BabyLexi

I am sorry that you were involved in a MVA. I'm also sorry that your wife left you because she couldn't stand your need for incontinence products. I am sure you will find someone just like I eventually will once I'm ready for that step. Incontinence is nothing to be ashamed of.

Thank you both for the welcomes.

If you really needed diapers (which it does sound like) then you would get them. Ergo, like they say if you're not comfortable with something then you're not ready for it. Therefore you wasted the OP time, My time, and LuvsGirl time.

This just told me one thing. Your intentions were never really so much as need rather the desire to wear a diaper. I feel offended for the OP for having to waste her time reading all of this.

Seems to me that you're wanting to make mountains out of mole hills. What's the big deal if someone knows or sees you in a diaper.

No purse or bookbag? Are you ashamed of them? Anyone who comes into my room can see diapers and everything. Then again being in a wheelchair people generally think you're incontinent. Diapers are an aid to manage something. I'm not ashamed of them.

Do you have anyone who could buy you some? If your living with your family you could always say you need them because you have a heavy flow and pads don't work.

That makes me think of the Poise pullups. Don't know if their still made or not.

Thank you both for your comments.

I am someone who looks at things sunny side up. I'm not mad that I have an SCI, incontinence, or am wheelchair bound. On the contrary I have actually embraced it all. Additionally, I love the wheelchair that I have albeit an expensive one.

Is that a good or bad statement? Also, thanks for the welcome.

Thanks for the welcome. I am sure none of that is very easy. Are you also wheelchair bound?

Thank you for the welcome.

I'm incontinent but even if I wasn't I would stay in diapers and still use them.

I'm guessing since you posted your story that you're open to opinions/thoughts. While I can understand your frustration you really have to ask yourself only one question. It's the question no married person wants to answer. At what price are you willing to pay to stay with your wife? As I recently said in a another post does your wife really "love" you? I have defined love as the unconditional acceptance of a persons faults, tribulations, and quirks.

Ever since I was younger I had a rough life. It all started when I was in kindergarten and had to walk half a block to get to the bus. My mom however always took my younger sisters to their gymnastics. Fast forward now to June '11 when I had my SCI. As I have said in my intro's I am now totally incontinent and use a wheelchair as a result. I think the SCI was actually a blessing for me. Now I'm not religious but I'm using that word. Babying myself has allowed me to regress to a time where I didn't have to worry about anything. Furthermore, I find that the babying of myself is a coping mechanism.

Honestly, I would just do what is comfortable for you. My thought is if it doesn't hurt someone then who cares. I think some people just get uncomfortable when it comes to diapers and age regression. Of course, unless something involves hate, discrimination, or harassment then I tend to be the most open minded person an individual a person could meet. With all that being said if you can't stand the toilet then use a diaper. I don't know if you will find a mommy but maybe you will find something online. Best of wishes. Yes, all of this is coming from an incontinent girl.

Love is the unconditional acceptance of a person including their faults, quirks, and tribulations.

As a result of my SCI in June '11 I've become totally incontinent and have to wear full-time. I also use a wheelchair all the time. It's my personal belief that when someone sees someone (including me) in a wheelchair they automatically assume that person is incontinent. Now I might be wrong with that but it's not anything I take offense to. I mean diapers are protection and a wheelchair is for mobility so there's no reason to be ashamed of either. In any event I have no problems admitting it.

Before my SCI I used tampons because I felt pads were to bulky. However, after my SCI I'm stuck in a diaper so I use it for my period as well. The ironic thing is diapers are more bulky. Now the following is TMI: I actually like it when I'm on my period and the blood mixes with the pee. However, I don't care for it when all three are mixed together.

If there is one thing that I have learned its, "never say never."

First of all I'm totally incontinent but I still think I can answer this. I actually was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder from at least two different psychiatrists. My most current psychiatric diagnosis is Bipolar Disorder (Type II I believe). I was into diapers before I had my SCI and actually had to start wearing them 24/7/365. I think as far as it was for me was because I saw different family members in diapers and wanted that same cozy feeling.

I would go with the Assurance brand from Walmart. I have found them to be great diapers both in wettings and messes. I know some people are anti-Walmart but they really aren't bad diapers.

I owned one for about a week and I ultimately returned it. I found it buggy even after the initial software update. Different Apps kept crashing on me.

Thank you both for your welcomes!