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Thats too bad it seems that only the girls are diapered and they are usually dry. Cool link though. Might check it out one day.

I curious why a wiki (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wiki) isn't being used for this. What you describe is perfect for a wiki based site. That way instead of attempting to consolidate a bunch of forum posts people can read/edit/ manage/ and contribute right on the site. see how wonderful Wikipedia is? the software called Mediawiki (mediawiki.org) is free and in PHP/MySQL. I have on on my site for stories (wiket.tritarget.org). Also we should attempt to keep the wikipedia site for AB/DL up-to-date and accurate (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilic_infantilism). We could include a link to the new site as a reference. After google Wikipedia and infantilism.org are the first places people go to learn about this. Cheers

Just found this thread. Sorry for the late reply. First I want to commend you for trying. AB/DL lifestyle people not only idealize a partner who is ok with it we depend on it. The reason things are difficult is the overwhelming stack of cards that stack on us socially. It's like trying to admit that masturbation is ok. Society makes such a big deal about it that the subject is quite paralyzing. and so it comes out on a binge and purge style. A mis mash of uncomfortable communication. Supporting him is the best you can do. Reassure him several times that it is ok. Now the fact your willing to put on diapers for him means you on the right track. The big question: is he attempting to force you to be turned on with them? Or is it still a form of foreplay? I would imagine the happy medium being use the diapers as a form of lingerie. Put it on and play with him. When it somes to access slid the side over or just take them off. Heck spend some time teasing him until he wants to rip them off and take you. If he like to wear you can incorporate the diaper. Rub the plastic on the outside. It will feel good on his cock. If he points up when hard you can pull the top of the diaper down allowing you access to give felacio. if he pints down you can make a slit in the diaper and have his cock poke through (can get messy if it is wet) Now on to diaper use. I can't stress this enough. Urine is Steril unless it smells foul. If it smells like something is rotting then it is infected see a doctor. Otherwise it is clean you can touch it and drink it safely. Feces on the other hand is not safe. It is very bad for you. If you do play with feces you must wash with soap and water immediately after you play (That includes brushing teeth and mouth rinse). Do not eat. I say all this because there shouldn't be a fear of urine. A wet diaper can be very sexy for a DL. And you don't want to be worried about it if you going to put your mouth on his cock. I know for me the smell is a big turn on. Also know that of it does smell of is strong tasting then he isn't drinking enough water. I recommend at least 1.5 liters of water. Usually I'll drink more. Also if he is into messing and you don;t like the smell you can substitute feces with a few bananas. Another fun thing to try if he is into using the diapers. Have him use then poke the cock out from the top. Slip the top of the diaper under the cock. Have intercourse. The weight of the diaper stuffing will fall down and hit your body during intercourse. Doggy style is exceptionally stimulating for clits that are sensitive. Last but not least use the diaper for enhanced hand jobs. Take a diaper and put lots of lube to the outside of the plastic and wrap it around the cock and stroke. (try this on yourself You'll be very surprised how it feels promise!) One of my best orgasms came from putting on a diaper inside out with lube and some water (or pee) and rub. If he is into cloth you can do all this as well. The plastic pants used are a lot of fun as well. Hope these ideas help. Remember work with him. It make take a bit of communication because he probably is a bit hyper-focused in the beginning. Reassure him that it's sexy. Also expect and communicate that expectation that if you include diapers as part of the play for his benefit then he has to include your favorite wants needs and desires as well. A relationship is a two way street. Kudos to you.

I agree. A small set of clippers makes for real easy shave and no itch. Course you have to use it more often. I stand over the toilet bow legged and shave with the electric clippers. Works like a charm. (Must be dry so I do it before my shower)

The no wash skin cleansers work well. I've used a few bottles from the hospital. I looked for some online and found this: http://www.amazon.com/Cavilon-Antiseptic-Cleanser-Bottle-Liquid/dp/B0015TI6XI I think this will work well.

OMG! I remember reading about this. It was all the rave! However I never could figure out how to shove a peeled banana up your butt. I'm sorry bananas are soft it just won't happen unless your a 10 year porn veteran. Why did I never think you could just put it in your diaper! Doh'!

Thank you. You explained that very well. I to would conclude that it would require a trade off. Like each partner negotiates the scene each time. Although I guess this could be problematic unless each player was truly open or both enjoyed each aspect. I often wondered though what is wrong with a bit of sex with scene play. Eh I should rephrase that. What I mean is why couldn't role play take on a sexual context if it was given the opportunity and still be nurturing and comforting at the same time. I don't see why once sex is incorporated that it should take away from the other emotional aspects. Take for example a common BDSM scene. Which I believe has some very definitive parallels to the AB/DL field of play. Now pain is not enjoyable and is not sexual. People usually don't actively attempt to seek pain in order to feel sexual. However in the context of a BDSM scene pain is sexual. it does provide a sexual aspect and does not take away from the emotional aspect of Dom / sub. It is incorporated into the scene. I don't see why sex or any sexual acts could not be incorporated into a scene without taking away from the emotional aspect of the role play. Because we have the ability to create what ever head space we want. Imagination is great. Perhaps I'm not as experienced as I should be but I like to think that I wouldn't lock myself into one way of thinking and not beable to accept and enjoy other ways of play.

I often contemplated this. I seem to run into many women who say that they like the acting like a child. But the idea of actually wearing a diaper for sexual reasons is offensive. I know the implication is I've met all the wrong girls. But it still is a quandary for me. It does seem like a separation on the spectrum. Woman seem to associate with the role play and non sexuality of the lifestyle were the men seem to focus on the sexual aspects more prominently then the emotional. Is this more of a social acceptance these days? Is it a conditioning we grow up with? But I guess the real question for me is where do you draw the line. I'm a big advocate for being respectful for others boundaries and ideas. And this "two camps" idea of the AB/DL lifestyle I find some what frightening. I mention this only because the acceptance from one camp verses the other seems not equal. I know for me the lifestyle is both non-sexual and sexual. Depending on the circumstances. For example if I just wear a diaper and play as a baby. I could enjoy a non-sexual scene with my partner. But if the scene includes some sexual content then it becomes very sexual for me. This duality seems wholly appropriate for me but have seen in many forums that for others it is either all or nothing. Can you have both worlds and still have a productive and satisfying scene for both parties regardless of the interest (sexual or non-sexual) of the players?

I would guess: Less Attention Although I will not claim that I had a poor childhood. It was in my opinion a good one. But my parents were negative in there interactions. Causing what we now know as mental abuse. They also divorced but that was not tramatic as we had long heart to heart dicussions and I felt secure in the break up. I don't have a definitive reason (besides the sexual one) as to why I like diapers or why I like Adult Baby thoughts. I do know it is difficult to classify myself as most of my interests don't fall compleatly into one or more catagory. I sort of take a little bit of interest from them all.