ThomasInWVa

Here's a tip from an incontinent. To speed change in a public restroom, place the new diaper between your legs below the current diaper. Undo the tapes and pull forward. Dips will fall into the new diaper. Ball up the old, posistion the new and fasten the tapes. With little practice, you can do this without any drops on your clothes or anywhere else.

Wellnes Briefs, XL. Latter today I'll switch to cloth with plastic pants. The cloth is from Angel Fluff Pre-folds w/ Velcro. Blue-Ice overpant.

I'm not sure why your mother needs to know anything. If you are living in the same house, I can see how she could find out a number of ways but at 27, your underwear usage isn't a topic for your mother. It doesn't matter if she finds out or not, if she does you don't need to tell her anyting. Gently inform her it isn't a topic for discussion. If she is concerned for you physical well-being as most mothers are, just tell her it isn't a serious condition and you are fine and not to worry. Leave it there. Don't try to explain anything. If you are living at home with your monther you may be bumping up against the idea that you still a kid in her house, etc. You need to fix THAT problem. At 27, you are an adult and she should not be snooping around your things. What would she say if you snooped around and found her vibrator collection? If you are living in your mother's house, you need to move out and get a place of your own. Spending money anything recreational instead of getting a place of your own is the real problem. It doesn't matter if its is video games, extreme sports, nights out with the guys, or diapers.

Wait, what? There are LOTS of inaccuracies listed. Obviously someone who has not had to wear cloth diapers. I’m only going to tacking the first set. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a cloth diaper fan but modern disposables are very easy to work with. I used to be nearly all cloth but with a professional career, I can’t do cloth during the day. I now only use it during weekend and nights. Here’s the Cloth Diaper list. (With original spelling errors.) You do not save that much time or work with throw-away diapers becuase you are supposed to rinse them very well before you throw them away which most users do not. Say what? I’ve never heard of that and how do you rinse a disposable? They will just soak until they can’t absorb more. You use them many times over paying for only cleaning and upkeep, so you save MONEY. I have been told as much by home economics social workers (the only worthwhile kind since they actually do useful work; and I have dealt with many social workers so I know what I am talking about) whose job it is to know things like that Save money? Only in the long run and diapers require laundry. That costs a little money but LOTS of time. If you use adult diapers, you either need to launder every day or every other day. Or else you need more sets of cloth which means more upfront costs. I had to BUY a used washer dryer combo just for my diapers so that our main washer and dryer can be used for regular laundry. Unless they are special-purpose diapers, to fit special circumstnaces, you can use diapers for other things, even after Baby outgrows them so they do multiple duty Old diaper do make great cloths and dusters. You do not throw them away after using once so they are not WASTEFUL and save dump space for mre appropriate uses. Eventually they do get retired. You do not have to worry about "where they have been". You care for and clean then yourself so you control the conditions in which they are kept. In fact. you are to wash them before even using them Correct but what’s the point? Cloth diapers are less likely to fail Throw-ways have their own waterproof covering. With cloth diepars, you use a separate covering so one rubber pantiy is used with more than one diaper and is sturdier than the built-in and less apt to fail or "blow out" Wrong. Cloth diapers are more prone to leak because they can only hold so much and that’s it. It is the job of the plastic pants to contain the leaks but little can be done if you squeeze liquid out of cloth by sitting down. Very hard to do with a disposable.Good cloth diapers PIN in place so they are more secure than tapes which fail far too often Wrong, wrong, wrong. Pins are terrible. Velcro works great and tapes on disposables are also great. You can always use tape if needed. For an adult you need at least 4 pins and they are hard to deal with. Throw-aways have been known to fall apart inside over the course of a night as the absorbent part comes free of the shell Only cheap brands. Because throw away diapersw have bits of a special material in them to turn wet into a jelly that are hard and in the form of small beads, these beads of hard material sometimes poke through the flimsy waterproof material and make the diaper leaky and useless, which adds to the wastefulness. Again, only with cheap brands. These failings add to the cost of disposable diapers. Cloth diapers do not have these problems. You do not have to fight with a number of fasteners; sometimes 3 on a side, for a total of 6, but usually at least 4, that need to be put exactly in the right spots. one or two pins does it all Tapes are a breeze. Obviously this person has never had to diaper themselves quickly. Pins!?! Seriously. Cloth diapers help fight diaper rash better The "wicking" action carries wet away from Baby. DEAD DEAD WRONG. Cloth keeps wetness right where it starts and it spreads everywhere. You are much MORE likely to get a skin rash with cloth. Disposable wick moisture away and its takes a while to even feel wet. With cloth, you always feel and are wet.They allow air to circulate unless you make them to tight What air? You are wearing plastic pants to prevent air from circulating. You fold them to meet the specific needs so they work better Adult diapers are usually cut to shape or have very little folding to do. Cloth diapers are more confy Until they get wet or it is hot out. Disposable diapers are not disposed of: They are merely stored in a different place after use where they or their contents will linger on and fester for decades or centuries. Since they have become ubiquitous, I have heard many more "boil water" due to coloform bacteria alerts in my area and we have had an extraordinary number of E Coli incidents of late, also B.S. They breakdown just fine. There was a disposable diaper scare a number of years back so researchers checked landfills and found out that disposables break down VERY fast. That's all I have for now. I don't think I need to go on.

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Intermittent catheters bother me a lot as well. My urologist had me using size 8 soft but I've found out that if I use a size 12 firm I'm it isn't as irritating. My bladder won't jump or spasm as much upon insertion and very rarely with removal. Furthermore, if I leave the cath in place for about 10-15 minutes, the bladder sphinctor stays relaxed or able to allow urine to pass during a bladder spasm much easier for about half a day or so.

I've never worked for a company that puts salaried employees in the same room. I have seen it for hourly workers who are traveling for construction work. Usually 2 per room. OR the company will reimburse for about 110 for a room wiht a receipt. So I guess even an hourly worker could still have a private room if they wish, they would just have to cover the cost up front for about a week or so. I assume you would wear some sort of PJs or sweatpants. Hiding wearing a diaper may be possible, hiding the used diapers is much more of a problem. Also if you are not used to staying in a hotel room wearing a diaper, buy a small waterproof mattress pad. You can get them at Giant or Target. You don't want them hitting the company up for a mattress cleaning charge - especially if it is on your bosses card. Of course if you plan to wear cloth, you have your work cut out for you. Good luck.

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Thanks. I'll make a dono. If I make one now, can I get it changed to the new moniker latter? To keep it easy and simple, I'd just allow to choose "BabyBanker" or "Supporter" and keep the + or no plus like you have it. I know I'm asking a lot since this is an AB/DL site. Thanks.

My uro is trying to convice me to have a stent inserted to keep the bladder sphincter open to allow my bladder to drain constantly. Since stents are permanent no matter what they say, I brought up the research about botox to relax the sphincter. He did some research and wasn't convinced. My bladder contracts just fine, too fine sometimes. But the sphincter doesn't always relax when it should. He feels that botox injections could impare the bladders ability to contract and I woudl retain urine. I do spams and quiver but that doesn't concern him as much as the retention does.

I'd say there are the AB, DL, and Incontinent camps. Of course there is much blending of these. I'm only in the incontinent group. AB has no appeal and I hate having to wear diapers. But I have also realized that my body has betrayed my so many times that even if I had full control right now, I don't know how long it would take to stop wearing diapers. I've had too many times of "getting better" and "gaining control" only to have it suddenly gone. When I last had a time of good control, I was constanly on edge and didn't realize it was because I wasn't wearing a diaper. I've already made the firm decision that then I have times of "good control" that I will continue to wear a diaper for at least a year before I even think that my incontinence has improved. But since this is a degenertive condition and those times are getting far fewer, and relapses happen sooner and with no warning, I doub't I'll ever be out of diapers. My urologist is strongly suggesting that I get a stent to make myself more incontinent to reduce the risk of urinary retention and the associated kidney issues.

Wellness Briefs. (Site Sponsor) You just need one for all day wear- urinary only. Of course you can change more frequently if you need to but I am an incontinent heavy wetter and they work fine. I can leak all day or my bladder will hold for hours suddenly releasing a flood and these diapers handle it with no problem. They are also very good on odor control. I'm not into power but you will find that unless the diaper is very saturated, you won't feel any wetness. Your skin will like this diaper.

I'm completely not into the AB/DL thing but this site has helped and is the closest thing to a real incontinence support group. I'd be interesting in a payment if I knew how it would appear on my card statement. How private is the transaction? Are you notified of my real name and address info? I really don't want to be on any "official" AB/DL lists. - Though I found out the hard way that one place I bought cloth diapers caters to a heavy AB/DL crowd and had me tagged as an AB/DL. I found this out when they sent a NUK-5 as a freebee. (No I do not have it so please don’t ask!) And it would be nice if there was a mid-range badge option that wasn't so "babyish".

Thanks for the comments. I don’t think I communicated the situation properly. My concern wasn’t for legal protection or how the company would handle it. I was thinking about the other Directors, VPs, the CEO and how they would handle it. I’m one of the older guys - everyone senior to me is much younger by at least a decade. At the very least, it is one of those things that sets one apart from their peers which is not what was I interested in. We had the meeting last week. The CEO and I arrived on the same non-stop 4+ hour flight. I arrived at the airport long before him and was able to change to my flying disposable before he arrived. I was off the flight before him and was able to speed change before he was off the aircraft. That was early afternoon, I had no idea how long until I could change again Two hours latter we arrived at the office for about an hour before heading into the mountains. That trip took just over 2 hours. Fortunately, the 3 of us in our car arrived earlier than the others and we were able to scout out rooms. I was to be in a room shared by 3 others and not with an adjoining bathroom! But I was able to speed change again while everyone was arriving. I had packed a number of large heavy-duty zip-lock bags that can hold a wet disposable as well as small white trash bags to conceal the bundle. This made hiding the diapers easy. I make sure to pack a mostly empty suitcase to stash the diapers as needed. It turned out not to be a problem hiding my diaper use from the team. I woke earlier to shower and change. And my night routine was easy to hide the fact I was carrying a diaper to and from the bathroom. I was able to change in the afternoon very easily as well. Sometimes at the cabin or out when on an errand or to Starbucks. Sleeping wasn’t a problem. I turned in earlier than the others and there was so much noise no one heard my diaper under my flannel pants and bloomer style plastic pants. (Just in case the diapers leaked at night but they were fine.) I can’t say for sure that no one realized I was wearing diapers but I don’t think any could have known and I didn’t get the idea that anyone knew. It was stressful and nerve-wracking but it turned out ok. Oh, and yes, I was able to dispose of all the diapers before my flight back. Usually flying wearing a diaper is stressful but that red-eye was nothing to the previous 4 days. I didn’t sleep but I wasn’t worried about my diaper at all. BTW, I use Wellness Briefs. They are a great disposable. Worn properly and they are the only disposable I trust to sleep in at night. When at home I don’t wear plastic pants and very seldom leak during the night. The person in charge of making the arrangement was the CEO. I specifically didn't want him to know. Once my market generates 1-2 million per month I may feel differently. Once you are making money, you could dance naked in the moonlight and no one would care. But until then, I felt it is something no one needs to know about. I did not have a pre-employment physical but I don't worry about doctors. They are prohibited about saying anything and there is no direction connection to the company. We did have a urinalysis for drug testing but I have a note from my urologist and I have to opt for a cath. I hate caths but they don’t note it on the record or results.

Sometimes I just want to wear a nametag that says. "I wear diapers and I'm tired of worrying if you will find out." or just going onto my facebook page and posting to my family, friends, army buddies, high school friends, and so on that I have to wear diapers. I feel that most of my worry and fear is caused by the need to keep my incontinence private. Now I’m not trying to get attention or flaunt it that I wear diaper. Hardly. I hate having to wear diapers. I detest it. I don’t let my incontinence define or limit me. It just is. But sometimes I get so tired of the worry. Tired of checking for leaks, tired of spending money on disposables because they are easier to hide beneath my clothing and easier to change quickly at work. Tired of wondering if anyone can notice even though I know that they really can’t. Tired of wondering if I smell. Tired of skin problems and laundry. Tired of everything. Sometimes I’m envious of a person in a wheelchair because I think that no one would look down on them if they had to use a diaper. But me, I have no outward sign that I have any injury at all. Of course I feel stupid thinking this. As if losing the ability to walk somehow makes incontinence better. But someone may know what I mean. Just feeling the stress more than usual these last few weeks. Thanks for listening.

Recently, I was recruited by a large company to take over the local market. It is a significant promotion. I am completely responsible for 54 employees in my market and must generate about 1.2 million per month. I’m the new guy on the senior management team. Most of the other market directors and all the VPs have been with the company from the start and through the recent merger. Not all of us see eye to eye but that is expected at our level. I’m completely able to handle the job and make my numbers. Next month all senior management is going to spend 3 days in a private resort cabin to go over our budgets and some sort of team building exercises. Chances are that I’ll have to share a room with at least one other person, possibly more. (The senior management is all men.) And I have to wear diapers all the time. No one at the new company know that I’m urinary incontinent and must wear diapers. I can handle flying with diapers and hotel rooms. But a private cabin where I won’t have much privacy? This is going to be challenge and until I get there and see the actual arrangements, I’m not sure how it will all go. I do not want it public knowledge. Wrongly or not, I’m sure it will affect my standing and how I’m look at within the company. Which means it will impact my career and my wallet. I doubt there are others with this sort of problem so I’m really just venting. I don’t think there is an “executives who wear diapers” support group out there.

No. I do not. But part of the problem is that I have leaked semen lately and that creates sticky, gooey mess in the area and I have wondered if that is causing problems by keeping the moisture level up. But I've had more leakage before and never had a problem. I'm also wondering if I picked up some sort of yeast infection from my wife. I think she is fine but I don't know.

I've been wearing diapers for years and I've never had a case of diaper rash. I've had other skin issues especially with the leg elastic on plastic pants. I have what I hope to be diaper rash but I'm not sure. One, it is localized only to my penis. Mostly on the tip and underside of it. It is also mostly on the underside of the shaft. This makes sense in a way becasue those areas is where moisture is mostly likley to settle considering that my penis usually retracts into my body most of the time. It is red and blotchy. Very sensitve to touch and when I wet. I had no idea just how often I leak even a small amount until the last 2 days. Tripple Paste - zinc oxide does seem to help the discomfort but not completely. Yesterday I tried putting petroleum jelly in the area but it didn't seem to have an affect. I will be showering at least 3 time a day for a while but I'm not sure what else to do. Just applying soap to the area is painful even the force of the water hurts. Drying that area is difficult when it keeps trying to retract. Any ideas or suggestions? I have an unrealated and previously scheduled appt with my GP on Friday. I will bring this up then if it is still around.

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Today has been really rough. For the last few months things have been pretty good. Nearly full controll was back, just some minor leaking at times. Urge incon was still there. But I was able to make it to the bathroom. I could last about 2.5 hours. Things were looking up. Yesterday it tool a lot longer to get home from work than I expected. I tried to hold it as long as I could but after nearly 3 hours the leaking started and then I started to have semi-controllable muscle/bladder spasms. Before the leaks and spasms started I had no urge to pee but once the spasms started, the urge kicked into overdrive. Since this sort of thing has happened before, it wasn't a big problem. I was wearing a high quality disposable as an underwear liner. (Just cut the tapes off. Much more comfortable but only for leaking.) Saturated the disposable and leaked a good deal. Got home, cleaned up and expect it to be pretty much over except for some post leakage. I put on a low quality disposable brief under my sweatpants. An hour and a half latter, I'm dry and things are looking much better. But... Nearly 2 hours latter I get up to go to bed and I'm soaked, my pants are soaked and so is the chair. (damn!) I had absolutly no idea I was leaking. Night time was ok. I slept nearly the whole night and was completely dry. I thought today would be good but it wasn't. As the day progressed the urge kept picking up until I constantly feel like I have to pee. It is maddening. My bladder is fluttering and while I have some controll, it is best to just relax and let myself pee when I can. The feeling that I have to pee all the time is frustrating! I can't concentrate on my work and find myself pacing all over the place. I think its only a matter of time before the orgasmic spasms swarms start and make things work. I haven't tweaked or otherwise done anything to my back so I'm not sure what is causing this. I was on a good trend for well over 2 months or so and nearly forgot what this was all about. Anyway, just venting.

The absolute best disposable is wellness briefs. They are actually diapers but they hold the most and have the best fit. Go to http://www.wellnessbriefs.com/ for more info. They are very comfortable and I won't use any other disposable diaper anymore. These diapers are designed to last 8 hours or more. And they do! What is great is that my skin problems cleared up after using them. I have sensitive skin and these diapers don't cause any problems at all. I tend to wear these until they are completly soaked, say about 6-10 hours at times. They hold very well and when worn right, don't leak. These are great disposables for nightime and are the only disposables I can wear at night that I'm confident about not leaking.

I carry a couple of disposables in a leather or leather-like zippered notebook. The kind they give way at trade shows and seminars. You can carry one around and no one will say anything. I also have a couple white trash bags, a few wipes, and a few strips of packing tape.

I wear a slightly larger size of regular underwear over disposable diapers. Mostly to hide the waistband and as a way to notice any leg cuff leaks. The underwear will absorb small leaks and I'll feel it when it does. It also cuts down on size. When I wear cloth diapers and plastic pants, I always wear regular underwear over them. It helps contain the plastic pants and since plastic pants are smoother, the underwear helps to keep my pants, especially slacks, from sliding down. When I sleep I wear the underwear over the plastic pants so my wife doesn't feel the plastic when she sleeps close to me. In general, the underwear also protects the plastic pants from zipper and other snags. It doesn't cause any heat problems and feels much better on my inner thighs than rubbing against the plastic pants - especially when I sweat. And finally, I don't like the thought of walking around in just a diaper. It creeps me out and I have to have something on over it. I've had an MRI and wore a diaper covered by underwear under the gown. I never mentioned it to anyone. But it was obviouse from its size and I know it was already noted in my records.

Allen, you hit the nail on the head. That why I think there are very, very few real 24/7 AB/DLs out there. I just can't picture someone really going through all this. I think its easier to talk about. Oh I'm sure there are many who play at home or on the weekends and vacation - that sort of thing. But really permnantly trying to be incontinent 24/7, no, I don't think there are that many who have the drive and guts to really do it. The point I'm trying to get across is that its a self correcting mechanism - lots of people talk a good game but I don't think they really do it. If they do I bet 99 out of 100 don't last more than a couple of days or until it gets to be a cramp in their lifestyle. - Unless of course they get someone else to pay for it and to do all the work. And if someone does make themself incontinent, goody for them. They get to experience everything just like they wanted and that's just what they deserve.

There is absolutely nothing "convenient” about pooing in a diaper. The smell is overwhelming and it is a lot of work to clean up. Not something you really want to do at work or in a public washroom. Sure the AB/DLs make is sound so grand. Of course I doubt many of them would really drop a load during their final exams, during an important sales pitch, job interview, or at dinner with a new date, etc. I’ve been told that I may also lose control in that area and it is one of my worst fears. Fortunately, I show no signs of any problems yet. If that were to happen to me, I don’t know how I could do the same work I do and therefore still provide for my wife and maybe a family someday. I really would like to see how many AB/DL would react if they really couldn’t control themselves. Seriously, it would be a hoot to see how they would have to handle real life. I actually understand if anyone who is 100% incontinent or even just urinary incontinent would turn to being an AB/DL as a means to cope. I can completely understand it being a way to mentally disconnect from the problems of interfacing with the outside World as an incontinent person. For younger people, I can only imagine the issues they have to face. In a way it may be easier if someone were to also have an obvious deformity or handicap so people would understand. But just being incontinent is so close to living a normal like but you just can’t. I am so glad I’m only urinary incontinent and that I’m strong enough to handle and manage it. I’m really glad that I’m smart enough and already had a great career and income before becoming incontinent. (And I’m glad I had a wonderful wife already!)