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I see that tonight's Mythbusters (Dec 28, 2009, 9pm eastern) will be investigating the myth about making a sleeping person wet the bed if their hand is placed in warm water. It should be interesting... Has anyone done this first hand?? I'll wet the bed anyway without a dipe on, but I was always curious about this one.

Oh boy, this'll be interesting: With the Xmas Day panty bomber attack, the TSA is going to be investigating anyone with "abnormal" underclothes. One could carry enough PETN explosive in an adult diaper to do some real damage. Be warned if you're diapered and need to fly. I tried going through with a Male Shield and was pulled aside - it had to be removed before I was allowed to continue. Fortunately there was a little store selling panty shields on the secure side, and the flight was short. Otherwise I would have had a major problem without a doctor's note on me. I do have a prescription for adult diapers, but I never thought to carry it with me.

This was all over Dr. Dean Edell's radio show today also, and the online nursing forums are awash with disgusted bloggers on this. This is very, very bad. This is exactly the kind of attention AB's do NOT need. But from a medically incontinent person and who's wife is nurse, we're both looking at this story trying to figure out exactly how the home health care nurse fell for this. Its pretty rare (as in almost never happens) to have an ambulatory person needing a diaper change - and an adult bottle is just goofy in a professional medical setting. Tube feeding and intravenous but bottle feeding??...My wife works in a nursing home and bottle feeding has never happened, and generally the diapers come in well towards the end of life. Generally an incontinent person under the age of 75 will have a well-documented history - and regular visits - with a urologist, and the nursing staff would be well aware of this. So if the home health care nurse didn't check this out beforehand that's a little weird right there, although I s'pose anything can happen. Also, for men being taken care of professionally, a leg bag will be the preferred method as its much easier to take care of the skin...diapers could be used but it is not the first choice. And anyone young enough to be walking around would probably have had at least an attempt to surgically place an artificial sphincter - in any medical setting. So from a nursing point of view, this situation would throw up about 10 thousand red flags in the first place before the patient would be accepted for care. This guy's story has "nutcase" written all over it. This is going to take years to overcome - people will always equate AB's with disgusting, kooky, sexual fetish, weirdo idiots now. Which may be slightly true (who's perfect??) but this is something this community doesn't need. It could be argued that this guy did need a change and a bottle, but not from an innocent home health care nurse. Maybe from the local hooker or fetish Dom - or anyone else who was fully aware of the fetish part. I guess the moral of the story - don't ever try to play with someone who doesn't know the true nature of your fetish...and that includes showing off dipes in public. That's not going to endear anyone to you, and its not cute. In fact to a medically incon person, this rubs us the wrong way also. We'd give anything to be continent again, and people who wish for this condition aren't thinking everything through. To each his own, though. Be careful what you wish for...

This might have been discussed before, so if it has, remove this post.... I'm normally in the medical incontinence section, but if anyone's interested in a mildly entertaining "D" movie - Check out "Shoot 'Em Up" with Clive Owen and Paul Giamatti. An absolute "Pulp Fiction" wannabe, but just comes off as a really dumb flick - but the storyline does involve hero Clive saving an lactating ABDL "mommy" hooker type. Its a "D" movie on many levels...but maybe some of the AB's here might enjoy the few Mommy scenes. Just a head's up....

I've been using Tranquility ATN briefs (plastic) or Tena Classic .. Both of those are less expensive than Abena, and seem to work fairly well, and are reasonably quiet. Vitality Medical online is one supplier, but they are available at many other sources. Your roommate will know, though, whatever you do, so best be on good terms. If you come across as a genuine medical problem and not an abdl freakazoid, it will probably be fine. Good luck!

Hah! "Do you enjoy being blind?"...That says it all, right there. Sometimes its fun to close your eyes, but being blind sucks big time. Yes, I have had Greenlight PVP, which I've written about here, and being incontinent SUCKS overall. When you're an ABDL in control, wearing a diaper for erotic motivations is fun. But when you have to wear a dipe for practicalities sake, it ain't fun, it ain't cute and it ain't sexy. No, you do NOT wish to be on this side of the fence, no matter how much you think you want to be. Forget it.

Just a quick report on Greenlight 3 months post-op: Still incon + spasms, and painful, really weird ejaculations (orgasm is there, little or no semen, it just feels strange and different - pain comes on after sex), doc says still in the realm of "normal", it is not uncommon for issues to persist 6 months or more. Oh well. And of course every few day there's another bout of clots and bleeding but it is very, very slowly becoming a bit less. The main point is that if anyone is considering this, and the doc says it'll heal in a week or two, had better take it with a grain of salt. Depending on what gets zapped out it can take much, much longer to heal, as in my case.

gbw: This is a fantasy of yours, we think....It would be more appropriate in another section, but we've all made mistakes. For one thing, if you don't want to wet the bed, don't drink fluids within 3 hrs before bedtime. Your body will naturally turn down the urine flow at night as well, at least that's how it works in an otherwise healthy adult. For the second thing, if you're incon at night you're probably incon in the day also. For a third thing it takes a _much_ longer time of diaper wearing to become incon from diaper-wearing, if ever. If this persists, you might want to get a referral to a urologist. Also, be very careful of what you wish for...You really don't want to be incon "for real". I know you think you want that, but really...you don't. Being an AB/DL is certainly a fun for playtime, but being incon for real is a whole other ball 'o wax.

This is probably a bad idea, and very rarely is this medically required on a regular basis. Anyone who has fecal incontinence will most probably be wearing an ostomy bag - its _much_ better for your skin, and I would never make anyone smell my own crap...No matter what you're wearing for a dipe you'll stink to high-heaven, and I would never want to get my jollies at someone else's discomfort. Maybe if your diet was really, really perfect, so as to minimize the smell....but its still pretty bad. I would save crapping yourself for the privacy of your own home, aside from the occasional un-intentional accident.

Look: A) Hooking up with someone at an IC support group is probably so far down the list of anyone's priorities, and it is really inappropriate. When you are incon for real it is sooooo not erotic - it ain't fun or cute or sexy anymore. Its a pain in the @ss. I know at least in Kaiser Permanente here in Washington / Oregon you are refered to the IC support group by a urologist. Its not like you just "show up" for the punch and cookies. The coordinator at the meetings will be looking at your medical chart. C) The way it works is women have their own support group and men have theirs. Never the 'twain shall meet. The issues each group faces are different, and I don't know any women who would be really comfortable discussing these issues with a strange man. Finding a date whose into dipes is realistically probably never going to happen right off the bat. You probably need to build a real relationship first and then work in the diaper thing very slowly as time goes on. Don't lie, that will make matters worse. Or find a pro that you can pay to play with. Or get an account at alt.com. You really want to evaluate the priorities in your life - there are a million things more important than you being in a diaper - and you have to accept the fact nobody cares except you, and that your fetish will freak out most women. They'll be looking at their list of choices for who to go out with and if you bring up diapers too soon they will go screaming in the opposite direction as fast as possible. It is very, very common that diaper fetishists want people to "see" them in their dipes, and if you are wanting to act on these fantasies for real, you'd better seek some professional help. Do not drag innocent bystanders into your fetish fantasies, as you don't want to be convicted as a sexual predator - as is beginning to happen for real. A couple months ago a guy was trying to meet women in a bar and was "accidentally" showing them his diaper - he's now a convicted sex predator, and his life is shot. Play it cool. Build a real relationship with someone you love first, and if its right the fetish won't be a big deal. But please don't go after a relationship based on a fetish alone...

Yes...I used to be DL here and there, but since I've become incon, I realize its a major disability. It ain't fun, and being incon takes away the erotic part pretty fast. You realize how many other things in life are more important than walking around in a wet diaper. And if you are into some real pain, try having an orgasm after Greenlight prostectomy...That will re-align your priorities pretty quickly. And then you look down and see blood, clots and chunks of tissue come out instead of cum, it gets even more anti-erotic. Sexy it ain't, for you or for her. Yes, I agree: "Choosing" to wear diapers for jollies is _completely_ different from -having- to wear dipes. You really don't want to be truly incon 24/7, trust me.

So what do you do if you run out of clean diapers? Last night my wife and I went to concert...usually she can carry a spare disposable diaper in her purse for me. Well, the diaper I started out with leaked a few hours early, and I had to change....Then the concert ran longer than expected. And then I was "overflowing" with nothing to change into. Has this happened to you? I was able to take off my T-shirt and use that as an absorbent pad until we got home, but much longer and that would have been soaked also. Its times like these when being incon is no fun...

Whelp, its been about a month now...and Dang! Its still not any better, really, from when I started out. Saw the Uro, he just shrugs and says "Well, this takes a really long time to heal, come back in 3 months". So urge incontinence, and very painful bladder spasms are normal, plus passing clots and bloody urine are all normal. I had to switch away from cloth dipes back to disposables for a while, on bloody days. The Greenlight TV commercial shows guys who are "Back at work within a couple days". That may be true for some. But most people are fouled up for weeks afterwards, and the surgeons really don't consider any symptom out of ordinary until 3 months post op. I know Greenlight is better than a regular TURP, but its not like a walk through the park, either. What is the worst part right now is the painful spasms that happen at the end of the pee...You know, as you go to squeeze it off, the prostate and bladder clamp down like there is no tomorrow - enough to take your breath away. "Grab the Pipe" as they say. The stinging sensation is gradually going away. It seems like wearing diapers for fun was a long time ago, and really un-relevant now...Its a different situation when you have to wear 24/7. Takes a bit of the erotica / novelty out.

Ugggghhh..So far this has been a nightmare. Now the procedure itself is fairly quick and painless. I arrived around 11, and was waking up from anesthesia about 1pm, and with some really good pain killer drugs. All of that part was easy. Only after I got un-groggy and got home a few hours later in extreme pain did I notice that the post-op team had totally ignored my red "Allergic to Latex" wrist bands (both wrists) and had fitted me with Latex cath and tubing. It was like everything hips down is on fire. To make a long story short, I had to go back to the hospital so they could swap in a 100% silicone cath, and that caused more bleeding and trauma to the internal wounds...so at the moment I'm not in a really good mood. That part in the greenlight sales literature about Geenlight being relatively painless hasn't been true for me at all...but it could have been easier if the surgeon had ordered the right cath. I'm using a cath + diaper at the moment to catch the blood and urine leakage around the cath. The cath will be in a few more days now. So far any attempt at working the sphincter mucsles is very painful, and they said in my case incontinence will follow for several weeks, but I should get some control back in a few months post-op. We'll see.

Well, I go in tomorrow...I'll report back results after I can get back online....