One Week at a Time

[Stuffie Snake]

Little bit of history:  I have a history of stress incontinence that leads back to some emergency surgeries I had in the mid-2010's that unintentionally caused some damage to my pelvic floor muscles and a lifetime of issues with urgency and the occasional inability to hold it and make it to a bathroom - especially in the morning or after a car ride.  Basically if I have to hold it for more than hour I'm going to leak if not have a full blown accident.  With that in mind I had worn a lot of crappy pullups and pads over the past few years, cut fluids (ending up with dehydration, YAY!), set myself waking schedules to try to beat my bladder, and made sure I was always near a bathroom.  It's exhausting.  I'm sure there are people that can relate.  

I have been convincing myself I am totally fine, even though I had become frustrated enough to pick up Northshore pullups in the past when the Depends or Always weren't working for more than an hour or one good accident trying to get to a bathroom after sitting for too long.  Then I would shame myself over how lazy I am, stop wearing, and inevitably have an accident in the car or on my way to a bathroom requiring a quick trip home sitting on a towel or a rapid change of clothes.  A week and a half ago after a night of actual good sleep I woke up to extreme discomfort from holding it in my sleep, got up from the urgency to pee, and as has happened in the past I lost control and started to pee all over the floor only a few feet from the toilet.  It took several seconds for me to stop the flow and make it onto the toilet because the relief from the pain in my bladder was better than trying to rush the next few steps.  I spent the day crying; insulting myself for not being able to hold it, for the laundry, for having to clean the floor, and for the fact that I was still running to the bathroom at least every hour.  

So I guess I gave up?  After a day of self recrimination I got on the live chat with Northshore to talk about solutions and ultimately I put in an order for more pull-up and some Megamax Air Supreme.  They came quickly (thanks FedEx!) and I put one on,.  After probably 30 minutes of trying to figure out how to properly diaper myself I felt pretty ridiculous.  What did not feel ridiculous was being in the middle of a meeting, realizing I didn't have to keep straining to hold it, and just letting myself pee (I work from home but was scared I have a pee face on cam???).  

While I am incredibly paranoid about wearing something thicker than a pull up in public (I am even nervous to wear out the pull-up from Northshore compared to the Always) I am trying to come to peace with the fact that I feel better in protection and would rather be "puffier" than have leaks down my legs from a flimsy pullup or a full on puddle on the leather seats from a bumpy road.  It just seems cleaner and more sanitary for everyone.  So for a week I've been wearing Air Supreme.  I don't know how long this is going to go on for, I don't really have a plan, I'm just so incredibly tired of being ashamed of myself and the amount of cleaning supplies I have accumulated over the years to try and deal with my accidents.  I'm honestly a little frustrated with my doctors as well, who have encouraged me to continue trying to hold it, cut fluids, and set schedules for when I "let" myself go to the bathroom to help increase my continence.  

I think I am done with trying to maintain any kind of continence bladder wise, and I just needed to get everything off my chest.  Thanks for reading if you made it this far. 

 

[Little Belle]

I hear you @Stuffie Snake. I've been there - constantly needing the loo, having accidents and feeling embarrassed/angry/ashamed about not being able to manage my bladder like everyone else, or being the annoying person in the meeting or on the day out that has to constantly go and use the toilet. When I wasn't on the toilet I was thinking about it and it had, frankly, taken over my life. 

It had taken many years for it to get that bad so l'd just learnt to accept it along the way. Like you, I started to manage it with pull ups but they don't really help as I'd wet in them after about 30 minutes and then was looking for a toilet again for fear of it leaking as they're so thin. And you have to take off all your clothes in toilets with icky floors in order to change them. 

I can't even remember how I came to buy my first 'real' nappy but I do remember how I felt when I put it on. It felt amazing and for the first time in years I felt really safe and comforted. 

I did a few binge/purge cycles with nappy wearing where I longed for the comfort and security of wearing them but then suddenly hated myself for needing them. But I knew i was only putting off the inevitable as my continence was steadily getting worse.

Then over a year ago I finally dived into permanent 24/7 as something finally clicked and I've never looked back since. There were still some doubts and dilemmas at first, as I was allowing what remained of my continence to slip away and I was actively encouraging myself to be a bedwetter in order to stop the instant flooding I experienced when I stood up out of bed. But it's really a case of 'go big or go home' on this one. If you need the capacity of a nappy to enable you to function normally for more than an hour or two, then there isn't really an alternative. 

The continence service were pretty rubbish for me too - the nurse couldn't understand why I wanted to manage my incontinence with nappies and she said I was 'giving in' to it. I had, by that time, been 'not giving in' for almost 20 years and it was exhausting. 

I lost all daytime continence after about 3 or 4 months (it's quite hard to measure it exactly) and I was wetting the bed before I'd reached 10 months. But I have no regrets and I've learned to be kind to myself about it. At least now I can spend my life concentrating on other things - like my career and my love of being outdoors. 

Keep in touch, you will find plenty of support on here from lots of people who have been through what you're going through. I also love this space because it's the only place I know where we can be honest with each other that, actually, nappies rock!

Love Little Belle ?

[Stuffie Snake]

9 minutes ago, Little Belle said:

I hear you @Stuffie Snake. I've been there - constantly needing the loo, having accidents and feeling embarrassed/angry/ashamed about not being able to manage my bladder like everyone else, or being the annoying person in the meeting or on the day out that has to constantly go and use the toilet. When I wasn't on the toilet I was thinking about it and it had, frankly, taken over my life. 

This is exactly how I feel right now even working from home I am constantly having to ditch my camera, mute myself, heat speaker, and dash.  I am constantly worried about where the next gas station or shop is where I can drop in if I am out and about.  I'm pretty sure I can map every public restroom within a 30 mile radius of my home by now and while impressive, it's not the most practicable skill to be holding onto in my memory.  

11 minutes ago, Little Belle said:

I did a few binge/purge cycles with nappy wearing where I longed for the comfort and security of wearing them but then suddenly hated myself for needing them. But I knew i was only putting off the inevitable as my continence was steadily getting worse.

I feel like that is the cycle I have been in, I will realize I need better protection and get a heavier duty pullup but then shame myself back into pads.  Not being able to make it from my bed to the toilet that is only ten feet away in my little house was a really rude wake up call.  I didn't have issues like that even five years ago, when I was upset over a level of continence I would be overjoyed at having now.

15 minutes ago, Little Belle said:

There were still some doubts and dilemmas at first, as I was allowing what remained of my continence to slip away and I was actively encouraging myself to be a bedwetter in order to stop the instant flooding I experienced when I stood up out of bed. But it's really a case of 'go big or go home' on this one. If you need the capacity of a nappy to enable you to function normally for more than an hour or two, then there isn't really an alternative. 

The continence service were pretty rubbish for me too - the nurse couldn't understand why I wanted to manage my incontinence with nappies and she said I was 'giving in' to it. I had, by that time, been 'not giving in' for almost 20 years and it was exhausting. 

I lost all daytime continence after about 3 or 4 months (it's quite hard to measure it exactly) and I was wetting the bed before I'd reached 10 months. But I have no regrets and I've learned to be kind to myself about it. At least now I can spend my life concentrating on other things - like my career and my love of being outdoors.

This is where I am at, trying to understand that I am not giving up if I actually just step into wearing actual protection and let myself relax and try to live the life I had before; a prospect that just isn't tenable when I am changing a pullup or pad, or trying desperately to keep on a schedule that just leaves me with actual cramping in my bladder that is distracting.  Wearing let me make it through a two hour meeting and actually concentrate, even if I was aware and letting myself use the diaper I wasn't panicking trying to figure out when I could afford to enact my patented bathroom dash.  

I realize I will need to talk to my doctors and inform them if I do stick with this new method of attempting radical acceptance but I am not entirely looking forward to the conversation (my next appointment is in two months).  

Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts, I really appreciate it.  

[munkey]

@Stuffie Snakeyou’ve made a brave wise choice.   I know wearing diapers can be odd at first, but the freedom is worth it.  I struggled to wear them all the time cause I was an ABDL first and I thought it was just a fetish thing.  However, when you running to the bathroom in the morning and having accidents… that is something else.  A life long friend pointed out that it looked like I wasn’t wearing diapers cause of the AB side.  4 years later… I’m diapered all the time now.  Its great not feeling like I failed in the morning and my AB side is quite content with whats going on, lol.

I think doctors shy away from this as an option is due to a social stigma and wanting to help the patient.  However, I think they ignore diapers as a viable option for most people.  

I applaud you for making this choice for yourself and hope you find some cute diapers to add to your collection, white gets boring after a while!

[diapered_jeff48801]

@Stuffie Snake I'm sorry you've had to deal with this, but it looks like you're making a good choice for yourself. And that's something to be proud of.

If 'giving in' means finally being able to be comfortable with yourself and not stressed out, then it seems like a no-brainer.

I feel terrible that your condition has caused you such pain. I say why feel shame for something you cannot control? It's not your fault you were left to deal with this, and while it's far from ideal, you should make the best of it, and accept that it's okay to wear protection. 

I see it similar to wearing glasses, sure I've been made fun of for wearing glasses, but I can see, and that helps me live a better life. Diapers are the same! They'll let you live a better life.

As far as the fear of being found out, I've been wearing thick medical diapers for the last four months and to my knowledge no one notices. 

But what IS noticeable is making a mad dash to the bathroom constantly, and even more noticeably what happens if you don't make it. I couldn't imagine running back and forth to the bathroom, and constantly being paranoid and needing to know where the toilets are at all times.

It just doesn't sound like an enjoyable life, and that's not to mention the embarrassment of noticeably having an accident.

Thank you for sharing your story, and being so open and honest about your experience. Know that you are supported.

 

[~Brian~]

Good morning!

My Name is Brian and I have been a member here for going on four years in May. I. I started my journey when I was 46, and it was kinda strange because I was having problems with incontinence, diverticulitis, and Accidents. It started in the summer of 2019, And it was really strange because all of the sudden I felt that I wasn't making it to the bathroom on time, or what would happen is as you had stated, i'd get to the bathroom and then I would have to go so bad, that I wouldn't even hit the toilet, and I'd pee on the floor.

I've been through most of the stuff that you're talking about: sleepless nights, the worry, the stigmas, people's opinions, people's values,G the whole 9 yards about this subject. I've also dealt with a little bit of guilt and embarrassment, because in the beginning I was asking myself why this was happening to me. Why me why me? The answer is, that we are not sure why, but you should not give up your dignity or your integrity or your values, simply because of something that somebody else may disagree with.

There are a lot of people out there that will say that they want you to go to the doctor, they want you to be Tested, They want you to have all these exercises and therapeutic stuff to be able to strengthen your pelvic floor, or the doctor will prescribe medication to help you with your incontinence. All of these things could help someone, and I'm not knocking it, but I am disabled and have been all my life, and I've gone through bouts of incontinence on and off throughout it. most of my childhood was spent either in school, or in rehab centers or hospitals, because I would have to deal with all these surgeries and other things that they want me to do. Then you have other things that happen to you, similar to being in your own private hell, because the place they send you to help you, has a whole bunch of idiots and fools who think they can use their power, to scare the heck out a 6 year old kids like myself at the time, and I wasn't playing around, because I thought that I was being neglected abused and put down all the time. While I was there, they wouldn't allow me to go to the bathroom myself, and I always had to wait for them, then I'd end up having all these accidents as well, so that in and of itself Was the 1st place that I experienced incontinence, And the first time it's being out of diapers, that they were using them on me. I simply let it happen, because with all the hell I was dealing with, the diaper was the only thing that was protecting me from all the that was happening.

3 hours ago, Stuffie Snake said:

  With that in mind I had worn a lot of crappy pullups and pads over the past few years, cut fluids (ending up with dehydration, YAY!), set myself waking schedules to try to beat my bladder, and made sure I was always near a bathroom.  It's exhausting.  I'm sure there are people that can relate.  

I hear you! There are a lot of bad products on the market. The manufacturers of these incontinence products do not want us to have better products. they give you all these choices of all these pull up underwears, and literally instead of a diaper, they end up giving you underwear, that is not built for somebody that is totally incontinent both ways like myself. There is no way to know what will happen with the products in the future, but all cloth backed and continents products in my opinion are just junk, because they're built to last only a few hours, and they're only meant for somebody who dribbles, not someone who has a full bladder! Luckily, once you end up trying their products, I was able to convince my doctor to prescribe me better diapers. I know where the north Shore Mega Max exclusively, And it works for me, and I can literally let go a full bladder, and if I have to do a BM, i've done it several times in the diaper. I am not afraid, I am not ashamed, I am not worried, the embarrassment is gone, my stress level is gone, and my confidence level is way is way up. I'm now able to sleep, because before I wasn't able to sleep very long before I would be jumping out of bed at like 4 o'clock in the morning,, and spending almost an hour and a half on the toilet waiting for something to happen, or getting up several times starting at midnight, and every two to three hours after, because my bowels are just irritated or something. I thought to myself that I needed to do something about this, and I did it! I decided that this foolishness was going to stop. Not in the incontinence being stopped, but my life as I've known it had been basically taken over by incontinence, because I'd have to worry about going to the bathroom, finding it, knowing where it was, or making sure that I wasn't over filling myself with liquids.  @Little Belle Is right when she says that it was a pain in the neck, and basically  the incontinence was running her life. And in some cases almost ruining life so she couldn't enjoy doing things because she was constantly going into the bathroom, knowing where the bathroom was, and being able to get there really fast.

I have learned from experience that the best thing that you do is to make sure that you make the decision that makes sense for you, and allows you to get your life back! The thing is, the way you had been dealing with it, is admirable, and I do applaud you for trying really hard to beat this! It's also been my experience that all my life I've been told then I need to try harder, that I need to do things better, or I need to do it a certain way that I don't like!

so I go into my doctor in 2019. I told him from the start that there are many specialists out there, and there's a lot of them that help people with stuff like incontinence, or other things that are changing conditions. I told the doctor that I don't need an expert to do any testing on me, or to try to stop me from wearing diapers simply because they want me to try to stop my incontinence. Half my life, I've had incontinence on and off, And while it is important that you take care of yourself, i've learned one thing, and that is, that even when you try your hardest and you do your best, sometimes you succeed, sometimes you fail.

One thing That I've learned through all of this is you have to fight hard, if you need something and the people that are giving you the product aren't listening. i've had times when I've had to argue with the state Medicaid division, because they want me to be tested, and they wanted me to do everything that the doctor was saying that they were gonna have to do. I told the Medicaid division that my doctor my primary physician has been my doctor for 25 years, and he knows me like a book. my disabilities and everything else that I've had to deal with all of my life, our conditions that I can't change, nor would I change, and one of the things that is a possible subcondition of my disability is incontinence. It can happen to people with CP I've seen it many times before, but I told the doctor that I wanted help, and I wanted diapers, because that's how I wanted to deal with the situation. I told them that I'm not playing this game any more: and continents may have won the battle, because I'm in diapers now, but i'm not fighting a war! the incontinence is there, And it can be inconvenient embarrassing and all that stuff, but if I have my diapers, then my stress level is almost 0, I don't have to worry about running to the bathroom, I don't have to worry about getting up in the middle of the night six times, I don't have to worry about having a BM accident all over the place, And I can actually sleep at night, better than I was doing in the past

what does this all boil down to? it boils down to the fact that it is OK to have incontinence, it's OK to use diapers If that's the way you want to manage it. I always think of it this way: whenever I have to release, I always think stresses that I am getting rid of, that I don't need anymore, or all of the pain in the sorrow and everything else, there are stressors that make my life hell sometimes, but when I end up filling my diaper, and then I end up taking care of it, I'm throwing them away, so I'm throwing away all the stress.

When you're trying to fight your bladder or your bowels, it's not good for you to hold for long periods of time, and not only that, it can be unsafe for somebody that has to run to the bathroom, especially guys like me who have CP, because I'd run into the bathroom and probably not make it anyway. Secondarily, if I really have to go to the bathroom, and I'm pointed right at the toilet, i've had times when I've just peed all over the floor! that can be irritating because then you have to get down there and clean it out! i've had my fill of this, and that's why I'm wearing diapers 24/7.

I am also a diaper lover, and I've been that way since I was eight years old. The experiences I had in rehab were probably the triggers that put me in that mindset, and every time somebody would open up a powder container containing Johnson's baby powder, that was one trigger. The other trigger was if somebody had a package of pampers in their room, because the smell of them were so intoxicating, it's hard it's hard to resist it, because all of your body senses are going crazy, and not only that, but wearing diapers for me allows me to have control of my life again, which is most important!

when I started my journey back in 2019, I was trying to figure out why I like diapers or why they feel good or whatever it was! what I find is that I diapers, simple as that, always have, from the time I was eight years old. it's like a guilty pleasure, you know that doing it is naughty, but you can't resist it, and your body wants it so bad that it's ridiculous! There are a lot of people out there that do drugs or do illegal things to make themselves feel better, but wearing diapers does not cause any problem for me, it's feeling in the sensations and the smells and everything else, combined with the fact that with the diaper on, I'm expected to use it, or that's what people expect of it, and when I'm disabled, no one would probably ask me why I'm wearing diapers, because I think most people expect it. I have learned to accept it, but that was after a lot of talking with a lot of people around here on DD! because of their help and encouragement and support, I finally accepted my need for diapers in 2020, And even when I was on my journey I found that the feelings and all of the emotions and all of the things that I was dealing with, some one else here had already been dealing with, and it's all just based on somebody else's things they do in their life.

So now here I am, 50 years old, and my life was hell for like three years! I've made changes in my life to allow for my diapers to help me, and I'm not ashamed of it. There's no shame in me using a diaper, there's no shame in me having Around, and there's no need for me to be embarrassed anymore! I decided I decided to take the bull by the horns and decided that you know, I don't have very many things that help me relax or help me to get through tough times, so diapers in a way of help me, because not only did they protect me and help me with my incontinence or the feelings I deal with, but it also protects me from a silly old world that never seems to amaze me, and things and things happen So fast it's ridiculous! it seems like the whole world is out to get itself, nobody wants to get along anymore and people want to start fights and everything else! when you have a diaper on, It may be a signal or a trigger to want to go back to a time when you feel safe loved cared for and all of that. When you have a diaper on as a baby, you are expected to use it, and if you do, then that's just commonplace And people will change your diaper, and help you. That is one of the draws for some people, they love diapers for whatever reason, and they all have triggers that may put them in that type of mindset.

1 hour ago, diapered_jeff48801 said:

But what IS noticeable is making a mad dash to the bathroom constantly, and even more noticeably what happens if you don't make it. I couldn't imagine running back and forth to the bathroom, and constantly being paranoid and needing to know where the toilets are at all times.

It just doesn't sound like an enjoyable life, and that's not to mention the embarrassment of noticeably having an accident.

Thank you for sharing your story, and being so open and honest about your experience. Know that you are supported.

 

the thing is, everything that you stated above is exactly the REASON to use diapers! you don't have to make a mad dash to the bathroom, you don't have to break your neck getting in there at breakneck speed because you have to pee or do a BM. Additionally, you don't have to worry about being paranoid You're not gonna make the bathroom, because you have a diaper around your waist, and that is your bathroom! The point IS that if you use diapers, you won't have to do any of this, and it will allow you to just do as they say in frozen let it go! you don't you don't have to be afraid of it, you don't have to try to force your body to hold it, when it when it can't, and not only that, with a full bladder, you can't sometimes sometimes do the simple things because you are worried about going to the bathroom!

as I have been here for almost four years, I have helped a lot of users, and in the last three months or so, I'm 3 for 3!  my advice to them helped them all deal with whatever it is they're dealing with, and then I help them come to the realization that diapers would help them! Each of these individuals had their own issues that they were dealing with, each of them were trying to figure out how they were going to deal with it, and each of them worrying about whether or not they may make the toilet or not! in another case, I helped a friend out because I told him that he needed to get some help, and he got it, And now and now he is a lot better off!

In order to deal with what you're dealing with, you must go through stages. Each stage helps you to understand the others, And each stage May take a short time or a long time, depending on what's going on. The first thing that you have to do is you have to research the condition if you're not familiar with it, and you have to be able to understand what you're what you're dealing with, before you can move forward, because the next stage is critical, because you can't move on to stage two without dealing with stage one.

First you have to be able to understand what it is you're dealing with. This is a hard stage because people may not understand why they have the issue, or why they like diapers, or why they feel good, or whatever it is. if you can understand in your head why you feel the way you feel, Then you might be able to move on to stage 2, but it takes a long time sometimes for people to be able to do that.

The second stage is acceptance:  in order to be able to accept what you're dealing with and your condition as it is, you have to understand what it is that you're dealing with. Sometimes people don't understand and that is perfectly fine, because that's why they're in a journey here to learn from others above! @Little Belle and all of the others before and after her, have decided that they are going to be able to deal with their incontinence through the use of diapers. In her case, diapers help her, they are sensory objects, and they help her deal with that problem. no longer would she have to be embarrassed, because the diaper is there, and she just decided that it's time to let go, and while you have to worry about your incontinence because you have to make sure that you have the right supplies common you keep yourself clean, and other things, life is more important as a whole, because you are trying to do things that you normally would do, but your incontinence makes it harder. diapers help you to take care of that problem, because you can still do those things, you just have to be able to change yourself at a time when you can, or when you need to because you discover a leak.

If you were able to understand what's going on, and you're able to accept the situation that you're dealing with. the third stage Is basically a time to decide if and when you are going to add other aspects of the ABDL lifestyle to either being incontinent or a DL. Some people don't use baby equipment to the level that others do, some people are adult babies, some are diaper lovers, and they integrate parts of the lifestyle that they want to use into their lifestyle, and they may live that life using diapers as a way to help them cope with the screwed up world, or cope with their incontinence. they've decided to move on and not let the incontinence be a stumbling block, but something that they can with using diapers, And guess what? the incontinence will still be there, and your feelings in your experience and all of that will still be there, but when you look at the total picture, understanding acceptance and empathy for individuals that wear diapers helps you understand what you go through, so you can help the next poor guy that walks in here and needs help.

Finally:  life is what you make of it!  you can let the incontinence control you, or you can control the incontinence! I choose to control the incontinence, but there's nothing there's nothing wrong with me, so I shouldn't have to go to a doctor and get it fixed because there's nothing to fix. It's just a fact of life that as you age and get older, that you run into that. with my disability and my mobility issues, wearing diapers as a godsend for me and is very helpful. I always think that life only happens once, and you can't let the little things stop you. in my mind, the incontinence is minimal compared to what I've had to deal with the last four to five years, And I've had some hellish things happen to me. the diaper is there to protect me and help me. it is a soft friend, and it will help you in the long run, because now you won't have to do all of this running, and you won't have to be a marathon sprinter when you need to go to the bathroom.

Good Luck!  Feel free to private message me if you wish, and feel free to follow me also if you wish! I welcome you to daily diapers, And I hope that you find the information here to be helpful to you. If you need further assistance, please don't hesitate to ask, because we have a lot of people that can help you as you try to deal with this, and they all are like family, and they will help you, and they won't judge you for what is happening!

Brian

Edited February 4, 2023 by ~Brian~
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[Little Belle]

4 hours ago, Stuffie Snake said:

I realize I will need to talk to my doctors and inform them if I do stick with this new method of attempting radical acceptance but I am not entirely looking forward to the conversation (my next appointment is in two months). 

I wouldn't worry about this; if you're still wearing 24/7 in 2 months' time, you'll be more adamant by then that this is the choice you want to make so you'll feel stronger about pushing back on their suggestions. I just said that nappies were the right choice for me and I wouldn't be swayed. 

She didn't even suggest we had a follow up appointment last time i was there - she just said to call the clinic if anything changes or I decide that I do want to get some prescription pull ups. 

Also, do you really need to tell the medics? I told them as I wanted to have my incontinence on my medical record (in case I'm hospitalised and am unable to tell them about it myself) but I'm not under any obligation to tell them I'm wearing nappies as it's a personal matter. Maybe that is different if you live outside the UK and have to let medical insurers know.....

Anyway, enjoy your nappies and know that we're all here for you ? 

 

[spark]

I haven't let my doctors know.  it's a comfort mechanism for me, but I'm afraid I'll open up a can of worms if he knows that I wear a diaper.   I don't wear when I know that I'll be naked.   However, I will have eye surgery in two a little over a week and will be wearing a diaper during the surgery.

[Hannah YMS]

On 2/6/2023 at 8:44 PM, spark said:

I haven't let my doctors know.  it's a comfort mechanism for me, but I'm afraid I'll open up a can of worms if he knows that I wear a diaper.   I don't wear when I know that I'll be naked.   However, I will have eye surgery in two a little over a week and will be wearing a diaper during the surgery.

You're at least 51 years old. Honestly, what does it matter anyway? I've worn diapers to many doctor's appointments and all of it has been explainable and justifiable, with no push-back from the doc. Embrace your diaper usage wherever you are. Glad you'll be wearing during surgery though. They won't really bat an eye.

[spark]

On 2/8/2023 at 2:28 AM, jonbearab said:

You're at least 51 years old. Honestly, what does it matter anyway? I've worn diapers to many doctor's appointments and all of it has been explainable and justifiable, with no push-back from the doc. Embrace your diaper usage wherever you are. Glad you'll be wearing during surgery though. They won't really bat an eye.

This is my third eye surgery in 4 years, and I've worn diapers every time.   I don't know how I would do it without diapers.   I just don't talk about with them.   We all have our blocks, and that one is mine.  I wear so often that I'm bound to be noticed, but until then- it stays in the vault.

[Hannah YMS]

4 hours ago, spark said:

This is my third eye surgery in 4 years, and I've worn diapers every time.   I don't know how I would do it without diapers.   I just don't talk about with them.   We all have our blocks, and that one is mine.  I wear so often that I'm bound to be noticed, but until then- it stays in the vault.

Oof, eye surgery can't be fun. Sorry you're having to go through it multiple times.

So basically wear whenever and wherever and deal with the discovery as it happens?