*3 Year Update - My 24/7 Journey*

[DaddyCool]

Thanks for the update @Beccathelittle it's always interesting reading. You mention that changing out in public is becoming a nuisance, has this made you regret your decision or think about potty training again?

[Beccathelittle]

7 hours ago, superabsorbantpolymer said:

 Do you think they've noticed any signs? Maybe it would be easier if subtly let them know, e.g. by leaving your diaper bag open or something, then explaining.

I'm not sure on this one, there have been close calls a few times in the last 2 1/2 years, and while I've done my best to try and remain private, it could be possible somebody in my social circles knows. If they do, they have not said anything. 

It's definitely something I originally was like, eventually when I'm xyz, I might tell people.. Now that I'm getting closer or have achieved xyz I keep extending the goal line.  I just wish diapers were not socially stigmatized so much, it's just a fear that people would take it the wrong way, or feel i'm crazy for not wanting to rush into surgery to correct the issue sort of thing.

3 hours ago, DaddyCool said:

Thanks for the update @Beccathelittle it's always interesting reading. You mention that changing out in public is becoming a nuisance, has this made you regret your decision or think about potty training again?

It definitely is a nuisance at times, especially with others who do not know your secrets. Or when you're stuck in the office and needing to change etc. 

Do I regret my decisions or have I thought about re-potty training? No. 

I still love who I am, and I'm happy I've been able to come this far  Diapers are something I enjoy, I don't see that ever changing. If I had the opportunity to go back to pre 24/7 Becca days, I still would not change anything aside from starting sooner if I could.  

I'd rather document everything though, and my feelings on different subjects for readers who may consider this lifestyle for themselves. There are definitely pros & cons with everything.  

[igel]

18 hours ago, Beccathelittle said:

I find myself needing to mess while I'm still nomming on lunch.

Is it like you feel full, and thinking why did a take that much on the plate. Then feeling things are moving. When your bowel is finished, you just feel, yes, still hungry.

 

Do you think it will be the norm for you to soil your diapers during the meals in the future, if you let a few months or years pass. Is that what your body wants? 

[DaddyCool]

41 minutes ago, Beccathelittle said:

It definitely is a nuisance at times, especially with others who do not know your secrets. Or when you're stuck in the office and needing to change etc. 

Do I regret my decisions or have I thought about re-potty training? No. 

I still love who I am, and I'm happy I've been able to come this far  Diapers are something I enjoy, I don't see that ever changing. If I had the opportunity to go back to pre 24/7 Becca days, I still would not change anything aside from starting sooner if I could.  

I'd rather document everything though, and my feelings on different subjects for readers who may consider this lifestyle for themselves. There are definitely pros & cons with everything.  

It's great that you are very comfortable with your decision even when there are times it is a nuisance.

We've found the same when my wife wears around others, it's not always easy to excuse yourself and change. Whilst she does not wear diapers 24/7 this past year it has been pull ups through the day and diapers at night but there are still times when even the pull up is not quite as discrete as we'd like.

I admire your courage and determination to get to your goal, it certainly appears you have reached it or are not far off.

[gettingthere]

On 2/21/2024 at 1:00 AM, Beccathelittle said:

I still love who I am, and I'm happy I've been able to come this far  Diapers are something I enjoy, I don't see that ever changing. If I had the opportunity to go back to pre 24/7 Becca days, I still would not change anything aside from starting sooner if I could.  

Hey! I’m new here, well kinda… have been lurking in the shadows for years 😆. 
Becca, reading your story has really been inspiring for me. I’m another female, who is in her early thirties.

For probably the better of 10 years I’ve toyed with the idea of going 24/7, but kept getting stuck when it came to leaving my house, coupled with the usual shame etc that everyone has had. Despite all of my breaks, the binge purge cycles, I still can’t shake wanting to transition to 24/7. I wore all through Covid, and I actually wear at home 90% of the time now, but get stage fright leaving my house. But I can feel it in my bones that I’m ready to make the change. 

Reading your thread here has helped me decide that I’m going to try and go the 24/7 route and just stick with it. I have a large collection of stuff anyway so I’m more than prepared and now I feel just a little less alone.

 

thank you so much for sharing!!! 

[superabsorbantpolymer]

Welcome, @gettingthere, I too am a many year lurker turned member. If anyone else is reading this, sign up! It's so great being able to contribute to the discussions. 

Regarding fear of leaving the house, I'm actually pretty jealous that girls get to wear dresses and skirts as they conceal diapers so well (nowadays obviously society is more open to men in dresses but I'm tall AF bearded and cis so itsgenerally not my vibe). 

Having female anatomy it should in theory be easier to disrupt your pelvic floor and continence, and wearing a pull up is far less taboo for women than men I feel. I say throw away your fear, diaper up and be confident 😊

[gettingthere]

Thanks @superabsorbantpolymer for the kind words! Yup I don’t know why I waited so long, but I’m glad that I was inspired by@Beccathelittle - no more hiding! 

[Beccathelittle]

Thank you for your kind comments, you're definitely not alone.

I never expected to inspire anyone, but just document my padded journey for anyone who was curious. It's humbling that I can help in some way.  

 

 

[oznl]

On 2/20/2024 at 5:33 AM, Beccathelittle said:

Hey DD! 

Hope everyone is having a wonderful start to the week! Today would be my 2nd year, 5th month, and 5th day of 24/7 diaper dependency! Close to halfway to my third year of the rest of my life padded! 

 

So congratulations on reaching your milestone!  You seem to be building yet another example of the case for the affirmative to the proposition that those who find themselves predisposed to stick at the "24/7" diaper lifestyle, never seem to want to leave it and that their only regret is that they didn't take the plunge sooner!

[PuraVidaDip]

On 2/19/2024 at 2:33 PM, Beccathelittle said:

Having to change in public with friends is getting to be a nuisance, and while I still have not told them, It's getting harder to change / bring supplies in some situations. Honestly while I've done my best to keep it private, I do see the benefit in maybe telling my closest friends soon, though obviously not "hey i'm abdl xyz".. I just don't really know how to tell them without lying / having them become incredibly concerned. And I kinda enjoy keeping it a secret without being branded forever. 😶

I feel the same way. I do but do t want to tell others. I feel like my friends know but I’m still too embarrassed to bring it up. The hiding it is getting tougher for me 2+ years in as well. 

[Beccathelittle]

Hey DD!!

I hope everyone is having a super wonderful week, time keeps flying by and i'm excited for a relaxing weekend. Today would be my 2nd year 7th month, and 10th day or 953 days of being padded. Ever so closer to my third year!  

As the time continues ever forward, I find myself writing this after changing out of a very soaked dip having just come home from a fun day at the office for a few in person vendor meetings. This morning though was a bit less fun, having to change from a messy dip at work as quick as possible before the meetings started. 

While i'm thankful to be a 99% remote employee, it does not spare me from various onsite meetings or projects at offices / data centers but I'd rate myself a professional ninja diaper changer and glad to have private bathrooms when needed. Makes changing much much easier!

Life keeps moving forward and my body keeps changing little by little from what I can tell, even if it's subtle, it has added up to a life of constant leakiness and very sudden wetting/messing signals if at all. 

It's hard to really describe what has changed as things are subjective, but I do feel something internally has taken a hit when i'm leaking in between changes or laying down feeling my bottom growing warmer with no sense of needing to wet at all. 

Messing still is not at a state where I'd describe a complete loss of control. The warnings signs grow even shorter or more subtle/noticeable. Mentally I feel i've crossed a threshold where I'm feeling more on autopilot and dont give much thought to messing, there isn't a loud alarm or something trying to tell me HEY YOU'RE ABOUT TO POO! more just a very quiet subtle "oh I have to to go, so go." While my body is already relaxed and ready to let go. The warning is subtle, the feeling is becoming more automatic, and while I still feel I could stop it if truly wanted too, I've yet to actually test it. It's more just I have to put little effort into relaxing like I used to way back when i first started. Take this morning for instance, I found myself needing to mess after having just gotten out of the car at work. I found myself letting go and instead of heading to the office, instead heading to change first. 

I'm unsure what will happen in the future, but if this was as close to "incontinence" I could achieve without surgical intervention, I'm happy. I wish it wasn't an odd request to have scans or something performed, or just ways to see just how different my muscles have adapted / changed / weakened over time without going to a doctor or having something on my medical record. It just would be a neat to see for my own sake just to learn how much has changed without giving subjective writing. 

Anyway I hope everyone has a wonderful month ahead, and that you all have a great weekend. If you have any questions please let me know as I sometimes just don't know what to write. 

You're all loved ❤️ 

[diaperuser]

@Beccathelittle what a nice update as always. Have a great weekend! Treat yourself to something nice. Maybe a restaurant you normally don’t go to all the time.

[igel]

You seam to be happy with what you have gotten. Is there any type of IC you would fear to get, and which you wouldn't be too happy to live with. Like very frequent messing.

[Ineedboth1994]

11 hours ago, igel said:

You seam to be happy with what you have gotten. Is there any type of IC you would fear to get, and which you wouldn't be too happy to live with. Like very frequent messing.

Very frequent messing is a dream come true FWIW. 

[Beccathelittle]

12 hours ago, igel said:

You seam to be happy with what you have gotten. Is there any type of IC you would fear to get, and which you wouldn't be too happy to live with. Like very frequent messing.

  I'm content, and I feel if that was a fear I'd never have stepped back into dips permanently in the first place.
 I already "mess" 2-3 times a day, if it where to go beyond that, I'd probably adjust my diet a bit  Believe it or not a monthly supply of disposable dips adds up so I'd like to keep it to a maximum of 4-5 a day. (normally around 4) 

But no, there are no fears.

On 4/18/2024 at 3:58 PM, diaperuser said:

@Beccathelittle what a nice update as always. Have a great weekend! Treat yourself to something nice. Maybe a restaurant you normally don’t go to all the time.

Thanks  

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! 

[IWANTHOTDOGS]

On 4/18/2024 at 2:45 PM, Beccathelittle said:

Hey DD!!

I hope everyone is having a super wonderful week, time keeps flying by and i'm excited for a relaxing weekend. Today would be my 2nd year 7th month, and 10th day or 953 days of being padded. Ever so closer to my third year!  

As the time continues ever forward, I find myself writing this after changing out of a very soaked dip having just come home from a fun day at the office for a few in person vendor meetings. This morning though was a bit less fun, having to change from a messy dip at work as quick as possible before the meetings started. 

While i'm thankful to be a 99% remote employee, it does not spare me from various onsite meetings or projects at offices / data centers but I'd rate myself a professional ninja diaper changer and glad to have private bathrooms when needed. Makes changing much much easier!

Life keeps moving forward and my body keeps changing little by little from what I can tell, even if it's subtle, it has added up to a life of constant leakiness and very sudden wetting/messing signals if at all. 

It's hard to really describe what has changed as things are subjective, but I do feel something internally has taken a hit when i'm leaking in between changes or laying down feeling my bottom growing warmer with no sense of needing to wet at all. 

Messing still is not at a state where I'd describe a complete loss of control. The warnings signs grow even shorter or more subtle/noticeable. Mentally I feel i've crossed a threshold where I'm feeling more on autopilot and dont give much thought to messing, there isn't a loud alarm or something trying to tell me HEY YOU'RE ABOUT TO POO! more just a very quiet subtle "oh I have to to go, so go." While my body is already relaxed and ready to let go. The warning is subtle, the feeling is becoming more automatic, and while I still feel I could stop it if truly wanted too, I've yet to actually test it. It's more just I have to put little effort into relaxing like I used to way back when i first started. Take this morning for instance, I found myself needing to mess after having just gotten out of the car at work. I found myself letting go and instead of heading to the office, instead heading to change first. 

I'm unsure what will happen in the future, but if this was as close to "incontinence" I could achieve without surgical intervention, I'm happy. I wish it wasn't an odd request to have scans or something performed, or just ways to see just how different my muscles have adapted / changed / weakened over time without going to a doctor or having something on my medical record. It just would be a neat to see for my own sake just to learn how much has changed without giving subjective writing. 

Anyway I hope everyone has a wonderful month ahead, and that you all have a great weekend. If you have any questions please let me know as I sometimes just don't know what to write. 

You're all loved ❤️ 

Thanks for the update! Have you considered trying another day in panties to see how your control compares to the last time you tried panties?

[Beccathelittle]

4 hours ago, IWANTHOTDOGS said:

Thanks for the update! Have you considered trying another day in panties to see how your control compares to the last time you tried panties?

Ah yes, the feat of strength  Well, it's been about five or six months since I last attempted it, and I'd have to buy some undies for that attempt again. 

Going without diapers during that attempt was not fun, it definitely was racing to the bathroom so very often. But If I did attempt it again, the one thing I didn't really test was just how long I could go by ignoring the pain. Pretty much I felt like my bum was glued to the potty that day. I went as soon as I felt the need, which was practically all the time I quickly went. 
Honestly by the end of the test, I was happy to be back in diapers after my bath. Way less mentally taxing and exhausting. 

If I were to test it again, I guess I would just test the length of time I could push past the pain / warning. I do sort of wonder if there would be a limit , and to what extent. I definitely don't feel I'd do well trying to feat of strength out and about away from a toilet very close by.

I'm not really in a rush to committing to a second attempt just yet, but as I'm now closer to my 3rd year of 24/7 I will probably go for a second test closer to my fourth year.  I'm positive my body is still adapting and changing, but it's so hard to truly know what's going on internally without medical testing which I don't really intend to discuss with a doctor or urologist at this point. 

Honestly the thought of even admitting to a doctor that, yes for the last 3 years I've been using my pants for my potty doesn't sound like a fun experience or one that would read well in a medical entry for life. I may have to one day, but so far I've done my best to avoid my doctor knowing about that.

[Beccathelittle]

Hey DD,

Today makes 1007 Days or 2 years, 9 months, 3 days of diapers 24/7.

24,168 Hours of 24/7 minus a few here or there where I spent time between changes, bathing, and the one day I tried my feat of strength last time. It's also close to $9.3K spent on diapers & supplies if you average the cost of diapers, and supplies over the 33 months.. Definitely not cheap I need to win some contest for a lifetime supply. One can dream.

Before writing this update I've spent the last couple of days self-reflecting on where I am and just how far I've come, and I wanted to share how I currently see and feel about myself and my current situation.

When I started this journey, I wasn't sure what progress could or would happen regarding "losing control". I had spent close to a year and a half at that time wearing diapers to bed for comfort and eventually developed nightly bedwetting to my happy surprise which encouraged me to start wearing 24/7.

When i first started it felt like I was just "pretending" and over analyzing everything to try and sense for any changes. It was hard to use a diaper in public, or around friends and I was a little anxious from time to time. Changing in public was also very hard, and it took a lot of planning.

As time progressed ever slowly and the months started adding up I became more comfortable and used to just being wet or messing. I knew I was doing something to my body, but it felt more like aside from "retraining" that I could easily retrain myself and be no more incontinent then when I first started.

Time further continued and I slowly began to feel no longer that I was "pretending" anything, and more to feeling like I was becoming incontinent. 8 months ago I decided to "test" my control by wearing some cheap panties I bought at the grocery store for half a day. The feeling of wearing next to nothing made me anxious and I spent the half day in a constant state of hyperfocus on my control. I tried to drink my normal amounts of water/tea and I was rushing to the bathroom every 15 to 25 minutes. A little leakage but nothing that surprised me, and I felt like I still "had control". To me it felt like I was just diaper trained, but now as I reflect on it I realize it was the control a toddler had but less. I couldn't have pushed myself past that 15 to 25 minute mark, I knew if I didn't race I'd be soaking my clothes & furniture.

I found myself exhausted, and after my bath closer to 6pmish I didn't want to spend another second out of the diapers I was so very used too and went back to my normal padded lifestyle.

Time continues forward to now, 8 months later and the idea that I still have "control" seems laughable. I don't view myself as "continent, or pretending, or as just a diaper-trained individual". I see myself as completely incontinent, and subconsciously I feel the same. I couldn't tell you a time I've not had a dream that didn't involve me in diapers, getting changed, or having xyz person change me in a dream.

I sit here having just messed myself while writing this. I don't feel different, I don't feel like something is amiss or wrong. I think "normal". My brain didn't alert me, I just felt a quick need and went. Where did that imaginary line I crossed in my head go from "pretending / diaper training to just being incontinent I'm unsure.

My body feels like it's on autopilot, it's not something I fret or worry over, and my brain sure isn't caring to alert me much these days.

I couldn't imagine spending a day without wearing diapers, or having changes with me wherever I go. I have to rely on diapers now wherever I end up going. Every trip, hanging out with friends, work trips, vacations, family get togethers etc means I have to make sure I have an abundant supply of diapers & wipes to make sure I keep everything around me dry.

Should I hate this or be upset with myself? I don't feel that way at all. I love who I am, and I love the life I have. I'm not unhappy in the slightest, but it has been a weird journey along the way. Without exaggeration I feel I have decimated my control and yet I'm at peace and just happy about life in general. As I continue to write this feeling further dribbling into a soaked & messy dip feels like a testament to the 33 months of constant use.

My control has slipped more each day, and it's just been a slow & subtle experience. My body went from being something I totally felt in control of, to now feeling more like it's out of my control. Autopilot wetting/messing was a feature I didn't realize I had.

A funny situation happened last month, for the first time in my life. I was in the shower washing my hair and ended up getting some water down my lungs which made me cough/choke for a moment. In that moment, I found myself soiling the bathtub. I had to clean up a mess that I didn't even know was coming my way.

Mother's day was fun, though we celebrated it as a family the week after. I made a very audible & uncontrolled toot which my siblings laughed too much to my slight embarrassment. The joys of flatulence I guess..

I have a friends wedding coming up early next month, and here I am still waiting for the venue information & schedule so I can try to come up with some sort of plan for changes and dress code. Here is hoping my autopilot mode doesn't land me in an unfun situation.

So there you go, my latest update to the journal.. I finally get to change this diaper. Still happy and feeling good about life in general.. I hope everyone has a wonderful week ahead and that you're all blessed ❤️ If you have any questions I can try to answer I'll do my best.

 

[carsfan]

@Beccathelittlethanks as always for your thoughtful and funny reflections. Does your close family have any inkling to your choice of underwear or know or think you deal with legitimate (to them), ic issues?  Please keep on keeping us updated here

 

[igel]

18 hours ago, Beccathelittle said:

A funny situation happened last month, for the first time in my life. I was in the shower washing my hair and ended up getting some water down my lungs which made me cough/choke for a moment. In that moment, I found myself soiling the bathtub. I had to clean up a mess that I didn't even know was coming my way.

 

Mother's day was fun, though we celebrated it as a family the week after. I made a very audible & uncontrolled toot which my siblings laughed too much to my slight embarrassment. The joys of flatulence I guess..

Wait till you take a bath and see things suddenly floating around in the water.

 

18 hours ago, Beccathelittle said:

So there you go, my latest update to the journal.. I finally get to change this diaper. Still happy and feeling good about life in general.. I hope everyone has a wonderful week ahead and that you're all blessed ❤️ If you have any questions I can try to answer I'll do my best.

I'm happy to hear about your progress. It really seams to have gone fare. Has your family start to wonder what is going on.

[Beccathelittle]

 

7 hours ago, carsfan said:

@Beccathelittlethanks as always for your thoughtful and funny reflections. Does your close family have any inkling to your choice of underwear or know or think you deal with legitimate (to them), ic issues?  Please keep on keeping us updated here

 

I want to believe that they still don't know, but I have a feeling my mom might be aware more then she is letting on. She made a weird comment which possibly alluded to her knowing I was wearing protection but also could of been a completely harmless joke with no knowledge a few months ago. 

I didn't push it and kinda wondered if she may know. Hoping they are still clueless but eventually it may happen and I'll have to accept it. I'd still like to keep my privacy on the matter for obvious reasons and hope to continue this masquerade of a non incontinent person in their mind.  

To me being incontinent & wearing diapers is great, but to my family it would be one of concern and constant pushing towards doctors & surgeons. If I can live life without them knowing, the better.

 

 

4 hours ago, igel said:

Wait till you take a bath and see things suddenly floating around in the water.

 

I'm happy to hear about your progress. It really seams to have gone fare. Has your family start to wonder what is going on.

To the first one comment 🤮, I really shudder at the thought of that lol. But it may one day happen and I'm sure i'd be just as red faced embarrassed to the situation. 

I responded to your second question more above with carsfan question. 

[diaperuser]

@Beccathelittle hopefully mom was joking. She does not start asking. Thank you for updating. 

[IWANTHOTDOGS]

On 6/11/2024 at 10:07 AM, Beccathelittle said:

Hey DD,

 

Today makes 1007 Days or 2 years, 9 months, 3 days of diapers 24/7.

24,168 Hours of 24/7 minus a few here or there where I spent time between changes, bathing, and the one day I tried my feat of strength last time. It's also close to $9.3K spent on diapers & supplies if you average the cost of diapers, and supplies over the 33 months.. Definitely not cheap I need to win some contest for a lifetime supply. One can dream.

 

Before writing this update I've spent the last couple of days self-reflecting on where I am and just how far I've come, and I wanted to share how I currently see and feel about myself and my current situation.

 

When I started this journey, I wasn't sure what progress could or would happen regarding "losing control". I had spent close to a year and a half at that time wearing diapers to bed for comfort and eventually developed nightly bedwetting to my happy surprise which encouraged me to start wearing 24/7.

 

When i first started it felt like I was just "pretending" and over analyzing everything to try and sense for any changes. It was hard to use a diaper in public, or around friends and I was a little anxious from time to time. Changing in public was also very hard, and it took a lot of planning.

 

As time progressed ever slowly and the months started adding up I became more comfortable and used to just being wet or messing. I knew I was doing something to my body, but it felt more like aside from "retraining" that I could easily retrain myself and be no more incontinent then when I first started.

 

Time further continued and I slowly began to feel no longer that I was "pretending" anything, and more to feeling like I was becoming incontinent. 8 months ago I decided to "test" my control by wearing some cheap panties I bought at the grocery store for half a day. The feeling of wearing next to nothing made me anxious and I spent the half day in a constant state of hyperfocus on my control. I tried to drink my normal amounts of water/tea and I was rushing to the bathroom every 15 to 25 minutes. A little leakage but nothing that surprised me, and I felt like I still "had control". To me it felt like I was just diaper trained, but now as I reflect on it I realize it was the control a toddler had but less. I couldn't have pushed myself past that 15 to 25 minute mark, I knew if I didn't race I'd be soaking my clothes & furniture.

 

I found myself exhausted, and after my bath closer to 6pmish I didn't want to spend another second out of the diapers I was so very used too and went back to my normal padded lifestyle.

 

Time continues forward to now, 8 months later and the idea that I still have "control" seems laughable. I don't view myself as "continent, or pretending, or as just a diaper-trained individual". I see myself as completely incontinent, and subconsciously I feel the same. I couldn't tell you a time I've not had a dream that didn't involve me in diapers, getting changed, or having xyz person change me in a dream.

 

I sit here having just messed myself while writing this. I don't feel different, I don't feel like something is amiss or wrong. I think "normal". My brain didn't alert me, I just felt a quick need and went. Where did that imaginary line I crossed in my head go from "pretending / diaper training to just being incontinent I'm unsure.

 

My body feels like it's on autopilot, it's not something I fret or worry over, and my brain sure isn't caring to alert me much these days.

 

I couldn't imagine spending a day without wearing diapers, or having changes with me wherever I go. I have to rely on diapers now wherever I end up going. Every trip, hanging out with friends, work trips, vacations, family get togethers etc means I have to make sure I have an abundant supply of diapers & wipes to make sure I keep everything around me dry.

 

Should I hate this or be upset with myself? I don't feel that way at all. I love who I am, and I love the life I have. I'm not unhappy in the slightest, but it has been a weird journey along the way. Without exaggeration I feel I have decimated my control and yet I'm at peace and just happy about life in general. As I continue to write this feeling further dribbling into a soaked & messy dip feels like a testament to the 33 months of constant use.

 

My control has slipped more each day, and it's just been a slow & subtle experience. My body went from being something I totally felt in control of, to now feeling more like it's out of my control. Autopilot wetting/messing was a feature I didn't realize I had.

 

A funny situation happened last month, for the first time in my life. I was in the shower washing my hair and ended up getting some water down my lungs which made me cough/choke for a moment. In that moment, I found myself soiling the bathtub. I had to clean up a mess that I didn't even know was coming my way.

 

Mother's day was fun, though we celebrated it as a family the week after. I made a very audible & uncontrolled toot which my siblings laughed too much to my slight embarrassment. The joys of flatulence I guess..

 

I have a friends wedding coming up early next month, and here I am still waiting for the venue information & schedule so I can try to come up with some sort of plan for changes and dress code. Here is hoping my autopilot mode doesn't land me in an unfun situation.

 

 

So there you go, my latest update to the journal.. I finally get to change this diaper. Still happy and feeling good about life in general.. I hope everyone has a wonderful week ahead and that you're all blessed ❤️ If you have any questions I can try to answer I'll do my best.

 

 

 

What an incredible update. You've came along way since your last update. What interests me the most is that you and many others who have gotten to your stage don't actually regret it. Its a common thought even in my own mind that we want it so much, but once we have it, we will wish we didn't make ourselves incontinent. I don't know if its just "dealing with it" is easier than the thought of retraining, or we do actually prefer being diaper dependent. Its a question I ask myself if I really should commit to untrianing or not.

[Beccathelittle]

18 hours ago, IWANTHOTDOGS said:

What an incredible update. You've came along way since your last update. What interests me the most is that you and many others who have gotten to your stage don't actually regret it. Its a common thought even in my own mind that we want it so much, but once we have it, we will wish we didn't make ourselves incontinent. I don't know if its just "dealing with it" is easier than the thought of retraining, or we do actually prefer being diaper dependent. Its a question I ask myself if I really should commit to untrianing or not.

My first line of thought is just to ask that you please don't use me as an example or rush into anything! But I did want to write out a better response so i took some time to write this for anyone considering 24/7..

I feel that in life we all have big and small regrets and if your mind is like mine, at times it's one that randomly blesses you with an old memory right before going to sleep like "Hey remember that one time you did xyz? How embarrassing.." Yes brain, I remember thank you for making me think about it again. It's crazy how something we choose to do can impact the future for ourselves and others.

I can only speak for myself, but the idea of becoming incontinent or just wanting to return to diapers 24/7, in general, was one since childhood. It was a desire that if you asked how it manifested in the first place I couldn't tell you but it was one that I've never let go of.

I guess in the small amount of wisdom I've learned through life, is that some decisions are easy and inconsequential to pick such as pizza night or taco night. But others should never be hastily picked and can impact your own personal future in major ways. An example would be picking a degree which takes years and if you end up hating it or you find no job opportunities you're financially hurt or in a worse state then when you started.

I'm also somewhat reminded of the biblical principle of "counting the cost" of any big decision in life. Whereas you're not discipling others, you are committing to a new lifestyle that affects you a ton! A few examples: Mental & Body Health, Relationships, Jobs, Money, Vacations/Trips you name it.

Diapers fall into the major category, and to go further it's life-impacting for yourself and others. As to the extent of that impact, it also comes down to how you choose to handle everything concerning diapers & being 24/7.

Here are a few things I considered before starting and anyone else 100% should as well:

• Social Impacts - Family, Friends, and Spouses all can be impacted. Say your family wants to have a vacation together or a family event.. If you choose to not go because of being incontinent/diapers, you're negatively impacting yourself and others. You missed out on a cool trip, a cool experience, meeting or being together with loved ones, you never got an opportunity to xyz which would of led to xyz. If you can't see yourself making the same choices you do now, then why even try to commit in the first place?
• Money - Diapers & supplies are expensive, if you're on a very limited budget or find yourself with no budget (like a job loss) then it doesn't sound like you're in a situation where you can commit to 24/7.
• Work - Do you have a job where you are comfortable with being 24/7? If not, unless you're blessed to be a stay at home bab (lucky you i'm jelly!) then it doesn't sound like you can be 24/7.
• Vacations - If you're incontinent, vacations do mean ensuring you have supplies at all times.. This can make vacations on the fly harder, you have to always plan to have supplies with you. Are you ready for that?
• Body Health / Cleanliness - As much as I love diapers, I'm also concerned with my cleanliness and that I'm courteous to others. I do my best to always practice healthy skin practices, keeping my skin clean, using barrier creams, and washing a lot. We become nose blind over time, unable to smell things we're used to. If you don't commit to keeping yourself clean you will end up smelling like a toilet wherever you go. People will know, and it's unfair to others. Can you commit to healthy practices for the rest of your life?
• Mental Health - Are you happier with diapers or without them? Will the loss of control affect you negatively? Can you see yourself in diapers for the rest of your life and how does that make you feel? Can you imagine yourself wetting/messing without control in the biggest social gathering events or with friends/family/loved ones? Only you can know this for yourself. If you find that even wearing diapers stop you from being around others or going out you're going to end up a hermit. Is that what you want? Sounds depressing tbh.
• Hobbies / Activities - Everyone has hobbies or group activities around others. Can you see yourself being in diapers while doing them? If diapers cause you to give up those things, then I'd say you're not going to be able to commit to 24/7.
• Clothing / Outfits - Your wardrobe will change.. Lots.. Are you OK with that? Love those xyz? Well it no longer fits or looks great while padded. Guess I have to wear something else. Are you ok with your wardrobe changing?

These are only a few things I could think to write about, but there are plenty more you or anyone should consider before committing to 24/7. I hope that people who do read this with that intention are not using me as an example of "well it worked out for her, i'll be fine" or the reason they decided to commit.

It's a major life decision, and it's one anyone needs to put A LOT of brainpower on before starting.

I have no regret about being 24/7 or wearing diapers because I planned for the above well before I committed to start wearing them in the first place. Also, I've not once let diapers dictate if I'll go to an event with a friend. I'll go to that event, I'll do what I would have done even if I wasn't incontinent. I'll just make sure to bring changes & cleaning, and worst case scenario my friend now knows Becca wears diapers.

So please dear reader 😛 don't decide to 24/7 unless you're ready for everything. Don't become a hermit, don't let your life be dictated by your diapers. Consider everything and don't rush.

You are the author of your own life choices, your book to be filled. If it's one of a guy or gal who's incontinent, then at least make it a fun happy one, and not a tale of depression, sorrow, and regrets.

[le Hollandais]

Well thought out. Thank you for sharing.