knightrider142

Thanks for reading and thanks for your replies gang, I'm making new friends already. OK, first off, let me say that I'm not an expert in this (by education anyway), but it is something I see working time and time again. maybe I didn't explain myself properly? Here's an example. You're a parent, and you've got your three year old with you in the garage as you're working on the car. At first, your son is happy to watch you work, but he soon starts to want more. He wants to help daddy. The repair is urgent, you as a parent, don't have spare time; the job must be done as soon as possible. Little ones are not easily discouraged; and he keeps asking to help. You, as the parent, can easily see this as interference or an hinderance. Either way, your patience is being tried. One of two things will happen, you as the parent will take ten minutes out, give your son a simple job to do within his capabilities, guide him through it, and praise him when the jobs done. Or, you can lose your patience. You get angry with your son, take him back in the house and tell everyone he's an hinderance. Either way, it's soon forgotten. Except for your son's sub concious mind - his self image. Jump forward 10 years or so, and you, as the father, think it's time that your son started to learn how to handle tools. You set a day apart - this is the day for just father and son. Now, if you'd handled the situation positively years back, your son will enjoy his new experience. But if you'd been negative about the situation, and coupled with your likely negative behaviour (shouting, being angry, etc), your son will feel uncomfortable about the garage situation, although he won't know (remember) why. Subconciously, your son will always view the garage, tools, working on the car and so on as an unpleasant experience. Just one example of the self image at work, how the positive or negative outcome of a given situation will, and does, unconciously affect the boys life........for life. It's the worse thing we do with our kids you know, we stop them living their life, telling them to sit down and be quiet because that actively kills the self discovery aspect. We teach our kids how to conform, rather than be themselves. Okay that above was just one example that affects a persons self image - for life. It's all part of the learning curve, which includes behaviour, language, traits, beliefs and so on. As I said before, the self image is cast in concrete - and it's formed by the age of 5. The son in this case could overcome his self image problem though. Jenny Bear touched on this yesterday when she said: "One source I am familiar with talks about self image being a recording in your head that plays over and over.......when it is telling you something negative that holds you back in life.....you must find a way to overlay that message with a positive one........" And that's right. Because the son could still work in a garage after leaving education, but it would be a job he hated...... and he still wouldn't be able to work out why. But he could change his self image limitation by either hypnosis, self hypnosis, or by affirmations where he'd repeat the same affirmation twice daily as a minimum - " I love working with cars and want to be the very best mechanic there is. To do this I must study and learn to love my craft, for only then could I be the best" The self image is formed in the subconcious mind by the time we're 5 - and it stays the same, limiting and controlling our lives until and unless we conciously seek to change it. We naturally use our self Image as the ceiling on our lives - when instead, it should be our floor. And this self image controls every aspect of our behaviour and our lives - unconciously unless we change it - and we can't do that unless we (a) recognise we have a limitation on our life or (b)consciously WANT to change. Tell a kid he's ugly enough times, he'll believe it until the day he dies. Unless and until he changes his self image. But most people just accept the way they've been brought up, just keep on getting along. Parents and carers don't realise the damage they do to their infant children in their early years before they are able to make judgements, believe conciously and criticise. This is why the terrible three's exist - the child is starting to gather his critism tools, whereas before this he would simply accept things as they are. And theory goes that the child can act conciously, with critism at 5, which is when the early learning , the self image formulation, stops. Think of the police profilers - they can actually predict a persons personailty and acvtions by the way that person conforms to his "normal" behaviour (Self image) patterns - because certain people with self image problems tend to behave the same. And in answer to diapersallways comment: "what i'm wondering is what do you consider late potty training i was well trained by age 3 or 4, is this not a somewhat common age for it" - what I'd say here is that behaviour reinforces itself, so the longer a certain behaviour carries on, the stronger it gets, and the harder it is to change. And it buries deeper in the subconcious. As to the diaper fetish being particularily recent, I'm not sure what to say here, except for the fact that I think it's the actual action of wearing, storing and using bodily waste which is the fetish here - the diapers just make it easier because it can be controlled and contained safely. You can get the same effect almost from using normal underwear - I think it's the act of being able to hide it is the actual thing here - not the thing (diaper) we use to do so. Paul

Hi gang, Paul here from the UK. Okay, if you've read my profile (I'm a new member), you'll know I'm heavily into psychology. Like you, I'm also a diaper lover, and I love using the same one all day if I can. And here's the theory: Your self image is created and cast in concrete by the time you're 5. It's with you for life, buried deep in your subconcious, and to a greater exent, it controls everything we do. Our Self image is learned from our parents, our early home life and so on. And it stops developing at 5. The self image is responsible for how we see ourselves, whether or not we're inadequate, forms our whole personailty, our core beliefs and traits. It's controlled to a large extent by our concious mind - can't do that/that's not right/grow up/etc. None of us can remember the things the make us who we really are on an individual basis. But all these unconscious learnings stay with us. So, for example, if we're late being toilet trained, the subconcious accepts this as normal behaviour, but buries it. This is the same way most sexual fetishes are made, without us realising it. And in our case, I think we're really lucky to have rediscovered it. Many people don't. The self image explains why we do things we don't sometimes understand why - but our unconscious behavior always plays out, without us realising it. With me, it was different because I loved wearing my diapers, and I used to pinch my sisters when she was a baby and wear them. And that's because my brain's sub concious accepted diapers as normal, and I did not want to make a conscious effort to deny it. And now, at 44, there's nothing better than a loaded and soaked diaper, it's just that I don't get much chance to indulge now. But I'm an avid DL. I'd wear them 24/7 if they were socially acceptable, but they're not, so I can't. The need to wear gets stronger every day, but it gets more diificult to indulge as well. For me, it's the whole thing, the feeling of a hot, heavy wet and loaded diaper between my legs, it's definately sexual, and wearing diapers puts me in 7th heaven. The natural side effects are brilliant - doing and carrying on a normal life without being bothered about finding toilets, being able to do what I normally do without disturbance. They're a brilliant stress reliever too, and I could definately wear them 24/7. And, by giving in to my self image, like all others who do so, I'd be totally at peace with myself. I'm bi in orientation, but that's only because diapers bring out the gay in me. I'm straight in "normal" life, but there's something extremely sensual about seeing a man in diapers, especially those under shorts or worn as everyday underwear. My secret fantasy is live with a man 24/7 with us both in diapers all the time.