A question possibly already asked...

[Wayz2PlzU]

So I did some searching, but there's just way too much data to sift through.

[AwakenEvil]

I would take it relationship at a time. If you are in a community and someone is in that community and is active. Odds our they are a real person. If they are a lurker you'll notice they don't comment in threads or chatrooms, and tend to email copy n paste rhetoric. You should be able to tell by the generic emails they send. Your best way to find someone that isn't a scammer is to be active yourself in the community, and you'll be able to find people that are active in turn. This is how I have been able to meet so many great kinky friends over the years without having some scammer ask for my credit card.

[Wayz2PlzU]

I would take it relationship at a time. If you are in a community and someone is in that community and is active. Odds our they are a real person. If they are a lurker you'll notice they don't comment in threads or chatrooms, and tend to email copy n paste rhetoric. You should be able to tell by the generic emails they send. Your best way to find someone that isn't a scammer is to be active yourself in the community, and you'll be able to find people that are active in turn. This is how I have been able to meet so many great kinky friends over the years without having some scammer ask for my credit card.

[WakkoWannaBe]

I don't have experience on any of those sites you mentioned, or any vanilla website, but I just from being on the internet in general I totally second what AwakenEvil is saying about the copy n' past message. You can just sometimes tell if they're actually typing a message just for you, or if they just used their "ctrl+v" magic.

[p3ngy]

I've never gotten any spam from FetLife. I've only gotten spam from the other sites you listed.

[Wayz2PlzU]

Fetlife seems to be the ABDL site of choice, but I'm still hesitant to use it for anything other than extending my ABDL horizons.

[BriGuy]

I've had zero luck with online datig. I got out into the kink community and met people in real life. I am out about wearing to those who should know so breaking the ice about it is easier because it's known already.

[rusty pins]

One thing you can do if trading messages with any of these people is try and keep a record for yourself of what any conversations, on-line or otherwise were about and interject a few "personal" things about your interests or hobbies and ask the other person about theirs or if they are also interested in the same things as you.

[beallucanb]

If your on fetlife most area's have monthly meetings or get together's, where you and whoever your interested in can meet in a group setting.

[Bettypooh]

Yeah, over time you'll develop "scamdar" well enough to avoid 50% of them immediately, 30% of them at the initial conversation, 10% by the third convedrsation and 5% more before you meet up Whoever you'rte looking for will be in the remaining 5% If they are for real keep in mind that they are thinking simi\lar thoughts about you; worries about safety, integrity, and sincerity If you see none of that then they're one of the 95%. If they don't seem to have opinions or interests till they hear yours they are in that 95%

[Guest]

Hello,

[Jennynappy]

Ignore the majority of them or block them.