Strange question for you guys

[adam4landry]

Hey everyone I have a unique question for you all there this mommy on diapermates this is her profile https://diapermates.com/profile/MommyKathy Has anyone met her before in person????

 

ps i hope i posted this in the right place.

[Apache Raccoon]

No but I'm not from Canada or America.

[adam4landry]

13 minutes ago, Apache Raccoon said:

No but I'm not from Canada or America.

Well that alright.

[Apache Raccoon]

5 minutes ago, adam4landry said:

Well that alright.

Yay

I'm curios, why do you want to know if we've met this person?

[adam4landry]

32 minutes ago, Apache Raccoon said:

Yay

I'm curios, why do you want to know if we've met this person?

Well i saw her ad on diapermates and i was curious about her plus she the closes mommy i could find, so i have been talking to her for a bit and she made a nursery for her ABDL she looking for i wan to upload the pic she send me but the size of the pic is to big to up load, anyway she sound legit then she ask me to fill out a ABDL Form what i want to know is has any of you ever fill out a ABDL form to meet a ABDL Mommy ????

[Snugglebear_69]

Often professional Mommies that you pay for will ask you to complete forms to ensure you get tge experience you are paying to have. Mommies who are looking for a partner vs a client usually are not asking people to fill out forms.

[adam4landry]

7 minutes ago, Snugglebear_69 said:

Often professional Mommies that you pay for will ask you to complete forms to ensure you get tge experience you are paying to have. Mommies who are looking for a partner vs a client usually are not asking people to fill out forms.

Really huh I didn’t know that ??? well now you mention it she did ask for $50 dollars for the form is that normal????

[Snugglebear_69]

Sounds like a professional Mommy Dom running a business versus a woman seeking a relationship with an AB/DL partner. If they are asking for money to complete a form that, at least to me, appears like a professional kink worker providing a service. If that's what your seeking go for it. If you're seeking a partner for a relationship instead of a paid kink session I would highly recommend clarifying their position/intent.

[adam4landry]

I see ??? i could ask her more questions to see how she much charges and also if there are things that I can do and things I can’t do with her, what kind of services do mommy dom provide like in her ad she interested in Disposable Diapers, Cloth Diapers, Plastic Pants, Baby Bottles, Baby Food, Wetting, Messing, Changing Others, Spanking, BDSM, Watersports I wonder do mommy dom make their ABDL cum there diapers or is it a huge No No ????

[Snugglebear_69]

Depends on the Domme. BDSM doesn't inherently default to sex. There are quite a few Mommy Dommes who do not provide physical sexual services which would include orgasms. That's often why they have clients complete a form. Nothing in their ad that you referenced would lead me to think their services include sexual activities which depending where you live could cross the line into prostitution. It's one reason a lot of professional Dommes and Doms don't cross the line into sex.

[warpiper]

This sounds like a scam to me. I'd not send any money at all until you've negotiated the terms of your relationship whether it's for her business or what. Do not just give 50 bucks unless she is telling you what 50 bucks gets you. 

[adam4landry]

31 minutes ago, Snugglebear_69 said:

Depends on the Domme. BDSM doesn't inherently default to sex. There are quite a few Mommy Dommes who do not provide physical sexual services which would include orgasms. That's often why they have clients complete a form. Nothing in their ad that you referenced would lead me to think their services include sexual activities which depending where you live could cross the line into prostitution. It's one reason a lot of professional Dommes and Doms don't cross the line into sex.

I don’t want any sex at all but I can ask her if I can release my naughty load i don’t think it will hurt to ask her at least.

39 minutes ago, warpiper said:

This sounds like a scam to me. I'd not send any money at all until you've negotiated the terms of your relationship whether it's for her business or what. Do not just give 50 bucks unless she is telling you what 50 bucks gets you. 

I won’t pay her yet until I know more what she’s offer so don’t worry ?.

[Snugglebear_69]

Orgasm would be considered sexual and can be part of what defines the line crossing over into prostitution services under the law. Exact parameters will vary by country, state, province, etc. so best to know for your location. Ontario, living here, would define BDSM services that include orgasm as the solicitation of prostitution under the law.

[adam4landry]

1 hour ago, Snugglebear_69 said:

Orgasm would be considered sexual and can be part of what defines the line crossing over into prostitution services under the law. Exact parameters will vary by country, state, province, etc. so best to know for your location. Ontario, living here, would define BDSM services that include orgasm as the solicitation of prostitution under the law.

Well like I said “it doesn’t hurt to ask” if she says no then it’s no simple as that, besides I still need to ask her what kind of services she offers and her rates so i need to know more about her and everything she does.

[rusty pins]

14 hours ago, adam4landry said:

I see ??? i could ask her more questions to see how she much charges and also if there are things that I can do and things I can’t do with her, what kind of services do mommy dom provide like in her ad she interested in Disposable Diapers, Cloth Diapers, Plastic Pants, Baby Bottles, Baby Food, Wetting, Messing, Changing Others, Spanking, BDSM, Watersports I wonder do mommy dom make their ABDL cum there diapers or is it a huge No No ????

That is a given and the first thing I would do before going any further!  Ask her all the questions you have in mind.  Definitely what she charges and for how long.  Make sure you tell her exactly what you are looking for.  If you are not into spankings or being tied to the bedposts while in soaking diapers, make that clear.  Make sure she is willing to change a poopy diaper if that is what you want and if she charges extra for it.  Set the guidelines first and make sure she is OK with that.  I would even go as far as writing them all out, the do's and don't in a contract and have you and her both sign it.  She may not like it, but after all, in legal terms she has a business, you are a customer paying her for services so a signed contract is for your protection.

There are some people out there who just enjoy being a mommy and others who make money at it.  If you go about it as it being their business that you are willing to pay for, it's not unreasonable for them to ask for $50 up front as a deposit.  I would expect that some people may be all hot and heavy for a mommy session and getting their diapers changed in the heat of the moment and then at the last minute get cold feet and not show up.  If you agree to buy a piece of furniture off of Facebook marketplace, let them know you will be there in 4 days to pick it up, it's only right for the seller to ask for a deposit.  They may turn down 3 or 4 other offers because you had agreed to buy it and if you back out, they are entitled to keep the deposit.  Just go at it as being OK with the possibility of losing $50 if it does turn out to be a scam, she cancels at the last minute or keeps making excuses for putting it off until you finally quit contacting her.  Basically, "I'll take a gamble for $50 and if I lose, well, it's only $50 and worth at least a try".

As far as the sex, it's one thing to actively have sex, intercourse, oral sex, whatever.  That would be an agreed upon service.  I would think that if you cum in your diaper, that could be unpredictable depending on how excited an individual gets during a diaper change (being wiped clean, ointment rubbed on, etc.).  Both parties could figure it will most likely happen, but maybe not intentional or planned like the mommy rubbing the penis vigorously until you cum.

As for uploading the picture, open it up in PAINT (I use the old window's 7 version which should be available in your windows accessory programs) and just shrink it down to a size that you can upload.  Lots of times I have to resize it from 100 down to 25 to be able to send or upload it somewhere.

My advice?  I say go for it if that is what you want, but be careful and protect yourself.  Trade a lot of emails back and forth until you feel comfortable that this person will not beat you over the head, steal your money and leave you somewhere for dead.  Establish parameters well in advance, think about a signed contract including spelling out the terms of cost and payment.  You don't want your session to end only to find she is demanding twice as much as you had agreed upon because, "I also did this and that for you which wasn't agreed to".  That would be akin to someone agreeing to cut the dead limbs from you tree for 25 cents per limb, but then counting every branch and twig as a limb costing you hundreds of dollars.  

[adam4landry]

2 hours ago, rusty pins said:

That is a given and the first thing I would do before going any further!  Ask her all the questions you have in mind.  Definitely what she charges and for how long.  Make sure you tell her exactly what you are looking for.  If you are not into spankings or being tied to the bedposts while in soaking diapers, make that clear.  Make sure she is willing to change a poopy diaper if that is what you want and if she charges extra for it.  Set the guidelines first and make sure she is OK with that.  I would even go as far as writing them all out, the do's and don't in a contract and have you and her both sign it.  She may not like it, but after all, in legal terms she has a business, you are a customer paying her for services so a signed contract is for your protection.

There are some people out there who just enjoy being a mommy and others who make money at it.  If you go about it as it being their business that you are willing to pay for, it's not unreasonable for them to ask for $50 up front as a deposit.  I would expect that some people may be all hot and heavy for a mommy session and getting their diapers changed in the heat of the moment and then at the last minute get cold feet and not show up.  If you agree to buy a piece of furniture off of Facebook marketplace, let them know you will be there in 4 days to pick it up, it's only right for the seller to ask for a deposit.  They may turn down 3 or 4 other offers because you had agreed to buy it and if you back out, they are entitled to keep the deposit.  Just go at it as being OK with the possibility of losing $50 if it does turn out to be a scam, she cancels at the last minute or keeps making excuses for putting it off until you finally quit contacting her.  Basically, "I'll take a gamble for $50 and if I lose, well, it's only $50 and worth at least a try".

As far as the sex, it's one thing to actively have sex, intercourse, oral sex, whatever.  That would be an agreed upon service.  I would think that if you cum in your diaper, that could be unpredictable depending on how excited an individual gets during a diaper change (being wiped clean, ointment rubbed on, etc.).  Both parties could figure it will most likely happen, but maybe not intentional or planned like the mommy rubbing the penis vigorously until you cum.

As for uploading the picture, open it up in PAINT (I use the old window's 7 version which should be available in your windows accessory programs) and just shrink it down to a size that you can upload.  Lots of times I have to resize it from 100 down to 25 to be able to send or upload it somewhere.

My advice?  I say go for it if that is what you want, but be careful and protect yourself.  Trade a lot of emails back and forth until you feel comfortable that this person will not beat you over the head, steal your money and leave you somewhere for dead.  Establish parameters well in advance, think about a signed contract including spelling out the terms of cost and payment.  You don't want your session to end only to find she is demanding twice as much as you had agreed upon because, "I also did this and that for you which wasn't agreed to".  That would be akin to someone agreeing to cut the dead limbs from you tree for 25 cents per limb, but then counting every branch and twig as a limb costing you hundreds of dollars.  

I do agree with you Rustypin I can take a chance besides I hear that escorts also do this they always ask for some deposit for sessions with their clients because sometimes they clients are a no show for around $50 dollars or $100 dollars.

Anyway back on topic I think I smell something very fishy about this mommy dom.

[adam4landry]

Hey everyone i have a update about the professional Mommy Dom i told you guys about well a manage to ask her how much she charges for her services this is what she said "How many minutes will I stay with you" and "How much will I stay with you" so i ask her how much she charges for a full day and she told me "How much do you think you can afford for me for full day" so i ask her can i pay her $500 for a full day and the she said "Done deal baby" is it normal to make a payment agreement like this with a professional Mommy Dom has anyone had this kind of a deal with a mommy dom ????

 

[Snugglebear_69]

That sounds very, very suspicious to me. Professional Dommes/Doms know what their prices are for specific services and time frames. When was the last time you saw a professional like a lawyer, plumber, accountant, etc., ask you how much you can afford?

There are also soooo many more factors that come into play in terms of cost other than time. Is the care at your location or hers? Who is providing props and materials? Hard limits. Desired type of care. Etc. Is she asking payment in advance? Have you been able to verify her with any current or former clients? Is she known in her local kink community.

To protect yourself I'd be doing some more digging and verifying as asking a client what they can afford throws up red flags to me.

[adam4landry]

16 minutes ago, Snugglebear_69 said:

That sounds very, very suspicious to me. Professional Dommes/Doms know what their prices are for specific services and time frames. When was the last time you saw a professional like a lawyer, plumber, accountant, etc., ask you how much you can afford?

There are also soooo many more factors that come into play in terms of cost other than time. Is the care at your location or hers? Who is providing props and materials? Hard limits. Desired type of care. Etc. Is she asking payment in advance? Have you been able to verify her with any current or former clients? Is she known in her local kink community.

To protect yourself I'd be doing some more digging and verifying as asking a client what they can afford throws up red flags to me.

Hmmmmm....?? i new something was off if i am not mistaken Professional Dommes/Doms charge around $1000 or $2000 for a full day am i correct ???

As for the props and materials well i supply the diapers, wipes, and the naughty toy (i have ask her about if she can make me orgasm in my diaper and she said yes) because i already have some stuff she can use on me and i already told her all my limits.

As for the advance yes she is ask me about the advance she asking for a $100 deposit for a reservation and the $50 deposit for the ABDL Agreement she was pushing me to pay the $100 deposit before the arrange time.

Well look like i fond a other red flag.

[rusty pins]

I'd run (or waddle) from her and try to curb your urges until you find a better opportunity sometime in the future with someone who is upfront about everything right from the start.  I am DL and not AB but have read a lot on some forums on different sites and usually a person will be up front about being a Dom Mommy for adult babies and will state everything and be open about it.  Just sounds too risky.

[adam4landry]

17 minutes ago, rusty pins said:

I'd run (or waddle) from her and try to curb your urges until you find a better opportunity sometime in the future with someone who is upfront about everything right from the start.  I am DL and not AB but have read a lot on some forums on different sites and usually a person will be up front about being a Dom Mommy for adult babies and will state everything and be open about it.  Just sounds too risky.

You won't need to worry about that i haven't told her or what ever that person is where i live so i am safe plus i told a little white lie about how much i can afford for the service. I have meet or should i say chatted with a female dom in the past i believe her name was "astrodomina" i have ask her before how much a full day would cost me she said it will cost around $2000 plus i have to pay for her plane ticket and her hotel so it almost around $3000 i never manage to hire her because of the price however this dom was real and she can do wet and dirty diaper and make me explode as well i still follow her on twitter and i got some of her videos.

Oops i got carried away sorry about that guys anyway back on topic when i ask that fake pro mommy dom her rates well i knew something was a little off but still i though to myself that maybe she just starting her businesses and she does not know how much to charge but after what you guys said well i think i will forget about her or what ever she is and move on.  

[Alyeskabird]

I have only met like 2 other abdls in real life, both guys, so I really do not think thats gonna help.

[Firefly 35]

20 hours ago, adam4landry said:

Hmmmmm....?? i new something was off if i am not mistaken Professional Dommes/Doms charge around $1000 or $2000 for a full day am i correct ???

It depends on their rates, how long of a session you're inquiring about, or other factors (for example, some will charge more for changing poopy diapers or things like that).  Generally ranges from a few hundred dollars to $2000+.  Any hard limits, such as "no sex" or "no BDSM activities that are illegal according to the state/city/current political faction/etc" have to be disclosed as well.

All of this infromation should be available on the pro dom's website or social media page or on a paper the pro dom gives you.