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When I have worn nappies I have always tried to simulate incontinence meaning I always try and keep my urinary sphincter muscle completely relaxed. with time this has resulted in me dribbling and dripping all the time without the clench relax. There is a huge difference with flooding and dribbling. With flooding you will get 2/3 wettings out the nappy until the front of it becomes saturated and it starts to leak at the top and around the legs cuffs, the nappy doesn't wick to the back of the pad. When dribbling you can make the nappy last so much longer and you will start to resemble a person with true incontinence, either stress/total incontinence. You need to practice keeping your sphincter open and dribbling at the slightest urge. At first you will automatically clench but with time you will wet without clenching. This totally changes the feeling. I go with premium nappies. At the beginning when your flooding cheaper nappies they will be rubbish resulting in more changes and higher cost as the capacity and absorbency isn't there. At first you will have a higher cost with premium nappies too but when you become a dribbler they last so longer and you can easley get 4/6 hours out a nappy as the pee distributes around the nappy. I pay £160 month for 12 packets of Molicare (14 per pack) With premium nappies you with have more confidence with the product which helps with wetting around people as they are less likely to leak. With going 24/7 and bowel incontinence I found the two are closely related. Because I keep my sphincter relaxed it has an effect on the anal sphincter. i find that when I poo in my nappy the clench reflex is much reduced. Its notable because I don't automatically clench and the anal sphincter is more relaxed. I think when trying for urinary incontinence bowel incontinence can follow because both muscle can become weaker.

Do you flood or dribble? What are your experiences with both? I have noticed that the capacity of my nappy holds more with frequent little dribbles keeping my sphincter completely relaxed. Before I would have little floods and it would over saturate the front of the nappy and which resulted in more changes.

I've learned to keep my urethral sphincter in a totally relaxed state all the time, admittedly it was a gradual process but I'm now at the point that I constantly feel the need to pee even after I have peed. When I do pee its a very weak stream and its either a small gush or dribble and it surprises me really because my bladder feels really sensitive and full. Its a constant feeling like I need to pee. I concentrate to wet but the slightest drip comes out and it doesn't relieve the feeling to pee. When I have finished peeing there is no clench reflex. I can gush and dribble while sitting/walking/in bed. My nappy saps the wetness up so much better. I also find it hard to sleep because of the urge to pee and I wake up many times a night needing to pee, I wet them fall back to sleep. Now this is not the normal process of achieving incontinence because its not what people talk about, I'm wondering what happens next? Will it turn into incontinence? Is it slight urge at the moment and what is the next step?

I went to Play Therapy when I was 11 in 1997. I was in a long term foster home at that time. I used to steal Attends nappies from my special school and hind the used one around the house.

I do love wearing nappies. I can't say I have any difficulties wearing nappies or affording them its just when I become horny and and play with myself I lose interest depending on my arousal level. Its not a binge/purge thing because I'm way past feeling ashamed.

I'm interested to know if continued non-clenching of the sphincter after wetting has any negative side effects on the ability of the sphincter to maintain its ability to hold urine. The ambivalent nature of my incontinence desires makes me go long periods wearing nappies 24/7 and peeing without clenching or exercising my sphincter, I just pee in sort bursts and dribbles. I'm very good at not clenching my sphincter. And then I go periods where I abstain from wearing and I find myself needing the toilet more often and I have a large after dribble when I finish. I also find myself having trouble falling asleep because I sense the urge to pee. What effects is this having on me? What are the long term consequences?

I was in a orthopaedic hospital when I was 5 and the only memory I have is sitting in a private room while my mother was talking to another women in the room, in the bed was a severely mentally disabled person and he had a large pile of blue adult nappies on his bedside table. I remember being fascinated with them and I ask my mother if I could have one which the women was happy for me to have one. I can't remember wearing it but I do remember tossing it under the bed next to me. To this day I love blue medical looking nappies. I think the nappies he had were early Molicares and now Molicares are my everyday nappy.

It's been a fantasy of mine to become bowel incontinent. The fantasy involves wearing larger and larger Buttplugs 24/7 until my anal sphincter has lost all it's elasticity making me incontinent and trapped in incontinence pads for life. I like the thought of uncontrollably messing myself. There isn't much information online from people who have previously tried this. I read a case study on guinea pigs about damaging effects of anal stretching on the external anal sphincter which concluded that after a short time the anal muscle atrophies from being hold open constantly. Does anybody have any thought or input into what happens on the anal sphincter if somebody was to wear a large Buttplug 24/7. I'm more interested in people opinions than damaging my body.

I order my plastic Molicare Slip from Dorset Nursing Supplies and indeed they are a good price. I haven't tried the cloth version and I'm unlikely too because I hate cloth backed nappies.

Molicare slip is my go to everyday Nappy. I love them.

I'm sorry I don't like large crowds but thank you for offering.

We have all been there, It took me years of practice to wet freely . Can you only pee when you've got a full bladder so you end up flooding your nappy? I think you being able to wet while standing is a good thing at the moment. From now on its all about being comfortable and having security in your nappies. Unconsciously something is preventing you from relaxing your sphincter and feeling safe. Continue wetting while standing and slowly work toward other things like like bending slightly while wetting, get used to other positions. Its all about muscle memory . It will come with practice.

I'm looking into purchasing some plastic pants primarily to contain bowel accidents. What is the difference between pull up plastic pants and snap on plastic pants? If you have a nappy leakage and the plastic pants contain the leakage do you have to change them? If your a 24/7 wearer do you have any tips on maintaining plastic pants?

The thing is if you purchase your own you will still continue getting your monthly supply delivered and over the months your supply gets larger and larger. We are talking 5 nappies a day/35 a week/140 nappies a month = 3 cases a month - could you keep up with it?

And this supply had no baring on your financial obligations as they will be free and was delivered every 28 days. Would you wear 24/7. The only thing is if you canceled the order the continuous supply would end and you would have to buy your own nappies from now on. You only get to purchase one brand of medical incontinece nappies of your choose as AB nappies would be to obvious and would be denied. Would you do it?

The only thing I can think of is we are blessed with having Sherwood Forest on our doorstep plus we have all the old railway trails left from when the mines where open.

No. I keep my need for pads as discreet as possible although with the nature of my wearing its hard for my support staff not to know I wear pads. I don't flaunt it. Because I live in a shared house with 3 other people and wear 24/7 it has come out in the open amount my peers and staff but they respect my privacy.

Depot is antipsychotic injection done monthly.

I have support staff supporting me to live independently and live in supported living. If I were to get confronted my support staff have badges so they would show it in my defence.

I'm diagnosed with Schizoaffective disorder and intellectual disability. The ASD is not a full diagnosis but when I was in Highbury hospital the psychiatrist I seen at the time specialised in autistic spectrum disorders so I think see saw traits in me.

Not only has DD lost quite a lot of posts but some posts are missing their content. Its a shame because there was such a wealth off information in the missing posts and if your reading a thread most of the information is gone so makes it hard to follow. I think if DD lost many of the older posts especially the IC desires ones it would be a huge lose to our community because i think them posts are priceless. It actually makes me feel sad.

What kind of reception have you had using Changing Places toilets. Do people confront you if you don't have an obvious disability. How do you go about it if confronted. I'm especially interested because I'm from Nottinghamshire and its a pain using normal toilets because they don't have proper bins to dispose off pads. I have a radar key but not used it yet because I'm worried about the opinions of other people especially disabled people because I'm able bodied and can't deal with confrontation.

When I was hospitalised it was assumed I had ASD because of my black and white thinking but it was decided I just have traits.

Basically if you don't use your penis for its intended purpose, i.e, regular sexual activity, the blood flow to your penis decreases and overtime this causes erectile dysfunction. I think this has happened to me from prolonged nappy wearing and keeping my sphincter muscle in a totally relaxed state when I'm wearing which sometimes has been for months at a time. My penis is 90% flaccid, even when I masturbate it still remains flaccid but playable if I massage it but it rarely gets hard and it takes me ages to climix, I have to give my hand a rest because it starts to ache. When I do climix its a very weak discharge, sometimes I discharge without climaxing. When I was early 20s I had to fight the erections off when wearing nappies, now nappies don't even excite me like they used to do. What do you think all this means? I think this is why I've found it very easily to revert to completely keeping my sphincter muscle relaxed and open all the time when wearing and letting things dribble out, I could stub my toe and my sphincter won't automatically clench, this has taken years of practice. I'm going 24/7 and am surprised at how easy it is to wet, I don't know if this is post-dribble but I am noticing I am dripping small amounts of pee when I do light excise such as sanding up or sitting down, it feels like a little drop. I'm not a over-sexual person so it doesn't bother me being impotent. It actually excites me for some reason. I have had a blood test for unrelated things and everything came back normal even my prolactin and testosterone levels so I don't think it's any external influence. So for 24/7 wearers who are incontinent do you have any sexual dysfunction or erection problems? Have you noticed a difference from then when you were continent? For people wanting incontinence how do you feel about losing your erections if you achieve incontinence? Would you still go down the incontinence route even if it mades you impotent?

I have to go for a depot injection every month. I always wear but I have the injection I’m my arm although the nurse know I wear pads.