My Boyfriend Likes Em And I Dunno What To Do

[sephya]

My boyfriend and I had been dating for a couple of month when he began hinting he had a major fetish. When it comes to People I date I want to know everything.

After some pressure and tear (because I didnt think he understood how I felt) He began throwing Hint at me that I never took on to.

"Well if we get u depends u wouldnt have to worry about having to go pee at work"

then I would laugh and act disgusted and blow it off.

He used that one many times. Then one day I came up to his apartment and sat down beside him to play some games.

He told me had something for me and told me to stand up. When I turned around there it was, A diaper, I flipped out and threw it at him again laughing and acting discugsted, but little did I know I have hurt his feelings.

He always talk about his fetish being "sexual" or "just for fun" or "a curse" and we talk more about it that night (though I still couldnt get him to tell me what his fetish was) and all he would say is "Babe, I know ur not ready to hear it"

and I kept telling him that I was ready.

The next night we kinda fussed about it again and finally he was like "Fine if u think your ready meet me on the kitchen and Ill let u read it".

I began to read his notebook and had a ew emotions comeover.

I was surprised, confused, scared, curious, and I wanted to laugh, but not at him but at his fetish.

See I never knew anyone could have this type of fetish but it was really important to him.

A couple nights later I let him put one on me and honestly I didnt like it at first, I wanted it off!

Then I found myself wearing em bit more, but just to make him happy, to show him I cared and Loved him no matter what.

But, Slowly I began growing out of them, I didnt like it, I didnt like that he wanted me to use them like a diaper, I didnt like how we wanted to me sleep in one every night and Finally I was like "If I want to wear one, I will!"

and besides some of his hints he stopped pressuring me.

Anyway what I am getting to is last night we had a fight and he later figured that is was because of his fetish,

He was he "was growing apart from me and was unhappy"

and all I could do was cry...

The problem is I am not one for looking at females bodies, internet, movies, porn, if it has nudity I dont wanna see it and I dont wanna the guys who "loves or wants me" to look at it either and he used that against me

"Well if u want me to respect u and not look at em, I want u to respect me and wear diapers and I want you to start wanting to wear em"...

And thats wear I am at now...

I just wanna know what to do? I know I am still not ready to wear them again and when he comes back sunday night he wants to put me in Ten regardless on How I feel...

I just wanna know how to talk to him about this,

I have no problem if he wants to wear them...but why must he force me to "want" to wear...

any advice for me?

[thekid1]

to start out he should definitely not be trying to force you to where them. have a sit down with him and discuss with him that you are not ready to try them again and he should not be forcing you to do any thing you don't feel comfortable with. he needs to respect your needs and not just his own if after all of this he still try's to make you wear diapers than i don't think he is the right guy for you.

best of luck to ya

[diapercj]

From his point of view, we ABDL's view diapers as a symbol of love. Its ingrained into us, and thats what gives us the high. More in DL's this takes on a sexual aspect as well. From your point of view, you feel wrong about it, nervous (not naughty, thats not where Im going). The thing is, you have been trained at a very young age that wearing diapers is the wrong thing to do. "Big girls wear big girl panties, only babies wear diapers." In order to feel ok, you have to realize that, and know its the reason you dont want to wear them, rather than being indifferent to them. You aren't committing a crime wearing diapers, you aren't hurting anyone, you are helping your BF. But to close, tell him to stop being so forceful, there has to be a comprimise and if you dont establish that now, its only going to get worse.

CJ

[dpl13]

Wow. That's quite a situation. As I see it, he's completely wrong to try and force his desires on you. Unfortunately, I see little future for you two unless he somehow realizes that he simply cannot make you want to wear them, and that is your given right. If you don't like or want to wear them, there's no reason you should, period. If he won't be happy unless the person he's with wants to wear diapers too, then I don't think you're the right one for him. And, I see no way that he would be the right one for you with demands like that.

If I were you, I would simply explain to him that you do not like wearing them, and make sure he understands that it's your right not to like them. You're already to be commended for not having issues with him liking and wearing them, and he should be thankful of that, not want more. He needs to be told that he does not have the right to expect or demand that you wear them, much less WANT to wear them. I know it's not going to be easy to tell him these things, but it's very important that you clearly explain these things before the two of you go any further. If he can't understand and/or comply with these basic things, I really don't see a way for you to be happy in a relationship with him.

Now, on the other hand, your wanting him not to look at other women isn't really going to happen either - you can't take the look out of a guy. It's simply not natural, and asking a guy not to even look at other women is like asking a dl to completely forget about his desires. Probably not gonna happen... My SO realized long ago that my looking at other women poses no threat to her, and it would only make me feel guilty if she asked me not to.

I wish I could say happier things, but good luck, and I hope this helps.

[Ford Freak]

I agree with dpl13. I hope everything turns out good for both of you without your relationship falling apart.

[Acecool]

He should not be forcing you. And, tell him in all honesty that you tried it and it wasnt really for you... Just tell him that you are ok with him having the fetish but you do not want to take part for a little while, just while you think about it a little longer and grow more comfortable..

See how he takes that news, if he is ok with that, then great..

Just my opinion,

Josh

[b0xer21]

yeah...i don't really think he should be trying to force YOU to wear them. i mean, if you're cool with it...and actually accept him as a person then he should be happy with that.

[Dill_Pickle]

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The problem is I am not one for looking at females bodies, internet, movies, porn, if it has nudity I dont wanna see it and I dont wanna the guys who "loves or wants me" to look at it either and he used that against me

"Well if u want me to respect u and not look at em, I want u to respect me and wear diapers and I want you to start wanting to wear em"...

And thats wear I am at now...

I just wanna know what to do? I know I am still not ready to wear them again and when he comes back sunday night he wants to put me in Ten regardless on How I feel...

I just wanna know how to talk to him about this,

I have no problem if he wants to wear them...but why must he force me to "want" to wear...

any advice for me?

Respect is a two-way street here: He is going to have some private time looking at porn, etc, and that part is just like liking diapers -- hard or impossible to change. So is your not wanting to wear diapers. But asking you for something you are clearly uncomfortable with and making it a quid pro quo isn't respect, it's manipulation. Like others here, I see very little good in this relationship if he is unable or unwilling to respect your boundaries and/or feelings. There's a name for that situation, it's called abuse. Either he takes "No" for an answer, or you walk out, the third alternative leads to your suicide.

My own GF just isn't turned on by diapers -- she's had too much professional experience with them, and too many bad associations from having no help from her husband when she had a baby daughter. So the boundary is that I keep my diapering private and out of view of even her. I also go out of my way to make her feel that my diaper activities are "in addition to" and not "instead of" our normal love life. As for your BF, I suggest that for the things that make you uncomfortable, he also keep them to himself.

[sephya]

You people ROCK!!!

THankyou so much for the advice,

we have talked and he has promised not to bribe or pressure and even as a step for me we bought some that feel more like panties than diapers and I still cant quite used to the feeling, but I do like to make him happy, but in return I just would like him to respect my morals and values. We were raised in two seperate parts of the world so his thoughts and mine are going to be different and we have accepted that, but I feel since that I can respect his wishes when it comes to his fetish that he shouldbe able to respect my feelings, my morals and values.

He told me that since he has dated me he hasnt looked at porn since but says he admits to reading stories and that really doesnt bother me, but my problem is I feel i am being compared and thats all I have realized and we have contiuned to talk about it and we are almost on mutual grounds, which I am thankful for.

We started having some problem when he crossed the line and forgot about my morals and watched a porno wannabe with his friend and it did bother me, because I hate movies like that u know the so called "funny ones"

Movies can be funny, yet sometimes the line is crossed. Showing nude women or disrespecting a race, that's insultful, AND just plan wrong and thats my thoughts but just last night is when we began reaching an understanding so hopefully things are getting better

again thankyou and more advise is always welcomed

[Diapers4Me]

Personally I think nudity is a wonderful thing. Men and women are so different in their views of sexuality...men are so drive by their hromones to reproduce. Thus the difference in perspectives when it comes to pornography. For many, pornography is a negative word. But for many, its simply a name for sexual erotica.

So as he tries his best to understand how you feel and think, you too should try and understand what drives him. It is a two way street.

[DiaperBigBoy]

Is there anything he doesn't like? What I mean, is there anything that you do that he doesn't like about you? I'm not saying to take sides, but once you have a girl I feel you should do anything without asking? And just know not to do basic stuff.