Clinical Fetish

[superdiaperbaby]

Since I am getting married in August I have a question to those who do have a "clinical fetish", meaning you cannot get off without wearing a diaper. I am wondering how did you know it was clinical? I really don't want to be surprised on my wedding night to find out I cannot release without diapers. That would be terrible. So if anyone has any suggestions beyond actually having sex that would be good. She definitely gets me excited and we neck and the like. I've tried regular masturbation and it does work but I have to concentrate really hard and fantasize about diapers to do it. I have heard that "sex therapy" is recommended for people who want to get rid of a clinical fetish. Has anyone does this? What are your experiences? I love getting off in diapers, but I want to be satisfied without diapers as well.

Super Diaper Baby

[thekid1]

try not to think about diapers when you masturbate and see what happens if you cant get off than you definitely have a clinical fetish.

[Incomplete Dude]

Well, personally, I just focus on the physical feeling, independent of anything else. It works, and I find gives me greater control over how long I last, because I'm paying very close attention to how my body is responding.

[DollyDiaper]

At the risk of being too hard on you, if you can't do what is expected on your wedding night without aids, then you really shouldn't be getting married.

That is a time when you should have your mind very much fixed upon other matters.

Your new wife.

Hmmm....I really can't agree that it's "..a time when you should have your mind very much fixed upon other matters....your new wife."

This advice has the air of martyrdom about it. Surely it should be a time for each to fix on both?

In my opinion, it should be a shared experience. Anything less than this from my partner, I would find patronising.

D lly

[pctrasher]

Lol, the fix to the problem...Imagine her in diapers or something. Also, the more you do it without the aid of your fetish item, the less you will NEED your fetish item, that goes for every fetish out there. Also, if you binge a week or so before, you'll end the week in the purge cycle and you will have no desire to wear and will probably be able to perform just as good as anybody else without your diapers. Just a few tips.

[WallaWalla]

Since I am getting married in August I have a question to those who do have a "clinical fetish", meaning you cannot get off without wearing a diaper. I am wondering how did you know it was clinical? I really don't want to be surprised on my wedding night to find out I cannot release without diapers. That would be terrible. So if anyone has any suggestions beyond actually having sex that would be good. She definitely gets me excited and we neck and the like. I've tried regular masturbation and it does work but I have to concentrate really hard and fantasize about diapers to do it. I have heard that "sex therapy" is recommended for people who want to get rid of a clinical fetish. Has anyone does this? What are your experiences? I love getting off in diapers, but I want to be satisfied without diapers as well.

Super Diaper Baby

Wait a second, the first time you're going to be having sex is on your wedding night? *is aghast at the horrors of religion*

[Lil' Danny]

I would look at some non-diaper related pornography. If you are not much into porn, just look at pics of naked women that are displaced tasteful, such as Playboy. Or, erotically think about what you and your fiance are going to do on your wedding night. Imagine her slowly undressing, how hot she looks, and she is willing to give her body to you, lovingly. If this is getting you in the mood, your'e not clinical. I would go further, but I want to be respectful, as this could be a touchy subject (no pun intended).

[Necare]

Since I am getting married in August I have a question to those who do have a "clinical fetish", meaning you cannot get off without wearing a diaper. I am wondering how did you know it was clinical? I really don't want to be surprised on my wedding night to find out I cannot release without diapers. That would be terrible. So if anyone has any suggestions beyond actually having sex that would be good. She definitely gets me excited and we neck and the like. I've tried regular masturbation and it does work but I have to concentrate really hard and fantasize about diapers to do it. I have heard that "sex therapy" is recommended for people who want to get rid of a clinical fetish. Has anyone does this? What are your experiences? I love getting off in diapers, but I want to be satisfied without diapers as well.

Super Diaper Baby

Well, ask yourself this question: To which degree is my sexual life focused on AB-stuff as opposed to regular intercourse? If your answer is that, "I could not really go without a pacifier and a nappy when having sex", then you may have a problem if she is not really aware of the extent of your "baby-life." If, on the other hand, AB-related stuff is just the occasional spice, then you should have no problem focusing on other, publicly accepted dimensions of sexuality. But you haven`t really told us; how accepting is she of your need to be a baby? If she is truly openminded, she should have no problem in facing the fact that you want to be babyish on your wedding night.

[im3]

I agree with the posters who asked about the extent to which she knows about your being an AB. I sense a problem from the tone of your post - i.e. there is some expectation of normal sex. The problem is not whether you can perform or not, and you shouldn't have to eradicate baby things from your head in order to. The problem is whether she knows about and is a part of your baby life. I'd broach that subject before getting married!

Why even expect "normal" sex - if neither you nor she is interested in such things? Being an AB is a sexuality, and if that includes things like normal sex, so be it - if not, and tummy rubs, bath time and diaper changes are all you both need to satisfy you, what is the problem?

Clear the air before you dive in.

[superdiaperbaby]

I agree with the posters who asked about the extent to which she knows about your being an AB. I sense a problem from the tone of your post - i.e. there is some expectation of normal sex. The problem is not whether you can perform or not, and you shouldn't have to eradicate baby things from your head in order to. The problem is whether she knows about and is a part of your baby life. I'd broach that subject before getting married!

Why even expect "normal" sex - if neither you nor she is interested in such things? Being an AB is a sexuality, and if that includes things like normal sex, so be it - if not, and tummy rubs, bath time and diaper changes are all you both need to satisfy you, what is the problem?

Clear the air before you dive in.

Here is some more information: She knows about me being an AB. I have told her explicitly what it entails and she even has seen me in a diaper, but I also feel it is not fair to make her participate. I also feel I should be able to satisfy her normally and I will be able to satisfy her in any way I can. The problem is I know she will want me to be satisfied from her and not diapers. I am not having sex till my wedding night because sex, while important, is not as important as God's will which is that only a husband and wife be united and become one flesh(that's not the topic anyways). But my problem is before I became a Christian I did have sex and I learned I might be clinical then. I was hard for hours and the girl had multiple orgasms but she became pissed because I didn't have any. I finally pretended to have one so I could get some sleep (yes a man faked it). She also knew of my diapers and blamed them for my inability to release. Thus I now think I might have that problem again. So I want to know if anyone has experienced the same thing and how did you solve it?

Super Diaper Baby

[Danni]

I gather that the two of you are very much in love .

Your wedding night is a very special time.

Try not to be overly concerned about performing in bed.

Relax, have fun, and make "love" not just sex.

For it is when you both feel the love you have for each other, the orgasms will come naturally.

[Lil' Danny]

Well, after more info, I guess my advice is irrelevant.

[Dill_Pickle]

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But my problem is before I became a Christian I did have sex and I learned I might be clinical then. I was hard for hours and the girl had multiple orgasms but she became pissed because I didn't have any. I finally pretended to have one so I could get some sleep (yes a man faked it). She also knew of my diapers and blamed them for my inability to release. Thus I now think I might have that problem again. So I want to know if anyone has experienced the same thing and how did you solve it?

Super Diaper Baby

Well, I also take a "long" time to reach a climax in "vanilla" intercourse. To make it work, I have to not have any bad thoughts, not have had *ANY* alchohol, and generally be relaxed. As others have said, focus on making love with your partner...and remind yourselves that the inability to climax on your part doesn't mean both of you can't enjoy making love. Make sure she knows you love her.

Dill_Pickle

[Guest John_Q_Sample]

... I did have sex and I learned I might be clinical then. I was hard for hours and the girl had multiple orgasms but she became pissed because I didn't have any. I finally pretended to have one so I could get some sleep (yes a man faked it). She also knew of my diapers and blamed them for my inability to release. Thus I now think I might have that problem again...

Super Diaper Baby

What your describing does not sound like an inability to orgasm due to a fetish. If the fetish was really to blame would you be "hard for hours"? Believe it or not, this is actually a common occurance and could be caused by many things... just like not being able to "get it up", many men have dealt with this over the years and more will in the future. I have dealt with both and so have alot of people I know. (Did I just openly admit that? Oh, wait... I am on a forum where we openly admit our diaper wearing... whew!)

Numerous possible causes including poor diet or stress/anxiety about "performing"... sometimes we are our own worse enemy... especially if the other is blaming the lack of performance on your diapers... what I am trying to say is, alot of times if it doesn't happen, the next time around your fear of it not happening again is exactly what causes the same outcome. Add to that her idea that "you can't cum because you like those goddman diapers!" and an even greater need mentally to prove that statement wrong... you could easily be building a recipe for a vicious circle of failure.

When I was a kid and was unaware of this recipe, there were many times I was unable to finish (or get it going for that matter). Almost never with a girl I had never been with before. I would get myself so crazed about this that the situation might not eleviate for the next four, five, six sessions... but as soon as I did finish, magiclly the pressure was off and I became the Energizer bunny!

Maybe you need to calm down and relax a bit.

Or, maybe... just maybe... that previous girl was just, well boring?

[DollyDiaper]

Well, I also take a "long" time to reach a climax in "vanilla" intercourse. To make it work, I have to not have any bad thoughts, not have had *ANY* alchohol, and generally be relaxed. As others have said, focus on making love with your partner...and remind yourselves that the inability to climax on your part doesn't mean both of you can't enjoy making love. Make sure she knows you love her.

Dill_Pickle

In the sentence I've highlighted above, Dill Pickle has articulated what I was trying to say earlier

On the surface it may just sound like semantics, but language can (and does) inform thought . I believe focussing on making love with rather than making love to your wife on your wedding night (and thereafter of course) could prove to be the key.

I know it's a bit soon wedding-wise, but I wish you both much love and happiness, now and in your married life together..

D lly

[superdiaperbaby]

Good advice from everyone! Thanks. I think I just won't worry about it anymore. I do love her and she turns me on in so many ways. She is also the most understanding women I have ever known. To accept my diaper wearing and be there for me in the hard times... What am I worried about? All is good!

Super Diaper Baby

[Hunter1076]

I would like to throw my 2 cents into the jar also.

Performance Anxiety is a bear.

Do you have to consumate your marriage on the first night? Who says??

Do it when you are BOTH comfortable and relaxed, There is no law (God/Man) that says when is the right time for you and your partner to find each other.

When I got back to U.S. from overseas it took me about 3 weeks to get back into the stateside grove of my love life. It is still taking even longer to get into the "Normal" frame of mind about being in crowds or going to the mall.

Anyway, I wish the two of you the happiest of unions. May life treat you well.