rubbersheetmike

I communicated with a couple people I met through PO boxes. Somebody told me about a gay mag that ran personal ads for people with fetishes and I nervously picked up a copy of it and sent out a couple letters. I had a phone relationship with one guy for quite a while but never met him. I also communicated by mail with another guy who said he was a bedwetter a few times. But I think the internet makes things easier.

There was no internet when I was growing up and for a long time I thought I was the only person in the world fixated on these interests. I actually learned before having access to the internet that some people had similar interests. But I think the internet allowed us to communicate openly with likeminded people which I think is a good thing. I was fixated on wetting before DL. I have to admit I'm not AB though. DPF was my first online site as well. I liked it and was sad it was shut down after Tommy died.

I think its a bit unusual to start wetting the bed again after being dry unless alcohol or a medical problem is involved. I went several years from my mid 30s to mid 40s without having an actual accident and then after getting heavily drunk at a party one night woke up soaked early the next morning. It was a shock especially because Id stopped using bedwetting protection. During my "dry" period I seldom drank but mainly due to psychological and relationship issues had began doing it again in the period just before the big accident. I brought a new mattress cover pretty quickly and diapers shortly after that.

I have a soaker pad over a fitted plastic mattress cover. I wrecked a mattress when I first moved out of my parents place years ago. Replacing mattresses is expensive so taking precaution is a lot easier and cheaper in the long run.

Thanks for that. I got the dosage cut once and its helped a bit. The main problem now is that while I often feel like I have to pee I release very little urine when I try to go unlike before the med when it just flowed. The attitude when I raise the issue seems to be that drugs have side effects so you just have to adjust to them.

Sorry to hear about all of that. My parents werent quite as severe as that thank goodness. My father was against the use of diapers after we started school because he felt it encouraged wetting. I had to wear training pants (thick underpants) under plastic pants at school a few times after accidents and that was no fun especially when others noticed because the plastic made crinkling noise. Pants wetting wasnt uncommon when I was in grade school but I got teased for it sometimes. After a cluster of accidents in 5th grade I was shunned by others who didnt want me on sports teams or as a group partner. It was later determined that the accidents were likely caused by petit mal seizures something that wasnt realized at first because I usually had major convulsive epileptic seizures throughout my childhood, a situation caused after I was thrown out of a car in a car accident. Seat belts werent common or compulsory back then. I used to cry to try to avoid spankings for bedwetting but my mom was at least sympathetic sometimes but not always. She died when I was a young adult but my father later apologized for the harsh punishments we got for often minor infractions. He said he was raised under the "spare the rod spoil the child" school of parenting and only much later came to realize the problems and resentments it caused. It think your right that it impacts interests and fetishes.

I go more often but also have less urine when I do go. I feel like I have to go but unless Ive been drinking beer or a lot of liquids it seldom seems like enough to be a full bladder. I take a med now for muscle control and it helps through the day with less bladder urgency issues but also a sense that my bladder never fully empties. At night it doesnt seem to make much difference. I often wake up and feel a bit of bladder pressure but figure not enough for a full bladder and then go back to sleep. And then I wet without knowing it. If I wear a diaper its not a big deal obviously but sometimes I dont and its more inconvenient but theres always protection on the mattress anyway.

I agree. When I was younger I felt like I was the only one with these interests. I also think that a lot of us in our 50s and 60s start experiencing a decrease in our function control so theres a kind of natural community among the older age groups. Im glad so many on here are comfortable with stating their actual age because its not always the case.

I couldnt wait much time at all until I started on a new med a few months ago. Now though I can hardly pee when I feel like I have to go. Im not sure which is worst.

I have some loose fitting black nylon shorts that I wear without undies in the summer. I love to sit outside after drinking a few beers and let it flow. They dry really fast.

Your response on this topic got pushed down the list so I guess I didnt see it earlier. Anyway I think your experience is similar to lot of us who are over a certain age. My parents were very frustrated with me and my brother who were overage bedwetters and a family friend recommended a disciplinary response which I think was more common decades ago. When after a couple years it wasnt very effective and was leading to other discipline problems they changed tactics. I also recall the no liquids after 7 pm and 4 am alarm wakeups that we had to deal with for years. Finally my mother said we were old enough to do our own laundry and after that we only got in trouble if we didnt wash our wet bedding and pjs.

A wet bed only bothers me if I wake up in the middle of the night. If I wake up with one in the morning its not really a big deal. I take a heavy duty psychiatric med that usually makes me sleep right through so its not usually a problem.

Sometimes pee just happens. As long as the bed is protected I think theres no harm in it.

I agree with this. I had nighttime bowel incontinence about a decade ago and it bothered me a lot more than bedwetting. It happened to me during the daytime too but I didnt pay a lots of attention until it started happening more at night. I went to several doctors before they figured out the problem that was actually caused by an overproduction of thyroid hormones so Ive had to take meds for that ever since. At least it stopped the nightly mess I had with loss of bowel control.

I dont think Ive every seen that. Were these adult diapers? I worked years ago for a couple summers in a motel and they had wetting bedpad protection they would use when asked that was usually requested by parents. Ive seen and used adult diapers that are stacked in hospital rooms but never ran into this in a hotel. Not that I travel anymore I guess. Maybe things have changed?

I wet when I was younger until puberty and then in my late teens and 20s when I was drinking a lot. And then I was dry for most of two decades but it started again. I think it was a change in meds that started it because I was on a different medical treatment. It became more regular and I just adjusted to it.

I got sent to sports camp for 2 weeks every summer for 3 years after the later grades in elementary school and the first year of high school. The first 2 years I got assigned to the special needs cabin where there were vinyl covered mattresses but I hated it because we were labelled as bedwetters because that was the main reason for the cabin. The last year though I convinced my mom not to check the special needs box and at first things went well until the end of the first week when we had a long hike and then a big bonfire and hotdog roast and lots of soda pop to drink. I woke up the next morning in a soaked sleeping bag and tried to hide it and get one of the coach/counsellors to help me clean up. But the other boys quickly found out. It was really embarassing and I was teased although a camper in another cabin had a bedwetting accident a couple nights later and that took some of the attention off me.

Thats a good system. I remember years ago when I was in a relationship having seperate beds because of the wetting but otherwise it worked okay.

Its okay as long as you dont get embarrased for it. For me theres no need to tell anybody on a personal level. But if you have to go through a process to get them covered under disability benefits though it can be embarrasing like being asked for a medical note explaining the reasons. I avoid that now even though maybe Im giving up on getting something I could have covered but its not worth the aggrevation to explain.

A friend got me started at looking at Tumblr two or three years ago. Then it seemed not much later that a lot of the erotic content started getting deleted. I guess the concern for the site admins was or is porn. Im never sure whether some adult fetish or lifestyle stuff like diapers or wetting is porn when no nudity or sex is involved. Its a tough call sometimes so I guess they chosed to take the safest way out. But it seems to me theres fewer sites all the time for erotic or fetish interests and especially fewer free sites that are useful to people like me who dont have much money.

My childhood bedwetting slowed down during puberty and stopped in my early teens except for a few accidents. Then I wet heavily when I moved out of my parants place after high school because I was drinking heavily but I got that under control by my mid 20s. And then in my 40s it started again at first a few times after drinking and then more often. Personally I think it had to do with a change in health and medications but Im not sure.

I went to work after high school and got my own place. Ive read stories about people who went to collage or in the military and wet and I always think how bad that would have been for them. I think if its just accidents like from partying and drinking a lot it would probably be okay but if its regular wetting then its a lot more difficult to deal with.

I looked at this survey and couldnt really answer. What counts for abuse today wasnt really the case years ago. A lot of us old timers (50+) got physically punished when we were younger including at home and at school. And some of us had parents who treated bedwetting as a discipline issue which in my case I think did contribute to some of my later fetishes. Now parents I think are more enlitened but there are still a lot of younger people on sites like this so I think that theres a lot more to our fetishes than the way our parents treat us. I dont think its productive to blame others because we have to accept who we are.

I didnt like it at all when I was young. It wasnt until puberty when I started to like it and want to do it even when I started to have less accidents. A counselor once told me this might have been because I enjoyed the attention wetting got me even if it was negative attention. I also shared a room with a bedwetting brother who was an athlete and a top student in both cases not like me so bedwetting didnt make me feel like there was something wrong with me. I sure didnt want my parents to remove the rubber sheet from my bed. It was like a security blanket and I was able to make sure I kept it late into my teens.

If every kid or teen who got spanked turned out to be violent my generation would have filled the jails. I think there might be more likelihood of it where its combined with psychological abuse or neglect but thats probably true with or without spanking. My father apologized to some us later in life for the kind of punishment we received when younger. I guess he had a lot of guilt about it. I wish he would have apologized instead for the fact that we didnt get much parental attention, respect or individual support. We were never encouraged or complimented and most of the attention we got was negative. As I said to one of my sisters recently I cant remember my father ever calling me by my first name. Mostly I got called by names like hippie (because my hair was too long according to him), bonehead or worse. So when I think of any resentments I have about my childhood spanking is well down the list. To be fair my mother was kinder although she had lots of problems of her own. I think kids can be raised without spanking and I also think if it is used it should be done as a last resort.