You Really Can Wear 24/7.

[fairfaxdl]

NOTE: This is fairly long. Lots of the deeper thoughts are towards the end.

I’ve notice a number of people expressing the opinion that they can’t wear 24/7 for a number of reasons. I would just like to say that it is possible.

I’ll say up front that peeing in a diaper is a lot easier than messing in them. Being truly and fully 24/7 is a major lifestyle choice. Some people can just jump right in and go for it but that may be too much for most. Even if that is where you want to be, I would suggest wearing 24/7 on a gradient approach. Start just wearing, then wetting and finally when you are ready, go for it all. I, myself just wet my diaper. I don’t have any desire to take it all the way. Wetting is just fine for me.

It’s a bit hard to just jump right in wearing 24/7. There are four issues with wearing 24/7.

1. Cost

2. Learning curve and lifestyle changes

3. How or what you may or may not tell others close to you.

4. Desire

COST

While you are learning and not using very much, cheap diapers are ok. They would be your store brands. They don’t work very well for full time use but for ‘testing’ and learning they are ok and are easily available. Once you start really wearing and using, you will have to use high quality disposables or cloth diapers. This is where there is a significant cost issue. You can’t buy good disposables at the drug store. You need to buy them online by the case. For my size, it comes out to about $1.46 per diaper (Abena Abri-Form X-Plus XL) plus shipping. Cloth is more expensive up front but is drastically cheaper in the long run. Cloth diapers cost me about $230 per “set”. I am a large guy so for most it will be cheaper. A set is for about a day or laundry to laundry. I would suggest you get at least 2 sets up front. As you can see that would be about $460 to start. The payback for one set is about 40 days compared to disposables. I choose to wear Velcro tabbed diapers. If you use regular pin-on diapers, you will save money. But they are more difficult to wear and to adjust to some body shapes. Velcro tabbed diapers are very easy to change and they stay put when wet.

You MUST have at least one set of nighttime diaper and plastic pants. No disposable diaper will be able to last the night without leaking. The cost of a nighttime diaper and plastic pants is about $60. But with just one set, you will need to wash them every day.

LEARNING CURVE AND LIFESTYLE

Wearing diapers takes getting used to. You need to learn how to wear them properly. You need to know how to changer yourself. You need to know when you need a change. You need to learn how to estimate when you may need to change. And so on. These are significant. You will have to carry around “the diaper bag.” How will you handle the inevitable leaks and so on? What will your social life be like? These are all things to consider. Cost of diapers is also a lifestyle issue. If you use cloth, you must make time for laundry on a very regular basis. You also have to figure this cost.

HOW TO TELL OTHERS

This is one of the hardest parts. First off, you need to realize that just as someone who is incontinent need to wear a diaper because of a body problem, you too need to wear a diaper. The reason may not be physical but the need is there just the same. Exactly why you need to wear diapers isn’t important. The fact that you need to wear is. If it comes up, you just have to tell people that you need to wear diapers. Don’t take it any further.

If your mom finds your ‘stash of diapers’ the way you handle it is not to make an excuse but to let your parent know that you are an adult and that some things are personal. Not private but personal. If they press it, just say, that sometimes or always need to wear diapers. You don’t have to explain how it’s a physical thing or not. Just say that this is what you have to do.

When dealing with friends, roommates or associates, they don’t really need to know but if they do, treat it as a very personal matter and let them know that its something you need. Be adult about it. They will fill in the blanks themselves.

DESIRE

The biggest hurdle to wearing 24/7 is yourself. It takes a real commitment. It will alter your life. But if it is something you want to do, then JUST DO IT. Your desire to wear is real. It has probably been on your mind a very long time. Once you go with it and stop trying to hide from yourself, the happier and better you will feel.

You can wear at work and in the rest of your life easily. Its easy to wear a diaper without attracting attention. None of my neighbors know I wear. I belong to a number of associations and community groups. I deliver speeches and talk to the public nearly every day and no one knows I am wearing and using a diaper. If they did, they would assume I had to. And they would be right. I don’t have a medical issue but I certainly need to wear just the same. I am much happier now that I’m wearing 24/7.

I look back at when I started wearing 24/7. I lied and said that an injury caused it. That is something I regret. I should have just started wearing and said that I needed to. I should have said that I “felt a strong urge and need” and that I was afraid of wetting myself if I didn’t. That WAS the way I felt. And it would have been acceptable by my wife. And as it was, I DID end up wetting myself. While I did it intentionally, it was because of the desire that I had to. In other words, it was going to happen sooner or latter or I would have stayed depressed and not feeling as though I was living as I should. The thing is, while I don’t physically have to wear, I need to just the same. The need it very, very real. I’m quite happy now that I’m living the way I know I should.

In this way, I think it is ok if you have to wet yourself or wet the bed in order to make it easier to live the way you need to. Just don’t let it get out of hand. Take precautions to protect the furniture as needed. If you have a desire to wet the bed, go out and buy some plastic sheets. If someone asks why, say that you have had some close calls and that you are just being safe. You might want to confide in someone that you feel you are worried you may wet the bed or wet yourself. Don’t imply a physical condition you don’t have. But just the same, there may come a time when the need to wet yourself is just as great. You can block that need and live depressed and miserable or you can let it happen and then move on to a new and freer life that is right for YOU.

If you are living with your parents and they send you to a doctor, explain the situation. Sure, he will think you are nuts and may try to refer you to a shrink but you don’t have to go. PLUS, the doctor should NOT tell your parents anything. (I’m assuming you are over 18.) I also suggest that you pay for any doctor visits. Do not charge it to your insurance or allow your parents to pay. The same goes for all your supplies. It is up to you to provide for yourself.

The main thing I have come to realize, and the thing that made my wife (and mother in-law) ok with things is that I need to do this just as if I was physically disabled. I have to wet myself to be happy in life. It is strange but it is the way I am. I don’t know why but I’m glad I was able to figure it out.

Don’t look at wearing diapers as something you need to hide. If it makes you happy, do it and live your life. The best way to wear 24/7 is to live it like you have to, which you do.

In a way we are much better off than incontinent folks. Not because we don’t have a physical problem, but because we fell better because we wear. It is only a choice, in the sense that if we fight it, we suffer.

Its hard to explain the urge and need to wet myself. But the urge is from deep within me. It is part of me. I feel much more alive now than I ever did.

When something this right and natural, how can it be a problem? Even my wife likes me better now. Others have noticed the improvement.

I keep thinking back to the woman who also teaches the 3rd grade students. I feel for her. If this is something that makes her happy, she shouldn’t be afraid to live as she chooses. Even if someone found out, I can’t imagine anyone making a problem out of it in today’s litigious society.

I have never been this happy in my life. Who would have thought it is was because I decided to finally acknowledge the drive to simply wet myself?

I only wish I did this 20 years ago.

[nappyloon]

Well that is very interesting with you being very honest with yourself and others, not an easy thing to do for most people.

You have also shaken off the dreaded that we all go through.

Keep us posted and good luck.

[bernie]

I also have tried 24/7 several time the last years, but my longest period 24/7 into them was 8 weeks.

It is weird, i wear them some days fulltime, then i started to hate them and give up the fulltime wearing. After some days i miss them, wear them on and off and after some weeks i started the next fulltime attempt..... I think i am in a infinite loop in this case.

I have read all your blogs. At the beginning it was also very painful for you to use them fulltime. Congratulation, that now it is no problem for you to wear them 24/7. It seems, that the first weeks are the most difficults and in this weeks most people give it up to wear them all the time. Unfortunarely i am one of these people.

I also want wear them 24/7 to unpotty train me. I think for people who are in the 20's of their age it is to early. I have started to wear them on and of for fun at the age of 14. And i am happy, that they havn't affected my lifestyle in my age of 20's and 30's. Now it is ok for me to become unpotty trained.

I have started my next attempt in wearing them 24/7 now. Unlike you, i want be unpotty trained in both. To poop into a diaper is a much more intensive feeling then just to pee. Diapers are made for both.

I know, it is a long way to reach this goal. But now, i just try to pee into them. If i have no problem into wearing them fulltime like you, i will start the unpotty training in poop. But my first aim is, that fulltime wearing becomes normal to me.

[fairfaxdl]

I know, it is a long way to reach this goal. But now, i just try to pee into them. If i have no problem into wearing them fulltime like you, i will start the unpotty training in poop. But my first aim is, that fulltime wearing becomes normal to me.

I really enjoy it overall.

I think it is a good idea to start simple. Just pee in them or even just wear them for a while before you start using them. Or use them when you are at home or in private. It does take a while to learn all the tricks.

The first 8 weeks were the hardest. There were many times I thought about stopping but I just pushed through them. I'm glad I did.

Things are starting to get really interesting. I've had a couple of nights were I wet without waking up and there are times when during the day when I go with no control.

My mother-in-law had a great idea. When I do become un-potty trained again, I should see a urologist and get an offical diagnosis that I'm physically incon.

I really can't imagine going back.

[fairfaxdl]

I have considered this as well, but one thing I see as not really a "requirement' is the night diaper set, specially if you are already using cloth. I have been bouncing back and forth on what to buy, and finally i figured on a set of regular day time weight cloth prefolds and plastic pants. For night time you can double up on these and they would work fine, yet be easier to wash and dry due to them being not as bulky as a night time weight diaper.

I figure that they don't make day and night weight for kids usually, so most parents just double diaper anyways, so its more accurate in that regard,and a bit cheaper down the road, and for those who enjoy bulk would like it anyways.

Thats just my 2 cents,

Your findings my vary, but one thing for sure, there is nothing like cloth for absorbency!

qwack

I've tried this and it doesn't work well for me. I use Velcro tabbed diapers that fit very well. The only way I can double up is when I use 2 different sized diapers. And when I do that, there is too much bulk around my waist and sides. It makes sleeping uncomfortable. A heavy nighttime diaper has the extra thickness in the middle. This means less cloth around my waist.

The diaper I use fit very snugly but when I tried to double diaper, its hard for them to stay on when soaked.

I do agree that you don’t always need a heavy night diaper. Lots of times I’ll wear just a regular heavy diaper instead of the nighttime heavy. It works ok until about 7am whereas the nighttime heavy can easily be worn until about 9am. This is good on weekends where I can sleep in an make breakfast before showering and changing.

The nighttime heavy works great as is. No soakers needed.

The only downside to cloth is that you always feel wet. But thats not always a bad thing.

[pax87]

I don't think I could do 24/7. Personally, I go through periods of wanting them for a while and then being sick of them. I guess thats 'cuz I am a bed wetter and it gets annoying sometimes. If I was being diapered and not doing it myself I prolly would not get tired of them. I get frustrated 'cuz I can never get the darn thing on right. I once got so upset I took duck tape to the tabs.

[4mywetself11]

I don't think I could do 24/7. Personally, I go through periods of wanting them for a while and then being sick of them. I guess thats 'cuz I am a bed wetter and it gets annoying sometimes. If I was being diapered and not doing it myself I prolly would not get tired of them. I get frustrated 'cuz I can never get the darn thing on right. I once got so upset I took duck tape to the tabs.

[4mywetself11]

I wear 24/7 and use store brand disposables. I wear terrycloth lined rubber pants that fit well. These stop the leaks at work and also keep my bed dry. I use real baby diapers as soakers at night. As I wake up once during the night, I do a quick diaper changes.

When I am sleeping I wet automatically, and if I get drowsey at work, but I know that I am wetting the rest of the time. I feel the urge, there is second of hesitation, and then release that I can't stop. I only mess in my diapers at home though, and only when I know I can hide it from my wife. At work I go whenever I do a diaper change.

Changing myself at work is a nerve wracking process because no one knows of my diapering.

The wife doesn't even know how many hours I spend in diapers. Since she surprised me in the middle of the night and rolled over to have sex and felt my rubber pants and rached inside them to not only discover that I was wearing a diaper but that I was also wet, I have had to be careful.

She kind of freaked. On certain nights I have to go to bed unprotected until she falls asleep. I have fallen a sleep a couple of before her and have severly wet the bed.

I feel the expense and hassel are worth it though. I feel more at peace with myself. I just wish I could share it with my wife.

I don't think I could do 24/7. Personally, I go through periods of wanting them for a while and then being sick of them. I guess thats 'cuz I am a bed wetter and it gets annoying sometimes. If I was being diapered and not doing it myself I prolly would not get tired of them. I get frustrated 'cuz I can never get the darn thing on right. I once got so upset I took duck tape to the tabs.

[pax87]

4mywetself11 - It sounds like you are having a medical problem. Does ur wife know that you are a bedwetter? I dont think she would have much of a problem with you diapered for bed, leaves less stress to changes the linens in the middle of the night.

[4mywetself11]

4mywetself11 - It sounds like you are having a medical problem. Does ur wife know that you are a bedwetter? I dont think she would have much of a problem with you diapered for bed, leaves less stress to changes the linens in the middle of the night.

It is a self induced issue. If you want it bad enough, you can use those cheezie hypnosis tapes to "un potty train". I went to the doctor's who found no medical issue and almost landed myself at the shrinks office. I have no tramatic issues in my past and could retrain my self as I have before. Sooner or later my love for her will win out and I will quit wearing again. It is a stress reliever for me as an adult to wear diapers but I have "more normal" ways. I will just enjoy it until I have to choose. Nuts, hunh?

[pax87]

naw...its not nuts.

[Guest Diaperdragon]

I don't think I could go 24/7 either, but someday I may try going diapered 24/7. I know I tried going 24/7, but It only lasted a week and that was it. I know going 24/7 on wearing disposable diapers, would mean having a closet full of diapers and a constant supply of diapers. I will try going 24/7 when I get more money and be able to to have a huge stockpile of diapers.

[4mywetself11]

I wear at work all the time. The biggest PIA for me is the need to be changed. I don't wear anything over them, including underwear.

I tend to avoid the smell by drinking lots of water (it dilutes and thus reduces smell). And I have peed over the top of the diaper when I knew changes wouldn

[diapermommie]

Quite an intriguing topic. Not something I could do, for me it would lose alot of it's appeal if it turned into something I *had* to do because I no longer had control.

I did have to chuckle and the comment about double diapering babies. I have 2 kids, one is 10 and one is 5, I know alot of parents. I never heard one word about double diapering until I started reading abdl forums. When they are little babies, you change them every time they feed, or 10-12 times a day. When they are a little older and don't wake up at night, on occasion they may wet through their pajamas, but generally by this point you don't give them anything to drink, or very little to drink, after dinner so you don't have that problem.

I don't think double diapering would work on babies very well at all. It just made me giggle to think about it

[redneck diaper boy]

Well I have been forced to wear diapers 24/7. It was not fun.

In the late 90s, I had medical issues. I was fecal incontinent and loosing blood at the same time.

I was frightened and confused. My first wife left me with 3 children and I was extremely sick.

Fortunately, I found a good doctor. I saw a specialist and was quickly hospitalized. I thank God for the surgeon's knife!

[Nat]

I have been wearing 24/7 for a year now. I used to wear pull ups to work because I couldn't hide my diapers under my pants and I stopped wearing for a while back in Spring because I didn't have a job and I needed money to survive so I sacrificed (sp)the diapers. Then I started up again and I wear real diapers, not pull ups. I even wear to work too and no one knows I wear. My pants are loose so I can get away with wearing them there and my shirt is long too so it covers the top of my pants. I change at work too, even with employees in the restroom. I don't change when the locker room is busy though with employees getting changed getting ready to go home.

I also buy diapers in thrift stores. I drove around looking in them seeing if they have diapers and I buy them if I see any in my size. Also some are given to me by other DL and AB's or they sell them to me for cheap for the same price they bought at the thrift shop. There's a chance I can keep wearing 24/7 when I get my own apartment. I am going to live with my boyfriend, AB's and DL's here at the AB/DL gatherings bring diapers there and they sell them for cheap and I buy them from them if they are in my size. I can also look in thrift stores too for diapers.

I am not worried about people finding out. My rule is I wear 24/7 so I must wear them everywhere and if they find out, they find out and tell them I'm incontinent.

Only time I don't wear them is when I am swimming so I have them off when I go or when I have a doctor's appointment.

[4mywetself11]

I have been wearing 24/7 for a year now. I used to wear pull ups to work because I couldn't hide my diapers under my pants and I stopped wearing for a while back in Spring because I didn't have a job and I needed money to survive so I sacrificed (sp)the diapers. Then I started up again and I wear real diapers, not pull ups. I even wear to work too and no one knows I wear. My pants are loose so I can get away with wearing them there and my shirt is long too so it covers the top of my pants. I change at work too, even with employees in the restroom. I don't change when the locker room is busy though with employees getting changed getting ready to go home.

I also buy diapers in thrift stores. I drove around looking in them seeing if they have diapers and I buy them if I see any in my size. Also some are given to me by other DL and AB's or they sell them to me for cheap for the same price they bought at the thrift shop. There's a chance I can keep wearing 24/7 when I get my own apartment. I am going to live with my boyfriend, AB's and DL's here at the AB/DL gatherings bring diapers there and they sell them for cheap and I buy them from them if they are in my size. I can also look in thrift stores too for diapers.

I am not worried about people finding out. My rule is I wear 24/7 so I must wear them everywhere and if they find out, they find out and tell them I'm incontinent.

Only time I don't wear them is when I am swimming so I have them off when I go or when I have a doctor's appointment.

Funny you should mention that.

[pottypants]

When I started wearing 24/7, the pooping part was no problem for me. I'd already been loading my pants since I was 9 years old, and the first 5 or so years were without diapers. I did occasionally pee in my pants during those years, but, being a boy, it was easier to see if I wet my pants than when I pooped in them. I usually got caught, eventually when I did either, but wetting was easier to see from a distance.

[bernie]

I have stoped the 24/7 wearing now. I have started to dislike them. It was too hard for me to wear them all the time every where. I hope one day i am in the mode, that i can wear them every time every where. . But not yet.