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I see that tonight's Mythbusters (Dec 28, 2009, 9pm eastern) will be investigating the myth about making a sleeping person wet the bed if their hand is placed in warm water. It should be interesting... Has anyone done this first hand?? I'll wet the bed anyway without a dipe on, but I was always curious about this one.

Oh boy, this'll be interesting: With the Xmas Day panty bomber attack, the TSA is going to be investigating anyone with "abnormal" underclothes. One could carry enough PETN explosive in an adult diaper to do some real damage. Be warned if you're diapered and need to fly. I tried going through with a Male Shield and was pulled aside - it had to be removed before I was allowed to continue. Fortunately there was a little store selling panty shields on the secure side, and the flight was short. Otherwise I would have had a major problem without a doctor's note on me. I do have a prescription for adult diapers, but I never thought to carry it with me.

This was all over Dr. Dean Edell's radio show today also, and the online nursing forums are awash with disgusted bloggers on this. This is very, very bad. This is exactly the kind of attention AB's do NOT need. But from a medically incontinent person and who's wife is nurse, we're both looking at this story trying to figure out exactly how the home health care nurse fell for this. Its pretty rare (as in almost never happens) to have an ambulatory person needing a diaper change - and an adult bottle is just goofy in a professional medical setting. Tube feeding and intravenous but bottle feeding??...My wife works in a nursing home and bottle feeding has never happened, and generally the diapers come in well towards the end of life. Generally an incontinent person under the age of 75 will have a well-documented history - and regular visits - with a urologist, and the nursing staff would be well aware of this. So if the home health care nurse didn't check this out beforehand that's a little weird right there, although I s'pose anything can happen. Also, for men being taken care of professionally, a leg bag will be the preferred method as its much easier to take care of the skin...diapers could be used but it is not the first choice. And anyone young enough to be walking around would probably have had at least an attempt to surgically place an artificial sphincter - in any medical setting. So from a nursing point of view, this situation would throw up about 10 thousand red flags in the first place before the patient would be accepted for care. This guy's story has "nutcase" written all over it. This is going to take years to overcome - people will always equate AB's with disgusting, kooky, sexual fetish, weirdo idiots now. Which may be slightly true (who's perfect??) but this is something this community doesn't need. It could be argued that this guy did need a change and a bottle, but not from an innocent home health care nurse. Maybe from the local hooker or fetish Dom - or anyone else who was fully aware of the fetish part. I guess the moral of the story - don't ever try to play with someone who doesn't know the true nature of your fetish...and that includes showing off dipes in public. That's not going to endear anyone to you, and its not cute. In fact to a medically incon person, this rubs us the wrong way also. We'd give anything to be continent again, and people who wish for this condition aren't thinking everything through. To each his own, though. Be careful what you wish for...

This might have been discussed before, so if it has, remove this post.... I'm normally in the medical incontinence section, but if anyone's interested in a mildly entertaining "D" movie - Check out "Shoot 'Em Up" with Clive Owen and Paul Giamatti. An absolute "Pulp Fiction" wannabe, but just comes off as a really dumb flick - but the storyline does involve hero Clive saving an lactating ABDL "mommy" hooker type. Its a "D" movie on many levels...but maybe some of the AB's here might enjoy the few Mommy scenes. Just a head's up....

I've been using Tranquility ATN briefs (plastic) or Tena Classic .. Both of those are less expensive than Abena, and seem to work fairly well, and are reasonably quiet. Vitality Medical online is one supplier, but they are available at many other sources. Your roommate will know, though, whatever you do, so best be on good terms. If you come across as a genuine medical problem and not an abdl freakazoid, it will probably be fine. Good luck!

Hah! "Do you enjoy being blind?"...That says it all, right there. Sometimes its fun to close your eyes, but being blind sucks big time. Yes, I have had Greenlight PVP, which I've written about here, and being incontinent SUCKS overall. When you're an ABDL in control, wearing a diaper for erotic motivations is fun. But when you have to wear a dipe for practicalities sake, it ain't fun, it ain't cute and it ain't sexy. No, you do NOT wish to be on this side of the fence, no matter how much you think you want to be. Forget it.

Just a quick report on Greenlight 3 months post-op: Still incon + spasms, and painful, really weird ejaculations (orgasm is there, little or no semen, it just feels strange and different - pain comes on after sex), doc says still in the realm of "normal", it is not uncommon for issues to persist 6 months or more. Oh well. And of course every few day there's another bout of clots and bleeding but it is very, very slowly becoming a bit less. The main point is that if anyone is considering this, and the doc says it'll heal in a week or two, had better take it with a grain of salt. Depending on what gets zapped out it can take much, much longer to heal, as in my case.

gbw: This is a fantasy of yours, we think....It would be more appropriate in another section, but we've all made mistakes. For one thing, if you don't want to wet the bed, don't drink fluids within 3 hrs before bedtime. Your body will naturally turn down the urine flow at night as well, at least that's how it works in an otherwise healthy adult. For the second thing, if you're incon at night you're probably incon in the day also. For a third thing it takes a _much_ longer time of diaper wearing to become incon from diaper-wearing, if ever. If this persists, you might want to get a referral to a urologist. Also, be very careful of what you wish for...You really don't want to be incon "for real". I know you think you want that, but really...you don't. Being an AB/DL is certainly a fun for playtime, but being incon for real is a whole other ball 'o wax.

This is probably a bad idea, and very rarely is this medically required on a regular basis. Anyone who has fecal incontinence will most probably be wearing an ostomy bag - its _much_ better for your skin, and I would never make anyone smell my own crap...No matter what you're wearing for a dipe you'll stink to high-heaven, and I would never want to get my jollies at someone else's discomfort. Maybe if your diet was really, really perfect, so as to minimize the smell....but its still pretty bad. I would save crapping yourself for the privacy of your own home, aside from the occasional un-intentional accident.

Look: A) Hooking up with someone at an IC support group is probably so far down the list of anyone's priorities, and it is really inappropriate. When you are incon for real it is sooooo not erotic - it ain't fun or cute or sexy anymore. Its a pain in the @ss. I know at least in Kaiser Permanente here in Washington / Oregon you are refered to the IC support group by a urologist. Its not like you just "show up" for the punch and cookies. The coordinator at the meetings will be looking at your medical chart. C) The way it works is women have their own support group and men have theirs. Never the 'twain shall meet. The issues each group faces are different, and I don't know any women who would be really comfortable discussing these issues with a strange man. Finding a date whose into dipes is realistically probably never going to happen right off the bat. You probably need to build a real relationship first and then work in the diaper thing very slowly as time goes on. Don't lie, that will make matters worse. Or find a pro that you can pay to play with. Or get an account at alt.com. You really want to evaluate the priorities in your life - there are a million things more important than you being in a diaper - and you have to accept the fact nobody cares except you, and that your fetish will freak out most women. They'll be looking at their list of choices for who to go out with and if you bring up diapers too soon they will go screaming in the opposite direction as fast as possible. It is very, very common that diaper fetishists want people to "see" them in their dipes, and if you are wanting to act on these fantasies for real, you'd better seek some professional help. Do not drag innocent bystanders into your fetish fantasies, as you don't want to be convicted as a sexual predator - as is beginning to happen for real. A couple months ago a guy was trying to meet women in a bar and was "accidentally" showing them his diaper - he's now a convicted sex predator, and his life is shot. Play it cool. Build a real relationship with someone you love first, and if its right the fetish won't be a big deal. But please don't go after a relationship based on a fetish alone...

Yes...I used to be DL here and there, but since I've become incon, I realize its a major disability. It ain't fun, and being incon takes away the erotic part pretty fast. You realize how many other things in life are more important than walking around in a wet diaper. And if you are into some real pain, try having an orgasm after Greenlight prostectomy...That will re-align your priorities pretty quickly. And then you look down and see blood, clots and chunks of tissue come out instead of cum, it gets even more anti-erotic. Sexy it ain't, for you or for her. Yes, I agree: "Choosing" to wear diapers for jollies is _completely_ different from -having- to wear dipes. You really don't want to be truly incon 24/7, trust me.

So what do you do if you run out of clean diapers? Last night my wife and I went to concert...usually she can carry a spare disposable diaper in her purse for me. Well, the diaper I started out with leaked a few hours early, and I had to change....Then the concert ran longer than expected. And then I was "overflowing" with nothing to change into. Has this happened to you? I was able to take off my T-shirt and use that as an absorbent pad until we got home, but much longer and that would have been soaked also. Its times like these when being incon is no fun...

Whelp, its been about a month now...and Dang! Its still not any better, really, from when I started out. Saw the Uro, he just shrugs and says "Well, this takes a really long time to heal, come back in 3 months". So urge incontinence, and very painful bladder spasms are normal, plus passing clots and bloody urine are all normal. I had to switch away from cloth dipes back to disposables for a while, on bloody days. The Greenlight TV commercial shows guys who are "Back at work within a couple days". That may be true for some. But most people are fouled up for weeks afterwards, and the surgeons really don't consider any symptom out of ordinary until 3 months post op. I know Greenlight is better than a regular TURP, but its not like a walk through the park, either. What is the worst part right now is the painful spasms that happen at the end of the pee...You know, as you go to squeeze it off, the prostate and bladder clamp down like there is no tomorrow - enough to take your breath away. "Grab the Pipe" as they say. The stinging sensation is gradually going away. It seems like wearing diapers for fun was a long time ago, and really un-relevant now...Its a different situation when you have to wear 24/7. Takes a bit of the erotica / novelty out.

Ugggghhh..So far this has been a nightmare. Now the procedure itself is fairly quick and painless. I arrived around 11, and was waking up from anesthesia about 1pm, and with some really good pain killer drugs. All of that part was easy. Only after I got un-groggy and got home a few hours later in extreme pain did I notice that the post-op team had totally ignored my red "Allergic to Latex" wrist bands (both wrists) and had fitted me with Latex cath and tubing. It was like everything hips down is on fire. To make a long story short, I had to go back to the hospital so they could swap in a 100% silicone cath, and that caused more bleeding and trauma to the internal wounds...so at the moment I'm not in a really good mood. That part in the greenlight sales literature about Geenlight being relatively painless hasn't been true for me at all...but it could have been easier if the surgeon had ordered the right cath. I'm using a cath + diaper at the moment to catch the blood and urine leakage around the cath. The cath will be in a few more days now. So far any attempt at working the sphincter mucsles is very painful, and they said in my case incontinence will follow for several weeks, but I should get some control back in a few months post-op. We'll see.

Well, I go in tomorrow...I'll report back results after I can get back online....

Anyone over age 40 should be checked regularly. If you are male, and live long enough, you will get an enlarged prostate at some point. Like wisdom teeth. Your prostate always grows, and depending on your anatomy and how fast the prostate grows (or, like in my case you get an E. Coli UTI that goes into the prostate) you will either have symptoms or not. Early on they do DRE (Digital Rectal Exams) then after age 50 they will start watching PSA (Prostate Specific Antigen) levels - a simple blood test. Most of the drugs out there will delay symptoms, or delay surgery, but there's no real way to "cure" a prostate that is already enlarged. And no, there is no wonder vitamin either...but your free to believe whatever you want on that score. There is a lot of snake oil on the market for prostate cures.

I'm 46 and a DL, but I've had some real incontinence issue that have been getting worse. Mostly with bladder spasms (painful), and finally having to get an indwelling cath placed on Xmas day...which ain't really fun. At one point the Uro was talking about a Stent, but that strategy has been replaced with this new Greenlight prostate laser surgery. After they did a cysto they found I have some swelling around the ejac. ducts and a couple of strictures/scar tissue that have to come out. The geenlight website is all rosey and wonderful, and talks about how recovery is within days or a week or two. My family physician's experience is that recovery is more like weeks or months, and that incontinence and retrograde ejaculation (dry climax) are the most common side effects and complaints. I asked my wife about the ejaculation issue, and she said the less mess, the better...so OK. I'm in a diaper or external cath most of the time already, so I can deal with incon...after my experience with NOT being able to pee at all I'll take the incon route any day. Have any of you guys had this done? Were you happy with it? Would you do it again??

Was this the wire mesh type or the shape-memory alloy type? Or another type? I have read that the wire mesh ones are hard to remove, and that tissue is intended to grow thru the mesh in order to avoid crustation - but this doesn't happen in all cases. But the shape-memory types look interesting as they can be removed with ice-water. In other words at any temperature above freezing it is a coiled shape and is retained in the urethra. But apply ice water and it straightens out somewhat and becomes pliable enough to remove. Was your DSD caused by spinal cord injury, if I might ask?

Hey...Neat Site!! This week I have to go to the uro for a checkup. I've been incon about 18 months after a severe E Coli infection of my prostate, and it has given me a bladder that is completely unpredictable. Either I can't pee, and have to use a straight cath, or I can't NOT pee and flood my diaper with a painful spasm. I have taken Cipro, tried Vesicare, Detrol, Flowmax, Cardura, Diropan...etc., etc. The drugs don't help much. Even though I was a DL beforehand, I am getting sick of the painfull spasms. The docs look inside and can only find a mildly inflamed prostate, and write it off to the CIC cathing. What I'd like is if these guys would quite messing around and just give me a Botox injection (Which I'm pretty sure the write-up here was complete baloney) or just give me a temporary stent. I'm not sure I want the permanent solution of sphincterotomy, I'd like to have something possibly reversible in the future. They tried condom-caths on me...and boy do those SUCK big time, especially of you are DL to begin with. But I had to jump through the hoops and gave it a try, and it sorta worked until I had a "blowoff" while trying to get to an airplane bathroom...Never again. Now I just tell them I am allergic to the adhesive and they quit trying to make me wear one. Over the past year the most comfortable I ever was was when I spent 4 weeks wearing a Foley - after I complained about the leg bag and tubing tugging at me all the time, I just fashioned a one-way valve for the end of the tube (to help keep the discharge end somewhat sterile) and started using a diaper (instead of leg bag) - to maximum use - 24/7. I got along with that arrangement just fine. No more spasms, and after a few days I forgot I was wearing one. I felt completely at ease using a diaper 24/7. Cloth or a quality disposable. No UTI's. And since everyone around me knew I was fighting a severe prostate infection (with lab results to prove it) I finally was comfortable in my lifestyle. No longer hiding it is such a relief! My wife even happily purchases diapers for me. Its like before, if I was DL for entertainment, it was almost taboo. But if I'm "medically sick", wearing diapers is OK. So I guess whatever it takes... When I went to the uro to have them remove the Foley I walked in with no leg bag and a diaper instead...They got all worried that the tube was open into the diaper, but I showed them the sterile valve I made in my machine shop...and they were cool with that. All they wanted to know was that the tube was still sterile, and wasn't allowing bacteria from the diaper back-flowing. But what I'd like to really get is just a urethral stent to just gain 100% incontinence, and to not have the "tube" hanging out. I am about 50% incon now, and in pain the other half of the time...If I can be out of pain and totally incon that's fine by me, if I have to make a choice. Has anyone here done this, and if so, what do you have to tell the uro docs to have them consider giving you one?? How successful was the stent and did it give you UTI's? I'm pretty sure my doc won't go for the Botox, given the cost...