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Especially if I've had a rashy situation or been irritated, Gold Bond works very well for me, and tends to clear up irritated skin pretty quickly, moreso than regular powder. It more depends upon how sensative your skin is as to whether Gold Bond will work or is too strong for you.

Simple question. When you fill your pants, poop yourself, load your diapers, do you: 1. Sit in it an mush around? 2. Avoid any contact with the stuff loaded into your pants for as long as possible? 3. Immediately begin self-loathing and figure out how, when and where you are going to get yourself cleaned up? 4. Decide how long you can possibly stay in the mess, enjoy it, and deal with cleanup way later on down the line? 5. Rue the fact you've pooped your pants, and beat yourself up for being such a "baby" and have messed yourself? 6. Enjoy every moment of a favorite activity, spend the time you can, and then plan for clean-up as you can, when you can and return to life again. Um, for me, #2 is #6, and I go back to everyday life and living very refreshed and fulfilled. But, that's ME! LOL

Are you fucking kidding me? I didn't give up my diapers for "love". She liked me, loved me and wanted me? I even flaunt them, loaded, on a weekend, and if she couldn't hand THAT, she would have hit the bricks long before the wedding chapel at Excalibur in Vegas! The only thing I gave up for Lent is anal sex with another male DL, and since I've never had that - and the little woman is pretty deft with a strap-on - I probably never will. That's the key. To placate you guilt and brain, if you "give up" what you never have had or can have, you absolutely will not feel deprived. Every disposable wearer should give up disposables for Lent, and be forced to go to cloth and plastic pants. We would have an AB/DL "epiphany" and awakening in the "diapers for adults" world. But, we are the "disposable society" and it's all about "convenience". Too bad, too... LOL

Never though of it, since I always use soakers, and that issue HAS irritated me - Molicares, Abenas, Dry 24/7s - always are leaking in the crotch before much gets back up into the back. That's why I use boost pads, to direct the wetness up INTO that area. That's why US made diapers are inferior to the same brand coming out of Europe. But, it's what is allowed in the fluff and gel here versus there. I probably would not turn the diaper around, unless I could get my lovely younger bride to make a big deal about diapering me, and make it a sexual thing and all that, because if I want bulk, which, in turning the diaper around, I would go to cloth. Makes sense, the most surface area for absorption is the area that covers the greatest expanse(! - LOL) - the butt - so turning the diaper around would make severely deficient adult disposable diapers work better. Great question. Still NOT gonna' try it or do it. I've got MY OWN ways! LOL

I got thinking about it, after I inadvertently wet myself, which I had never done before. I mean, it told me, kind of lost in what I was doing, like I normally do, when diapered, I just "let go". Having a BM, you kind of have to think about it, if not incontinent. But, wetting... WGN, a big radio station in Chicago, advertises "Thunder Shirt", which is like snug Spandex vest for dogs, who seem to go psycho when thunder storms roll in and scare them. It fits snugly and seems to calm them down. I got thinking about that with diapers, and what people say about feeling "comfort" when they are diapered. I guess it could be the same way as with a Thunder Shirt. Maybe there is a psychological link to our past, to a more carefree and happy time, and feeling that prop that helped make us feel that way, or reminds us of that is part of why many of us LOVE to be back in diapers as adults. Perhaps this seems deep, but there may be merit to it, without a bunch of other psychobabble in regard to infantile regression or why we have our AB or DL thing, or why we are into what we do. I know I can wear regular underwear any time. I know what I prefer. And, that's being diapered. Too, my wife knows when the world is not right with me. I go without wearing diapers - don't have the time or desire - until the world is right again. Interesting dynamic for me, to be sure...

For those who grew up in the "Pampers" generation, cloth diapers, and the need for plastic pants, is an acquired pleasure. It takes some getting used to if you didn't grow up in cloth diapers, feeling the bulk, the softness of cloth, having them pinned on - which is where AIOs suck, as they sag when wet - and feeling wetness be wicked up to saturation point, as well as the excellent containment of a BM. Then, there is the whine about the need to launder, etc., etc., and lack of convenience. For me, I use disposables for convenience, but when I can, especially at home with time to enjoy just being diapered, it's cloth and plastic pants. From time to time, I challenge the "visible diaper line" by wearing cloth out under regular clothing. The downside there is that a diaper change out in public is a lot more of an ordeal than with disposables. It's all what one prefers. It's all what one gets used to. For me, cloth diapers and plastic pants ROCK. And, I love 'em, and am proud to say I do!

Having discovered at a young age - just prior to teen years, and just prior to first self-induced orgasm - that my desire to return to diapers, and try them for the intended purpose(s) was so strong, even at that age, I feared I was sick or mentally ill. After all, how could someone my age, though still almost a nightly bedwetter, with diapers never given a thought to for use to make my mornings way more comfortable, want to wear diapers again? It just wasn't right. It was wrong(love that guilt and self-loathing, even from the beginning...)! If only I could find that I was not alone, that I was not the only one, my age, wanting to still be in diapers. How naive I was! Since from the gitgo, diapers wearing and use was very sexual for me. My first conscious self-induced orgasm was while wearing a make-shift diaper. Any wonder how and why I got "locked in" to being a DL? My first attempt at disclosure and revelation was to my first wife, AFTER we were married. And, to say it went badly, and was never really accepted, is an understatement. I had the conflict regarding AB and the need for things infantile to legitimize the wear and use of diapers. I know better now... However, it was at this point I found, through a personals section of a men's magazine called "Nugget", that I was NOT alone, and there were others like me. That opened up a way to contact others, at least in those days, by snail mail. And, slowly, my diaper world began to expand and unfold, which put me more at ease. My second attempt at disclosure and revelation was to my second wife, a RN, and I tried another way, portraying myself as a bedwetter who needed diapers at night. Given her inquisitive nature, while she might have simply accepted the bedwetting story and my diapers, I knew before long she would be having some discussion with my mother or parents about my bedwetting and use of/need for diapers. Um, my parents knew nothing of my diaper side/life/world. I felt I needed to 'fess up, to the truth, and again, while things infantile were included, to legitimize the wear and use of diapers, it was accepted and even participated with, as children came along. Later, while it wasn't the wedge it could have been, a divorce ensued, and diapers were used as leverage against me, which didn't work. At this point, I decided that I was not going to live in fear anymore. I was not going to ever hide my DL side/life/world again in my life. While I would search for, somehow, a DL woman, if I was ever to have another marriage, my partner would HAVE to accept my DL side/life/world, if not encourage it, better, participate with it, and best would be to have her join me. I decided that my DL side/life/world would be UP-FRONT, revealed from the start, and if it was not accepted, as much as I might care for the woman I wanted to date, we would go our own separate ways, BEFORE time and emotion was invested, and feelings hurt. My wife was told and I revealed to her early on in our dating. She had the opportunity to opt out and move on. She chose to accept me for how I was, how I am, and what I'm into. With that, I have little by little presented her more of my DL side/life/world to the point where, today, I spend a lot of time in diapers, including discreetly under regular clothing out in public, and using them to my heart's content. That I could only wish for others in our "community". It takes patience and intelligence and refusal to allow fear to preclude revelation and a comfortable DL life. As "they" say, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. In this case, better to opt for being able to indulge one's DL side/life/world and not have to hide it, do it on the sly - which can be seen to be akin to "cheating" on a partner, which in this case, is with a prop, a diaper - and be unhappy with unfulfilled and unsatisfied urges for the rest of one's life. Not for me, and it doesn't HAVE to be for anyone else. 'Fess up, be up front, and risk having fulfillment. It CAN happen.

Okay. I saw the topic, and didn't look at the forum. I responded to that. Sorry. Not my balliwick, not my group of peeps. And, obviously, while I expressed what I feel is an issue within this issue, it was out of place. I won't do it again.

I will respond because I ellicted some comment with my comments. No, I'm not a hater. And, I'm not intolerant of transgenders. What I DID say is that there are those within that realm, as a for instance, that post a profile that say they are female - whether they feel female inside or you have a troll who is looking to be able to connect with women. The latter is just plain wrong. What I am seeing is like with "gay pride", I'm getting gay this and gay that shoved down my throat. If you're gay, fine. Live the gay life, do the gay thing. I don't need it explained, and I don't have to embrace it or encourage it. And, I'm not going to fault you or attack you for it. If you are "transgender", and feel like a female trapped in a male's body, that's fine, too. And, I don't need it explained to me what it's like, how it feels and how it affects a person's life. I understand it's tough. I understand it's not a choice. What I did say is that I don't feel it's right to say in a profile that one is a female, and NOT say, upfront, that a person is TG or MtFTG, for instance. I also said, that while I understand to go through surgery and the physiological change to become what one feels they are is expensive, and not easy to accomplish, if a person truly feels they are a female trapped in a male body, then in for a penny, in for a pound, and pursue the total change. I can't even imagine the trials and tribulations TGs face. I'm married. If I was looking for a relationship with a MtFTG, knowing whom I'm dealing with would be as important as if I connected with a pre-op TG, thinking, as a straight male, I was dealing with a biological female - born that way, physically, with out any surgery or enhancements to make the outside match what the person feels or is inside. Support? No problem. Encouragment? I certainly wouldn't put anyone down for pursuing what they need to pursue. It took ME a long, long time to become comfortable with MY "thing" of being a DL, and be at the place I'm at right now. Anyone who attacks or bullies a TG is small-minded, and would most likely go after anyone else they are not comfortable with or don't understand. If it bothers you that much, you know, look the other way or ignore it. The old "there but for the Grace of God, go I" comes into play. We all have our own problems and issues. Why people want to make other people's issue an issue is beyond me.

Hate is there because the "transgendered", without full "change" expect the rest of us to accept the "transgendered thing", and make it viable and okay. It's YOUR thing. Do not expect the rest of the world to embrace it, encourage it and accept it. Get the surgery. Get the hormone therapy. And, THEN pass yourself off as the other gender you were not born as. Passing yourself off, pre-op, is foisting a LIE upon others, because you "can't afford the surgery". Oops. Not OUR problem, and don't expect other people to understand and go along with it. DO what you gotta' DO, but don't expect OTHERS to push you along. Major gripe of mine. You say you're female, and you are TS or TG - pre-op or not - you are NOT being truthful. Most guys are looking for a bio female AB or DL, or POST-op. Truth rules here. And, if the lie is not working, you need to understand WHY. No hate here, just knowledge and opinion. Take it from there...

Wear a quality diaper, use a "boost" pads - menstrual pads like Poise, slit in the back, - or other "doublers" with another diaper with a slit back as a "soaker" will eliminate all "leaking". And, kiddies of today know nothing about plastic pants - especially those from BN4S or KINS, with enclosed elastics - which address "leakage" really well, NEED to consider plastic pants even over disposable adult diapers! Leakage is YOUR problem caused by YOU. Get your ass informed...

Regular underwear, when needed to be worn - if diapers are inconvenient at a given time, and I'm strictly DL - are worn. Otherwise, I DO prefer diapers. However, I DID shock myself not long ago - and I'm finding that maybe what "they" say is true, the more time you spend in diapers, and the more you just "let it flow", if your bladder capacity isn't actually reduced, you may find a greater sense of urgency TO uriniate, more often - when, sitting in a chair at my desk at work, I started to just let go. Yes, I peed my pants a little! Fortunately, I was alone, and fortunately I was wearing dark pants, and fortunately, I had some time to get dry - I did not have a spare pair of pants at that location at that time! - and was able to overcome. However, I had begun to pee my pants as I am frequently diapered at that location and it's like my mind was telling me I WAS diapered and just let 'er rip! Um, kind of got MY attention!

Recreational, as I am an avowed DL for over 40 years, and wear diapers often, and use them when I'm in them, AND as sexual as can be - which is probably one reason I AM a DL - since my first conscious orgasm was the direct result of stimulation from the make-shift diaper I was wearing at the time it happened, at age 12, that tender impressionable age which left a lasting sexual impression upon me. Now, I find nothing MORE sexually stimulating that seeing pictures of adult women wearing diapers - even moreso than like a fully naked Playboy centerfold ! - and having my wife join me in diapers, OMG, bang, zoom, to the moon! And, there is virtually nothing more physically stimulating that having intimate relations with my betrothed while wearing diapers - um, a guy can be "exposed" over the top of the waist band of a diaper and plastic pants, a woman can be "exposed" by taking down one side of an applied diaper - especially messy diapers (I know, TMI...). I like who I am, and how I am, and feel my DL side/life/world has been very fulfilling for me and has made me a more well-rounded (no pun intended from old "puffy butt" here...) person. I'm glad I have this special quirk about me, and once I got to a point of comfort with it, have enjoyed every minute of it. When I'm NOT diapered, my wife knows there's something wrong. How's THAT for non-verbal "communication"?

When I first began my thinking I was mentally ill, that I was the only one in the world past infant age, dealing with the tons of guilt and self-loathing over my diaper desires and how stimulated I was over diapers, I felt, like I think a lot of people do, that I had to do the "full monte" - clothes, props(like baby bottles, pacifiers, etc.), and the like - to legitimize my urges and leanings and sexual stimulation with diapers. When, even after having "up-size" baby clothes made - a short-all, coveralls with a snap-crotch - I found I got little enjoyment of acting like an infant or trying to create a "scene" to legitimize my being diapered and using them. For me, I'm a bonifide DL, and I wear diapers a lot, under regular adult clothes, and discreetly out in public, and when I'm diapered, I use them for their intended purposes, though I normally don't foist a BM and its "aroma" on others out in public. Diapers and my DL side/life/world is MY "thing", accepted, acceptable, encouraged and even participated some by my wife. It's MY choice to be in diapers as much as I am, and using them. I use by choice as I'm fully continent. Geez, at times, diapers are darned convenient to be in! No desire for things infantile, for the most part, and since I do my diaper thing by choice, there are no "scenes" - bondage, humiliationn, etc. - that have to be set up for me to be diapered. I feel I'm quite well-adjusted and like who I am, and how I am, and am proud of it.

Onesies, one size smaller than you normally wear like in a t-shirt size, do a wonderful job of helping keeping diaper bulk contained without being terribly constrictive. Too, a onesie will keep the waist band of your diapers and/or plastic pants from being exposed if your outer shirt rides up. As usual, I am against trying to have diapers or their outline exposed and visible to unsuspecting other people. I just don't think it's fair to foist MY "thing" onto other people. But, MY opinion...

Thank you. This type of a forum group is most welcomed by me!

I believe we are hardest upon ourselves. Diapers, especially adult diapers, are a legitimate, legal product - with a HUGE market - for a legitimate need. That we DLs choose to feel they are "taboo" just because we choose to wear them and use them - and most of us go through the normal, typical guilt and self-loathing over it - it's more OUR issue than anyone else's, even if someone else does spot a visible diaper line or the bulk beneath our outer clothing. It's OUR choice to be diapered, and "outsiders" - since there has been so much advertising with Attends and Depends - will assume that our diapers are for need. Personally, I think it's just plain wrong, for the thrill aspect, to foist MY "thing" onto others, especially the unsuspecting. Many in our community always hope for discovery and some comment. Mostly, we need to chill and just enjoy our "thing"...

Sorry, LVNV...

From what I've seen and heard, the peeps in LNNV are really skittish - since they are all from somewhere else - and are reluctant to meet peeps coming into town. You know, we're all creepers... Thus, what could be and should be a GREAT place to roll into and do one's diaper thing, ain't gonna' happen unless it gets set up. So it goes!

Oh, one more thing. To limit cleanup problems, you will want to soak dirty cloth diapers, but if you use some sort of liner - disposable or as mentioned, cloth baby diapers, which will downsize the amount of cleanup - your work will be greatly reduced. And, if you don't do laundry every day, having your own diaper pail, as an adult, is kind of cool, too!

Cloth diapers ROCK. You HAVE to use plastic pants, which in food terms, "adds another layer" - in this case, texture and sound, besides protection. Woo-hoo. And, cloth diapers afford a bulk that is not easy to get with disposables. As far as cleanup, if you are going to mess, there will still be odor and cleanup. With cloth, you are less likely to have the "soil" creep out, much better contained in the folds of a flat-fold in the crotch. A contour cloth diaper won't give you the bulk in the crotch, but also don't give the containment value of a flat-fold. I echo one sentiment, start out with towels. Terrycloth is not that uncomfortable, and to get started, use what you need to use to get the feel and the flavor of cloth. It is truly a different sensation, and a rush, with the bulk, to "get away with", unnoticed, in public while trying to be discreet! Have fun! And, pinning them on can be tricky at first, but that's fun, too. And, if you can get a partner to diaper you, it is a very sensual and erotic sensation to lay there exposed, as another adult tenderly - or roughly, if you're into the domination scene - diapers you. Hmmmmm...

Amazing that you don't wear, but would look at and join a diapers site for kicks, and then choose to forget it. Odd, to be sure...

Do you believe that people can willingly decide they never want sex again? They can decide, right now, for the moment, because of any particular reason, that they never want sex again. However, it depends upon what sex IS for them. If sex is sex, and a physical release or "get off", then it can mean very little and not be very gratifying. If sex means "making love" - a close interpersonal connection, including physical and mental, with someone you care deeply about or love, then sex for this person can be very different. And, in that situation, unless you have lost a partner whom you cared deeply about or who was your "soul mate" and you loved, and that deep connection is no longer there, never wanting to have sex again - at that point, for that time - may be a very real choice. Do you believe that anything can be non-sexual even if the majority of those involved do it for sexual gratification? I would guess it depends upon the mind-state you operate from. For me, a DL, diapers can't really be non-sexual because for me, I never deal with diapers as anything else, for instance, just a domination or bondage scene. I'm stimulated and aroused when I'm in diapers - I like the way they look on me, I like the way they feel when I wear them and I get a rush using them with no one the wiser, especially in publi - so, for me, it really can't be non-sexual. And, for me, diapered, to have sex while wearing, well, "bang, zoom, to the moon!". For the AB, for those just looking for plain nurturing from a mommy, nanny or babysitter, I'm sure it CAN be non-sexual in that regard. It doesn't matter whatever number are into diapers and derive sexual gratification. There will always be those on the other end of the spectrum, which is fine. Have you witnessed any prejudice in your life because of the "everything is about sex" stereotype? I'm not sure what you are asking here. If it is in regard to the AB/DL world, that is rife with sexual overtones in the community and various members of the community, that's not why I'm here and not what I'm looking for, so I don't consider I have a prejudice. I just know that all I ever wanted was to know that I was not mentally ill for being into diapers, that I was not alone, and the ultimate discovery for me - I'm straight, and very male - would be an attractive female DL to join me in my diapered side/life/world as a soul mate and marriage partner. However, that was NOT my main focus, nor did it drive me solely. And, over time, I simply had to learn - through two failed marriages, where diapers were NOT a main or major issue in the divorces - HOW to approach my DL side/life/world and have it accepted in a relationship that would last or be "the one", let alone encouraged, embraced and perhaps participated in. Your questions were good. There is a lot of depth to those in our community. Some prefer and continue to deal with it from a very surface point of view - the whiny bothersome AB boys - and others, while they will never "get to the bottom of it", continue to understand themselves and what they're into and about, instead of just relaxing, chilling and just accepting and enjoying that they are different, and it's all about diapers - a legal, legitimate, moral product for a legitimate need. And, that they are chosen, worn and used, well, so be it. If you can afford silk shirts, silk frilly undies and silk handkerchiefs or ties, go for that! It's all in one's own perception that makes the difference in how one looks at themself and how they relate to others with what they are into and how they are.

Confused, I was just saying "free-style" as a way to run things by him, armed with what you KNOW, and what you might be comfortable with, and what you might envision being appropriate for the situation. I'm glad you talked. I still think you may need to come to some sort of a common "neutral zone" that you can retreat into if needed, or work out of, as you both come to a common place in AB play or adult play. Again, it's compromise, but fair treatment for BOTH of you. Oh, and yes, WOMEN have "needs", too! : )

I guess I feel a little bad for you. You seem to want to give him what he wants, but he isn't giving anything back - even to the point, and this is also called "topping from the bottom", of not giving you FEEDBACK, to help you be able to "feel" what he wants if he needs something, or encourage you to be able to freely "free style" being a mommy to him. It's something you have to be able to read, and it's something you have to be comfortable with. Way too often, male ABs are very demanding and want everything to come their way. What is he offering YOU in return for fulfilling HIS needs, wants and desires? That is what YOU need to consider in taking care of HIM - YOUR needs, wants, desires and comfort zone. It's called respect and being fair. Good luck.