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My theory regarding this topic is that the loss of continence can be described by a sine wave, where the main curvature signals increasing or decreasing continence, but the mean picture shows a slowly decreasing pattern over time. Thus, you find things “progressing nicely” only to find things go back towards total control, then back towards a progress towards incontinence. Sometimes the curve goes back completely to the “where I started from” baseline. The sine wave will sometimes dip below where it had previously been, which may be you’ve progressed a bit further along. But alas, the curve heads back north, and you seem to get control back. But over time, you'll find the peaks to be leas than your baseline, and you will find it difficult to get that control back. My experience has been the above. After about 3 years, I stopped wearing nappies, and tried to get some control back. It was “largely” successful, but I had wet undies all the time, and increasingly skid marks too. My mental happiness was through the floor. So I’m back in nappies 24/7, and I find it increasingly harder to control #2.

This is what I like about your updates. In one paragraph you have me convinced that your Betterdry is, well, dry. A total waste of a perfectly good nappy. The next paragraph, the reality of the situation is laid bare - a wrecked nappy, beyond its service life. Excellent updates!

I have a lot of ODU onesies, and love them. My one issue with them is the placement of the snaps right down there in the crotch right between my legs. After a day’s work Ive got sores and irritation from those snaps rubbing away on my inner thighs. Not nice. I think the best placement (like others have suggested is more towards the front. If we have a front flap, and a rear flap, my thinking is the front flap is about one or two inches long, and the rear flap goes all the way around under the crotch and snaps to the front flap. That would be my ideal position.

Id think, Ferix, that the 12 month thing is standard. To be able to get gender reassignment surgery, one must live a minimum 12 months in the target gender. At the end if that, a second paych confirming the initial diagnosis, and a trip to the surgeon. Good luck. Keep at it. Don’t be discouraged by seeing a therapist. They may be your best ally and confidant in all this.

So many triggers - in the shower, getting a drink of water, standing at the petrol bowser, on the train, in an elevator, driving the car and getting pee urges, doing the dishes, getting a cup of coffee.

It's been a very hot minute (or maybe a hot year or so) since I last posted or commented on here. I've been fulltime in nappies about 3 years or so now, but I sadly have to qualify this with an asterisk. You see, I stopped wearing my nappies, as I thought that after a period of a few months of being largely dry at night that I'd beaten my IC, managing to get some control. Why did I want to get control, when I am ABDL and all that? You see, during COVID, we had to work from home, and I'm largely still am WFHing. As the weeks wore on, I got a bit depressed about the whole thing, and being inside all the time, and having activities cancelled, thus ending up with depression and a very bad habit of wearing a nappy for 24 hours straight. The end result of each nappy was very stinky pee, but largely clear of poop. I had problems as a result, with UTI's, and terrible constipation (I'd hold and hold and hold a poop until next change, whcih could be +12 hours later...). I got so depressed about the world, and so fed up about the stink of my nappies, that I started giving a shit about having to change. It was not fun, so I started to try to hold it, and try to get some control. After a few months, I found I was dry at night at times - I'd change before going to bed, and in the morning, it'd be dry, and I'd be bursting for a pee. One day, I found my knickers I'd stashed in a backpack in the garage, pulled them out, put one on, and wondered if I could stay dry. I had numerous close calls - urges that would send me to the toilet, big urges that would amount to very little output, or a tiny urge that'd turn into a torrent. I even had a few dreams at night of peeing - and waking up 100% sure I'd wet, but nothing - bone dry. I had numerous nappy dreams too. That nappy fetish was never going away it seemed. But all was not as it seemed. At first, I think I was largely successful at staying dry. My trips to the toilet were frequent, and often lacking in output. But dry was a relative term. No, I had not had outright accidents with pee running down my leg, but at the end of the day, my knickers would be wet. I'd often be sitting, and feel a drop or two touch skin. I'd get home from work, and have to change knickers due to that wetness and smell. A few days ago, I changed into a nappy. Oh heavenly bliss. If I was going to wet my knickers, I may as well wet my nappy. I very quickly noticed the urges disappear, and urination far more frequent with little volume. It has also not escaped my attention that every nappy has had some sort of poop episode. The end result is that I'm back in nappies 24x7, and I give up the idea of trying to get dry, and I also accept that whatever happens happens regarding #2 (I've had issues with that all my life). I'm ok with this, really. I don't think I was ever truly "dry" anyway, and I know I've not been at ease with myself as a result - I felt guilty about wearing knickers and self-conscious. As we come out the other end of COVID here in Australia, and life returns to normal (well, as normal as life will get here as the world rages on with it), that depression is largely behind me. I know that there are some of us here (I'm looking at you @oznl ) who wonder whether they could still be dry if the decision was made to stop after 2+ years of nappy wearing and use. Here is my thought - you will find you would be largely "dry", but this is relative to how long you've been in nappies. You could quite easily hold it, but find you'll be hypersensitive to such things that would normally set you off into a leak in nappies, such as running water, laughter (I leaked really easily when laughing), exercise, etc. Nappy training is a thing too. As soon as I got changed into a nappy, the flood gates opened, and hasn't stopped since. It'd be interesting to attempt another stop in a year or two's time, and see if I can get any sort of control. Will I go to the doc and start that whole process again I went through three years prior? No. The end result last time was no conclusion. So screw that.

It gets worse though, @oznl. The Qld Govt announced the other day that all shops who had firearms dealers/armourers licences had to close immediately for "public safety". One minister announced this was because they were worried incidences of domestic violence would increase as a result. So now they've linked the most heavily vetted people in Australia with domestic violence. Yet they continue to allow bottle shops to remain open - the one thing that directly contributes to such violence...

For me, this was often, through public school, and high school, and into University. It did gradually disappear over time whilst in Uni and later, but I've never had great bowel control. I think the problem for me was I never had any awareness of needing to go, until I got intense urges. Then it was either cross legs and bear the pain, or not. I was looked at by doctors (who did nothing more than stick a finger up my butt) and even a psychiatrist, who thought it was other issues - like laziness. My mum was told by one doctor to put me back in nappies. Mum did that a few times as punishment. I was sent to the neighbours to have mustard showed in my mouth as punishment when Mum had had enough, made to sit on toilets for an hour, put into a nappy in front of my cousins, grounded, spanked, given prunes, all the usual stuff one gets as a kid. I was teased mercilessly whilst in high school. The "stepped in doggie doo" excuse only lasted a few times. Nowadays, I'm often constipated, or have the runs, and often doubled over in pain during urges when I want to attempt delaying the inevitable until my nappy change. Problem is, that weakness is getting weaker with continued 24/7 nappy use for urinary incontinence. I've found that I get on occasion a full body-like cramp at times when an urge hits that I am powerless to stop a BM into my nappy. I do see bowel IC in my future, prolly sooner rather than later with the way my control has been more difficult.

I'd advise against that. You will be breaking the lease at your current place if you did that. The landlord would be well within his rights to claim lease payments up to the end of the lease agreement.

If you are still within your lease period, then that landlord must uphold the lease. The Tribunal would make a ruling against him, especially if you are up-to-date on rent payments. Tell him to sod off, as he cannot break it. The real estate agent should also know better.

Are you at end of lease? If not, then it will be _very_ hard and a _very_ long time before you are actually given the order to vacate. If it is end-of-lease, you may have no option, as there is usually only two to 4 weeks notice required.

I don't have his contact details. Can you send em to me please? I'd also like to have a chat about the supply lines too at the moment, as I'm wondering whether I should buy some more cases and store them.

I too am stuck at home. The commute is crazy, and I miss my 2 hours of train sleep. The client I'm at has been amazing prepared for this. As soon as they completed BCP testing, they ordered everyone home - thats well north of 10k people all working from home. Their remote access capabilities are amazing. Some of the team I work with have been explaining over online video standups that their partners are sometimes having far more difficulty in WFHing tech-wise. My biggest pain is the loss of recreational activities. I joined up with a volunteer org recently, and was so excited to start, but now all of that's on hold. But, we may be able to do training online sooner as a result of the stand-down. As for my IC situation, I see these next few weeks home could be interesting. I decided to suck up the $$ pain and buy some boxes of the BetterDry XL. Amazing, is all I can say. They fit better on me than the L's do. So go for it. Am still waiting on word re the CRinklz XL from you @oznl.

Gee, a case is quite exxy now! So I ordered two of them! I was getting quite worried that he wouldn't get stock in before I needed a refill (which would have been in about a month's time). Am a happy little camper now... Do you know what Crinklz XL he has? I couldn't see them on the LDU Website.

I also use hockey tape, but only about the length between outstretched thumb and pinkie, and placed evenly directly over the top of the diaper's tape. This is sufficient and works well to hold the diaper tape in place. To the OP, you should have a look at Onesies Downunder for onesies which will be the correct size and come in plain colours, as well as prints. Yo should also think about maybe 4-tape diapers, not two-tape ones, and get away from the Molicares/Abenas. Here in Australia, I've noticed a marked decrease in quality of the Moli's and Arenas in recent batches - the stretch tapes are really thin, held on by about 1cm of overlap with the backing sheet, and after about 30 minutes or so, tear off the backing sheet, so are useless, and the diaper will fall off or be really loose. NDIS + BetterDry or similar would be far better for you.

Oh, so LDU has fresh stock now? Awesome! I wonder if he has the XL Betterdry?

Go to Woolworths or Coles, and in the baby section ( ? ) you can find nappy bags, which you can pop the rolled up Betterdry into, then tie up. No more stinky nappy. The nappy bags i use are also slightly deodorant too.

Where I live, a bushfire started about 5km away. It was reported by some on Facebook that a pair of stoners appeared out of the bush at the time the fire started. After an hour or so, the fire had blown up so much through the scrub that the rural fire service called in aircraft. Was amazing to watch a C130 and a 737 buzz around, and dive into the smoke to drop their fire retardants. That fire was luckily moving away from my house, but we were inundated with smoke and falling black eucalyptus leaves. As I speak, I just heard some thunder! Wow, what a sound! I woke up this morning to hearing rain on the roof! What a novelty! (I do hope the lightning doesn't start another fire nearby). Yes, some areas desperately do need rain, and lots of it. More thunder! Windows creaking from the earthy vibrations! How exciting! I won't go into the causes or otherwise of these terribly massive fires, as this isn't a political discussion. I have my own views, and will leave it to other threads.

*giggles* Does wife even need to know new friends are from a diaper/AB community, rather than from your professional work community?

I had a dream the other night that was so lucid, I was dreaming I was wetting my nappy, waking up from that dream to realise I was actually in the middle of wetting, getting so excited about it, but realising I'm still dreaming, and then waking up fully from all the excitement to suddenly realise it was petering out, and wondering to myself "did I just have a pee dream?" The majority of times when I get a night-time urge, the uncomfortable pressures and pain wake me up enough that I immediately release the flood gates. I have recently started to wake up a few times in the morning to "Oh, I don't recall waking up to wet. Oh! I have a dry nappy!!". Nope, the flood gates open on waking, and my seemingly dry nappy and night, is now quite wet...

Don't worry Oz - a high-powered torch renders the person behind it almost invisible, from the glare of the bright light rendering the observer almost blind. What a fun experience though!

Cute! Keep going! Write when you can, and have fun doing it. Your writing style is great too. Keep going!

Powerful chapter.

So.. so... so tempting... licks lips. What harm could come of it if I scratched that itch, and had one bottle? Hmm...

That chapter has to be one of the most intense I’ve ever read. This reading has to be my fourth time, I think. I remember the first time I read it, crying my eyes out. Lovely and intense writing!