Mr. Sea Otter

I have been meaning to post this little story for a bit, but am just now finding the time. I fly a fair amount for work, and as a rule I always fly diapered. It really not a big deal to me since I wear diapers most of the time anyways. I have changed a few diapers in the airplane lavatory before and its not exactly the best place to do it, its really small. I much prefer to wait until I land and use one of the "family restrooms" that many airports (and lots of other places too) have these days. Much more room, some actual privacy, and a cleaner floor. Anyways, I was flying back from Hawaii on a red eye flight to the DFW airport. I didn't get much sleep so I was pretty tired and kind of out of it as I got off the plane (it was also like 6AM local time). I had to switch terminals to catch a connecting flight. When I got the my gate I had enough time to go change my diaper, which after 8 hours really needed it. I know the airport pretty well cause I fly through there all the time. So I went off to one of the family restrooms that I have used before. I get inside the bathroom, close and lock the door and start changing. Somebody tries the door, but its locked, and then they really try to come in, turning the handle and stuff (thank goodness for the lock). I eventually mumbled something to the effect of "somebody's in here". I finish up and grab all my bags and leave. I get outside and some guy (maybe 40ish) is watching the door and sees me leave. He turns and yells to somebody I cant see (the person was around a corner) and says "He's out now. Yea. He shouldn't have been in there, but hes out now." I hear this and kind of pause. I turn around, look at the guy and shoot him a "WTF?" look. He looks right at me and say "You shouldn't be in there. That bathroom is for people in wheel chairs." I don't know if it was because I was tired or what, but I stopped walking away from him, paused, and turned around. Looking straight at his face I walked right up to him and we had a very short conversation. "Look man, that bathroom is for families and people with special needs." I started. He cut me off quickly, "That's right, for people in wheel chairs and stuff." I cut him off in return, "Look man, not everybody with special needs is in a wheel chair. I was in there changing my diaper. I hate changing my diaper in a bathroom stall OK?" He really didn't have any response and with that I walked away.

Just my luck, I order the day before the price drop! Oh well, I am happy to support a company that is happy to support me.

I looked into doing it with my health plan. The fine print stated that it needed to be for a medical problem, which I have to admit I do not have. I could go to a Dr. and lie, or submit a false claim, but its not worth it for me.

This is all really sad. Enjoy whatever comes next Heidi, we will miss you.

I was there and yea, I was diapered (duh). It really wasn't as big of a deal getting there and stuff as I thought it was going to be. And I saw plenty of portapotties that had no lines. I think planners / the media folks did a pretty good job of convincing enough folks that it was going to be total chaos, so many stayed home. Yea, it was cold, and yes, it was crowded. But being there was really amazing and I am very glad I went.

I have always been curious. For those of you with bowel incon... do you ever mess yourself at night while you are sleeping? Or does it only happen in the day when you are awake? Just something I have always wondered.

I kind of agree with the whole 'take the high road' approach. People see through BS like that pretty quickly.

I just got a case of mediums earlier this week. Can't say I noticed any difference....

I don't want to start a political thread here, but I am curious if anybody else went to the Obama inauguration? I braved the crowds and saw it myself (diapered of course). Anybody else make it down to the mall? It was just incredible how many people were there.... Later my girlfirend and I were talking, and I asked her how many people (not counting kids) she thought were in diapers there. We figure between the old folks, those who can't stand porta-poties (I heard 1 pottie per 6,000 people!), and those who were smart enough to realize that you could very easily get stuck in a crowd (I got stuck for nearly two hours trying to leave!), that there were probably thousands if not tens of thousands. Not sure how many were AB/Dl though...

I've done it and enjoyed it. Can be lots of fun actually. I agree that the mood has to be right.

I bet part of the reason you feel so "contradicted" is because you have these two sides to your personality that have never been allowed to interact.... you talk about "outside of this world I'm" and refer to the "DL world" as something where you are different. I'm not sure that is a good explanation.... what I am trying to say is that because you have such a distinct line between the two, you feel the way you do. I for one am with everyone else.... tell her and tell her before you get married. I agree with others; she has a right to know. And I think more importantly, you have a right to share it with her and be accepted!!! As for how to bring it up, well, you know her best. I am something of a fan of bringing it up somewhat causally, but in your instance that might be difficult. You might go the rout of sending her a letter and telling her that you have something you want to share. Regardless, at some point you will be telling her, and when you are, just be honest. Tell her how special she is to hear this, and how much you had to trust her to share it.

Yea, I experience the 'loss of interest' sometimes. But I am not as big into wearing a wet diaper like you are (I don't mind them, but a dry diaper feels better to me). I usually just keep mine on. But I am not sleeping next to anyone when I do stuff like what you are talking about. Does your wife know you do that? If your ashamed of being caught or something, that will certainly exacerbate your feelings of guilt.

If all you have ever used your whole life are depends, I can't image how different (and better) a Bambino would feel. :-)

While I think the previous two posts are a bit harsh, I have to agree with them. Go meet her first. Spend some months together and figure it out. I for one can't image being "in love" with somebody I had never actually touched... I mean, I don't really think it is possible. But maybe my definition of love is different from yours. I think a lot of us are so concerned with meeting somebody who will "accept" diapers, that we forget that there is a whole lot of other stuff that is, frankly, more important.

A-freakin-Men brother. I think you are also right in that your friend probably won't say much if anything. Its one thing if your friend in high school find out. Its quite another when you in your 30s.

You will likely have to read the fine print on your policy. I looked into the idea and found that in order for me to use my FSA I would need a signed letter from a Dr. stating that I really needed them. I don't really need them, and I am not going to lie to a Dr to get her/him to sign a paper saying I do. Good luck,

Here is a good rule to live by: Lie to the cops. Don't lie to your doctor. Seriously, being anything but 100% open with your doctor is a really bad idea. I have gone to a couple of different doctors in the past few years and I went in a diaper. I don't need to wear a diaper, I do so by choice. The visits with the docs were for physicals and to establish a relationship with a primary care person, although one was with a urologist for something that I thought might be testicular cancer (it wasn't and I'm totally fine). The visits were no big deal. We discussed family medical history, and past problems I have had etc etc. After she (I prefer female docs) finished with her questions I said something to this effect (really): "So, there is one thing I need to mention. I believe you should lie to the cops, not your doctor (she thought that was funny). Anyways, I know its kind of different, but I wear diapers. There is nothing physically wrong with me, its just kind of a life style choice." I was then asked if I used them for everything (no, just wetting occasionally) and if I was sure that there was nothing wrong (I'm totally sure, I've never had an "accident"). After that it was 'Well, OK then. Lets have you take a few deep breaths' and the normal routine. The thing to keep in mind is that the Dr. is going to respond to the information based on how you convey it. If you are totally freaking out, ashamed, or whatever, they might be a bit alarmed. On the other hand, if you are open and honest about it, and come across as being OK with it, they probably won't even blink. My docs certainly didn't. So to answer your questions, by all means say the word diaper. Just accept the fact that you are going to be honest with this person because you need to be! They are not going to ridicule you, they are not going to call you a freak or tell people you know (hello lawsuit!).

Here is a link to a story on the show. Also has a different picture, although it is not much better..... http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080925/ap_on_...kZ4vfIaWjEZ.3QA

It usually is. As I have said before.... wearing diapers will be as big of a deal as you choose to make it. I am happy for you. :-)

Chalk me up on the side of the skeptical. Having actually finished grad school, and conducted a real survey to do that, I feel pretty confident that this is not going to be used in any class or for a thesis. You don't just make up a survey and throw it out there... your adviser looks it over and you talk about it.

I couldn't even watch the whole thing it was so bad.

Uh, I never really check this newbie forum, just happened to click it for a change, but I can say that is NOT how this community normally welcomes people! If you have been a long time lurker, you probably already know that. So, lets try this again. Welcome to DD! I hope you enjoy your stay. -Mr. Otter

I'll throw in my review since I bought a bag.... they are a nice diaper, cute and the tapes are strong. Big sticking point for me is that they don't have the absorbency of the diapers I prefer (Secure X-plus, or bambinos). They are a fun change of pace though.

I also travel a lot for work. I have never, ever had an experience like that. I make no effort to do anything with my diapers other than throw them away in whatever trash can the hotel provides. As for worrying about my diapers "getting back to my employer" from the hotel....that is really an odd concern that I have never even thought of. I don't think it is anything you need to worry about. What are they going to do? "Sir, we have a diaper in the trash can of room 412! Quick, cross check the registry and lets find out who that person is and where they work and report them!" I just don't see it happening. Like others have said, stay in decent hotels. And ditto on the rewards programs. Show them one of those cards and they will treat you very well. With pushy clerks like the one you had it is sometimes a good idea to push back.... "I'm sorry, but why are you asking me this?" or "What are you getting at sir/ma'am?" will often shut them up. -Mr. Otter

I also kind of think that might be going a bit too far.