rubbersheetmike

I think its important to come to terms with your parents when you had a difficult childhood. My mother died when I was a young adult but my father lived quite a long life and died only a few years ago. He admitted that he and my mother had made mistakes but put it down to things being done differently decades ago. He also admitted that a neighbor had threatened on a few ocassions to contact child services because of my mothers inability to properly cope with her kids particularly I think because she had an alcohol problem. Personally I don't its healthy to let our childhood relationships with our parents permanently define us even though clearly they have big effects. We have to accept that our parents are/were imperfect adults and come to terms with that.

My mother always changed the wet bedding and pjs when I was young or at least dried them on the line outside in summer. When I got old enough I was shown how to use the washing machine and dryer and it became my responsibilities to clean up from bedwetting. I still got scolded for it especially if I didnt clean up. I learned my lesson on that when she hung my wet sheets out on the clothesline to dry and then after school told me in front of friends to get my dried but stained sheets off the line because it was supposed to rain.

I dont mind getting older is some ways. I dont have to worry about work at this stage mainly because health issues have stopped me from working. And age is an acceptable excuse for wetting. Buying diapers or wetting supplies barely results in any awkward commentary or strange looks these days.

I have urge IC although its now being controled with a medication. Before going on a med though I would often almost instantly have to go when I stood up after sitting or lying down and once my bladder released I couldnt stop it. Usually before getting up I seldom felt I had to pee at all.

Sometimes you just have to experiment to figure out what gets you going. I realized fairly early that I was stimulated by watersports and sought out these experiences. Finding partners who also enjoy it is the trickier part. If both partners share the interest its a lot more interesting and fun.

Wearing protection is probably your best bet. Pullups are likely the best solution and are pretty discreet. Seeing a doctor is probably a good idea. Urge and/or overflow IC can be a sign of a more serious underlying illness so you want to rule that out. If not a bigger issue there are meds that can sometimes help control urine issues.

I was threatened with spanking for bedwetting more than getting spanked for it although was spanked for it several times and more often for pants wetting.

From my mid 20s to my mid 40s my bedwetting was very minimal but returned again in my mid 40s mainly at first caused by increased drinking. I dont know if this is uncommon for people who had bedwetting problems when younger but it might be.

I use a fitted vinyl sheet on my mattress even though my username refers to the fact that growing up my mom used a rubber sheet on my bed. I think either is pretty effective.

For me I think its more a psychological need for protection "just in case" anything happens. I can usually make it to the toilet and have learned where they are in the places I usually go but don't want to take the chance of being caught short especially now that I frequently feel that my bladder is full even when its not. As for nighttime unless I've been drinking or am really stressed I'm usually safe going without but I think I sleep better using protection.

Lately I've had a recurrant dream during the night that I'm wetting my pants and cant stop. In my dream I look down and see the pee gushing through the front of my pants and running down my legs while I'm in a crowd of people. Years ago I used to have a regular dream that I was peeing into a lake off the end of a dock but was alone and the dream didnt seem distressing like the current one does. I've read that these kind of dreams can be related to a loss of control in real life or a fear of losing control. Has anybody else had these kinds of dreams and if yes do they usually result in bedwetting?

So, in my case spanking was probably justified? Thats an interesting question. Did your mother know when it wasnt accidental? If she did maybe punishment was justified. As I got older I sometimes wet on purpose too mainly to keep the rubber sheet on my bed. The incentive to stop bedwetting was that the rubber sheet would be removed after a specified number of 'dry' months but I made sure that didnt happen. Did my mother know? I dont think so. But she stopped punishing for bedwetting anyway when I was in my early teens. I just had to do my own laundry which didnt seem like a huge sacrifice.

This was my experience too. In the past it was often commonplace to spank for many issues even though today that wouldnt probably be the case. We were sometimes spanked for what now seem to be pretty minor infractions like lying or talking back or challenging authority.

I have no problem wetting when Im sitting. When Im on the computer I can go several times over a few hours without ever having to stand up.

The vinyl or plastic sheet is a pretty strong give away for sure. Ive slept alone for a long time now but I remember having to explain away the distinctive crinkle of matress protection. The last time this happened I told a date I recently had pneumonia (which was true) and was protecting the mattress from damage from excessive sweating.

Im just going by what I believe a lot of people still think. I dont think tolerance is as strong as a lot of people like to think it is. Younger people have grown up in an environment where gay bi and trans people are visible but not long ago these people weren't. I doubt that being an abdl is widely tolerated either although most likely wouldnt know if somebody is. A lot of people still equate sexual preference or lifestyle difference with negative things even if theres no logical reason for it. For those of us who know the difference theres no problem but we cant always assume that others think this way.

I wet regularly into puberty. After about age 10 though my father wouldnt allow me or my older brother to be diapered because he felt it encouraged bedwetting. We had rubber sheets on top of our mattresses and had to strip our bedding every morning and take it and wet pajamas to the laundry room. My mom usually ran the bedding through the washer and dryer every morning but sometimes when the weather was nice she just hung everything outside on the clothesline to dry. When we reached our early teens and after the frequency of bedwetting declined quite a bit we had to do our own laundry.

I was sober enough to get my diaper on before going to bed after ringing in the new year. A little leakage as usual but not a flood like in the pic. Good one though.

I used to get mine in the bedding section of a department store but now buy at a medical supplies store. Your better off to buy somethings thats a little more durable and more expensive. The cheaper plastic/vinyl sheets can get brittle and crack and split. Staff at med supply stores are usually pretty good with providing advice and are not judgmental because their used to dealing with these issues. The internet suppliers are good too as long as you know what you need and want.

NotToBigForDiaper: Do you have urge incontinence too like I do?

My experience was more like Dougie 1970s. Although my parents were annoyed by my bedwetting they were more negative about my pants wetting.

Im bi and realized this in my early 20s. I think people associate being LGBT with anything else they see as sexually different. Its just an unfair way to categorize things. I get the sense on this site that most ABDLs are actually hetero which would probably surprise many out there.

I have a fitted white poly cotton blend absorbing pad on my bed under the sheets and over top of the mattress protector. Ive used it for quite a while although its still in good condition. Its not frayed and has no holes in it. The only problem is that its got some rather noticeable urine staining that wont come out even after washing. I didnt worry about it too much until a friend was visiting a few months ago after I was in the hospital and she did some cleaning and laundry for me and commented on the stains. I told her the situation was illness related and she said nothing more about it but it was embarassing anyway. Is there away to remove these stains from the pad?

I have a couple comments and questions. Are you taking any medications that could cause you to have to pee so much during the night? I had this experience a while back when I was on a high dose of medical steroids. I couldnt stop peeing at night and made sure to wear a diaper because even if I was awake when I had to go I couldnt always make it to the bathroom. I also wonder if weight plays a role in bladder control. I am 40 pounds heavier now than I used to be mainly due to psychiatric meds I think. Since gaining the weight I seem to have more problems with bladder control. Again it could be more the fault of the meds but I often wonder if the weight plays a role. I have had problems with daytime urge incontinence since gaining weight and have read there can be connection.

My point is that during the discussion he seemed to misrepresented or fudge some of his circumstances. I wondered whether he was 18 and when I asked him a few times he said he was but then sometimes answered questions in ways that suggested he wasn't. When he eventually told me he was on his computer at school I wondered about how much of what he told me was real and what was not.