Probably time to introduce myself after years of lurking

[flowerdaddy22]

Hello everybody! 

I've been lurking for ages, had an account for about two years now, to comment on stories, but never formally introduced myself as part of the community - so here we go! 

 

I'm a 24 y/o DL living in eastern France. Shout out to the frenchies here on DD! 

So yeah, aside from diapers I'm into all things tech (your stereotypical DIYer/maker/tinkerer tech nerd) but my other, more superficial interests span a wide range of fields from astronomy, English language, photography, cooking, internet culture, to a little bit of US politics, etc... I'm probably forgetting a few still. 

So how did I get into diapers? I would go as far as to say I'm one of those people who never really got over being out of them as a kid - I've been interested in diapers for as long as I can remember. Embarrassing childhood anecdotes my mom occasionally shares depict me hiding in a corner of the room to mess my pants during (or more like right after?) potty training; I have memories of stuffing my underpants with toilet paper at the age of like 5, and I intermittently used to dream up what pretty much amounted to diaper stories before going to sleep at night... 

So yeah.. It wasn't until I was 18 though, that I mustered the courage to finally search up diapers online and quickly found my way to this great community of not-quite-normal people like myself - I think most of us can relate to the relief of knowing we weren't the only human being with these weird desires out there after all!

Like for so many of us, my ultimate dream would of course be a kinky relationship with another AB/DL, I feel like a DDLG dynamic would be awesome to explore the caregiver inside me (plus a diapered late summer nighttime stroll sounds like about the most romantic thing I can imagine), but seeing as I can't even seem to get into a vanilla relationship, I'll consider that a long shot, lol.

So yeah, enough about me for the time being I guess, I'll try to take a slightly more active role in this part of my life from now on, it'd be nice to actually get to know some like-minded folks, seeing how I've turned into way too much of a recluse in general over the past few years. 

Great meeting y'all! 

[AbabeBill]

Hi Flowerdaddy, and welcome to the light! Glad you decided to introduce yourself. Oui oui, I mean wee wee, like our diapers, lol. I hope we see more of you around now. Relax, have fun, and enjoy!

[foreverdl]

Welcome,, I gave up my diaper life when I got married years ago, and now my wife has been at least accepting , my other life, fetishes at least the ones I have told her about ..

[tigercub59]

Welcome

[oznl]

5 hours ago, flowerdaddy22 said:

So how did I get into diapers? I would go as far as to say I'm one of those people who never really got over being out of them as a kid - I've been interested in diapers for as long as I can remember.

Yep.  There's a few of us around in THAT category.  It never faded.  If anything it got stronger and so a bit over 5 years a go I went "24/7" and stayed there.  Anyway, nice to have one less lurker and one more contributor so welcome!

[Spiderman]

Hello lurked.  I look forward to seeing you in the forum and the chat room.

[flowerdaddy22]

21 hours ago, AbabeBill said:

Hi Flowerdaddy, and welcome to the light! Glad you decided to introduce yourself. Oui oui, I mean wee wee, like our diapers, lol. I hope we see more of you around now. Relax, have fun, and enjoy!

Thanks! Oui, wee, I see what you did there haha! 

 

21 hours ago, foreverdl said:

Welcome,, I gave up my diaper life when I got married years ago, and now my wife has been at least accepting , my other life, fetishes at least the ones I have told her about ..

Yeah, it's sad how incompatible our preferred lifestyle is with society.. I've always been hiding it from my family too (successfully so, as far as I'm aware, thanks to a healthy dose of luck) even though they brand themselves as "progressive" and would probably be okay with just the diaper part of it, they don't have a clue what a kink is (all asexual for some reason). Just talking about immediate family like my mom and sisters here ofc, but for that reason I'd wager a guess they'd be even less understanding than the average Joe. 

 

17 hours ago, oznl said:

Yep.  There's a few of us around in THAT category.  It never faded.  If anything it got stronger and so a bit over 5 years a go I went "24/7" and stayed there.  Anyway, nice to have one less lurker and one more contributor so welcome!

Nobody knows what causes this right? I certainly couldn't think of any crucial event that might've caused it, it was just always somehow hardwired into my brain. It's funny, my mom surely thinks she did an above average job raising us, yet doesn't know the extent to which it left us no better off in the mental department than everyone else. She also didn't like the idea when I broke the news to her that I probably have OCD... 

 

11 hours ago, Spiderman said:

Hello lurked.  I look forward to seeing you in the forum and the chat room.

Thanks! No pressure  at all I guess 😅

[Lil Leo]

Hiii!

Welcome!

[oznl]

6 hours ago, flowerdaddy22 said:

Nobody knows what causes this right? I certainly couldn't think of any crucial event that might've caused it, it was just always somehow hardwired into my brain. It's funny, my mom surely thinks she did an above average job raising us, yet doesn't know the extent to which it left us no better off in the mental department than everyone else. She also didn't like the idea when I broke the news to her that I probably have OCD...

I've seen theories but I don't believe there's been a science-backed causality identified.  The hypothesis that I find the most credible is that we missed some kind of element of bonding in our infancy and to some extent, we are doomed to spend our lives trying to rediscover it.

I'm also intrigued by the apparent skew of our population towards the nerd demographic and the associated overlay of neuro-diversity.   This might be simply because in-depth internet discussion on a narrow topic shapes things that way or maybe, there IS some correlation between ABDL and this personality type.

[Little Sherri]

On 9/28/2024 at 9:16 PM, flowerdaddy22 said:

So how did I get into diapers? I would go as far as to say I'm one of those people who never really got over being out of them as a kid - I've been interested in diapers for as long as I can remember.

Quite a number of us have similar origin stories - that elements of "this" was part of us before we know who we were. I was fixated on diapers from such an early age that I can say it's probably always been part of me; some of my earliest memories are of being glued to the side of a girl who lived next door when I was ages 4 to about 7, whom my parents used to call my first girlfriend and/or first crush. She was in diapers a lot of the time, and I was absolutely fascinated with her predicament. 

6 hours ago, oznl said:

The hypothesis that I find the most credible is that we missed some kind of element of bonding in our infancy and to some extent, we are doomed to spend our lives trying to rediscover it.

This seems highly plausible to me. 

In any case, welcome @flowerdaddy22! There are lots of great people here. It's the internet, of course, so you get all kinds, but I would say the mix here is generally remarkably beneficent, considering the odds. 

[Spiderman]

14 hours ago, flowerdaddy22 said:

Thanks! Oui, wee, I see what you did there haha! 

 

Yeah, it's sad how incompatible our preferred lifestyle is with society.. I've always been hiding it from my family too (successfully so, as far as I'm aware, thanks to a healthy dose of luck) even though they brand themselves as "progressive" and would probably be okay with just the diaper part of it, they don't have a clue what a kink is (all asexual for some reason). Just talking about immediate family like my mom and sisters here ofc, but for that reason I'd wager a guess they'd be even less understanding than the average Joe. 

 

Nobody knows what causes this right? I certainly couldn't think of any crucial event that might've caused it, it was just always somehow hardwired into my brain. It's funny, my mom surely thinks she did an above average job raising us, yet doesn't know the extent to which it left us no better off in the mental department than everyone else. She also didn't like the idea when I broke the news to her that I probably have OCD... 

 

Thanks! No pressure  at all I guess 😅

Lol non at all.  *gets out my pressure cooker*

[flowerdaddy22]

17 hours ago, oznl said:

I've seen theories but I don't believe there's been a science-backed causality identified.  The hypothesis that I find the most credible is that we missed some kind of element of bonding in our infancy and to some extent, we are doomed to spend our lives trying to rediscover it.

Something like that is what I figured too 

 

17 hours ago, oznl said:

I'm also intrigued by the apparent skew of our population towards the nerd demographic and the associated overlay of neuro-diversity.   This might be simply because in-depth internet discussion on a narrow topic shapes things that way or maybe, there IS some correlation between ABDL and this personality type.

Very interesting, I never stopped to wonder about the demographics, but now you mentioned it, I'd wager a guess it's not a coincidence. There does seem to be a surprising amount of tech people even amongst story authors here. BabySofia and DiaperedPrince immediately come to mind as confirmed techies due to the prominence of the topic in their stories. I also noticed that there seems to be a a higher concentration of LGBT+ folks in the 3D printing community compared to the wider tech scene, so there really could be a correlation between an area of interest and a certain type of person. After all, what actually makes people interested in the topic that is then called "their hobby"? Aside from societal influences, why would girls be more prone to be into horses and dogs or other animals, and boys into soccer and cars... If neurodiversity is really more prevalent in the tech space, which is a hypothesis I've also heard before, I wouldn't be surprised if the nerdy type is also statistically more likely to meet all the prerequisites to being an ABDL - whatever those ultimately are...

[flowerdaddy22]

12 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

memories are of being glued to the side of a girl who lived next door when I was ages 4 to about 7, whom my parents used to call my first girlfriend and/or first crush. She was in diapers a lot of the time

That's cute, good thing she didn't know the real reason behind it, but at least she had a great friend to protect her from bullying? 😛

 

12 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

There are lots of great people here. It's the internet, of course, so you get all kinds, but I would say the mix here is generally remarkably beneficent, considering the odds. 

Thanks! Yeah, so far this seemed like a pretty healthy community to me, I figured because it's still relatively small?

[zzyzx]

22 hours ago, oznl said:

I'm also intrigued by the apparent skew of our population towards the nerd demographic and the associated overlay of neuro-diversity.   This might be simply because in-depth internet discussion on a narrow topic shapes things that way or maybe, there IS some correlation between ABDL and this personality type.

• Nerd demographic: check
• nero-diversity: Unoffically check. 
  • While I would never have been diagnosed as such (or on the Autism Spectrum as a result of neuro-diversity) as a child, I've know since mid elementary school how I "sense" things was different from normal.  At 64, I am finally finding what I knew then is an item that indicates neuro-diversity and a flag now for the "current" definition of Autism Spectrum.  And I guess some don't like folks self diagnosing on this, but there is one researcher's test available to freely take on the internet and if I wasn't neuro-diverse / on the Autism spectrum, then my results from that test upset what the researcher claims based on my test results compared to what they have published for what the test results mean.

 

3 hours ago, flowerdaddy22 said:

Very interesting, I never stopped to wonder about the demographics, but now you mentioned it, I'd wager a guess it's not a coincidence. There does seem to be a surprising amount of tech people even amongst story authors here. BabySofia and DiaperedPrince immediately come to mind as confirmed techies due to the prominence of the topic in their stories. I also noticed that there seems to be a a higher concentration of LGBT+ folks in the 3D printing community compared to the wider tech scene, so there really could be a correlation between an area of interest and a certain type of person. After all, what actually makes people interested in the topic that is then called "their hobby"? Aside from societal influences, why would girls be more prone to be into horses and dogs or other animals, and boys into soccer and cars... If neurodiversity is really more prevalent in the tech space, which is a hypothesis I've also heard before, I wouldn't be surprised if the nerdy type is also statistically more likely to meet all the prerequisites to being an ABDL - whatever those ultimately are...

The test I reference above shows a break down of neuro-diversity and collage degree (programs?  maybe not yet earned).  The highest neuro-diverse group for their baseline of the tests was something like 18% of the Computer Science majors were neuro-diverse.

And again: Comp Sci collage degree: Check.

Ah, am I admitting I'm ABDL.....  Ah.... ah....  ah....  I have medical issues (starting with adult on set of occasional Nocturnal Enuresis, and then the "fun" of early onset BPH, and related issues....  As a teenager I was more scared that I might eventually need diapers due to not understanding why it happened the few times I wet the bed (between 7 and 13th birthdays)....  And noticing the availability in the Sears catalog around age 13....  But I didn't recognize this group when I was exposed to it three times (during High School / College years).  (Seeing another student in the single room dorm complex have a picture of himself as a young (elementary school age?) boy happily standing in front of a camera having his picture taken in just (white) cloth diapers and a white t-shirt (don't remember the rest of the details) had me wondering why he would post it on the (outside) front of the door to his room. 

No, I don't mind wearing my thick clean and dry, or warm and wet, (cloth) diapers....  So, there is something there....  Even if I don't want to admit it.

[flowerdaddy22]

18 hours ago, zzyzx said:

The test I reference above shows a break down of neuro-diversity and collage degree (programs?  maybe not yet earned).  The highest neuro-diverse group for their baseline of the tests was something like 18% of the Computer Science majors were neuro-diverse.

And again: Comp Sci collage degree: Check.

Ah, am I admitting I'm ABDL.....  Ah.... ah....  

Wow, 18%,thats nuts! I really should've tried searching for some studies for statistics to back up my claims but glad I was to the point with that info I'd heard in a video once..