Angela Bauer

Well Baby and Me, you have done the first important thing in being a Mommy to an AB, in that you accept his aspect of him and love him unconditionally. Personally I am on record as favoring the MAM pacifiers with clear silicone orthodontic nipples sold in stores everywhere. Try to get the kind of 6mo+ because the other nipples are way small, and get the set of 2 MAM pacifiers that includes the leash to attach it to his shirt so he does not lose his paci. I have been given really beautiffuly made adult-size baby bottles, but for normal use I hold want to lift 8oz or less at a time, so I use ordinary bottles. I stuck with Evenflo clear poly plastic for ages, and I still have a few of the Evenflo Angled Nursers vintage 2002. Lately I have been buying Munchkin Tri-flow Angled Bottles and their Tri-flow clear silicone nipples. These have an adjusting ring instead of the typical Evenflo nipple retaining ring. The Tri-flo can be adjusted for flow-rate while in use, so I do not need to stop suckling and change to a faster or slower flow nipple. Back about 2002 Munchkin made a series of clear nipples for various purposes. The ones I have saved have a cunning cross-cut for orange juice. If a bit of pulp starts to clog the cross-cut nipple all I need do is such harder to clear the pulp. Mothers used to have to modify traditional nipples at home and rarely got the cross-cut right. alas, apparently Munchkin no longer sells the cross-cut nipples. Baby Angel, aka Angela Bauer

That link is to the most absorbent Secure pull-up Underwear, with a minimum size of Medium. For smaller folks with hips 22-36" Secure offers their slightly less absorbent Plus Protective Underwear in Adult Small. My experience is that us smaller adults tend to wet slightly less than Medium people, so for us the Plus is absorbent enough. BTW, all these Secure products were designed by Gary Hirsch, generally considered the Godfater of Adult Disposables, and the leading consultant in the industry. Some have called him the "the Carlos Richer" of adult sizes, since Richer is the leading consultant on baby disposables world-wide. Yes, I do remain a loyal Attends gal, but for my pull-on needs I order Plus Protective Small Underwear from Secure's own site. Danni's link below will get you to Secure and the other pull-up, so just navigate within the website to see all the other products. Angela

Although there has never been peer-reviewed scientific research into diaper related affectation. the working assumption of qualified mental health professionals is that infantilism is a lifetime condition. The way we act out our inner infantilism will sometimes change. We can go decades without doing anything beside wear diapers if incontinent. If we have bladder control we might go years un-diapered. However, our infantilism is latent and will return someday. It is not a question of growing up as much as it is learning to get along in the real world. Many laws protect the rights of incontinent people, but we still are expected to go the last mile avoiding shocking folks. ABDL have no such legal protection, so if you want to stay in a dorm, you had better do your best to get along. This is growing up.

Hold on I Love Diapers, In what century did any university or cleege have special dorms for incontinent people? Are you thinking about fantasy camps or boarding schools? Like several have already told you, when you get the housing form. after you have been accepted, either mark a box yes that you need a waterproof mattress or write in the special requirement section that you do not mind a roommate who wets. Since they were available college dorm mattresses are waterproof, but nice people add their own waterproof sheet to additionally protect the mattress. Secure makes an inexpensive waterproof sheet that is modern, quiet and comfy. Then at the start of summer before you move into your dorm, phone the housing director and say either that you will be wearing diapers or that you do not mind rooming with someone who does. Trust me, bedwetting at college is so common it is not a big deal with the housing director unless you make yourself a nusance. Back in 1981 when I started college my mom assumed I could not wash cloth diapers so I had to start wearing Attends. Ten years ago the incontinent daughter of friends moved to college. She had visited the housing director in early June and told the lady she wanted to bring her own waterproof mattress and would prefer to be near washing machines so she could wash her own diapers. For the next 4 years that gal lived next to the coin laundry of her dorm and washed diapers every other day without once being teased. See, it can be done discreetly and using common sense.

As I have explained before, I was toilet trained before my memory begins. Mom and others tell me that I was day dry at about 32 months and bed dry just before turning 3. But Granny, Mom and the whole family knew all of us have tiny bladders and all the women start to wet again at puberty, so: Point 1: What age did you last wear diapers as a child Although toilet trained, for special events and trips, Mom would sweet talk us into wearing diapers again. Those were always Curity 21x40 gauze and pinned. Like my siblings and cousins, we accepted diapers as alternative undies. Nobody made a big deal and we were never teased. Only a few times did I wet one of those "Just in case" diapers, and those were times when we could not stop to take a potty break. Mom never considered those wet diapers as any sort of setback. By the time I was 10 I would change my baby sister who was 5. As soon as I reverted to bedwetting at 12 following reaching puberty, Mom and Granny coached me so I learend to pin my own gauze diapers. Point 2: What Kind of Diapers did you wear then Mom, Granny and My favorite Aunt Betsy across the street bought Curity 21x40 gauze diapers by the case of 6 dozen. To work better on teens and then adults (Mom, Granny, Betsy all wet their beds) They would sew 2 Curities side by side to make 40" square diapers, which could be folder to fit teens. They also would sew 3 Curities side by side to make 60x40" diapers for adults. For all of us, as many regular Curities as needed would be folded in as soakers. Point 3: What Kind Of Diaper Cover did you wear over your diaper if you wore one over it In my family there was no point in an uncovered diaper. Mom and Betsy bought infant to toddler large Gerber vinyl panties in local stores. They also had come to know the ladies at the Gerber adult pants factory in Three Oaks, MI, where they ordered bigger vinyl panties up to XXL. In our house, as in Betsy's, stacks of clean Curities and an assortment of Gerber baby panties were in plain sight in the nursery. any of us were free to put them on if we wanted. I sometimes wore a Gerber over my undies in the afternoon at home and when playing with my cousins at Aunt Betsy's house. The adults did not mind if we tried pinning our own, although I never tried until I restarted wetting and all any of us had to do was ask an older sibling or adult and they would gently pin us up, just for fun or because we might not be feeling well. Even if we pooped, they just smiled, cleaned us up and asked if we wanted undies or another diaper. See, later I have never understood parents who get all shook-up when a kid asks for a diaper. I used to participate in a wonderful site called "When Kids Love Diapers" doing my best to explain that just because a 6yo boy comes to his mom with a diaper in hand and asked her to change him does not mean he is an infantilist. If an 11yo boy or girl asks for an afterschool diaper 5 days in a row, then the chances are that child is an infantilist, which is a lifetime condition. That is when the parents need to take many deep breaths, relax, and go with the flow. The kid will always be an infantilist, nothing they do will stop that. A sane parent wants their kids to mature as adjusted, responsible adults. We all know that we can be responsible and have fine careers while wearing diapers in private and/or under our regular clothing. So, in an ideal situation, the parents of infantilists become enablers in the best way. They obtain diapers and plastic pants for their kid. They teach the kid to be discreet, not deliberately shocking outsiders, but not being ashamed of loving diapers. Trust me, we all know infantilists who were not supplied diapers by their parents. Some of these steal bags of diapers from stores. Some steal a few diapers from relatives and neighbors. Really desperate infantilists find used diapers in trash containers. That is so risky to health, I hate thinking about it, but need to remind you this happens. Stealing from stores and homes is so wrong and also risky. Lawyers like me get involved, as do cops, judges and probation officers. Later the frustrated infantilists will be seeing shrinks. So, compare the price of Pampers at 6, GoodNites at 9 and Adult Youth and Small from Attends, Secure or Tranquility vs legal fees, fines and shrinks? Ladies and Gentlemen of the Jury, I ask you to find in favor of just giving the kid diapers when he/she asks. Later, it is fair the cost of the diapers be deducted in part from their allowance, since infantilists need to learn to do their share and pay their way. Ladies and Gentlemen, my client and I thank you for your patients and we urge you to find in favor of giving kids who love diapers their own diapers. Baby Angel aka Angela Bauer, esq

Dear Confused Girlfriend; Obviously your boyfriend loves you and trusts you very much to reveal such a potentially dangerous secret. For 17 years I have communicated as one born that way woman to other women about all aspects of diaper affectation. Since I reached puberty and became incontinent I have communicated about that. To help you better, all of us here with advice to share, need to know just a bit more about your situation. First, are both of you single and adults in your country? Second, how long have you been a couple? Do either of you have custody of minor children? Obviously when a confused girlfriend and she is still a teenager, or her boyfriend is, we need to be super cautious what we suggest. The dynamic are different when an adult man has been romantic with an adult woman for months and then tells her he is a diaper lover as opposed to a guy admitting that to a girlfriend he has only known a few days. On other topics here we have discussed the special situation where an adult who needs diaper also is around children. There are legal and ethical considerations. It is so fascinating that you quote your boyfriend as saying he is a "diaper lover" because even here different people define that differently. Then in answers members mention you diapering him, which might be the desire of an Adult Baby who is comforted by a return to nursery years, complete with such props as a pacifier, baby bottle and childish clothing. The way some who self-identify as "Diaper Lover" is that they abhore even being in the same room as people who use props and wear babyish outfits beyond utilitarian diapers. I would think known what your boyfriend has in mind is vital to you. Often AB do not think their diapers and any of the rest of this life is sexual. I am like that. When I need to relax from the stress of my work and thoughts about the welfare of the world, all I want to do is start suckling a bottle and cover the diapers I wear 24/7 because I am bladder incontinent with a babyish outfit and crawl on the carpet playing with stuffed animals and other soft toys. When I am in that mood I think of my loving husband as "Daddy" who exists to care for my physical needs, including changing my diaper. Then as soon as I have relaxed enough, I will keep my diaper, but other wise dress as an adult woman. Out of my AB mood I approach the relationship with my husband as both a lover and spouse. We talk as responsible adults. I have never self-identified as a diaper lover. I do say I enjoy my diapers, but they are not a substitute for making love with my husband. Some, but not all, of those who self-identify as diaper lover can have what we call vanilla sexual relationships part of the time and do not always wear diapers 24/7. It is when they get into a certain mood, they put on a diaper. For that length of time in a diaper they tune out the rest of the world and obtain their sexual pleasure from the diaper itself. Traditionally that would be termed a material fetish, in that an ordinary object has sexual significance to the patient. While in that state he or rarely she, cannot function sexually except with the fetish (the term for the object, not the mind set). So, we have some AB who have no sexual drive while in that mood and we have DL who have no sexual desires with humans while in that mood. Then we have people who find diapers fun and comforting, who do not collect props and who can perform sexually with or without a diaper when with a person he/she loves romantically. Having been diapered most of my life, I had to early on get past the "Why me? What did I do so terrible I am in diapers?" to thinking of a diaper as just a larger pair of panties. While reading as many romance novels as I could find when I was 13 I discovered the word Fetish, but missed the part about adults who wanted to pay to be incontinent. Talking to my folks (my granny and mom also are incontinent) I was told most people do not like the word fetish, so I started using the term "diaper affectation" largely because it confused doctors and shrinks. Honestly I am sure some doctors who have examined me think it weird I did not hate diapers and prostate wearing them, because they were not incontinent and did not remember what it felt like to be sitting in a wet dress without the comfort of plastic panties. My suggestion, Confused Girlfriend, is to start by offering to go with your boyfriend when he needs more diapers. I would not rush out and buy him a pack of Depends. The reason is each of us has very specific demands on our diaper, and it can vary from one activity to another. Unlike some I do not hate Depend brand just because they displaced Attend which started the adult disposable industry. But I would be highly offended if even my understanding mother were to approach me with a bag of a size and style of Depend I do not wear and might have disliked. Probably you are so new to this you are confused by the terms and brands. Let your boyfriend educate you. He is proud, so to offer to buy him diapers might insult him, as if you do not think he can afford to buy his diapers, and that is not what you mean. For the moment let him know you love him and are there for him when he is ready for you. If he is one of the kind of DL who only gets off in a diaper when in that mood, he does not want you to see him diapered, because that adds to his fetish. If he is more flexible, then he will adore you for being a willing co-conspiritor. If he is AB he might like you to wear a diaper as a play buddy. Many diaper lovers like to make love when both partners are wearing diapers. Go into your own feelings and consider that wearing a diaper can be utilitarian and it also can be comforting, so try not to be rigid. I assume your boyfriend decided you were sexually liberal and took the chance you would not flee in disgust when he mentioned he loves diapers. and, that might be the confusion. Suppose he said he loves wearing diapers and you understood that as he saying he is a diaper lover? If you want to get into this more and in private, my e-mail is on my profile as my website address. Just introduce yourself to me as "Confused Girlfriend" Have a magical day, Angela Bauer

Hi Adrian Surley: Yes I heard about AB Universe while they still had diapers in stock from their first shipment. Had I know how much I would love them, we would have ordered more. That time I only got a bag of 20. The decorations are way cool, like from 190 or earlier. The smaller, like I got, is similar to an Attends Classic, with 2 tapes per side and plastic outside. Because they have the good features of retro Attends, the tapes will stick as close to the center as you need them. Daddy could snug them up on me enough they don't leak any more than typical tape-on. Because I can't see the decorations in bed, I would wear them for play, when they don't need to be so snug. Being disappointed when they had sold out their shipment before I re-ordered, I did pre-order a whole lot more, which should arrive in a couple of weeks. I can hardly wait. To calm me down, knowing I do get frustrated when I can't have what I want immediately, Daddy Don bought some transfer thingies for the computer. The heat melted the cover on disposables, but worked on some ACD 36" square gauze flat diapers. Yes, the transfer eventually washed off somewhat. The gauze still works and I turn it inside until it is completely gone, then Daddy makes a fresh transfer. Soon, very soon I will have my second stash of the AB Universe diapers. Bambino is a nice diaper too, with less cartoonish decorations. We bought me some of those also. However, it is like they are for people bigger than me. When Daddy snugged the tapes way close to the middle, on thin me the Bambino was not comfy. Maybe someone will eventually make a decorated diaper the same size and shape as an Attends Classic Youth. Those I have been buying by the case since they came out when Attends were new. I had only been able to buy Attends medium at stores near home in 1981 when I was leaving for university. I took part of my first bag and a full bag with me. The housing director knew I was a bedwetter because I told her so before I moved in. The first day she came to my room, saw my medium Attends, looked at me and said, "Angela, lots of students wet. But I think you should go to the university general store, because they sell a smaller Attends." Those were what today are called Youth. Within a month I had received the first of hundreds of cases of those. Okay, all you diaper makers out there. Please make diapers for us "tweenies" who were too big for Huggies and Pampers when they came out originally and yet are not big enough for any commercial Medium. There are over 20 million people in the USA who wore disposables larger than baby products in 2007, compared to about 12 million newborn to Size 7. Us mature tweenies do not grow. So I have been loyal to Attends Youth over 26 years. How many infants wear the same size Pampers more than a year? Sure, for bed a plain white diaper is okay. But as a treat for being a cute good girl I should have cool decorated diapers in my size. Wow, if they had cartoons on the back, as well as the front, that would be so super! It would be like I was wearing a Pampers or Huggies from just before the clothlike fad took over. Here is more free advice the geniouses at Pampers, Huggies and others can have. When you are wearing a diaper, so long as it flexes when you move, you do not feel the outer layer. Inside a diaper clothlike is no advantage to me. Okay I admit clothlike can be more flexible and stretchy. But News Flash! We do not move much in bed, and the plastic outer layer is better in bed because the bedding slides over it. When a bit of blanket clings to clothlike, for a few seconds as you turn or wriggle, a leg will gap or the waist will gap, just at the wrong moment before pee has soaked into the SAP. That is why nurses prefer plastic for patients in bed, as do smart parents. The clothlike became a fad because when a mommy holds a small baby in her arms, to her the clothlike is more comfy. Nobody at P&G or Huggies asked any 12mo old's opinion! So, Diaper Makers, I bet whoever starts to sell a decorated Youth Size disposable first will win a huge loyal customer base. And we will be the same size over 25 years. Today I am 43, so with any luck I will be this size, or smaller, another 40 years. That is a whole lot of diapers! And, I will save my social Security so at least one a day is decorated! Baby Angel

Hello, yourself, Katie Beth, like the others have said, this place is filled with nice people. Some are Mommies and Daddies. Many are like us, girls and boys of various ages. Are you one of those big girls? You know, the kind at toddler school who think they are better than us because they go in the potty? Or are you like most of us, still wetting most days and every night? Here we often have our own AB worlds, with their own logic. Baby Angel is never sure her own age. I know I can walk, but in my playroom I prefer to crawl. I can talk to adults when I hafta, but would rather talk with other kids and animals who understand me. I'm don't wanna grow up. I like to eat some of the stuff grownups eat, but not everything. On my good days I can drink from a cup, but I really love a baby bottle. The potty scares me, so I only sit on it when Mommy or Daddy makes me, which is okay because I no longer like making poop in my pants. How about you Katie Beth? Do you even want pull-ups? Only nice people change me. Mommy, Daddy, Granny, Auntie Betsy and Cousin Sarah who babysits me. Do you have a favorite toy? Daddy says I should treat all my toys nice and not say I love one more than the others. I do love my Eukie. He is a koala, from some strange place. He has protected me as long as I can remember. Would you like to tell us about your baby world? Luvs and Huggies, Baby Angel

When selecting diapers, the most important measurement is your hips. The next important consideration is the diaper length through your crotch. Unless supported by something called Onesies, a diaper must reach above your hips to stay in place. This has been my problem since I was preparing to leave home for university in 1981. At home our family used Curity gause diapers. For herself and us older gals Mom had sewn two and even three of those together, so we could fold them in various ways until they would fit and stay in place all night. A month before I left home Mom let me buy my first bag of Attends. which were medium. No stores stocked the Youth briefs. During that month Mom, my oldest sister, my Aunt Betsy all tried to help me find a way to tape those medium snug. The taped met in the middle. The only thing that helped was over the too loose Attends I wore cotton knit briefs. The housing director knew in advane, because I told her about my wetting. My first day she came to my dorm room and saw my bag of Attends Medium. She took one look at me and suggested I go to the campus general store, which did carry Attends Youth Briefs. My waist at 17 was less than 19" and my hips about 23" In the successive decades I have managed to hold my weight (currently 103 lbs at 43!) My waist varies from 22-23" and my hips expanded to 28" According to Attends my hips are on the big side for even the current Youth Briefs. On me the tapes are not in the middle, but if I were slightly bigger they would fit. See why I wear pinned gauze diapers to bed when I am home? Baby Angel aka Angela Bauer

Years ago the first time people in the Hollywood adult spanking community found out I like my diapers, a few teased me. Up to then, when I actually had not known about AB/DL fun, I got along with my diapers, and for spanking parties I would take off my disposable in the ladies room the moment I arrived, then keep track of the time so I could use a toilet every hour. It works okay and I never wet at a party. When other spanking women saw me either removing or taping on my Attends, that was fine, I was incon. Then my sister told me about AB. We attended the next month's spanking party in discreet diapers under our dresses, and as soon as someone found out we like being diapered, attitudes changed. Then, about a year later I married Don Davis. He was a pioneer photographing adult spanking and very popular. The teasing stopped. Two years later as we all were arriving for a spanking con, a leading star and producer asked me to take her to a supermarket and help her select some diapers. I said that would not work because like me she is too small for Depend. I gave her a few Attend Youth/Small briefs. After that, a whole lot of spankers admitted being into diapers. While no diaper vendors had a booth at this year's Shadow Lane adult spanking con in Las Vegas, we had some super subgroup meetings early before the main con party. Here is the link to Fetishcon: http://www.fetishcon.com Don and I love Tampa, but we already have plans for this August. My suggestion is to go to their website and offer to conduct a discussion of all diaper related activities. Look, somebody has to get the ball rolling. I was last teased in 1989. Times have "changed" for the better. Baby Angel, aka Angela Bauer

Hi Legls, Does this mean you are in the profession of Law, or are a law student? When I was in pre-law starting the fall of 1981, I was assigned a dry roommate, although I had written the housing director I wet my bed and therefore would bring my own rubber sheets and also would wear disposable diapers to bed. The first time my roommate wet herself at a kegger, she begged me to diaper and then coach her to diapering herself for future keggers. Okay, let us talk about your questions. Somewhat larger than the Pampers Baby Dry size 6 is the Pampers Cruisers Size 7. However they are designed for different uses. The Baby Dry is designed for naps and bed, when the toddler is not moving much. The Cruisers are for active toddlers and thus are less ideal when the kid is sleeping on back, tummy or side. So, when comparing them for other uses, the size difference is minimal. Baby/Toddler disposables are not nearly long enough to work well on anyone much heavier than the package indicates, which is for the Baby Dry Size 6 over 35 pounds which means up to 40# max. The Cruisers Size 7 is marked for over 40# and is okay up to 48# unless the kid is really skinny. Those Baby Dry can be very handy for adults as stufers inside an adult diaper. Use something like a diaper pin to prick some holes in the outer layer so eventually the wetting flows through the Pamper into the adult diaper. If you use a combination of the Pamper inside, then probably you will be satisfied with an adult brief you can buy locally, such as a Depend Brief or for pull-on the Depend Adjustible Underwear. Please note a smaller Pamper works better because it will fit in the crotch without sticking past the adult diaper's leak barriers. Personally I use Pampers Cruisers Size 4 as my slip-in pads, by cutting off the side tabs. since I want the outer layer to work normally I di not prick it with holes. Now, about diaper fit. It is not your waist measurement that is important it is your hip size and also the length from the back to front of the diaper through your crotch. To measure this get nude and either use a narrow belt or a pieve of string to go around you just above your hips to keep thightening it until you define the smallest dimention. Then use a soft fabric tape measure to measure fron string to string throush your crotch allowing room for your scrotum to be free, not squished. If the diaper you buy is not long enough to be fastened at the hips and above it, then it will always slide off, especially when wet. With stocky heavy men you also need to consider the measurement around your legs at the maximum close to your body. Be sure the diaper leg gather leak barriers are not stretched, they need to be relaxed to move with you. Most men with a 34" waist and not over 180 pounds will fit in a Medium/Large typical adult tape-on and the Small/Medium Depend Adjustable Underwear. With a tape-on brief, get the larger size if you are close to maximum, because it is more effective to reduce the size of a diaper by placing the tapes unusually close to the front center than to try expanding the tabs to meet the front portion. Extra length through the crotch is a good thing, but you will need to keep your shirt tucked in or the back of the diaper top will show beyond normal jeans or slacks. Good wearing of diapers, Angela

What a fascinating question! Absolutely diapers have changed my life for the better. The fact is at puberty in 1976 I started losing my bladder control, so diapers for bed has been absolutely necessary since then. At 20 my day bladder capacity was less than an hour, so functionally I was incontinent and started wearing diapers 24/7. Although I never resisted diapers, for years they were just unusual undies. Then when I was 26 I discovered the joys of AB as a coping strategy for incon adults and teens. When I joined such AB groups as DPF and started communicating with the delightful owner of Infantae Press, I started meeting in person many AB/DL. I was 27 when I married Don Davis. Since then we have traveled all over to AB/DL parties and have friends into diapers all over the world. Honestly without discreet functional diapers I would not have any "spcial continence" and could not function as a responsible adult. Also honestly, without AB to relax me, I would not be happy and I probably would be depressed so much I could hardly function. Embrace your diapers and your inner child. Emotionally own your own wetting. Luvs, Huggies and Pampers, too, Baby angel, aka Angela Bauer

I have to agree with RiDiaperBoy: the poll would not accept just a No to abuse, so I had to also vote the other 2 questions top No. As a child I knew my Granny, Mom and Aunt Betsy wet. When my older sis reached puberty she started wetting her bed. Same for me, and later both my kid sisters. None of us were ever teased. Every bed, even my brothers', had waterproof mattress covers. Vinyl panties of all sizes were kept ready, and stacks of gauze diapers were also always available. During the years between potty training and puberty Mom asked us to wear diapers and panties on trips so we did not need a lot of toilet stops, but that was totally voluntary. If any of us just wanted to wear a diaper at home, all we had to do was ask and Granny, Mom or eventually big sis would pin us up. Although I had often changed my two younger sisters, Mom waited until I started wetting every night to coach me how to pin my own diapers. I did not need day diapers until I started law school, when the lectures were longer than my tiny bladder capacity. Nobody at law school teased me. In middle and high school when I was invited on a sleep-over Mom always told the other mom I was bringing my own rubber sheet and diaper bag. Before gal pals slept at my house their mom was told by my Mom about my diapers. Some of those gals wanted to try a gauze diaper and vinyl panties. In my adult life I did not discover the AB worls until I was 26 and an associate attorney with a big firm. I married Don Davis in 1991 and he totally is supportive of my AB side. We appeared on Montel Williams Show in Feb 1992. I was made a partner of my firm in July 1993. Never has an non-AB/DL ever recognized me from all this outside AB websites. So, I have not suffered any abuse, ever. When I get spanked, it is because I love it when Don spanks me! Baby Angel, aka Angela Bauer

Welcome Storey, your situation is a turn around from the situation in which a boyfriend or husband is trying to sweet talk his significant other into participating in diaper play. Back in 1991 when I decided relaxing as an adult baby (AB) would help me cope with my 24/ incontinence I was so luck that the first AB magazine I ever saw had an article by Don Davis, saying he had been the "Daddy Don" to his late wife. I knew Don would be at a party. So when I introduced myself to him, I knew he understood incontinence and AB for relaxation. We have been happily married over 16 years. Storey, in other posts you did make it clear your told your now husband about your emotional diaper need before your wedding, which was the right and ethical thing to do. There is not any one magic answer to change your husband's mind. How about you take a good look at the photos of diapered men and women in our galleries. Would you ever dress like some of them do? What if you showed some of those pictures to your husband? Continue reading past posts here, because a whole lot of members have given advice on this topic a whole lot of times. The fact is most diaper couples consist of one partner who needs diapers, while the other is indifferent, or even hostile. Marriage can be hard, so those of us who are diapered probably need to put more than our fair share into making our relationship so good our spouse will want to keep us happy, even if that means sometimes seeing us diapered. Take a look in the Links & Announcement section for a topic called "A Very Sad Movie" which has a link to Michael Bryson's 21 minute extended preview of his up-coming feature movie REDEMPTION in which a 22 year old married woman has needed the emotional support of diapers when she is stressed. She puts one one and is sleeping when her husband sees her. Fortunately he is gentle, loving and comforts her. They are cuddling in bed at the fade out, so we don't know if she was still diapered, or if his love allowed her to go diaperless. Best of good wishes, Angela Bauer

Welcome, Fleeced Baby Girl. I totally love your screen name. My Mom bought fleece sleepers for all us kids until we were over 12. Since that was the winter we spend in Iowa, she got me a new pink fleece sleeper that I wore until the summer I turned 13. I only stopped wearing it because it was so hot that summer. I never had perfect contol and lost all my night control at 12 when I reached puberty, so I was diapered inside my last two pink fleece sleepers. Although diapered every night after 12, I did not find out about the joys of AB until I was 26. However, when I was 13 I began to adore romantic adult spanking scenes in novels. At 15 I began to attend adult spanking parties as a sub. I played in the adult spanking scene in several cities for 11 years before I met an AB, and within a couple of months I was way more into AB than being spanked in front of a room full of strangers. Mind you I still find being spanked by my husband sexy, but we only play that in private these days. Write me if you like, my e-mail is shown as my website in my profile. Baby Angel

Hi Gerber, I would love to visit your blog, except you did not include the URL in any of your several messages about it. Share the URL and we will visit it.

Welcome to Daily Diapers, As Three Rivers says, this is a marvelous friendly community, covering the entire range of people who are curious about adults in diapers to Diaper Lovers and Adult Babies. In my adult responsible life I am a senior partner of a big law firm and happily married sine 1991 to Don Davis. I have been bladder incontinent since 1976. By way of coping with the downsides of needing diapers 24/7 in 1990 I discovered the joys of relaxing as a big baby girl, so in that mode I become Daddy Don's Baby Angel, with AB clothing over my diapers. Everyone here has a unique take on all this, so by reading many of the posts, you will reach and understanding of DL and AB. Look at Just Diapers to learn more technical stuff than outsider care to know. Scroll down to Links and Announcements and in that scroll down to the topic "A Sad Movie" The first message provides the best link to REDEMPTION a 21 minute video advance look at the up-coming feature movie of the same title by Michael Bryson. This is a hard-hitting expose of the way foolish parents over-react to set-backs in toilet training with physical and verbal abuse. See, a wide range of interest are covered here at DD. Luv ya, Angela Bauer

Hi Curious, Since I left home for university at 17 in 1981, I have needed to buy both baby and adult diapers in stores all over the USA. In my early days as an attorney my firm had me traveling almost every week. That was the time Attends were being withdrawn for most stores, as Depend gained market share. Perhaps when I was 26, the clerks thought I was young and buying them for a grandparent. Never has a clerk been rude to me, nor have they conducted on the job training about my diaper purchases. Let me tell you, had that happened to me, I would have left, being sure the cash receipt showed the time and a code for the clerk. Then a bit later I would phone, asking for the general manager if it were a chain store and the owner if I knew it was independent. Once I got that person on the phone I would ask if the time of day and clerk code identified to him the correct person. After I got that answer I would say that I am an attorney representing the people who as a test just purchased aduly incontinence supplies at that store. Going on I would retell the events, and ask what remedies the store intended to offer my clients. Should the manager try to bluff, I would say that the Federal Americans with Disability Act makes it a crime to discriminate against people buying adult incontinence products. My demand would be an instant apology or I would file a claim on behalf of my clients with the nearest US Attorney. It is the fact that is true, it is a Federal crime, that scares the owners and managers. They might think they can bribe their way out of trouble with the local cops or DA, but they know if the try that with the US Government, they will be in even more trouble. Look, like I always say, the owner wants clerks to smile, get the money and get on to the next customer. They do not want clerks making fun of customers, and they do not want a group of employees talking when they should be working. Nothing like that has happened to me personally, nor to my sisters who all wet. But I have had to put the fear of the US Government into managers about other things. Remember bullies always back down when confronted with reasonable resolve. The law is on your side. Same goes thay US Labor Law requires employers to accommodate incontinent people. Failure to do so is discrimination and a serious violation of Labor Law. Luv ya, Angela Bauer

There have been several "Why Me?" moments with diapers. Of course there are no answers. The women of my family have a genetic issue causing us to lose bladder control at puberty. Diapers were openly available in our home. Mom made no secret she wore for bed. My first "Why Me?" came shortly after I returned to bedwetting after puberty, and after Mom coached me until I could pin my own Curities, when I knew I liked my diapers. My second "Why Me?" came when I was 26 and discovered many nice adults were willing to pay to learn to be incontinent and my reaction was "Why can't I sell them my incontinence?" My third "Why" came in 1991 when I met Don Davis. He accepted me in diapers and was willing to enable my increasing desire to relax as an AB, to which I said "Why not Me!" Luv, ya, Baby Angel

Craig, thanks for the kind words. Despite some sensational articles to the contrary and a phony PhD dissertation a former AB firm sold, there is no scientific research into diaper related affectation, objectphillia (the latest shrink talk for fetish) or even fetish in general. Instead what we have is the best theories of the most dedicated mental health researchers who would like funding to explore fetish and know that is a career ender. The most generally accepted theory is that spanking and diaper affectation and objectphillia begin (are inculcated) by a random innocent action during the first 12 months of live, way before conscious memory begins. There it lies quiet or latent, sometimes for decades, until a more evident action takes place toward the patient. Perhaps a nurse at the hospital was kind to Craig in a nursery when he was a day old, or more likely at age 6 months although he could not know it at the time, a diaper change made him happy. Then when older his grandmother requiring him to be diapered was the trigger "allowing" him to act in a way otherwise taboo. Many mental health and medical professionals have radically divided views on my families approach to preparing us for a lifetime of incontinence. Some say they drove me into AB, yet most of my cousins and my two brothers and two of my sisters are not AB/DL. Besides most shrinks concede of the affectation compulsive conditions, infantilism is the least dangerous medically and physically. Therefore it is irresponsible therapy to displace sucking a pacifier and replace it with a cigarette, and so on. I believe Granny, Mom and Aunt Betsy did the ethical thing, made diapers openly available, sweet talked us into wearing them on trips and took the risk some of us love wearing diapers. Mom freely admits she does not mind the sensations, especially today with better products. Rant #2: When I read Craig's quote, I looked at my original and saw somehow my signature appeared above question 9 and my answer does not appear. So: 9. Were you ever ridiculed? As a child and teen my entire family was supportive of all of us who wet and wore. Any family ridicule was about my intensity wanting to become a lawyer for corporations. Years later my sister 4 years younger than me and a year older than Missi the AB sister/costume designer got drunk at a party and called both of us, and our husbands "wacked out sick freaks" to make games out of being incontinent. It did not really bother Missi, our husbands or me, because all four of us have happy successful and well-paid careers doing what we do. The judgmental sister has never held a job above minimum wage and is unemployed more than working. She is the alcoholic. Worst said about Missi and myself is we dring our Ensure from Evenflo nursers with PUR or Munchkin clear silicone nipples. By Golly, doesn't everyone do that? Mom said it best that party, "Darlings, consider the source! She always was a difficult child, a shame I was against spanking back then." Luv ya, Angela

My baby sister Missi has wet since puberty just like me, but lost her day control a week after she graduated high school. She is a movie/TV costume designer and married years before I did. In 1990 she had just given bith to their daughter and was staying at home, leaving her lots of time to read all kinds of magazines. One evening after work I visited her and she showed me the current issue of Fetish Times with three illustrated articles and also a fiction story all about Adult Babies. She also read an article about incontinence management suggesting AB as a coping strategy. On my way home I visited an adult book store, bought that Fetish Times and really read those articles. Soon Missi made herself a bunch of adorable big baby girl clothing and bought herself pacifiers and nipples for toddlers. Her husband started out just playing Daddy then progressive joined in as a boy baby. Missi and John are discreet and use common sense, so it was not until their daughter was 14 that she told Missi she guessed not only her folks play big baby, so do many of their friends. Like me, the daughter lost her night control at 12. Missi never made a secret she is incontinent. Let me tell you, her daughter is one adorable smart and level-headed young women I have ever known. She is an after school intern at my law firm, has straight As and skipped ahead a year. As far as I can tell, her parents are doing everything right. In their case being AB/DL does not make them poor parents. Angela

I had worn night diapers since I was 12, so I knew I would be diapered for bed in my dorm. Although I promissed Dad and Mom I would not drink at university, the evening we moved into the dorms there were a lot of keggers. I had wet myself a couple of times while drinking in high school, when I did not wear a diaper, so that first evening at university I put on an Attends as my new roommate watched fascinated. When I helped her back to our room about 4am my Attends still could handle another big pee, and she at wet herself in public a few times and was soaked. Once her hangover cleared by lunch the next day she asked me to diaper her for the keggers that night. She went drinking so often by the end of our first month she was going to the store and buying her own bags of Attends! Rock On in Diapers, Angela Bauer

1. Earliest diaper memory A month after I turned 4 Dad, Mom, an older sister, an older brother, me, a younger brother, and younger sister were on a car trip. I was dry night and day at home, as were my older sibling, while the younger sibs were not toilet trained. Mom had told me when they first talked about the trip that because Dad did not want unsynchronized toilet stops, all us kids would be diapered while in the car. The morning we left Mom put me on the sturdy family changing table, pin me into 3 Curity diapers and pulled on a pair of Gerber vinyl panties. I watched as my oldest sister, who was almost 9 was changed. During the trip Mom would change all of us once about 1PM, then take everyone except the 2 babies out of diapers until the next morning. Mom had told me she herself wet, but it was the first evening at a motel I saw her pinning her own diapers, while talking to us girls. Mom was not embarrassed. 2. The first time you realized you liked diapers On trips and special events I was diapered many times a year up to the time I turned 12, when I lost my control. Mom taught me to change myself, and I already knew I did not mind being diapered, I was relaxed since I did not need to pay attention to my bladder and I really liked that. Also, to me pee always feels nice as my diaper gets soggy and soft inside vinyl panties. 3. Unique or memorable diapers sightings I knew that my favorite Aunt Betsy who lived across the street wet, and all her kids were very slow to toilet train. When I was 17 I babysat her kids, including my favorite cousin Matt, because he still needed pinned night diapers. He was so sweet, and when I had played with him during the days he was never diapered. 4. Times you have been caught or exposed In our family diapers were change in front of people constantly. Some of my siblings watched me being changed on trips. Once I could change myself, every night my 2 younger sisters 8 and baby sis Missi would watch me in fascination. 5. When you have told or confessed to someone else When I was 5 I told Mom I sometimes wished I could wear diapers every day. She just laughed and said eventually I would be diaperd 24/7. By age 20 that was true. 6. The first time you wore Mom and my older sister have told me a few weeks after I was dry 24/7 we took a car trip and I was back in diapers at age 3, but my first memory of wearing was the trip when I was 4. 7. The first time you bought Mom, Aunt Betsy and Granny were against "those new-fangled" disposables. They bought 21x40 Curity gauze diapers by the case. I was the first in the extended family to get a scholarship to a university and mine was in Upstate New York, a long plane ride. This was 1981 so Mom relented and said I should get used to wearing Attends, because I could not wash gauze diapers in my dorm. Early in August my older brother drove me to several stores Attends had told me stocked them. That way I was used to talking to store clerks about diapers for adults. At the last stop of the day, the store nearest our home I actually bought my first bag of Attends. I was thrilled and none of that embarrased me. 8. Discovering that there are others like you With in the family it was conceded the only one of us who wet and resented her diapers was my next youngest sister, who also was the only one to lose all her control at puberty, so she had to wear to school most of middle and all of high school. Perhaps that was her problem. When I was 26 Missi was so excited to say she discovered articles about adults who wanted to learn to wet and the joys of Adult Baby. Then I was sure I was not the only person who liked being diapered, I even loved the sensation and I still do. I have been happily married since 1991 and early that year went back to pinned gauze diaper at night and home when possible. Days I have been able to only use slip-in disposable pads for 20 years, but still keep Attends Youth Briefs and Attends Small Pull-Ups at home for when I am sick and when we travel. I make my slip-in by cutting off the taps of Size 4 Pampers Cruisers. Live free and be happy in diapers! Baby Angel 9. Being ridiculed

Nikki, Sweetie Darling, take a look at my picture as I nap with my stuffed toys while wearing diapers and vinyl panties and also using my pacifier. I am not embarrassed to share this with all our members and guests. I am not saying you should rush to Boots or someplace, buy a lage pack of disposable nappies in your size, put one and and then how it to friends and neighbors. Just know all of us who actually wear diaper and nappies have bought them somehow, often in person. It is scary at least at first, but you get past that. Someone has another topic about that, buying the fist bag of diapers in a store. The thing is, Precious Nikki, is that until you privately put on a nappy, anything I say about the comfy feeling will not make sense to you. Eventually once you are wearing a nappy you will try wetting it. That first time as a big girl wetting a nappy is a memorable experience, and I hope it is as wonderful for you as it is for me. At 12 I started wetting my bed. Since my Granny, Mom and older sister all wet, everyone expected one day it would be my turn. Oh, I had worn diapers as an older kid on trips because my bladder is tiny. What a difference it was the night after I wet my bed without a diaper to wake in a damp diaper about 1AM realizing I had not felt the wetting. So I tried to stay awake, and so I did for the first time feely myself wetting with no control. It did feel so nice. Bless you and keep you well and Happy, Angela

My long time pal Robert joined DPF in Dec 1991 and has gone on to be my consistent correspondent. While we were just finding the link to get Redemption running on our computers, Robert found it on My Space, read the feature-length Treatment and immediately sent Michael Bryson a message of support. Robert has received answers from MB about various things. MB has told me in PM that he used the link I gave him to visit us right here and he considers our discussion very insightful. He had to go out all day yeaterday and will be answering the questions I sent him. O also am in contact with Dawn Judson, the real and loving mom of the star as Amber/Younger Girl, the one the only Alya Judson, who turned 13 in Dec 2007. Already Alya has a whole lot of screen credits and agents in Los Angeles, Austin and Houston. Dawn and Ayla confirm that no diapers were wet during the making of the Redemption video. Those are two different sizes of generic adult disposables purchased in a San Antonio store, small for Ayla and Medium for Monica Curtis who plays Older Girl/Amber. All the diapers were hand decorated with similar stickers, which were then covered with wide clear tape. The plan was to have several close to identical for each of several sequences where Young Amber was supposed to be in the same diaper. They did not remember the total number of sets and total used during production. The larger diapers for Older Amber also were decorated as close to identical as possible, but they only needed the one kind of set, since Older Amber diapers herself and for only a few hours, it was supposed to be the same one the entire time. They were not there when Monica and Michael taped their scenes at a different location set. By happy coincidence yesterday (Sunday Jan 27) Don and I had brunch at the home of another married couple (Peggy and Lance) way into AB. We were joined by 4 other AB couples. Two of the other women only are mommies and Don is only a daddy. The hosts and my baby sister Missy and her husband John only play AB. Each of us has viewed Redemption on our computers many times. The hosts were playing it for us on a new 72" LCD flat screen, and let me tell you, it looked fabulous! Lance is a movie studio executive by day, and with Peggy makes adult spanking videos on the side that are very popular. Another of the husbands and a very submissive AB, is a leading financier of Independent films. My sister Missy is an award-winning Hollywood costume designer. All three of them had bought stickers. Then instead of applying them directly to the diaper, they scanned them into computers, enhanced the design using PhotoShop, and output the results on a laser printer into thermal transfer paper. That same thing is used to make custom T-shirts. The resulting decorated cloth diapers are beautiful. It remains to be seen how well the transfers stand up to washing. Missy also output to a newer film product. The film is super thin, almost invisible and very flexible. The inside is sticky. That is where the image goes. The outside is matte finish, so the result looked like scaled-up Pambers Cruisers, Size 7. Missy had carefully redrawn those characters from a bag of the real Cruisers, then enlarged the image slightly, so the cartoons were in scale with the Attends she was using as an experiment. Unfortunately the cost for the film is currently $4.00 per sheet which makes decorations for only 3 diapers. Not practical for routine use, but Missy is starting to use that new material making costumes. When Michael Bryson is ready to make the feature length Redemption, Missy is sure the price of the sticky film will come down so a Kinkos could make them. Probably you cold not make them at home because the sublimation laser printer costs about $8,000. It does also make prints 24" wide by any length. Wow! Adam makes his usual good points, that all over the internet people of various interests are discussing Redemption. Ultimately that has to be good for child abuse and suicide prevention, and also good for us in the AB/DL community. Way to go Adam, Robert, MB, Ayla and Dawn Luvs, Huggies and Pampers to us, Baby Angel PS, play nice while I am away this week, because Michael Bryson visits us!