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It makes me really wonder about Global Climate Change. Here in Northern Ontario, it is raining- a couple of days ago, it was 25 below. These sharp fronts can make some nasty weather - I see the sharp lines of heavy thunderstorms, and I worry about you folks down there. The way I figure it, if my house gets blown away in a tornado, the least of my worries should be that I am wearing a diaper. Let'e hope we haven't destroyed the planet's atmosphere and that things settle down a bit. Warmest wishes......

It is heartwarming to read all the wonderful advice that folks have given you. Wow, I wish I could offer something profound, something other than what has already been written. I guess, (for all that it is worth) I can tell you that I understand, I relate, and I wish you all the best in your struggles. And yes, I am kinda old and have been through the battles, but nappies do always help, and I really feel for you trying to get by without your coping mechanism. But as Bettypooh noted, please, please get someone to help you through this. If you are getting depressed, nip it in the bud so that you can get on with living ! oh yeah, BIG HUGS TO YOU !

How exciting! How lovely! I think it is so wonderful when 2 souls meet, get along, fall in love............ Please keep us posting ---mmmmm I love a romance....and what a very special romance it is ! My very best wishes to you both

OOOPS Some other friends were out for the weekend and dropped in this morning (Sunday). As is often the case I was wearing my Winne the Pooh overalls over my diapers and plastic pants, with a cute, but not AB top. Now, I have never really hidden things, as I have noted before, but I do try to be discreet. I figured I was okay, the overalls don't tend to show diapers too much, and I figure they kind of know I am sort of AB in some way - I mean, they see some of my baby stuff from time to time. But this morning, I was standing there talking to them, WITH MY PACI HANGING FROM MY SHOULDER STRAP ! My partner was looking at me, making faces and pointing to her chest, and then I realized,,,,, OH NO. I was kind of moving around a lot anyway, was doing a bit of housework when they arrived, so I picked up something, left the room and came back,,,,,without my paci. They couldn't have missed it, but ,,,,, not a word was spoken. They seemed quite okay when they were visiting, I guess they know, and don't really care. How bout that................

LOL, that really fits BBG! It really gave me a smile, thanks for posting it !

Minus 30 here this morning! But my bum was warm !

I haven't been to an AB nursery, and I don't know if I would want to go to one. I think I be very aware that it wasn't real, was sort of contrived. I don't know, perhaps if it was REALLY nice, I might want to.

Does the wittle boy need his diaper changed?

I am so sorry to hear of your woes. I wonder how many ABDLs are actually on one anit-depressant or another. It is amazing that no orgasms is supposed to me a minor side-effect, but as Bettypooh notes, it is often better to live with the nasty side-effects than the crippling effects of depression and anxiety. But no orgasms.... that is HARSH !

I do find that using a pacifier really does help with jaw clenching and teeth grinding. And, I think it is something I just need anyway, just as I need my diapers etc.

One thing that I find is that we lose the nuances of our conversation when we communicated electronically. I too am blessed ( or cursed ) with a turn of phrase, and a penchant for sarcasm and irony. Unfortunately sarcasm and irony doesn't always manifest itself successfully through cyberspace, and often we aren't aware of the recipient's level of education. What seems to some like a brilliant piece of wordsmithing might seem downright insulting to others, so I have learned to be a bit careful.

Hmmm, we're talking about being stuck on the ceiling..... I am not sure we should really be worried about typos here......Geeez, I never even thought about the chances of crawling up the wall and then getting stuck on the ceiling. Damn,,,, something else I have to worry about oh, but in answer to the original question, no, I am babylike just about all the time

I have to wade back in again, as I loved and still love Puff the Magic Dragon. I try to play guitar, and am not very good, except, I think anyway, for Puff the Magic Dragon. I suppose I have played it so much that I finally got , well, at least competent. And yes, I used to cry for poor Puff when I was younger, and now I occasionally cry for Puff as an adult, differently now that I know who he truly is. Remember all of you, when we be ourselves, we breath life back into poor Puff, and at least for a little while, he can come and play with us.

What a lovely image... I was only there in my imagination, well, at least until I grew up... How ironic is that? Here I am, 50 something, and that is going to be me this Christmas. I could get sad thinking about what I missed, but rather I shall embrace the gifts I have and enjoy my Christmas morning puffy and damp, with mummy and with my R/L mother. Thank you so much for your post - that image is so beautiful for me, and I shall fantasize myself in that role in the lead up to Christmas.

Well. more and more, the way I look at is that if they don't like me because of that, they aren't the people I thought they were. It is much more than laundry, mind you these days. If you come into our place just about any time, you will see the stuff that you would normally see in a house with a baby. Here a paci there a paci, everywhere a........wait a minute, that is "Old MacDonald !" Okay, you might see a paci, a baby bottle or two around the sink, my blankie, my little waterproof changing pad on my computer chair ( so I don't wet my chair when I come here first thing in the morning) diaper pail, and, well one glance into my room ? Someone will quietly ask me sooner or later, and , well, one couple who are our friends? If you want to get a message out to the whole world- just whisper to them and it will be on the national news that evening.... I'm not saying they are blabbermouths or anything....... hey wait a minute, that is exactly what I am saying. But my friends and neighbours know me as a gentle, different sort of person, and I think they see me as the little girl in my relationship with my partner who is 9 years older than me - people who don't know us actually often ask if she is my mother. I think that is not just from the fact that I look young for my age, and vise versa, but they see the dynamic. I'm not trying to push my lifestyle out there or anything, I am just fed up with hiding it. One of my partner ( mummy) 's friends said they didn't think it appropriate for me to not hide it as it would make people uncomfortable. My partner was just about to agree, then all of a sudden said, "hey wait! if t tohe gay lesbian community had stayed home so as not not make people uncomfortable, we would all still be in the closet". So, I almost feel a responsibility to be an "out" AB - a representative of our community ,someone who is a nice person, who just happens to like being a baby!

In Canada, we had a 15 minute daily kid's television program called The Friendly Gaint.....It was a low budget CBC show, that many Canadian kids just adored. Please take a few minutes and watch . I always wanted to be tucked into bed at the end.... I LOVED Friendly! Thanks Paxi for a lovely thread !

I really like this thread - I think your concerns are very justified. Most people look for a relationship to be a partnership, and few women will want to have a male partner who wants her to be his mommy. She is not wrong - she has her right to look for a mate that fits her criteria. However, you are who you are - therefore, I believe (note how I say " i believe") you have a couple of few choices. Live your life as an AB or DL according to your agenda - it might be lonely. Modify your expectations, and balance your ABDL needs with your "responsibilities" as dictated by society..... ie, get married, bring home the bacon, raise the kids, go to church, pay your taxes - the list of hegemonic societal constructions is endless - ........ and run the risk of living your whole life as a lie, and run the risk of being miserable. Decide that you want to be a "good" husband and father, and pursue psychological intervention to determine why you are such a sucky useless pathetic mama's boy. It might sound like I am being harsh, or even irreverent. but at some time you really have to decide how much you want to be "NORMAL". Personally, I have given up on "normal" although I do find it to be a handy cycle for washing cottons. To me, ABDL falls firmly within the realm of "queer culture", ie, pursuing your own agenda, with like minded folks - you no longer need to sire 5 sons to help run the farm.....BUT... there are challenges and risks going that way i suppose i am starting to go in circles, but if you are too emotionally immature to fit in a classic Leave it to Beaver family, then kudos to you for figuring it out early- that is no longer the only acceptable model. On the other hand, there are lots of emotionally immature men and women (with nothing to do with diapers) who have been parents, and have been crap parents - my own father being a perfect example. I would suggest, that if you do want to have kids, then psych. help is probably a good idea - not to drive you out of diapers, but to help you be there emotionally for your children ( and partner?), out of fairness to them. Or, decide that the classic family model is just wrong for you - make your decision and go for it - virtually every major religion in the world will hate you for it ( oh sorry, will want to forgive you for it and fix you), but you are your own person do i sound less than authoritative? well, am in my 50's, once divorced, lesbian, childless, AB, degree in psychology, with studies in sociology, and it is all beyond me........ i guess my only point is that your life is yours - if there is one thing i have learned, is that trying to please others and their ideals is a losing game. oh , you might think you are being all noble, and doing the RIGHT thing,,,,, but nah......... i am only now realizing that i can be me i know, crappy meandering advice........ sorry,,,, it ain't easy babe,,,,,,maybe easier in New York City than sorghum bluff, or maybe easier in Canada than Iran. but, nah, not easy good luck sweetie, and good for you for thinking about it - I tried so hard to fit "the mold"..... that didn't work for me

I have been 24/7 for a couple of months now, and while I find it emotionally helpful, I have learned it is not a bed of roses. It is so easy to get a rash, if like me, you wet in the middle of the night and don't change until morning. A plain Jane diaper rash is one thing, but yeast infections are another and that just isn't fun. I also wear cloth and P/P, so there is a lot of laundry, and since we don't have a clothes drier, it amounts to lots of work. Add to that my own personal care, and it is a challenge. My health isn't great, and sometimes looking after myself in that regard can be taxing. Mummy looks after me as well as she can, but my personal hygiene and laundry are my own responsibility. And for me, disposables (apart from rare occasions) are out of the question. I object to them for environmental reasons, and besides, who can afford em.

Nothing at all seems to have transpired. Friends still drop by, I still leave my stuff out, I wear 24/7, am usually in diapers and plastic pants ( always covered with something, but still fairly obvious I think), and nobody has said anything, done anything, or um,,, anything. Of course, it is winter and I tend to be fairly covered up. Thanks for asking fakename.... ( btw, that is one of the most honest names i have ever come across!)

Find out where gay guys cruise locally, From what I understand, it should be no problem to find a guy who will look after you. Of course, please be careful and use protection. Enjoy !

No offense to you, but I must tell you that this thread makes me uncomfortable. Why do we feel it so necessary to label people? Who cares? Wow I sure don't. I really respect people who bravely and imaginatively bend gender lines. It is funny you know. Why is it okay for me as a woman to wear males clothes ? I often wear my Carhart overalls around here when I am working outside -nobody takes a second glance ( well, after LABELING me a dyke), but if one of my male friends were to sit around in a frock, it would be outrageous. Of course, the answer is simple, men occupy a higher position in our society, so for a man to wear women's (or baby) clothes, he is degrading himself. An awful shame really. I think it is wonderful that there are brave guys who cross heavily guarded gender borders, but hey, let's just be careful about posting someone's picture and asking to slap a label on them. That of course, is only my humble opinion, which, from what I am told is worth ( along with a couple of bucks) a cup of coffee.

Just to add my 2 cents worth... I love the fitted diapers from Babykins with the elastic and velcro. They are flannel with terry lining inside and I find them to be very comfortable. Having said that, I love my Curity birdseye flats, but only for overnight - they are so soft and comfy, but stretch when wet and give me the droopy diaper problem if I wear them as day diapers. I am very open to trying out styles and fabrics, so I would really like to thank everyone for their additions to this thread- you have given me much to think of.

If I were in the South East of England, I would be out happily spending 20 quid,,,,,, wow 5 pounds each, that is incredible !

I LOVE this thread! And, judging from the number of posts, this one really strikes home with dl's and ab's, but i think particularly us ab's who love the toddler look. Like many of you, I too am fortunate enough to live on a rural property, and love to be outside in my cloth diapers, plastic pants and a t-shirt. I also love to sleep that way in the summer, and toddle around the house that way. I remember when I was a young teenager seeing a young mother walking with her little baby boy - he was wearing huge diapers and pretty blue plastic pants ( with lots and lots of room). He was grasping her thumb, and doing his very best to walk - as he waddled, he crinkled. He kept looking up at mom, and was really really happy. His paci was bobbing around like Maggie of Simpsons fame. I remember thinking how much I could be the little girl on that mommy's other hand. After that, I adored that look, and while I am now old, I still think ( probably totally deluding myself) that I look totally cute in my nappies and slightly oversized tee. And, I know my partner (mummy) thinks I look cute. I don't have any inclination at this time to appear in front of the neighbours or anything in that garb (nor would I show off in a tee-shirt and big girl underwear) but if I do get caught, I do. It is far from indecent - actually me in a bikini would be way more indecent ! Thank you for this lovely thread - it was a good reminder to me that a t-shirt is as an essential baby garment as the most expensive onesie, footies, or cute little dress !

I just got a primark sleeper onesie in the mail yesterday. It is really adorable, very babyish and fits me like it was made for me. And, it was very reasonable. Gotta luv it !