After so many decades of trying I finally gave up on potty training.

[Enthusi]

Consider these facts:

1. Potty training was first coerced upon me (us) by society at an early age. 
2. I quickly realized that even if I didn’t enjoy being potty trained I had no real choice. 
3.  For the first few decades I appeared to have typical bladder control and hence was told I was potty trained even though it caused me much anguish to maintain that sort of control. 
4. I eventually found my way back to diapers. 
5. Once I started in diapers full time I realized it wasn’t worth the effort to be potty trained any more.  After a while it became increasingly difficult to stay potty trained  So…

I gave up on potty training!!  Ta Da!.  ?

When you are working a job you hate, even if you’re decent at it, it just means that that job isn’t the best fit for you.  Wouldn’t you quit that job if you could find an all around better alternative?  Same thing with potty training! No matter how good your bladder (or bowel) control is right now, if you feel distressed about it, then try to reframe it as your body’s way of telling you that potty training just isn’t working out for you.  Maybe it’s time to give up on trying?
 

[Little Cub Pants]

16 minutes ago, Enthusi said:

Consider these facts:

1. Potty training was first coerced upon me by society at an early age. 
2. I quickly realized that even if I didn’t enjoy being potty trained I had no real choice. 
3.  For the first few decades I appeared to have typical bladder control and hence was told I was potty trained even though it caused me much anguish to maintain that sort of control. 
4. I eventually found my way back to diapers. 
5. Once I started in diapers full time I realized it wasn’t worth the effort to be potty trained any more.  After a while it became increasingly difficult to stay potty trained  

So I gave up on potty training.  Ta Da!.  ? 
 

Good for you buddy! Show that potty monster who's boss!???☺️???❤️??❤️

[Kif]

This is a fun way to put it!

[Little Sherri]

Yup, I like your perspective. You could say that I "quit underwear", because it was a job I was good at, but not enjoying anymore!

[~Brian~]

@Enthusi @BabySpiderBoy @Kif

All facts considered, I agree with @Enthusipotty training is the transition from diapers to underwear. It is something that parents look forward to for all of their children as they grow up. Some people however cannot potty trained, and therefore do not. My brother Richard was one of them. He was nonverbal and severely disabled, saw that he was in diapers all of his wife. My mom took care of him just like he would take care of a baby. There are others that may be in this position, because they may not be able to potty train, or they may not be able to tell your mom or dad that they have to go to the bathroom, so they end up in diapers, and they stay in diapers.

I believe I was trained young myself, but I didn’t realize how young I was when I was trained. I think most parents want their kids out of diapers by at least stage two or three. I believe I was out of diapers by almost 2 years old. When you were that young, there may be time when you may wish that you were in diapers still.  When you are potty trained, you have no choice, because it is your parents who make the decision that they want you to be. However, if you think about it, is the child who really is the one who has to be ready in order to train the right way. By that, I mean that the child has to be physically emotionally and psychologically ready to be able to deal with the training. Some children train early wake me, while some children have trained as late as 3, 4 or maybe 5 years old.  I still believe that some parents force the issue and kids are having more and more trouble training because of the fact that they are being forced to do it. Nowadays, children are not really forced to train, and most parents that I know of will let the child make the decision. They do that by making it uncomfortable for them to be able to wear diapers, but I have seen parents that just let it happen, and they don’t worry about it. I agree, most children  Will train when they are ready, and there is no point in scaring the heck out of them while they are trying to train. When they want to train, and they get sick of being wet or messy, they will eventually train. The most effective way to do that is to allow them to do it on their own, and support them as much as they need to so that they eventually will train. Forcing them to do it is only something that is really uncomfortable for the children, and they will not train effectively if they are scared or know that they will be punished should they have any accidents or back steps.

The assessment that if you don’t like something you try to take care of it is accurate. If you are trying so hard at a job that you don’t like, that puts stress on you in more ways than one. I can tell you from experience in 2019 before I started wearing diapers full-time, that the number of times that I had an accident was increasing three or four fault, and I was not willing to put myself in a position where I was constantly running to the bathroom, or when I would go to use the bathroom, hang onto my safety rails and smacked my knee against the toilet bowl which would knock it out, so that I would not be able to stand appropriately in order to use the toilet. Then I started to sit down when this happened: and then unfortunately I had messy accidents in my bed: when that started to happen I said “I give up this is stupid I know exactly what I need to do, I’m going for diapers and that’s that“ I then ended up signing up here on DD and the rest is history.

The idea here is there anyone who is having trouble like this should not worry. Diapers are my way of dealing with things, and I would not change that. I don’t care how long I would wear diapers, but at least now I have what I need, and an understanding team of individuals and friends that know why I have done what I have done. I believe I have made the decision that is In my best interest. As I said, I care not what everybody else thinks says our beliefs, this is my decision and I will stand by it. Why should I have to worry, and have a sleepless night after a sleepless night because of this problem. In short I am glad this happened, because now diapers help me psychologically physically emotionally, and if I have to use them I use them, and when I want to have fun, I have my fun.

 

Being disabled as I am, I thought that eventually I may have to use diapers. Going to diapers was my decision, after 48 years of control, I decided that I was not going to allow my body to fail on me, or cause me To worry and fret over it. Diapers were my way of solving the problem. When I first started using diapers, I heard that the Medicaid division wanted me to go to a specialist, to see if my incontinence could be “cured“. I told the doctor straight up, you are my “medical specialist“ and you and I should be able to make it so that there is no issue with me wanting Why are using diapers for my own purposes: I still don’t understand why a specialist would be necessary, if I know what the problem is, and I know how I want to take care of it. We all know that the state does not want to spend a lot of money to help those that need it. In order for me to get what I need, I had to go through the hoops and the politics to get my diapers, but once I got them I was fine. I am not ashamed or worried about my diapers anymore. I have accepted That I need them, like them, and use them: and that they are just “special underwear that I pee and poop in.

I don’t see a problem with me wearing diapers, because I am the one who is using them, and changing them. Even if I wasn’t, the idea that I would have to worry about whether I am going to go number one or number two It’s something that I am happy with using diapers to deal with, because I don’t want to deal with any stress about this. This is the least of my worries at this point, and if I have to wear diapers for the rest of my life, it is a trade off because then I will not have to worry that I will just go at any time or place. Wearing diapers is the least of my worries, and let’s be honest: I like my diapers, and I’m finally glad that I was able to get and use them: no one should be chastised or made fun of  because they decide they need to use diapers or they want to use diapers. I have talked to several of my friends, and they don’t seem to mind, and they understand my decision as well as my need, and they tell me that it’s no big deal. Maybe someday, I’ll have a nice lady that decides that they love me for who I am or what I am, but right now I am a single guy: I think my mom thinks that I will be single for the rest of my life, but who knows I am still hopeful, but my time for that may not be too long, but I had And uncle that married at 65: we shall see maybe I will find the right woman will understand this, and be able to help me, loving me for who and what I am, and maybe we will have some fun.

 I’ve even talk to my case manager about this: telling her that I don’t want to worry about “garbage “anymore because I have enough on my mind. Having these accidents was also something that really screwed me up inside, but I knew that diapers were what I would need to deal with this situation, and this is my door in to the lifestyle. I don’t see any reason to try to correct this if there is a problem unless there is a medical issue that I need to deal with, such as diarrhea or some other problem that would make using appropriate medicines necessary. Other than that, diapers are my go to. This is the most effective way to deal with something that I thought that I would probably have to deal with anyway, being disabled. Also diapers are comfortable, and help me to deal with other stressors that are in my life and if you have to use the bathroom, you are wearing it, so you don’t have to worry that you will release and get rid of whatever you’re holding. It’s just like being a baby or a toddler. You know that you were going to go eventually, and you know that you have a diaper on, so you will release when you are ready, and you know that you won’t have to worry about it. I don’t see a reason to worry, and diapers as I said help me in other ways. Sometimes I add the “fun into it“ by adding a pacifier, but for now that’s as far as I go.

So I guess it’s OK to “give it Up” and that is why I feel like I am doing. However, from time to time I may still use the bathroom and use the toilet, but for the most part are use my diapers. Today for example, I put on my tie-dye diaper from NORTHSHORE, and I love it. I have seen different pictures of other users who actually put on this type of diaper and I like the diaper. I like it so much that I might end up ordering All tie-dyes one order, And then order some pinks. But I’m going to use up what I have most of before I do that. I’m still running on 2019 or 2020 diapers that are so hard in the middle that I feel like I’m wearing a piece of cardboard, but I do have the pads that I can stick in a diaper to make it a lot softer and that is why I have so many of the pads.

So I guess I can say for the most part I give in” because I don’t want to have any more problems with just my body deciding “time to release,” and then I don’t have any control. I’d rather wear diapers, it’s a lot easier, and as I said it helps me with other problems.

so I guess I can say for the most part “I give in“ because I don’t want to have any more problems with just my body deciding “time to release,“ and then I don’t have any control. I’d rather wear diapers, it’s a lot easier, and as I said it helps me with other emotional and psychological issues, I guess: I guess I can say I love my diapers what can I say?
 

Happily diapered and enjoying it!

Brian

 

 

 

[DLJeff52]

Love this perspective!! Sometimes you need to look at the mountain from the other side to find the easier way to the top! Bravo!