendous ability to change it's size and strength. But just not using it, the worst that will happen is the sphincters will atrophy, and the bladder will reduce in size. With the exception of very old people, the ability of the body to reverse course and revert to normal functioning is not impaired by any mechanism that I am aware of. The very few people who claim that they lost control, and were unable to regain it probably could regain it with techniques like biofeedback and pelvic floor exercises. The muscles are still there, just greatly weakened. It might take a long time to get back to normal, and perhaps this is why they think that they are unable to regain control. If it takes you years to lose continence, you cannot expect to regain control in a few days. But, the muscles are still there, the nerves are still there, the brain is still there, basically all the parts required are still there, and they are still functioning, so regaining control by atrophy should not be a real issue of concern. The other main way to lose continence would probably be through the long term use of foley catheters. This I agree is dangerous, and could lead to very severe problems including death. I am more in agreement with you here that people should know all the facts before going down this road. Some of the major problems are chronic bladder infections, and studies have shown that long term foley catheter use leads to greatly increased chances of bladder cancer. So we are talking about a dangerous procedure here. However, even for this reason, I would not suggest that somebody seek professional help. For one, catheters by their nature are self-limiting. Most people are simply not able to wear them long term due to the pain. For those who can, after their first major infection, many will stop doing it. I had to wear a catheter one time for medical reasons, and ended up getting a nasty MRSA infection in my bladder. Let me tell you that pissing out pure blood is one frightening experience, and I will only use the damned things as a very last resort. For the very small percentage of people who are able to go on and wear catheters long term, I have to say that they are probably incredibly determined, and nothing anyone else can say would deter them. We are talking about free, otherwise healthy individuals here. And, unless they display some other signs or symptoms of a mental imbalance, the worst we can accuse them of is being foolish and even masochistic. This by itself is perfectly legal, and nobody has the authority to force someone into "getting help". I know plenty of foolish and masochistic people in other ways, who do stupid things, such as smoking, or drinking excessively, both of which damage the body and can lead to cancer. Does this mean that they are in need of professional therapy? Not by itself it doesn't. Now, if they are also having suicidal thoughts, or thinking of harming another person, then we can talk about medical or psychological intervention, because this crosses a line of causing harm to another, and suicidal tendencies often times reflect much deeper and often treatable problems. In effect, by suggesting that somebody seek professional help for problems that are not really that serious, what one does is dilute the efficacy of the profession. There are some genuinely serious psychological disturbances out there, which make an incontinence fantasy absolutely pale by comparison. If we start calling everything that we disagree with a mental disorder, then before we know it, everybody will have a dozen labels for behaving outside of a very narrow box of acceptable norms. In fact, this is already a problem, for example experiencing grief after the death of a loved one for more than 2 months is now a mental disorder. Let me tell you an insider secret here. The more labels we can put on people, the more money we can make through therapy and the more money pharmaceuticals can make by peddling their drugs. This is not the right course of action that a healthy and enlightened society wants to intensify. Finally, you can call it "mental health", or "somebody who is qualified" or whatever you like. We all know what you are referring to, and pitter-patting around trying to be politically correct does not change the essence of what you are suggesting. You are suggesting that a person go to the mental health section of a hospital, and seek out a mental health therapist. By implication, you are suggesting that this person has a mental disorder, that only a "qualified" person can properly assess and possibly treat. That is why people go to mental health, because they have mental disorders. You don't fool me with your attempts to water down these words. What you are referring to is in fact mental health. It is disingenuous for you to try and claim otherwise, and at least some of the other posters don't try to reduce what they are implying. They very clearly say that such people have mental problems, and/or are "a fucking dumbass". You are essentially in the same camp as these people, and sophistry will not serve to separate you. Here are some quotes from you. Can you tell me why I have a problem with this? "Considering such a drastic change to your life suggests you have deeper mental health issues" -Zander "people seriously considering such extreme actions are in need of mental healthcare facilities." -Zander "I'm not saying you have mental problems, nor that you need mental help. I've never said as such and certainly I didn't mean to imply that either." -Zander I think that you need to get your story straight, and look at your own inconsistencies before you attempt to fix the problems of others. Booya!

Bettypooh, I'm seriously confused who this post is directed towards? It sounds like you thought this was on the main Incontinence board (not desires section), when actually it was on the desires section. The incontinence-desires section cannot be directed "for the incontinent, and for nothing else". This is a case of exactly the opposite of what you describe. An incon came into the desires section and attempted to proselytize people away from incontinence. I just wanted clarification, because I could not pinpoint who exactly your post was directed towards, and the lesson is unclear. I hope that it was not directed towards me. Could you clarify? Thanks.

Boo freaking hoo. I'm sorry, but I feel like providing some balance here. You've been dealing with incontinence for 1 whole year? And it bothers you so much that you go to a diaper fetish website in the "incontinence desires" section to warn them how bad it is? I'm sorry, but it just seems fishy and wrong. It's like a "straight" guy going onto a gay website and telling them about the dangers of being gay. It just doesn't jive with me. Look, I've been dealing with urinary incontinence since 2002 and wearing diapers since around 2005. I likely go through most of the same routines as you. All of my friends/family and many co-workers know. I do not advertise it, but if the issue comes up, I am simply open and honest about it, just as if I had any other disability. Unlike you, I admit to liking diapers. Not necessarily to my friends/family, but here I will admit it freely. I do not think that I would be here if I did not like them. I'd probably be on some lame Depends website or something. I think that diapers are awesome, even after all this time. They keep me dry, and they feel good. The nature of my incontinence causes me great pain at times due to blockage and a hyperactive bladder, so my kidneys hurt often, but otherwise, I am as happy as a fish in water. After a few tries, I even found a lover who is accepting and knowledgeable about my condition. I'm here to tell you that you can have your incontinence and enjoy it too. Yeah, some days are rough, but overall it is not something I would try and steer others away from. Especially if they could have it without the pain that I often experience. I am involuntarily incontinent, and have totally accepted and embraced my lot in life. You can cry about it, or you can make the most of it. Certainly if I can enjoy it, somebody who comes to it voluntarily could also enjoy it. If they don't like it, over time, they have the choice of reversing course, and will most likely return to normal. So why waste time trying to scare people away from something that they are obviously passionate about? For all you who desire incontinence, I say go for it, and take it however fast or slow you want. You don't have to jump into it head first and pee and poo yourself all the time. You can just pee, or just wear them dry. You can wear them whenever you want, at night, during the day, or maybe only after you get home from work. This is your only life, and here is something that brings you great pleasure, so why not enjoy it? Just try to keep a broad perspective so that you can notice if it is causing you unhappiness in other ways. The goal is to find a way of living that makes you happy, and that you will not regret when you look back from your deathbed. You can listen to any number of opinions, or other people's experience, but they will not necessarily apply to you and your particular circumstances. Some incontinent people hate their lives and commit suicide. Some accept and actually love their lives, such as myself. I don't see myself as a victim, even though some think that I should. I was nearly beaten to death, which caused the injury in the first place. You see, I could identify with the victim mentality, and spend my whole life moping around, or I can just accept things for how they are, and look for ways to make it better. When I refuse to identify as a victim, or as a sufferer, what I find is that there are some very pleasant aspects of being incontinent. There is the physical pleasure of having a soft, warm tight plushy underwear all the time. It's like having your happy bits getting a nice hug all day. Then there is the pleasure of not having to run to the bathroom every 10 minutes, and being able to sit through a whole movie. Even many of my continent friends cannot make it through a movie, and I feel like they are the ones who have it bad, not me. Finally, there is also the pleasure of being different. Because of my condition, I am not normal, and it makes me glad that I am not just another brick in the wall. I get to experience a very unique life, and as a result, I have a more interesting perspective on life. I have a friend who is dying of brain cancer. When I think of him, I think that my condition is no worse than having to wear glasses. Even the most incontinent amongst us doesn't really have it that bad, all things else equal. So we wear diapers and squirt in our pants instead of a toilet. Every freaking baby does the same thing, and you rarely hear them complain about it. It's the parents, and the cultural conditioning that has the real problem with it. If we succumb to this cultural shame, then I imagine it would suck 100 times worse. But why should we allow the majority opinion affect us so greatly? I don't, and nobody has treated me any worse because of it. I can take a joke here and there from friends and family, because they are not malicious. While we don't have license to push our condition upon others in any way, we should also not have to treat it as our shameful dark secret. I think that the real reason there is shame associated with incontinence is because the same organ that is dysfunctional is also the sex organ. Sex has a long history of secretiveness and of being taboo. Add to the fact that some people wear diapers purely for sexual reasons, and there is a great reason for confusion, embarrassment and shame for wearing diapers. But really, a more enlightened society would not even be phased by the issue, be it incontinence or fetish. It just shows how close we still are to monkeys. I for one feel that I have transcended the cultural conditioning, and have found a happy and peaceful way to live where I don't judge, and for the most part am not judged. I may have the opportunity this year to undergo surgery for my condition. It's not 100% sure if it will work, but most likely it will improve, and my incontinence will be reduced. Mostly I am getting the surgery to reduce the pain, and remove the blockage. If it wasn't for that, I would quite honestly be happy to go along for years in diapers. In fact, there is a small to moderate chance that the surgery will worsen my incontinence. The doctor is more worried about my possible future incontinence than I am! I know after this many years that I can live with thick waterproof underwear. That's not such a big deal. Most days I rather enjoy them. I don't ever feel the need to make myself feel better by telling others how bad it is. That would be dishonest and rather pathetic. If somebody wants to try something out that's not necessarily designed for them, who are we to try and dissuade them? Be it somebody with perfect vision who wants to wear glasses, a boy who wants to wear girls clothing, an ambulatory person who wants to use crutches, or a free person who wants to put themselves into bondage! I say go for it, you only live once, and NOBODY knows how best to live this life. Oh, and nitrous, is that kind of language really necessary? You are of course entitled to whatever opinion you wish, but you are being quite judgmental and rude here.

I have DESD, maybe. That is to say, one doctor diagnosed me with it after a fluoroscopy, and some other tests, and a second doctor thinks it may actually be the internal sphincter that is causing the problem. I suspect that both sphincters are the problem. Anyways, I have become well versed on this topic as a result. First, botox injections into the external sphincter are available! I know because I've had 3 of them, done through the V.A. I believe that my body has developed an immunity to them however, because each subsequent injection worked for less and less time. Maybe I can eat botulism now without worry! The stents are reversable, much of the time. I have seen a study where the majority of them were removable (although with difficulty) after tissue grew over them. Still, stents are not recommended. For awhile I was trying to get a sphincterotomy, but doctors are apparently very hesitant to do this unless you have a major spinal cord injury, which I do not. Instead, they want to subject me to ANOTHER fluoroscopy to confirm or re-diagnose me. Anyhow, despite my current doctor's hesitations about the sphincterotomy, I'm still convinced that it's the best treatment out there for DESD. True it isn't 100% successful, but for many people it does the trick, and if you don't do something, DESD will cause life-threatening problems to the upper urinary system, like I am dealing with now. Good luck, because I certainly haven't been having much luck with my DESD.

Well, it gets weirder. On Firefox, I get directed to the FBI webpage, but with Internet Explorer, it directs me to http://d-b-net.blogspot.com/ where there's some page up saying DB has been stolen. Is it really working for everyone else? Am I just hallucinating all this?

I'm not sure where to post this, but another website I go to sometimes www.diaper-boys.net now gets redirected to www.fbi.gov . Does anyone know anything about why this is happening? Also I want to make sure that it's not just me having this problem!

I agree with you that he did keep at it till the end. He was disgusting yes. I don't dispute this fact, nor am I trying to defend it. About the kids, well I didn't read that, but if he got banned over that, great, no problems here. My beef was, and remains how we so called intelligent people in turn reply to such repulsive behavior (aside from the kid stuff). It's very easy to be spiteful and to just make assumptions about somebody. Better is to ignore them. Too bad this site doesn't have an ignore feature! That might solve lots of problems. But better yet is to respond to somebody in a meaningful way. You can still criticize, make fun of, or vehemently disagree, and that's all good. What crosses the line is when you threaten somebody's life, tell them they are responsible for people killing themselves, and other such exaggerated and mean comments. Yes, I saw many posts like this used against WNM, and I think in these cases the posters stooped to his level, perhaps below. Hurray for people who ignored or kept rational, and were able to criticize, make fun of, or try and help WNM without going to these levels. I'm not trying to pin this on everyone. I think I've had enough of this thread. If people don't get it at this point, sorry, I am spent. I only hope my efforts were worth something.

Well, I care for one. He could be anyone. I just chose him as a posterboy for how we treat people in general that we disagree with. There will be others who come along and the same thing will happen to them. It is up to people who care to step up and say something, and that's why I started this thread.

Awesome WallaWalla, Thanks for proving my point! You showed yourself to be exactly how I assumed you were!

WallaWalla, What an impressively sharp tongue you have! I used to have a sharp tongue too. It doesn't mean you're right, but it's fun to be like that isn't it? Anyhow, I wanted to reply to these points, because they gave me some interesting thoughts. If somebody has outward signs of a fragile state of mind, does that imply that the person making that observation thinks he is superior? Hmm, doesn't make sense to me. If it is simply stating what appears to be, then how do you derive such a conclusion? You believe that he is "worthy of spite", doesn't that actually imply a sense of superiority on your part to make that claim? He is worthy of your spite, because you are better than him, and he is worse than you. That's how I read it. I simply think we need to be careful how we respond to others whom we disagree with, especially those who may be disturbed or fragile, but you seem to be hypocritical here in thinking that I am the one with the superiority complex. I wonder if you are able to see this? Yes, no? And for the Husky fellow. I simply said that we used two different lexicons, nothing more. In fact, I had great difficulty reading many of his posts, and missed more than a couple of points he was trying to make. Did anywhere I imply I was feeling superior because of this, or was I merely stating the most obvious point to differentiate us in order to diffuse yet another straw man thrown my way? Perhaps I am the one who is worse for my elaborate composing and precise usage of language. I make no such claims to be better off as a result. In fact in situations like this, I wonder if it doesn't impair me, seeing as how little of what I write is actually paid attention to. It is merely my style. Assumptions assumptions! You may see my post as smug, but it confuses me as to why you'd say so. I actually had to look up the word, since it is one I am not very familiar with. Definition: "Exhibiting or feeling great or offensive satisfaction with oneself or with one's situation; self-righteously complacent". Hmm, no this is not an accurate description of me. Sounds more like you are just trying to insult me with your sharp little tongue. No worries though, I understand that this is the way people behave towards each other today, and I really cannot take anything personal that is said to me on these boards. If you'd like your words to injure (in order to be spiteful, as you admit to enjoying), you'll have to hit much closer to home than that. I know it's tough, since you only have these words, so here's a hint to help, maybe you can find a weak spot with this to slay me with your poisoned arrows with this. The way I perceive myself on this board, and in general throughout life is trying to be as precise as possible. I try not to make assumptions, and when I catch myself doing so, I make a point to say so, and offer the caveat that I may be wrong. You'll see this in many of my posts if you've read them. When I find I am wrong, I generally admit it and apologize if it is necessary. Being wrong for me is not something to be feared. I take it as an opportunity to better myself, either to increase my knowledge, or overcome something about myself that caused me to be wrong. I feel that I have subdued my ego enough that I can have this outlook. But this outlook has also caused this precision that you mistake as smugness. It is merely me trying to be accurate and genuine, not lying to the world, and not lying to myself. I have no need to insult, or be spiteful, like so many out there. Why bother? Does it just make you feel better about yourself? I'm going to end this now, because I have the feeling that you are only looking for ego gratification at another's expense. Some people are just like that I guess, and want to divide. This is of course my assumption, and I may be wrong, but perhaps you'll prove me right.

Hey man, don't worry so much about what other people think of you! You have to be genuine, even if that means you step on some toes. Look, you only get this one life as far as you know right? So why bother so much with others opinions of you? Do what you do, and play nice, and you will find that some people just naturally gravitate to you and like you for who you are, while others will get angry and dislike you. I do what I can to help others play nice, because today is full of rude people in general. Just look at the television and you'll see why. But I don't really care if others like me or not. Some do, some don't, and that's all ok with me. The most important thing is if you can accept yourself or not, and learn to love to live with yourself. After that, it won't matter so much the people around you, and it won't be an issue. If you are genuine, and stop apologizing for yourself, you will find that it is very attractive to people. Just look at some of the biggest arseholes who are genuine, even they get some friends! I doubt that this board, or any other will ever "play nice", so don't expect it. What you will find are a few gems here and there that make all the other muckiness worth it. Be careful of the doctors, should you go and see them. They like to throw medication at problems, and big pharma makes a lot of money from it. Unfortunately it doesn't do much for you. Therapy might be good though, or you could consider a little self-help. Lots of good books out there that could give you some good insight! Best of luck anyways, and I hope each day for you gets better than the last!