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I've always preferred plastic-backed nappies from an 'aesthetic' point of view (feel, look etc.) and that's what I usually buy. However, I've been away from home for a couple of extended periods this year and have only been able to buy cloth-backed nappies and so have used them for a couple of sustained periods - two to three weeks. In terms of practicality both seem to have pros and cons. Pros for cloth-backed nappies - don't chafe the legs, seem to be as good as plastic in not leaking/weeping, tapes hold just as well, more comfortable in warm weather, quieter Cons - the cover seems to stretch a bit more as the nappy gets wet, so there's a greater tendency to sag and bulk up (not so good if you want to be discrete but snug plastic pants, a onesie or compression shorts help), the smell from a wet nappy is a bit stronger Pros for plastic backed nappies - don't expand so much so 'keep their shape' better, smell less, so don't need an extra cover Cons - more likely to chafe, can get uncomfortable in hot weather, noisier At night I've found them about the same - occasional leaks (I mainly sleep on my side). I think, for men, overnight leaks are mainly to do with 'positioning' (!) When I get home I'll stick to plastic-backed - but I may well keep some cloth-backed around as it's good to know that in hot weather you can wear something a bit more comfortable without problems, or if you need to sooth chafed skin for a bit (I wear 24/7 for incontinence, so having a break isn't an option ...)

It depends what you want to get out of the diaper, so to speak. I wear both: M3s are great if you want something a bit thinner and more discrete to wear during the day but which still hold a good amount (as long as you don't flood them in one go). M4s are the way to go if you want thickness and more absorbency and capacity. I've never worn bambinos so can't use them as a comparison but I tend to use M3s during the day if out and about and M4s if I know I'm going to be at home at all, or at night when I'm away (at home I usually wear cloth and plastic pants. Whichever ones you choose, enjoy!

Go for it - I love cathing and just letting things flow. My record is 13 days and I've never had any problems - keep things clean and if it becomes painful take it out - but the body adapts so the more often you do it the easier it becomes :-)

I'd repeat what's been said about being clean and careful but it's certainly the case that being cathed and diapered is a great experience. My record is nine days straight. I've been cathing regularly now for about nine months and have had no problems yet - and the complete lack of control is just amazing. If you're feeling adventurous, take a very sharp knife and make a cut in the catheter about 2 inches long starting about 2 inches below the balloon (be careful which side you cut, so you don't cut the smaller tube which carries the water to the balloon). Insert the cath as normal but stopper the end (you can buy special cath plugs) and then the pee will pass through your urethra as if you're peeing normally but you won't be able to control it :-)

Or you could just wear more regularly and have a bit more enjoyment :-)

Try www.dl-boy.com or www.diaper-bois.com ...

I've been using caths for about 4 months now and haven't had any real problems. The longest I've gone continuously is 6 days and it was great - to experience absolute lack of control was amazing (as opposed to sporadic on-off control). As Steve says, do it properly, i.e. keep things clean, use a good lube, and don't rush. Get a latex cath unless you are allergic as 100% silicon are (as I discovered) much more painful to insert as they're not soft or flexible like latex is. I use a 14fr and it's very easy to insert (and gets easier) and now I don't even notice when it's there, I just enjoy the feeling of my nappy getting wet at totally unpredictable times. Another good thing, with disposables, is that because the flow is a very gentle dribble, you get much better absorbency and use - abriforms are especially good for this. For anything longer than a few minutes you need to get a foley cath, i.e. one with a balloon to hold it in place; otherwise the cath is naturally pushed out of the bladder by the body and ceases to work ...

I second the Abena suggestion - and Dorset Nursing - I have several such onesies. You could also try www.airoliver.de/save (a ABDL paradise!) - go to 'Incontinence Reusable' and then 'Air Oliver PVC Slips Bodys Diapers' and then to Page 7. The translations can be a bit odd/missing but it's an excellent source for a huge number of things, not just onesies!

I wear cloth at night and disposables during the day - I find the variety is good. And like DD, I find cloth very comfortable - and less likely to leak at night too :-)

I have a Suzuki GSX650f - solid and reliable but good fun to drive. I'm in the UK but it's taken me to Italy and back ...

Try www.dorset-nursing.co.uk - they stock abena and tena and are reasonably priced and very reliable ...

Or one might reasonably expect people to notice the subforum in which this is posted - if it's Rainbow Diapers odds-on it's going to be gay-related ... As to the question itself ... yes, possibly. I certainly get more sexual pleasure from diapers than anything else although it's not exclusive. I don't think I'd find it difficult to become an exclusive diapersexual though :-)

As a gay guy I'm really only interested in having my nappy changed by another man; the only circumstances in which I can conceive of being changed by a woman would be if I was in hospital ... hopefully that won't happen as I'm happily healthy! Wetandmessy - you might find you like being changed by a guy - it might even be arousing ... if it is, just go with the flow - your subconscious may be telling you something ... On the other side, I hope you've warned the guy who's volunteering to change you that you might start dribbling pee or more mid-change ...

He was interviewed by The Guardian and, whether you agree with his views or not, he was far more articulate than most voters over 18! http://www.guardian.co.uk/politics/2010/may/09/alfie-mckenzie-14-year-old-voter

Yes, many times, mainly for suprima plastic pants (the best brand by far IMHO). Invariably excellent service. The only slight drawback is that the website is mainly in German and, whilst there are English translations for some pages, they're not comprehensive, and the English is not always completely clear. As I'm in England, I can't comment on trans-atlantic shipping charges though ...

Try dl-boy - much better - just put up a photo which is 'non-committal' until you feel comfortable ...

Basically, yes - there seem to be more people online at any given time. Also I'm used to the interface, which has just been improved; rupadded is a bit fussy. Diaper-bois is a nice simple interface but you have to pay for certain things - not much, it has to be said. Aby was arguably the busiest and best site but it went down last July and, despite a promise to return within weeks, it's still off-line so that looks like a no-hoper.

They do, but they don't have to be face pics - you could just pose a diaper shot which, hopefully, wouldn't be too invasive. And, although I don't know how it works technically and if it's effective or not, they have a option in which you can specify that your pictures cannot be downloaded (or downloaded only with your permission, or completely free to download). There's also diaper-bois.com and rupadded.com although personally I prefer dl-boy ...

You can achieve an awful lot by careful 'preparation' ... Firstly, if you're going to have a messy nappy, put a wet wipe in the seat of it (where the shit hits the fan, so to speak); then, when you change, you can get rid of most of the mess simply by lifting it out and dropping it in the toilet. Secondly, fold your nappy up carefully; I was shown this method by someone I met years ago - Put the nappy in front of you at right angles to you. Fold the front flaps into the centre so they're on top of each other. Fold the front third of the nappy over on to the middle third. Fold this middle third over on to the back third. Fold one of the back flaps onto the bulk of the nappy and tape down. Starting from the bulk of the nappy (still at right angles to you), roll it using the last remaining flap as an outer cover and the last two tapes to stick it all together. You should have something like a sausage at this point and, although it certainly doesn't keep all smells in, it's amazing how much less escapes ...

To be honest, I have no idea - I'd guess it was pretty much the same as I don't see any obvious reason for lesbians or gay men to be more inclined towards diapers than people who are straight. Conceivably gay men might be more open about it - gay 'culture' tends to be more accepting and upfront about fetishes and varied sexual practices. I suspect that the apparent lack of gay participation here is linked to the fact that there are several gay DL sites around (DL-boy, rupadded, the presently defunct by perhaps-to-return aby etc.) and just as with other groups 'birds of a feather flock together' ...

Just FYI, psyllium husks are available in Holland & Barrett (English healthfood stores for non-Brits) in capsule form - just take with water. At present £9.99 for 200 capsules, but you can get another bottle for half price ... recommended dose is up to six per day ...

I've recently had a similar experience - I'm in away from home in France at the moment so, needing more nappies, I found the local medical supply shop (much easier in France than England), saw that they had the complete abena range, thought I'd died and gone to heaven, and picked up two packs of x plus, only to find, when I opened the pack that they were the cloth backed variety. Oh well, give them a go I thought - trying to take them back and exchange them would be complicated especially as my French is rather limited. And yes, I had the same experience - they just don't stay dry on the outside. The only way I've found them to be completely dependent is to wear plastic pants on top, which is what I've started doing - but that rather defeats the point of the cloth-like cover! OTOH, I have found that the tapes were pretty amazing - much more stable than on abena's plastic backed diapers. But ... it's plastic backed for me every time from now on ...

Indeed - you can find references in British newspapers and advertisements in the C19th to ballroom floors being covered with 'diaper cloth' presumably as an aid to dancing. And you can bet that the material wasn't used either before or after for the wrapping of children's posteriors!

I think there will be a difference between disposables and cloth. I've done it with the former occasionally (for example, needing a shower but when there was clearly plenty of capacity left in the nappy - and then risked an hour undiapered just to let my skin breathe a bit more) and there have been no problems: the core of a disposable I guess locks the piss away and makes it hard for bacteria to breed). With a cloth nappy though I think it would be much riskier/uncomfortable - wouldn't recommend it!

OK - here are mine ... 1. Do you wear diapers in public: d. Every day and whenever I go somewhere - I WEAR 24/7 2. Are your diapers: a. Always discreat inside your pants and never visible ALTHOUGH I THINK MY T SHIRT HAS OCCASIONALLY RIDDEN UP A BIT ... 3. Do you: c. Don't want anyone you know to notice but strangers noticing your in diapers is OK - I HIDE MY DIAPERS BUT IT WOULDN'T BE THE END OF THE WORLD IF SOMEONE GLIMPSED A BIT OF WAISTBAND ... 4. When out in public do you: c. Both - I'M URINARY INCONTINENT SO I WET ANYWHERE AND EVERYWHERE. I ONLY MESS IF I KNOW I'LL BE OUTSIDE UNTIL I CAN CHANGE OR I'M CLOSE TO HOME 5. In answer to the above, do you: a. Always use your diapers when out in public - 24/7 INCONTINENT ... 6. If you use your diapers, do you: a. Take any odor control pills to cut any smell - ALTHOUGH I DON'T MESS IN PUBLIC OFTEN, ODOUR CONTROL PILLS ARE A GOOD IDEA 7. Has anyone noticed your diapers and: I DON'T THINK ANYONE HAS NOTICED - IF THEY HAVE I HAVEN'T REALISED ... 8. If you buy your diapers in drug or medical supply stores, do you: I BUY ALL MY DIAPERS ONLINE 9. If your out shopping and need to change, do you: b. Find a restroom and change 10. If you change in restrooms when out in public, do you: I FIND THE NEAREST PUBLIC TOILET THAT I THINK WILL BE CLEAN; FORTUNATELY I RARELY HAVE TO CHANGE AWAY FROM HOME AS MY DIAPERS TEND TO LAST. 11. If you change in a public restroom, do you: d. Just change your diaper without caring who may notice what your doing I DOUBT VERY MUCH WHETHER HEARING THOSE TAPES REALLY GIVES AWAY THAT I'M NAPPIES - PEOPLE JUST DON'T THINK OF WHAT THE SOUND IS ... 12. What kind of clothes do you wear when out in your diapers: a. Jeans or regular pants that cover your diapers c. Shorts that hide your diapers DEPENDING ON THE WEATHER ... 13. When out diapered in public, do you: a. Just run normal errands like anyone else I WEAR 24/7 SO I DO EVERYTHING ... 14. Are you: a. Comfortable being out in public wearing diapers under your clothes 15. Do you wear your diapers to work a. Always 16. Do you wear diapers when you go to: YES TO ALL! a. Visit relatives at their home b. Family get togethers c. Bars or clubs d. Friends homes 17. Do you feel: c. It's OK if your diapers show out the back of your pants when you bend down I DON'T TRY TO DO THIS BUT IT'S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD IF SOMETHING SHOWS BY ACCIDENT ...