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Indeed. Other Real World Incontinence videos also have side sleeping and sitting tests. The trouble is we are all different shapes, we tape diapers on with different amounts of snugness, we move in different ways, we sit in different chairs in different postures wearing different clothes and we pee into different parts of the diaper. And even our pee is not standardized. (Also if we did have a standardized "side sleeping" test and "press-out" test, it wouldn't take long for a manufacture to game the system and device a diaper that excelled at the tests but not actual real world usage). Maybe diapers could come with a description more akin to a wine or beer: "ideal for active people who spend a lot of time walking around, but not so great for side sleepers. Wicks better than average and resists clumping. Relatively silent and easy on the nose in all but the warmest weather". The best advice I would give people is to buy lots of samples of many different diapers and work out what works best for them. Manufacturers should have sample packs available, with clear labeling on the samples so that you don't forget which you are testing (I've had this problem... I once ordered a load of samples from save express which came in a big box and I was unable to work out which some of the samples were!)

I wonder how one might devise a test that is a bit more representative? It would have to account for differing amounts of movement, use in bed, posture etc. Would probably result in something that would be hard to use usefully.

I think there are two levels to this... 1) Complete blue sky thinking: A custom fit (or at least something available in many more shapes than just S/M/L) reusable shell that takes disposable inserts with some form of magic snap in system that is really secure and easy to do. Maybe the inserts are sized for the outer shell. The outer shell would not be a pullup, but would be stretchy and would have seals on the sides so that they don't leak for side sleepers. Maybe some form of electric pumping to remove and store urine so that the insert can cope with longer periods without being excessively bulky. (I've discussed this with @oznl and know he doesn't think it is a starter and he is probably right :-)) 2) Improvements to existing designs: Much much much better wicking: Channels as used in baby diapers (patented by P&G until 2038 or something)? Or internal structures that passively pump liquid when moved. The main thing is to get liquid away from the crotch and make use of all the padding. This could easily double the effect capacity of any existing diaper. Really good stretchy taping systems, preferably which also form a waterproof seal to improve side-sleeping performance. Stronger leg elastics.

Cute maybe, but killers of our native birds... over here the best possum is a dead possum!

I too had this problem for years and years. What worked for me was treat it like a training exercise... start small. I started by using the thinnest cloth backed diapers as possible and even then is was "a combination of familiarity and fatigue" to reach the point where I was sleeping well. The "training diapers" phase lasted a long time... more than a year. The other thing that is really important is to stick with it... wear every night without fail, whether you want to or not. After many false starts I stuck with it and now, two years later, it's feeling pretty normal.

A year or so ago an elderly neighbor call me late one evening to say he had some soft fruit for me to make jam with. I'd only just put a diaper on and it was hardly wet so left it on when I went round. Their dog could not keep his nose out of my crotch. I wonder how many dog owners know this is a thing and quietly know what is going on.

The ID Expert Slip Supers were the first diaper than made me think "gosh, I could go 24/7 with these" - they punched well above their price point. However when they moved to cloth sides they were disappointing.

I'm rubbish at hiaku... but Llama3's not bad: Soft and warm beneath Nighttime's secret, hidden truth Grown-up's gentle sleep

Me too. Plastic bags, kitchen roll, sellotape: Leaked like a sieve. Later on I'd buy the biggest pampers I could, cut two up and tape together to make one: Leaked like a sieve. I didn't try my first adult disposable until I was in my 20's (Tena Super - solid green) - it was a revelation (although they still leaked, didn't they?).

When I eventually manage to be passing by, I’ll just say you are a mate from my distant IT sector past - and we would most likely end up talking tech at some point anyway 🙂

One worry emigrating from the UK to NZ was if good chocolate would exist. Thankfully... Whitakers. Not quite in the same league as some Belgium or Swiss brands, but more than enough to avoid importing UK chocolate. Cheese, however, is another story.

Australia, where all the plants and animals try their best to kill you. @oznl should relocate across the ditch to NZ, where nothing tries to kill you and the temperatures are always temperate 🙂

I've posted my Pacifier Dependancy Story on DD before. It's very similar to little Sherri. The thing people have often asked is "did habitual use erode the pleasure" and the answer is no it didn't. Mostly it just soothed and comforted me in a way that I didn't expect it to at the start. If I thought about it I'd still get the little thrill knowing I was what I wanted to be. The "pain" of longing for it was slight, easily rectified by sucking something, and once I got into the habit that it was for night-time only, I didn't ever feel the need in the day. What I wrote some years ago:

"Or to be legitimately thankful your diaper has wetness indicators to make your life easier" Does anyone *wearing* a diaper actually use the wetness indicators? I can see why it is useful for caregivers to gauge wetness, but isn't just feeling the diaper a much better indicator? (Also the only bit the wearer can see is the front, and that surface is wet from the first wetting in most cases, and therefore not a useful indicator anyway?)

One thing to beware of: when buying from these people they subscribe you to their mailing list... using the email from your PayPal! ABDL emails in your vanilla mailbox. NOT COOL AB Discovery. (And signing up people to mailing lists they did not explicitly agree to is illegal in the EU). Maybe avoid them until they sort this out!