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All of the comments offered are viable. But, to me, Heven, your reasoning is sound. I would think a lot of it depended on the level of committment with the SO, and they were on board with you from the gitgo. In addition, with the right SO or partner, the pleasure/enjoyment could be so mutual, that even if the relationship tanked, there would be no reason for revenge and exposure of leanings to others. But, it doesn't always work that way! Anyone into "kink", and revealing to others, risks being exposed at some point, if the relationship goes away.

There are a number of US based distributors of adult diapers that also sell onesies. And, I can tell you from experience that it is a lot less costly to have things shipped from the US to the UK and Europe than the other way around. I have also gotten onesies through a company called Special Clothes. I LOVE my onesies, though I'm primarily a DL. And, I never worry about the waist band of my diapers or my plastic pants showing above my regular outer pants. I regularly wear diapers to work, secure in knowing I CAN, without my diapers ever discovered. In addition, the use of a onesie that is snug will help flatten out the bulk of some diapers, and keep plastic pants from "swishing". Even the noise of disposable diapers can be muffled somewhat.

Diaper wearing and diaper use is SO practical for virtually ANY adult. Now, I feel empathy for those who MUST wear diapers due to a medical condition, but my wife found out HOW practical it was to be diapered and use them at the casino. No, we didn't win, but she (and I) never had to leave the gaming floor until it we couldn't keep our eyes open any more! LOL

What you say, Dude, is pretty much the way of "scenes". We all have our OWN particular things that get us off. I'm seeing that others are also pretty specific or "defined" in their OWN particular choice of stimulation. Problem IS that we are all HUMAN, and even with our OWN strict "parameters", we ALL may have to make compromises. I don't like it EITHER. But, it's kind of the way we have to deal with things or FURTHER, an probably to each of OUR disappointments, restrict finding our "the one". Reality, I'm sure, rearing it's ugly head...

EXCUSE the F out of ME! I wasn't asking for a chat cop. I merely stated the truth AND the OBVIOUS. What once was a fabulous, active chat room, has been reduced to limited participation by a select few. I merely stated it's too bad. I would LOVE for any of the culprits to show up at my DOOR and get into my face THERE. I don't grieve for ME, I'm old, I will survive, and was never at the DPF site. It's just too bad that another generation of ABs and DLs will never enjoy the freedom of expression and comeraderie that IS possible through a comfortable, easy to use, easy to access chat room, focussed on people like they are... The idiots and assholes who've chased us with a lot more guts than the newbies have are vile and to be REviled...

I agree, that it is ironic that a completely potentially FABULOUS chat room, with SO much potential for DLs AND ABs - and let's be real, the parameters are expansive in that regard - can be virtually shut DOWN by some totally INFANTILE, selfish, self-centered - besides, some of them, PARANOID about their life-style, and totally afraid of discovery and exposure! - IDIOTS, that are too young to appreciate WHERE Daily D has emanated OUT of, and where the AB/DL world has COME from. Not a one of them even KNOWS what "DOS" means, Mac & Windows babies all! Women in the AB and DL world have been chased away by selfish, unthinking baby boys. The people HERE, SO protected by miles of wires and a CRT (oops, I'm an old-timer saying THAT...), act like such asses and that part of the body. It's REALLY too bad. A moderator ought to be able to monitor the bullcrap and back some of these people OFF. Numbers are DOWN, at chat, to be sure, and rightly so. It IS too bad. It will be a LONG LONG time before people will come back, if they ever do. And, only the owners can remedy that. I asked that my profile be removed from the personals section. I have remarried. I was notified that my profile and subscription had been "reactivated". Excuse me? Just little things, those in control. But, with the way things ARE, they are BIG things today. Just think you need to KNOW, and consider. And, BTW, I understand that Adult Babies CAN be pretty infantile. However, and OPEN forum, with GENERAL chat, for THEM to take over is ridiculous. People came here to find security, comfort and commeraderie. And, if they don't find it, they are gone -sometimes, forever. Is THAT what this site wants?

You know, it's a damned shame. This place was THE place in past days. Like Chat. It was a FABULOUS place. But, nobody monitored the BS that was going on there by peeps that THOUGHT they OWNED the chat. It chased people away. I refused to participate because of one 20-something paranoid idiot in CANADA. DD had chased people away. It really IS too bad. DD has SO much to offer people. I keep checking, but those that have left are NOT coming back, nor do I think they WILL. The reputation is NOT good, anymore. I can only hope things will change. I have a lasting affection for DD. It NEEDS to be able to compete with that other site. Just thought you should know...

I regularly use a cloth diaper insert in the back of a disposable, and a disposable Select "doubler" om the front/crotch of my disposable. It allows me to not have leaks in the crotch and make use of my disposable - Invacare or Molicare - for 8 to 16 hours without a change. I prefer cloth diapers with soakers, but we won't get into that. With the way disposables are in this country, they are NOT sufficient. So, we do what we have to do to make them work! Anybody who thinks that taping on a disposable diaper and thinking it will just work is naive! Do what you have to do. Make work what will work. - Anybody who doesn't consider or USE soakers is naive or STUPID. Do what you have to do. That simple! Go for it, Kiddies!

Okay. what is your point?

Phosphosoda! OMG! Used that to clean me out before bariatric surgery! And, it works REALLY well. I diapered myself after ingesting Phosphosoda. I was glad I DID. OMG. I SO filled my diapers. LOL To MY delight! My favorite memories include getting diapered, sitting on a toilet, and just pushing a BM into my diapers, trying to imagine I'm just sitting on the toilet and pooping, to disassociate myself from reality to be ABLE to load my pants. I just wanted to be in diapers one night. My special-needs daughter was with me - she doesn't think a thing about it or realize what I'm into - and we went to Target. I made my purchase and on the way to the car, I couldn't hold back any longer. I exploded into my diapers. I was never so glad that I was diapered! It was a delightful/uncomfortable ride home! I LOVED it! But, all in all, if I can be diapered, and can fill my diapers, I am very happy. If I can enjoy full diapers for as long as I can stand it, I am in my element. Diapers rule. Cloth diapers ARE the BEST. And, dirty cloth diapers are a delight! I LOVE pushing a big load into my diapers. I LOVE wearing the load. I love mushing it around. I love feeling decadent. I love being an adult, an aware adult, wearing and using diapers. So, my "little" side is what it is. I think I am very well balanced. I think I can only believe that I AM normal with a "quirk". So it goes. So it will be. I will never regret being the way I am. I will never regret the way I will always be.

In looking at the posts after mine, I need to say two things. ONE, it is SELFISH to "come out" to someone AFTER you're in a relationship. You are expecting that your revelation is going to be accepted. And, if it isn't, there goes the relationship OR you're back into a closet nursery, with a major issue of trust or MIStrust always on the table, regarding what you're doing to indulge yourself in secret or when your SO is not around. Yes, in some cases it works, but it's not really fair, and it doesn't HELP the relationship if one person is doing things "on the QT" - in secret, in private. And, if a person does NOT "come out" prior to a major investment of time and emotions, they are likely to be slammed and devastated when the SO does NOT accept or will not put up with such "foolishness". It happens ALL the time. It is a repeating mantra in the AB/DL world. TWO, when I met my, now, third wife, I drew a "line in the sand". I KNEW that she would have to KNOW about my diaper life and the way I was, or we needed to move on, seperately, out of fairness to HER. I knew EYE would survive. Had been there, done that before. She is STILL my wife, and we proceeded after my revelation, with her only asking for time and patience to digest what I had told her about me and my leanings. She understood and SAID it was MY thing. She would need to adjust to that. Just recently, her greatest gift to me was, in talking about how I worried from time to time that while she accepts and encourages me NOW, in time, she might grow tired of my DL ways/life/world and either tell me to put it away or push ME away. She said she'd never do that because my diaper thing is a PART of me, and when she accepted ME, she accepted THAT part of me, too. I love her even more NOW with that reassurance! So, it doesn't matter WHY we are DLs or ABs. It doesn't hurt to explore the reason, and try to embark upon self-discovery. And, if we ARE able to track back to the ultimate original trigger, what good will it DO? I don't think anyone, including head shrinkers, think it's possible to UNpull the trigger, or reverse what IS. Maybe one behavior or addiction can be traded for another one, possibly more "accepted", but one shrink told me it can be very expensive to do that, and doesn't always work! If WE accept ourselves and don't apologize for it, yet are conscious and considerate of OTHERS in our lives, who we might choose to reveal our secret to, what we DO deal with can be more palatable to US, on the bottom line, AND to others in our lives, should we make that part of us known to them. I know that doesn't answer anything, but us older "practitioners" have dealt with guilt, self-scorn, self-flagellation and pure wonder if we are crazy or mentally ill long before the relative ease of contacting others via the Internet. WE didn't have that. WE had "snail-mail", if you could FIND a way to find others into diapers AND a way to contact them. Get to know yourself. Get to know WHO you are and HOW you are, and how you react to and interact with other people. Be comfortable in your own skin. THEN, and only THEN, can you do your thing, be happy and fulfilled - though "different" from other people at times! LOL - and not WORRY that you're different from other people. THAT, in itself, will make a difference in your life. Um, good luck to all who read this...

I have to agree that we might often try TOO hard to analyze WHY we are into diapers. I can't disagree with the original premise. I cannot disagree with all the intelligent responses to the original question/theory. If you were to go to my blog entries at this site and at D Space, I have been able to track back to WHEN I remember consciously moving into a DL world. Unlike the ABs, who I keep hearing may be there because of a failed or lousy infancy/childhood, I had a great childhood. I just always remember being attracted to bulky cloth diapers encased in those noisy "swishy" Gerber plastic panties. I had NO attraction to the wearers - infants - but I LOVED the idea of being dressed the same way, in bulky cloth diapers and plastic pants. Now, I was born in 1955, so this was WAY before disposable diapers, plastic-backed or not, were even thought of to be on the market. I WILL, however, NEVER forget the affect of a parent's expression or impact upon a child in a given situation. I was a foot race director. My son, at age 8, was going to enter the 1 mile "Fun Run". It was October. The weather, as I got up a 4 AM, was lousy, as it seemed to always be, here in Michigan, for the little local Octoberfest Festival. In fact, besides cold and light rain, there was SNOW flakes. My son's mother, who took care of registration at the races, brought my son out to help me. I SAW the sparkle and excitement in his eyes as he jumped out of mom's car to join me and help me put up signage. MY mood was LESS than upbeat. MY mood DASHED his! I will never forget it. AND, my son WON the male division of the Fun Run, beating ALL male entrants - about 10 of them - in a very respectable time. But, even in my attempt to make up for my prior downer mood, being more upbeat in presenting him his trophy for his win, and proudly announcing his name as the winner, it STILL did NOT make up for how I brought him DOWN with my attitude, earlier in the morning. I will never forgive myself for that ding to his psyche, and now, he's married and in the Navy, doing well and appreciative of his father. The bottom line with this comment? Who KNOWS how we are wired, and how our wiring is affected by our infancy and childhood, as well as parental input? Yet, the reality IS that what molds us into what we are may be a very minute or miniscule input that we cannot even track back to or identify, that affected us at a very critical time or slipped into us in a very slight tiny opening! I don't think any of us should ever stop trying to identify that which leaves us as we are, and sets us apart from many other people, but I also agree with one of the other commentators. We need to understand WHO we are, WHAT makes us US, but chill out and ACCEPT ourselves AS we are, and learn how to incorporate that into our everyday lives, and into the lives of others around us - if that's what we need to do, desire to do, cannot refrain from doing - and stop beating ourselves up because we ARE different. And, we need to stop questionning WHY we are the way we are as there are SOME things in our world and our lives that ARE "imponderables". Okay, you can ASK the questions, but there are SOME things in which there ARE no answers or you may NOT ever find an answer TO. On the whole, the entry was a good one, and certainly, for a number of us, though-provoking!

I guess that looking at the underlying reason WHY a person would WANT to become incontinent, especially bowel incontinent, is of the essence. In talking to true incons, what THEY have to go through, especially those with bowel incontinence, is true trial, especially trying to operate in the "normal" continent world. I agree with Langtab. You want to mess your diapers? Mess them. Assist yourself in making yourself load them up, lots of fiber, suppositories from time to time, banana insertion for more requent bowel movements. Learn to ignore the urge to hold back the bowels when you feel a movement coming on. My gosh, unless you want to make OTHERS uncomfortable by dropping a load wherever you might be, a little discretion and decorum might be in order. It's one thing for a two year old to poop their diapers; it's not a normal thing to have to deal with the greater range of odor from an adult whose filled their pants, diapered or not. Michelle has a point. Wear a butt plug as long as you want. Keep your sphincter lubed. Perhaps as you get more used to the intrusion, you'll find it easier to pass a BM at will, and not hold it back as often, so stay diapered. Too, I've notice with the intrusion of a butt plug, I am less likely to hold back wetting, as it feels more comfortable to just let my bladder go, not making my sphincter clamp down on the plug, which, as Michelle says, it will do after an amount of time with the plug in, and the muscle tries to return to the natural tight closed position. I think for any DL or AB, who is NOT a true incon, the more you wear diapers, the more you just relax, as others have said, and just let your eliminations happen, the less you may be aware of them and the less you may want to hold them back. However, you might and can retain enough control to HAVE control when you NEED it most - NOT diapered - unless you choose a 24/7 lifestyle, another choice you have - and not embarass yourself and irritate others. Just another two cents worth...

I have used Nullo, InnerMint, and Chlorophyll tabs from Puritan's Pride. Nullo works pretty well - it takes about a week to knock down urine and fecal odor, as well as perspiration odor, and in proper dosage - the downside - it turns your feces dark green, which will stain cloth diapers. InnerMint didn't seem to work too well for me nor did the chlorophyll tabs. I tried a mushroom based product, I can't remember the name, and it didn't do much of anything. Nullo is NOT inexpensive, either. However, it might be worth the price for you if you don't mind or worry about the staining and like to soil your diapers on a regular basis.

At 18, you have NO idea of the ebb and flow of emotions, emotional needs and what switches have been flipped already in your life, and what YOU think you've overcome that will come back to bite you in the ass, if not haunt you! A FORTY YEAR DL here, comfortable in my own skin, comfortable in my diapers whenever I wear them and use them, and well-over the self-scorn, the guilt, the worry that I'm insane or mentally ill. Good luck, Little Bubba. As, AHnold would say, "You'll be back." Only, get a grip. Accept WHO you are and HOW you are, and work with it, would you? If everybody could do that, we'd have a more cool and laid back DL/AB world. So we're different. It's OUR thing and WE don't put anybody ELSE down for wanting to do THEIR thing!

So many DLs and ABs want ways to become incontinent, to justify and legitimize their wearing and using diapers. Geez, folks, WEAR them, proudly, comfortably and AS MUCH AS YOU WANT. Anybody wanting to become incontinent needs to talk to those who ARE actually incontinent, especially the bowel incontinent, and see what those folks go through on a day to day basis - THEIR "normal". Not many of us fetishists would even put in half the effort it would take to be diapered 24/7. The ability to pick and choose when and where we want to be diapered and to what degree we want to use our diapers should be fulfilling enough, IMHO...

Top Guy had a GREAT post about the Tampa Fetish Party article on Effective Diaper Domination. If you are a Sub/Slave/Pet, what are YOUR favorite things to have done to you by your Dom/Domme to diaper dominate you?

With my first wife, I dumped my fetishism on her after we got married. We lasted 4 years. I "broke it" to my second wife, a RN, after we got married. I lied at first, about bedwetting and incon issues. She accepted it, was concerned, and even got into diaper play when I finally 'fessed up. But, it ended after 15 years, she said I loved my diapers more than her, and she used my DLism against me in the divorce. Wife number three, IS my wife, with full knowledge of my leanings. It was either that or we go our own separate ways before anything got started, now, nearly two years ago. With me, 53, and her, 46, and her very "vanilla", she doesn't understand things but accepts them, and says it's MY thing. Has anyone a little older, married or in a LTR, been able to eventually bring their partner to acceptance and, perhaps, participation, giving hope to those who feel very alone and that there is no chance they will ever find an acceptant partner, and have to indulge themselves alone or continue to hide what they enjoy forever? Did you do anything special to have your partner meet your needs? Did you have to compromise and offer to meet something special to THEM in trade?

Kids of today seem to relish being out in public and being seen with their underwear showing. I like to pad around the house with the top of my diapers and plastic pants showing out of the top of whatever pants I'm wearing, like fleece warmups or jeans. With a short shirt, they're really visible. I love the way it looks. I feel kind of decadent. I wonder how many DLs would consciously go out in public, with diapers or diapers & plastic pants visible and showing, and risk any repercussions, maybe just snide comments, and maybe any tangle with the law. And, maybe some would just take the approach, "Gee, I didn't notice anything was visible....". Thoughts, all?

You have to look around. Go online. There still are some to be found in Europe. There's a couple of companies in Germany that have them.

More words of wisdom spoken by the women of DD. John Gray talks about relationships, and how to make them work. With my first wife, I dumped my fetishism on her after we got married. We lasted 4 years. I "broke it" to my second wife, a RN, after we got married. I lied at first, about bedwetting and incon issues. She accepted it, was concerned, and even got into diaper play when I finally 'fessed up. But, it ended after 15 years, she said I loved my diapers more than her, and she used my DLism against me in the divorce. Wife number three, IS my wife, with full knowledge of my leanings. It was either that or we go our own separate ways before anything got started, now, nearly two years ago. With me, 53, and her, 46, and her very "vanilla", she doesn't understand things but accepts them, and says it's MY thing. How I bring her along, to JOIN me, if not just encourage me to do my thing around her, is MY thing. If there's something in it for HER, if I don't impose anything on her, if I don't make her uncomfortable, if I make her joining me pleasureable and something SHE can look forward to, I get MY needs met and we BOTH get something out of it. I'm convinced that if people would change their approach, and get to know their partners BEFORE the sex and discuss things like kink BEFORE they spend time cultivating other feelings, there would be a lot less unhappy people - DL or AB. If your SO or wife/husband doesn't know about your leanings BEFORE you made a committment, do NOT expect that they will AFTERWARD. They might, but not everybody is able to accept what they don't know about, what they might not WANT to know about or feel that there is something to fear. My belief is that it's all in the approach. Too many people don't know THEMSELVES, what they need and want, let alone how to deal with other people. Seems to be life today...

Sarah and Tigger really have something to say! I hope Baby Boys and those desperate for "acceptance" and participation REALLY take a look at what has been said. These women are wise beyond their years and KNOW what they are talking about....

The key to involvement of a partner is HOW the whole situation was approached. Is the partner INTO or ACCEPTANT to "kink" or "variations". If diapers are involved in sex play, and can be incorporated into sex play, it can be done slowly, playfully and in a fun manner, to benefit both the diaper wearer AND one who diapers the wearer. A very open-minded partner might be very willing to explore diaper play as part of a relationship, sexual or otherwise. Only YOU can prepare the partner, or lead them to that place. This, however, is why so many AB boys are all lonely and frustrated. They SO want a "mommy" to totally care for them, to the point of changing poopy diapers. Look at the size of an infant. Smell the degree of odor produced by a true infant. WHAT woman, unless UNcharacteristically "maternal", would want to deal with a, say 185 lb. "baby" versus a true infant. NOT MANY. And, so many AB boys are so driven to such fulfillment, they chase away many potential partners that COULD, at some point, FULFILL that fantasy or dream of say, a whole weekend as a doddering infant. It's not WHAT you want. It's HOW you decide how to get there. Unfortunately, so many in our AB/DL world don't take an intelligent approach, and DUMP their "confession" of AB or DL desires on some, totally unsuspecting, AFTER they've gotten into a relationship, with no forewarning to the partner. This does NOT work and will NOT work. But, to each his own. You have to do what you think is best. Due to the bad press we have received, it is more easy to find someone into B & D and S & M, and it's more accepted (which I can truly NOT believe!) than find acceptance to the AB/DL life and world....

Gosh, diapers are for containment of elimination. Obviously, there can be odor with a BM, and if you are intent on messing, try a regime of Nullo for a while. It will knock down the odor. For me, I prefer cloth diapers and plastic pants, to ME, a TRUE diaper "package". Disposables, for me, don't always contain a nice big load or looser one, especially if I want to wear it for a while, which I normally like to do. Yes, there ARE cleanup considerations, but I live alone, and have my own washer & dryer. Personal choice is personal choice. For me, I LOVE to be out in public in a messy diaper. But, I would never impose odor on anyone else or try to make them uncomfortable. I think EVERY AB or DL NEEDS to try messing their diapers at least once. Personally, I LIKE the feel. I feel very decadent, even babyish, though I'm a staunch DL. After all, diapers are made for doing what they do. If you don't like to mess, don't mess. If you don't like to wet, don't wet. If you do everything in your diapers, and like it, ENJOY. That's what makes us all individuals. Has anyone ever wanted to or been ABLE to have sex in wet and messy diapers, and how did it make YOU feel? For ME, it was/is incredible!

Diapers, diapers, my favorite underwear. Who knows I wear diapers, I don't even care! It's MY thing. I like how they feel on ME. If you feel the same way, GO FOR IT! It's THAT simple!