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Well done. I think you handled that the best that you could have, and it's good that you have opened your eyes to the nature of the beast, so to speak. Even more, it takes a lot to remain friends after something like this, and that's something to be proud of. Just be careful not to allow things to slip back to how they were...

I'd have to agree with Maxine - some of the overnight pads are quite bulky. Personally, however, I can't stand anything by Always - they have this sticky plastic covering that I can't stand, and it seems to be quite prone to giving rashes. I prefer Kotex, which have a more cloth-like covering, very similar to most diapers. Family Circle (store brand) makes a really thick ultra pad that is also quite short, which makes hiding it easier. Wal-Mart's store brand isn't bad either. Another suggestion - for even more bulk, find some hospital maternity pads - they are big and thick, super long, super soft, and hold a fair amount. I've got a couple of bags of them made by Kendall, and they're bigger than any feminine pad I've ever seen. When I was younger, I liked to double or triple regular pads to get the bulkiness I wanted - although I never tried it, I'll bet that you could slit the backs of them like you can with diapers to increase the holding power of them too. They're kind of hard to get now, but the old fashioned belted sanitary napkins were way bulkier than almost anything available now - I was fortunate enough to come across a box of them in my late teens. Regarding your second question - There are DEFINITELY people who have a serious fetish for pad and/or tampons. There are a couple of sites out there for those things as well. The femininity side of it holds a lot of attraction for me, but the breaking point for me is when they (pads or tampons) become used - I have no attraction to them at that point, while most of the pad/tampons fetishists only want them used. If you're curious about this, I can give you a site or two to look at. PS - I can't tell you how wonderful it is to have found a place that I can freely discuss things like this!!!! THIS PLACE ROCKS!!

Welcome aboard! I'm fairly new myself, but I still thought I'd add in that you're not alone being a straight, male DL without the AB behaviors. It can be lonely, but this is the place to help with that - I've found more answers and comfort in a short time here than in the rest of my life.

Nope, your imagination is not overactive, or at least not completely so. I've worn many a pad in my time - diapers work better, but pads work fairly well, if they're not the ultra thin type. No pad made will take a full pissing, but they will take a lot of slow dribbles, or quite a bit of urge overflow situations. I can't speak for others, but for me, the femininity of the pads only adds to the sexual excitement. Also, pads are easier to hide, both before and after using. I've recently found that they work fairly well as booster pads as well, while keeping the bulk more manageable. I have to keep my wearing fairly well concealed, so maintaining the balance between bulk and visibility is high on my list. Over time, I've perfected ways to hide pads that would make most women jealous - even my SO, who knows I wear them at times, can't tell when I am. Now, to directly address your questions: Q - They absorb (almost) nothing, so why wear them if you don't have to? A - For me, at least, absorbency isn't as important as just wearing it. Q - Maxipads might work if you only want the feel of bulk cotton/plastic without actually wetting or messing because maxis are cheaper, more discreet and more readily available, and are a symbol of feminity. Since they don't absorb, is there another reason for a pad/tampon fetish? A - They do absorb, and some of them a lot more than you might expect, but that's not the point here. Another reason? I really don't know - I find the same fulfillment of my needs from a pad or a diaper, but that's just me. Perhaps the sexual nature of pads makes them more attractive? Or maybe the "taboo-ness" of them, since their use by women is so hidden and hush-hush? Hope that helps!

Wow. That's quite a situation. As I see it, he's completely wrong to try and force his desires on you. Unfortunately, I see little future for you two unless he somehow realizes that he simply cannot make you want to wear them, and that is your given right. If you don't like or want to wear them, there's no reason you should, period. If he won't be happy unless the person he's with wants to wear diapers too, then I don't think you're the right one for him. And, I see no way that he would be the right one for you with demands like that. If I were you, I would simply explain to him that you do not like wearing them, and make sure he understands that it's your right not to like them. You're already to be commended for not having issues with him liking and wearing them, and he should be thankful of that, not want more. He needs to be told that he does not have the right to expect or demand that you wear them, much less WANT to wear them. I know it's not going to be easy to tell him these things, but it's very important that you clearly explain these things before the two of you go any further. If he can't understand and/or comply with these basic things, I really don't see a way for you to be happy in a relationship with him. Now, on the other hand, your wanting him not to look at other women isn't really going to happen either - you can't take the look out of a guy. It's simply not natural, and asking a guy not to even look at other women is like asking a dl to completely forget about his desires. Probably not gonna happen... My SO realized long ago that my looking at other women poses no threat to her, and it would only make me feel guilty if she asked me not to. I wish I could say happier things, but good luck, and I hope this helps.

Thanks for the welcome, folks. I really do appreciate it. I know I haven't said a lot about my likes, etc - I'm getting there, and right now it's a tad hard to express it without embarrassment. I've been fighting it for years, and I'm realizing that it's somewhat futile to fight. Now, I'm trying to learn how to deal with it instead of fighting it. I can be very thankful that my SO seems to be understanding and tolerant at least (I'll post that story sometime). Now I have to deal with the weird feelings of guilt and so on associated with this. I said "all things absorbent" due to the fact that I am not only a diaper lover, but a pad lover as well - thus the name I chose. I don't know if this is common or not, but I find the pads easier to hide and obtain, and they're where I saw the first signs of my fetish/obsession/whatever it is, many years ago. From reading here, I'm at least starting to understand that there's really no "explaining" or "understanding" this condition, and that helps quite a bit. Not entirely easy, as I'm the intellectual type that likes to fully understand anything and everything, but I'm hoping to come to terms with it. Until I get the "feel" for things, don't expect a lot of posts from me - I don't like to just jump in before I know what's going on... But once I get started, then just try and stop me... Peace, all!

Hi all! Been anonymously lurking for a while, finally decided I'd get registered so I can partake in all these discussions. I'm super pleased to find that there are others like me, and with the help of reading things here, I'm coming to terms with my unexplained attraction to all things absorptive. Still can't really "explain" it, but at least I know it's not just me... Anyways, greetings to all, and thanks to everyone for being here!